Thanks very much for being here!

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20110617113051AAkwHqz

Disclaimer: For any idiot who reads this and takes it seriously, I shall not be held responsible for the prison ass rapings you will more then likely incur.

This shows that she isn’t wifey/motherly material, and probably a cuckolding risk, so get out now.

You sound like an incoherent loser. I have no interest in responding to you anymore because you sound ridiculous and I don’t know WTF you want or what’s pissing you off, but you’re obviously pissed off. Like I said, you need to chill out. Please, refrain from responding to me. Thank you.

>No, I think the opposite. You’re probably very sensitive, which is why you feel you need to protect yourself and your feelings from women. Women have power to hurt men, which is why you don’t want to find yourself being disrespected and devalued by a woman who is supposed to be loving, docile, and submissive.

Ohhhh, you have psychic senses i see, did you found out about that from 2 comments of mine? No man (I say leave mangina’s and beta boys) wants to be disrespected or devalued whether by a woman or a man, which is why they say that ‘Respect a man and a man will sacrifice everything for that’ but it seems you feel that only PUA’s are afraid of being disrespected and devalued, Will you Nitelily respect PUA’s and her future (If any) Husband.

>Was that your experience?

Way to go Smart (Not really) woman you totally blew the question without answering anything.

>Romantic love involves sex. No romantic love exists without sex. Now stop the bullshit.

Ohhh, Romantic love has described above, Prince Charming slaying dragons for Fiona or sleeping beauty.

“as I was talking about it….I just ignored the impulse to quiet my emotions and how I felt. Instead, I was just like ‘well, I guess I’m fucking wrong here man…I just really hate being wrong when I analyze shit, it pisses me right the fuck off.” While it’s just an outburst I allowed myself to have, and yeah, it’s revealing vulnerability to a friend…I feel like that’s a good thing.”

Good stuff. That’s what I’m talking about in this post where your actual Identity is just shackled up right now, and that it might surprise you down the road when you start seeing who you REALLY are:

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2012/12/14/confronting-vs-ignoring-a-manipulative-girlfriend/#comment-396901

Guys and girls are usually surprised at how open a book I am with people I’ve just met. I’ll show all sorts of vulnerabilities and hold up my weaknesses for people to see, it’s all good to me. That’s just expressing who I am and people appreciate authenticity…and once you show them “look at my faults, we don’t have to pretend we’re perfect here, I won’t judge you if you don’t judge me” they’re almost relieved to be able to take off the mask for a bit and share their own faults and beliefs and feelings with me and you build a real legitimate connection with the person instead of a surface level one that a lot of people have.

This is part of why people who hang out with me feel like they’ve known me for years. They’ share stuff with me that only their closest best friends t know about them so it feels like we know eachother the way they know their closest best friends they’ve spent years building a relationship with, except I’ve only known them for a couple hours.

This whole authentic expression thing is REALLY powerful in the high-end social circles, where everyone is full of shit trying to impress eachother and put on some bravado and try to look perfect and flawless. Everyone’s sipping their wine all “yes, this wine is quite exquisite!” (meanwhile they don’t even LIKE drinking wine) and then I come in and shit all over the social etiquette in a charismatic fun way and show them that tonight, right here and right now, it’s okay to be retarded, and next thing you know those wine and cheese types are doing hooter-shooters of JD off the waitress’ tits with me, relieved to be able to let down their mask and really be themselves lol

Compare that to if I tried to throw on a suit and play the wine and cheese discussion game and run around in the “let’s try to impress everyone” rat race that I can’t possibly win because it’s all bullshit posturing to begin with. I suck them into my frame instead of letting them suck me into theirs…Strongest frame always wins.

