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It’s been too long since our last reader mailbag, so here we go. The emails have piled up to an unmanageable level, which means if you don’t see your question answered here, stay tuned for future reader mailbags.

Email #1 is from a reader who wishes to remain anonymous. The Niceguy’s Lament:

Dear CH,

They say the first step to fixing a problem is recognizing there is one. My problem is this: I’m a gamma. I’m 23, unkissed, I’m often called a nice guy and been rejected numerous times as a result. I fall into the trap of the worship/hate dichotomy of women. I catch the gaze of a lot of girls at uni, though, so I’m not all that unattractive. I’ve slowly began to realize that it’s not the women that’s the problem but myself. I have no game and hardly have the confidence to make advancements. When I do talk to girls, it’s the same old nice-guy small talk. Since reading your blog, though, I’ve hit the gym five times a week and have gained a chin and some confidence—after all, I do have a sizable cock. My question is this: is there hope for me and how do I get game? I want change.

Thanks.

First, a sizable cock is an asset…but only after you’ve seduced a woman into bed. Unless you’re in the habit of plonking your peter on the table for awestruck girls to gaze at hungrily, you won’t have any chance to leverage that asset until all the hard work is already done.

To your main gripe, what you’re suffering and feeling is the Niceguy’s Lament. You get eyeplay, but it never goes anywhere. Girls keep telling you you’re “a great guy” and it feels like a punch to the gut, because you know by now it means “a great guy who’s not drinking this milkshake”. Small talk inevitably leads nowhere, so here’s what you’ve got to do. I’ll give you a very simple instruction to follow, and all I want is for you to gauge girls’ reactions for any changes from prior experience.

Instead of the usual small talk, say this:

“Hey, I love your glasses/dress/shoes! My mom wears those too.”

That’s it. This is called “small talk with a shiv twist”, aka a neg aka a backhanded compliment. Watch closely for girls’ reactions; you’ll be pleasantly surprised by how indignant and yet, curious, they become toward you.

Do this wee babby step, and get back to us with a progress report. We’ll work on you from there.

PS Cut your gym time to three days per week. You’re either over-training, or not training hard enough in each session, given how you are able to recover so quickly for consecutive workouts.

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Email #2: A female reader, leveledup, wants to know what to call a female shitlord.

Shivgirl names:

How about shivlet, shivstress, shivdolly, princess of the shiv, pinkpiller, or misschiv?

Thoughts? CH’s first stab at this problem was “shivlady”.

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Email #3: Eggplantzzz tries to explain the rise of beta male thirst.

I was wondering if in the past, the “expectation” of marriage and faithfulness allowed most betas to be less desperate and made it easier for them to act like they have options. More precisely, since promiscuity wasn’t normalized and most womyn pretended to be chaste betas in a way “didn’t feel threatened” to perform, or weren’t so anxious about their status/performance.

Short answer: Yes. Options will exert their marital market leverage whether objectively available to the man or perceived as such by him. Beta male thirst is really an inverse function of real or perceived mate options; the more options, the less thirst. We are seeing record high levels of beta male thirst now because the sex market, for multiple reasons discussed at this blog, favors women; this skew doesn’t have to be large, only large enough to strongly affect the margins until there’s a huge ripple effect extending out over the entire playing field.

Beta males who feel as though marriage with an under-30, feminine, slender woman is a realistic expectation are of course less likely to litter women’s Faceborg feeds with “you go grrl!” motivationals and the tepid wayward seed of their fapped-out blue balls.

The good news is that there’s a hidden treasure waiting to be unearthed in a female-biased sexual market, for any man who has Game. The more women are clumsily hit on by anti-Game thirsty beta males, the more eagerly they’ll lap up the sexy ministrations of the aloof alpha cad who acts as if the world of women is his harem.

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Email #4 is from Padawan, who needs advice about how to open chicks on dating apps like Tinder.

Hail lord and saviour.

Now that’s an intro I can strut in behind.

