Every text or email or recordable instance of conversation you have with a girl must follow this simple rule:
If it were given a public airing, let’s say on a blog or a sports stadium jumbotron, you should feel comfortable with what you have written for the world to see. You should not feel an urge to wince, because it will be clear to everyone reading it how alpha you are. If the thought of someone other than you and your girl reading your permanently archived romantic exchanges makes you cringe with embarrassment, then you are doing something wrong that will eventually lead to your girl dumping you.
An example of texting* from a place of beta-tude:
YOU: Good morning, lovechop! 
I had a gr8 time w u last nite!
HER: Me too. Can’t wait to see you again.
YOU: U free this thurs? Miss u. Muaah muuah!
HER: Aw. Thanks sweetie. Call me later.
YOU: 
Will do!
People reading this will puke a little and say “What a lameass. Like that’s gonna last.”
An example of texting from a place of alphaness:
YOU: {nothing}
HER: U there? Haven’t heard from u in a while.
YOU: Hey, babe. What’s up?
HER: The love last night was incredible! Have u been thinking of me?
YOU: Just a little.
HER: Miss u already, baby. Muuah!
YOU: {nothing}
The difference is clear. This man has kept his responses shorter than his girl’s and intriguingly aloof. He has refrained from emoting effusively. An objective third party would say “He’s cool. Bet he gets laid a lot.” You want to be a man people think gets laid a lot, even if you don’t.
*Avoid texting on a regular basis. It is borderline beta. A man should not have the empty time to punch in a frivolous conversation with a girl using only his thumb.
These are words to live by. Keep it coming.
ugh just fall in love with someone already and stop with The Rules.
please come out of the closet soon!!!!!!!!!!
why does seeming uninterested by lack of speech lead to a girl liking you more?
Yeah. NOT responding to some texts is very important. A girl used this against me recently. As usual, even though I KNEW she was just playing me, I still felt the damn emotion.
why does seeming uninterested by lack of speech lead to a girl liking you more?
ava, the strong silent type has a long history of making women’s hearts flutter. practically speaking, it is important for the man to cultivate an air of mystery, and the quickest way to do that is to avoid wordiness. the more you talk, the more you’re likely to let slip too much info that ruins the girl’s fantasy.
That’s a really nice point. One of the foundations of behavioral economics that shows up again and again is that in the absense of details, people tend to fill in the rest optimistically.
An example would be reading on an internet dating profile, so and so “likes music.” The reader will tend to assume that the music the person likes is similar to their own taste, even though there is no particular reason to.
Stupid.
Questions. Do you actually like these girls or do you just enjoy the chase/sex/winning?
I do this to guys I’m not really interested in. If I were to do this to guys I was interested in would it work? I’m thinking that (wanting an alpha type male) it wouldn’t work b/c they’re going to act aloof too and that means that we wouldn’t ever really talk again b/c we’re too cool to text or call each other. However, it works on Beta guys… really well. So how can a girl act aloof with an alpha male and should she?
Sorry so wordy, I really like your blog.
“You want to be a man people think gets laid a lot, even if you don’t.”
true date
the only time i enjoy
chipping away of my
manhood
is when my girl
is a h-hot 17 year old
with braces
yea the oft
axe-pocked &
marred totem pole
plyeth nigh into
clever scar game
on svelte teen damsels
impressed by Ahab’s White Whale
you’re all worthless and weak
mout
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I noticed you didn’t use any smileys in your alpha example on how to text. Does that mean that alpha males should refrain from using these while texting?
I noticed you didn’t use any smileys in your alpha example on how to text. Does that mean that alpha males should refrain from using these while texting?
I’ll answer for him: one of the core tenets of Game is demonstrations of higher value ( DHV. ) Smiling is a mark of lower value ( primates smile to indicate subservience. )
With these premises you may construct your own syllogism.
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Gerg, emoticons convey emotion and that you are all jumpy and can’t handle yourself. Yes, DON’T use emoticons.
The only time when you should use them is when you say something over the top and you want to sweeten what you said, but otherwise no.
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Two things: I fucking hate texting. And that bit about looking like you get laid even if you don’t is gold. Women need that tension of competition to motivate them to please us, since having an obvious harem is politically incorrect now days.