“But, another thing I’ve gained is mad respect for a few of my friends. I think I’m lucky to be in a social circle of well-connected, cool guys that make a point of randomly approaching women. ”

You have no IDEA how lucky that is lol I ran solo game for years not because I wanted to but because I didn’t know any guys who wanted to go out and pick up, or any guys that were cool enough to actually keep up with the shit I was learning to do. I knew plenty of guys who’d stand around at the bar critiquing the hotness level of the girls that go by without actually talking to any of them lol It’s only the past couple years that I’ve had access to a solid core group of buddies who like to hit on girls at the bar. Going out solo tightened up my game a lot but man do I not miss it lol

Just wanted to post this quick ’cause I linked it elsewhere and just realized it’s a great example of a more chill Identity that isn’t crazy-in-your-face like Joe Rogan:

So compare Cajun’s vibe here to Joe Rogan, specifically at 2:50 (tho the whole clip is a good explanation of the Identity stuff you’re working on). If a girl sneered at Cajun on the dance floor or told him she thought guys would be taller in the future, how would Cajun’s Identity cause him to handle it? Joe Rogan’s Identity would cause him to bitch her out and call her a stupid cunt. Cajun’s Identity would be more of a smooth persistent “oh, that’s cute, you’re trying to get rid of me…but it’s not going to work, I’m too charming, you might as well just accept that we’re going to hook up. ”

So your Identity down the road as you learn more about yourself 1) might be anywhere in the spectrum from smooth guy to in-your-face asshole, and 2) might be an Identity you COMPLETELY can’t even tell is really under the surface in you right now and you could be surprised by what your Identity turns out to be when you finally melt away all the social conditioning and shit that holds it back.

When I got into game I was super shy and quiet and anti-social…and now I’m the complete opposite of that. But I realized looking at photos/videos of myself when I was a little kid (like under 10 years old) that I was actually exactly like I am now, out-going and funny and talkative…it’s just that in elementary/high-school/college I learned to stuff that all down and hide it because of social conditioning that told me to be a Nice Guy and because I had bad acne and was chubby and Disney told me only the good looking prince gets the girl etc. and I chained my personality up like a lot of people do. The current me is actually just a return to who I used to be.

Tyler describes it as “At some point when you were growing up you chose an Identity that wouldn’t even make people LIKE you, but that would just make people not DIS-like you.” A big part of game is just unwiring all that bullshit.

And in fact a big part of why alcohol is such a popular substance in society, and I mean, it’s POISON, it doesn’t make SENSE that we would all be willingly poisoning ourselves all the time…why do we do it? Because it allows us to take off those social conditioning chains for a few hours and really express ourselves and our Identities. So the innocent girl ends up dancing up on the bar. The Nice Guy ends up picking fights because he’s sexually frustrated. The shy quiet guy becomes loud and outgoing and confident. The guy in his unsatisfying marriage that he TELLS everyone is “just great!” sleeps with a flirty waitress.

When do we drink? When we instinctively know that social conditioning will hold us back from our goals. So a shy guy and innocent girl go on a date. They both WANT to fuck, but society has conditioned him to be a gentleman who pretends not to want sex and its conditioned her to be a Good Girl who doesn’t put out like those slutty Bad Girls.

So they bring a bottle of wine to share, of course. A few drinks in, the shy guy’s confident horny side is unlocked and the innocent girl’s flirty horny side is unlocked, and they make sweet love and then when they wake up cuddling in bed together they go “wow I can’t believe we did that, we must’ve been SO drunk” and return to their social conditioning.

Crazy, hey? lol

“you seems to think (as in your world) that PUA’s have a stone for a heart, atleast feelings are not always love,”

No, I think the opposite. You’re probably very sensitive, which is why you feel you need to protect yourself and your feelings from women. Women have power to hurt men, which is why you don’t want to find yourself being disrespected and devalued by a woman who is supposed to be loving, docile, and submissive.

“tell me That what is it with women these days that In 10 years Marriage they think they are not “in love” anymore, were the “in love” when she was saying “I do” and why was it after 10 years in marriage that she found out that she is not “in love” anymore.”

Was that your experience?

“Does it involve sex or its asexual, i mean come on you are trying to paint a picture that you yourself never saw in real life or felt or imagined.”

What is it with you PUAs spinning? Romantic love involves sex. No romantic love exists without sex. Now stop the bullshit. Either say something coherent, or say nothing at all. Both of you need to chill out.