I’m a new learner on the path to the truth and I’m having a good progression but my weak point is sending the opener texts at dating apps like okcupid/tinder etc. I’m successful at dating and bedding women I meet irl , however usually I am clueless about what to say in the first message to get the chicks interested on virtual platforms. I have far less trouble with keeping the conversation and directing the topic to sex and meeting up *when* my opener gets through but that’s the only real trouble I have, it usually doesn’t get through especially when it’s with empty profiles that I have to make shit up out of blue (which I assume is the real thing that differentiates real winner alphas from the semi-betas) [ed: it can’t hurt] so I’d be grateful if you wrote a guide on how to open up with good starters for your young learners. And thank you for all your helpful articles.

Check the CH archives for online Game; there’s too much info to recap here. I’ll keep it brief, instead, to get the ball rolling for you.

Tinder/OkCupid and the rest are FEMALE ATTENTION WHORE VEHICLES. That means,

  1. don’t feed their egos
  2. jolt them out of their expectations that a deluge of beta male thirst is their due

Abide those two rules and your online dating adventures will feel like a spring breeze blowing through labial leaves.

In practice, these two online dating rules mean:

  • be terse
  • don’t be long-winded
  • don’t be needy (end chats first)
  • assume familiarity
  • don’t get bogged down in emotional conversation
  • don’t fall into the girl’s frame (always be framing)
  • push-pull is your friend (push more than you would pull)
  • a neg or disqualification opener right out of the gate is perfectly acceptable
  • you may experiment with “going the full asshole” in the dating app milieu

Remember, the girl is chasing you; you’re not chasing the girl.

A classic PUA OkTinder opener is the following:

you’re everything I thought I never wanted in a girl

Delightfully ambiguous, something girls can’t resist. Downside: this may be played out by now. (Some of the hardcore online daters ie sluts might recognize it coming from other newbie womanizers.)

In a world of thirsty betas, the man who qualifies women right away will stand out. So try this, too:

are you cool?

Simple and direct, and however she answers, you can reply “I’ll be the judge of that.” Chicknip!

There’s the sneaky opener:

woops. i meant to swipe left

And the all-purpose birthday cat opener:

birthdaycat

Finally, I will reveal a new tingle triggerer that is TNT, a combination of asshole + disqualification game + attention whore hamster nuking, so be careful when deploying it.

nagger

This last one is actually best used as an opener or early on, in response to nothing particularly nagger-ish  by the girl, because she’ll wonder what she’s done to earn this repudiation.

Girl: “? what i do?”

Underworld Emissary: “nothing, yet. I’m just getting it out there now and out of the way.”

PS Here’s a guy who claims to have a pickup routine that puts Tinder on “God mode”. Note the Game elements he uses: eliciting a girl’s values, intriguing a girl through storytelling, female preselection (“I’ll tell you mine that happened last night”), and a solid DQ (“it’s prob better than yours”).

Anti-Game

debaser

Scene:

A beta, Adam, tries to be funny and sympathize with the bluehair feminists he likely sees as his only romantic outlet.

Adam recruits a sad, sleepy emoji to punctuate his male feminist cred.

One of those weirdo feminist girls, Alysse, rhetorically pats Adam on the head and sends him to bed with no promise of sex.

Artistic flourishes:

“Aw” = interjectional castration

“Feel empowered!” = “you can do it, little boy!”

“(Hint: it’s equal rights. ^_^)” = no matter how feminist-y the male feminist struggles to become, the grrlpower targets of his smarmy sympathy will feel indescribably repulsed by his utter lack of sexual magnetism and finish him off with a barely-concealed nastiness (usually involving some recapitulation of banal feminist talking points).

Anti-Game is the romance-killer. It’s worse than No-Game because it actively reduces a man’s chances to get the lay. A No-Game-having herb can stumble into a lay despite himself,  but the Anti-Game-having adams actually make their prospects worse whenever they put forth an effort.

Here’s what the above Anti-Game looks like when converted to Game:

Adam: “This is why the patriarchy gets so much done at night.”

Alysse: “um wow? what’s that supposed to mean?”

Adam: “that the patriarchy are secretly vampires.”

Alysse: *SPLOOGE*

Those merry memesters at 4chan’s /pol/ forum are at it again, busting narratives and realtalking their way into the history books. An especially precocious mischief-maker created a Chrome (Spoogle) extension that changes “White” to “black” on various shitlib websites like PuffedHo, Feedbuzz, and Shalom.

An anon got the idea to start flooding Twitter with screenshots of the extension in action under the hashtag #WhiteToBlack

Perfect. Let’s see what happens.

bizarrosalon

As a wag chortled, finally Shalom’s headlines make sense!

A pastiche (click for zoomed-in version):

bizarrosalon2

My sides! Every one of those inverted headlines is more truthful than Shalom’s original hate-whitey headlines.

Some people may say this is a classic case of shitlib psychological projection. (The white shitlib projects his real racist feelings onto other Whites to absolve xirself of guilt.) But what this more closely resembles is negative transference; the white shitlib has a lot of bottled-up negative feelings about blacks that xe transfers to those no-good, awful, very bad, deplorable BadWhites — conveniently located far away outside the shitlib’s bubble so that a true and honest gauge of the BadWhite’s emotional state can’t be fairly taken — and in the process unburdens xerxesself of intense cognitive dissonance. (Freud wasn’t entirely useless.)

If libshits had to confront their own negative feelings about blacks squarely and candidly, they would have a mass psychotic break. So they go through ludicrous and increasingly insane mental contortions to transfer their secret racist guilt onto other White people whom they don’t know and with whom they don’t mingle in their shitlibistan circles. This entire process is further amplified by the urban shitlib’s very real and very deeply-felt hatred for heartland Whites, so the job of trashing one’s credibility and shitting on one’s integrity doesn’t feel like a chore when the ideological and cultural enemy is taking flak.

Executive Summary: For the truth and the underlying motivations of every unhinged writer for a leftoid legacy mouthpiece, just switch “white” and “black” and enjoy the illuminating high from taking an enormous race-based red pill.

A 4channer astutely notes that the Lying Left must be attacked with a combination of Rhetoric and Realtalk. The latter alone will bounce right off leftoid COGDIS, while the former alone (although more powerful as an instrument of leftoid destruction) will eventually crumble without a solid foundation. If you do it right — attack the shitlib ego and expose the shitlib id with mockery (i.e., emotional appeals) while relying on a fortifying base of truthful observations — the shitlib destruction is nearly self-fulfilling.

This is actually pretty great. The way to wake up the left is not with logical arguments or with facts or statistics.

It’s by holding a mirror against them, let them chimp out at their very own image and make them realize stumble over their own arguments. They deconstruct themselves. No need for us to even get involved. Spread this shit on facebook, twitter, everywhere.

Reader PA wonders if shitlib clever-silly virtue signaling is really a survival tactic in a Western country that excessively and mercilessly punishes its middle, working, and lower class White citizens.

Shitlib “abstraction smarts” signalling is caused by the opposite pressures that were imposed on Cambodians during their genocide. Communists were going for the head. If hands were not calloused or he wore glasses, you were taken away. White nations are being hit in the gut. Our working class is going through its slow-motion Killing Fields. So brains signalling comes not just from a place of vanity.

A related thought, now I see why gamma males of lower class origins can be some of the most obnoxious SJWs. Not only are they working hard to signal, but they are also pleading their case for being noticed by their betters and pulled out of the working class.

When listening to SWPL shitlibs gleefully regurgitate the latest Faceborg anti-White, anti-Trump snark, I can’t help but notice a tinge of FEAR and hysteria staining their self-righteousness. PA may be onto something; shitlibs virtue signal for more than vainglory or as a social bonding substitute….they do it to avoid being cast out to the icy wastelands.

Of course, no socially healthy nation eagerly casts out its yeomen to the icy wastelands. That’s suicidal. But national suicide is the point to our Globohomo elites, whose only real threat comes from a cohesive resistance of blood-and-soil-bound heritage Americans. As corvo puts it,

And this is why those of us who are in a position to do so must advocate for our people. We cannot just abandon the White working class to be economically decimated and intellectually stomped on. We can’t think “Well, I’ve got mine” and just slink away from the fight. These are our people.

If you wonder why the vile reptilian Bill Kristols of the world openly confess they prefer the depredations of the Deep State to the legitimately elected voice of Trump’s America, you need only read Corvo’s last sentence.

“These are our people.”

Not “their” people. “Our” people.

It’s tribal mechanics all the way down.

The Communist Cambodian Killing Fields only stopped running with blood when neighboring Vietnam invaded.

There’s a lesson there for the combatants of America’s Signaling Fields. A very ominous lesson.

The Evanescent 10

10s exist. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Their rarity and rarified beauty are naturally cause for disputation among men who bound their egos to their ability to discern exquisite apex femininity, but rarity is not a synonym for nonexistence.

With that in mind, would you consider this meadow minx an HB10? The perfection of woman by the standards of present-day worldwide womanhood?

hb10

Jesus Cucking Christ, the anti-White rot seeps into every crevice of the Church, softening the edifice from the inside out.

originalchristcuck

From Sigma K,

Was at the Catholic Church for my father’s funeral. The new art they used is this statue when they refurbished the church a few years ago. This is an almost all white neighborhood North of Detroit. It’s that way because of white flight in the 60s-70s. White’s will never learn.

Looks like we need a funeral for the church.

There’s a psychological undercurrent subtly conveyed by this “artwork”. You’ll notice the chocolate imp is sitting in (presumably) Jesus’ lap, while the White children gather round Jesus almost like they are his apostles. Everyone stares lovingly and tenderly at the black baby. The message is that the African orphan is a charity case through which empathobesic White Christcucks may demonstrate their virtue. It’s Captain Save-a-Fro as Church policy, and you will only ever see this sort of thing in all-White churches. (Black churches have black iconography. Blacks, for all their dysfunction, are unashamed of their race.)

Secularism and pleasuredome technologies wounded European Christianity, but Diversity will kill it in all but name.

Sigma K provides more context,

The ceremony for my father was simply awful.

The priest was weak but my all female family loved it because it was touching…

They had some lady playing a shitty keyboard/synth and singing with all of the awe, reverence and wonder of a month old loaf of bread. All doughy and moldy.

My dad’s corpse had more “T” in it a week after he died than the priest.

I understand why men are no longer interested in church. I understand why church is dying. I see why those vibrants/muzzies are so welcome.

Dalrock is correct, the church is poison.

Feminism is civilization death. It’s that simple. As either a contributing cause or a symptom, feminism and its ideological tributaries and political repercussions are an unmistakable harbinger of a nation’s decline and fall. When feminism poisons the commonweal and pollutes 2,000 year old institutions, the end is in sight. No low-T soynation teetering on the brink of no-T hyper-emotionalism will survive for long, in any capacity that would be recognizable to past generations. A strong-willed phalanx of foreign men pulsing with purified T can and will easily overrun a nation and its institutions of house eunuchs and their weepy, whip-hand postmenopausal matriarch slavemasters. “I’m with her…..to our Darwinian doom.”

Diversity Heretic adds,

Over at Occam’s Razor/Dark Enlightenment I read a comment that Christianity is becoming loud, brown and obnoxious. This certainly seems true of the present Roman Catholic Church and mainstream Protestant churches. Is there any hope in either the evangelical Protestant churches or the Eastern Orthodox Church? I don’t count the Mormons as Christian, but they also seem to be moving in the direction of race cuckoldry. I’m not sure about the Seventh Day Adventists. Perhaps in the 500 year anniversary of Martin Luther’s rejection of the Roman Catholic Church there can be the beginning of a muscular ethnonationalist Christianity: perhaps the “Cult of Michael the White Warrior Archangel?”

Loud and brown Christianity is on a collision course with polite and White Christianity. Most Christian sects appear afflicted, with notable exceptions like the Amish and the Eastern Orthodox. Catholicism is fully under the spell of anti-White globohomoism as a seditious Pope does his level best to undermine the foundations of the Church he leads by embracing every pozzed directive and diversity nostrum on earth below.

The remorselessly masculine loud and brown will overpower the submissively feminine polite and White, if the present course remains uncorrected. Perhaps nukes change the historical equation. But even then, I doubt it; bitterbitches and their manlet quislings with their fingers on the button don’t inspire confidence. They’d probably hand the launch codes over to the first spokesvibrant who complained about lack of representation in deciding humanity’s fate.

The Christian Church can allow itself to be overrun by the loud and brown and reshaped into a grotesquely unfamiliar abomination of its former glory, or it can SACK UP and REASSERT its primal Whiteness, remembering the wisdom of the ancients: You dance with the one who brung ya.

This is great article by Bruce Charlton, a must-read, because it explains so much about post-America shitlibbery. (For a complementary thread on the topic, try here.)

Executive Summary: what liberals have in IQ they lack in common sense. It’s an evolutionary trade-off.

In short, it has often been observed that high IQ types are lacking in ‘common sense’ – and especially when it comes to dealing with other human beings. General intelligence is not just a cognitive ability; it is also a cognitive disposition. So, the greater cognitive abilities of higher IQ tend also to be accompanied by a distinctive high IQ personality type including the trait of ‘Openness to experience’, ‘enlightened’ or progressive left-wing political values, and atheism. Drawing on the ideas of Kanazawa, my suggested explanation for this association between intelligence and personality is that an increasing relative level of IQ brings with it a tendency differentially to over-use general intelligence in problem-solving, and to over-ride those instinctive and spontaneous forms of evolved behaviour which could be termed common sense. Preferential use of abstract analysis is often useful when dealing with the many evolutionary novelties to be found in modernizing societies; but is not usually useful for dealing with social and psychological problems for which humans have evolved ‘domain-specific’ adaptive behaviours. And since evolved common sense usually produces the right answers in the social domain; this implies that, when it comes to solving social problems, the most intelligent people are more likely than those of average intelligence to have novel but silly ideas, and therefore to believe and behave maladaptively. I further suggest that this random silliness of the most intelligent people may be amplified to generate systematic wrongness when intellectuals are in addition ‘advertising’ their own high intelligence in the evolutionarily novel context of a modern IQ meritocracy. The cognitively-stratified context of communicating almost-exclusively with others of similar intelligence, generates opinions and behaviours among the highest IQ people which are not just lacking in common sense but perversely wrong. Hence the phenomenon of ‘political correctness’ (PC); whereby false and foolish ideas have come to dominate, and moralistically be enforced upon, the ruling elites of whole nations.

That description sounds precisely like the basis for the cognitive and social schisms currently tearing apart Western nations. Self-segregating and supercharged-signaling “clever sillies” are running their homelands into the ground with overbearing government interventions to “close the gap” and open borders to “create more gaps”. This stupidity of intelligence signaling would be funny if it weren’t also so damned threatening to the continued survival of the West.

The over-use of abstract reasoning may be most obvious in the social domain, where normal humans are richly equipped with evolved psychological mechanisms both for here-and-now interactions (e.g. rapidly reading emotions from facial expression, gesture and posture, and speech intonation) and for ‘strategic’ modelling of social interactions to understand predict and manipulate the behaviour of others. Social strategies deploy inferred knowledge about the dispositions, motivations and intentions of others. When the most intelligent people over-ride the social intelligence systems and apply generic, abstract and systematic reasoning of the kind which is enhanced among higher IQ people, they are ignoring an ‘expert system’ in favour of a non-expert system.

For an immediately palpable example of SMRT shitlibs applying abstract and systematic reasoning to a social intelligence system, see their snarky “you’re more likely to be killed by falling furniture than by a Muslim terrorist” apples-to-oranges comparison. (Socially intelligent reply: “Sure but falling furniture isn’t getting on planes with me, patting me down after a two hour wait in the TSA line, or calling for death to all infidels.”)

Charlton goes on to explain why it seems like we are seeing more pajamaboy shitlib faces and cuckfaces in the West:

Indeed, I suggest that higher levels of the personality trait of Openness in higher IQ people may be the flip-side of this over-use of abstraction. I regard Openness as the result of deploying abstract analysis for social problems to yield unstable and unpredictable results, when innate social intelligence would tend to yield predictable and stable results. This might plausibly underlie the tendency of the most intelligent people in modernizing societies to hold ‘left-wing’ political views.

I would argue that neophilia (or novelty-seeking) is a driving attribute of the personality trait of Openness; and a disposition common in adolescents and immature adults who display what I have termed ‘psychological neoteny’.

Psychological neoteny is likely correlated, by the associative property, with physical and facial neoteny. Physiognomy is real, and it’s no accident that we often observe the silliest of shitlibs have very punchable faces devoid of any masculinity.

Shitlibs are, in essence, arrested adolescents, forever on the hunt for the next thrill to add meaning to their disconnected lives. Risk-taking and novelty-seeking are useful traits to have when one must impress a mate (usually a man impressing a girl) or broaden the pool of acceptable mates; but those traits are destructive when scaled up to the level of social policy and beyond the bounds of the life stage when mate acquisition is paramount.

In such an evolutionarily-unprecedented, artificial ‘hothouse’ environment, it is plausible that any IQ-related behaviours are amplified: partly because there is little counter-pressure from the less intelligent people with less neophiliac personalities, and perhaps mainly because there is a great deal of IQ-advertisement. Indeed, it looks very much as if the elites of modern societies are characterized by considerable IQ-signalling. Sometimes this is direct advertisement (e.g. when boasting about intellectual attainments or attendance at highly-selective colleges) and more often the signalling is subtly-indirect when people display the attitudes, beliefs, fashions, manners and hobbies associated with high intelligence. This advertising is probably based on sexual selection, if IQ has been a measure of general fitness during human evolutionary history, and was associated with a wide range of adaptive traits.

But we are now at the point when the libshit SMRT mate signaling has reached sexual market saturation; I predict, and in fact we can see it happening already, that deftly counter-signaling the leftoid equalism orthodoxy will be a powerful display of fitness, for what do women love more than a bad boy rule-breaker who can buck the system and not just survive, but thrive? As always, BALLS wins babes.

My hunch is that it is this kind of IQ-advertisement which has led to the most intelligent people in modern societies having ideas about social phenomena that are not just randomly incorrect (due to inappropriately misapplying abstract analysis) but are systematically wrong. I am talking of the phenomenon known as political correctness (PC) in which foolish and false ideas have become moralistically-enforced among the ruling intellectual elite. And these ideas have invaded academic, political and social discourse. Because while the stereotypical nutty professor in the hard sciences is a brilliant scientist but silly about everything else; the stereotypical nutty professor social scientist or humanities professor is not just silly about ‘everything else’, but also silly in their professional work.

I was convinced before reading this Charlton hypothesis that what’s happening in the AngloGermanoSphere is runaway “intelligence signaling”; that is, aesthetically disfigured and socially untethered White shitlibs of the West can only pride themselves on their abstraction smarts, and to stay ahead of their peers they have to signal hard against common sense, leading to xenophilia spirals (as well as degeneracy spirals and anti-White spirals).

(As a reader wrote, “Believing in a lie can require more intelligence; you have to know the truth to conceal it properly, plus the pleasing lie, plus the explanation why the lie is more true than the truth.”)

What’s happened is that common sense (or gut instinct, or mental sanity) has become associated with declassé opinions and flyover rubes. The cause of this association is complex, but it’s where we are today and it means that the shitlib clown-cognition signaling will continue until a cataclysm forces common sense on them. I doubt that increasingly insulated, credentialist suck-up shitlibs will rediscover the merits of common sense on their own.

Addendum: the Maul-Right is the next stage of human evolution: high IQ AND common sense. And that fact, more than any other, explains the hysterical response of the Left to dissident crimethinkers and to Trump; the Left knows a real threat to their rule when they see one.

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