Occasionally, as you stalk your way through the great veldts of vagina, prey will put itself in your mouth. If you look good, and look sharp, and are saying all the right things with your body language, maybe one woman each night you go out will make her interest in you blatantly obvious. Such obvious signs include smiling at you from across the room, looking back at you more than once, and pointing at you then pointing at her crotch and pointing back at you while mouthing “you, me?”
On very rare occasions she will approach you. It’s hard to overestimate the rarity of the female cold approach. Unless you are famous and need cuntblockers to keep women off you, you will be able to remember every time a girl approached you. The cold approach is probably the most glaring gender difference — women simply don’t do it, and men will get nowhere without it.
You can facilitate women approaching you if you give them an excuse. Ideally, a girl who likes your style and social aura will want you to come over to her, but if that doesn’t happen and she is an unusually assertive girl, she might walk over to you as long as you have something on or around you that she can comment on. This is what I call passive game — set it and forget it.
stylish red lighting sets the mood for grabass.
I was sitting on a barstool with my camera in my back pocket and the strap dangling out. A girl walked up to me and said she had a bet with her two friends (she pointed back at two girls ten feet away who were watching us) about the identity of the thing sticking out of my back pocket. (I liked the bet angle. This girl had game.) Of course I didn’t give her a straight answer. I told her it was my thong.
Other items that serve as handy excuses for girls to approach you:
an obvious condom packet impression in a shirt or pants pocket.
better yet, a condom pendant.
a woman’s lipstick kiss on your cheek (a Mystery staple).
a colored string or piece of cloth hanging out of your pocket or waistband.
a ball.
a nude girl pen tucked behind your ear.
a t-shirt with words in a foreign language.
a ring pop.
As you can tell, none of these things make any sense (except the kiss, you player). That’s good; it means they’ll work to coax a girl to comment on them. If you don’t like wearing feather boas, you can’t go wrong with these understated accoutrements.
not that you would bring one to a bar (although, in theory, why not?) but a puppy works wonders.
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Try toilet paper sticking out of your back pocket.
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Adriana La Serva man, jesus.
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i know its a little dangerous but a firecracker….live on the edge
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Adriana La Serva man, jesus.
wow, yeah, she looks just like her. bada bang!
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Just put a potato in your pants.
Be sure, however, to put it in the front.
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Cool eyeglasses are really easy to use as an excuse.
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I should post a picture of a tie I have that really baits girls into approaching. Other ties will get a girl’s attention, but this one always gets at least 3 girls per night to come up and stroke it or bat it around playfully.
It’s regular width, dark brown, with thin light-pink stripes (a pair of stripes close together, each pair separated by a good inch). It’s by Borrelli Napoli, and looks like this (modulo the colors):
http://www.tiedeals.com/borrelli_08/sevenfold/bors80522-rdglcstr.htm
Got it on Yoox for a lot cheaper than that, though. One of the best single sartorial investments I’ve ever made.
You have to have dark features to wear it, though, since otherwise it will out-compete your face for visual attention.
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I have that really baits girls into approaching. Other ties will get attention, but this one always gets at least 3 girls per night to come up and stroke it or bat it around playfully.
It’s regular width, dark brown, with thin light-pink stripes (a pair of stripes close together, each pair separated by a good inch). It’s by Borrelli Napoli, and looks like this (modulo the colors):
http://www.tiedeals.com/borrelli_08/sevenfold/bors80522-rdglcstr.htm
Got it on Yoox for a lot cheaper than that, though. One of the best single sartorial investments I’ve ever made.
You have to have dark features to wear it, though, since otherwise it will out-compete your face for visual attention.
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Getting approached by women is a gift and a curse. When you get approached by a beast of a woman or a hottie, either one is good. The beast you can just diss right out the box. The hottie is like a gift from heaven. Your reactions are clear in either case. But the problem is when you start getting approached by strong 6’s and 7’s, because you get tempted to settle for the slam-dunk slightly above average bird in the hand over the hottie birds in the bush. Back in the day the female approach led to some questionable calls on my part.
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Just go to mate1.com and have the money to fly to their house. More woman than you can handle. Lot of desperate woman in the states now lol I was just playing around with neg game and stuff I read on these sites and told them they were my woman today and they were like ” ok”and had a pick of a lot of them and that was with a pic of my fat, although handsome faced self with sucker bites oh wait maybe I did have an excuse for them to approach.
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I can vouch for the “t-shirt in a foreign language” thing. I wear one sometimes, and I’ve never had conversations with so many strangers about an article of my own clothing.
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I have a tie that really baits girls into approaching. Other ties will get a girl’s attention, but this one always gets at least 3 girls per night to come up and stroke it or bat it around playfully.
It’s regular width, dark brown, with thin light-pink stripes (a pair of stripes close together, each pair separated by a good inch). Tried linking to a likeness of it, but wordpress is eating it, so I’ll post a pic on my blog later maybe.
You have to have dark features to wear it, though, since otherwise it will out-compete your face for visual attention.
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Never trust a white man with a mustache or a black man without one.
Also, this is where it is totally different for girls picking up other girls. In that scenario, they respond really well if you give them a few shy-but-dazzled looks and emit genuine warmth. They just have to come over to see what it’s all about. Then you whisper in their ear “do you have any chapstick?” Fuckin works. Could this be translated to help men in any way? I’m throwing it out there just in case.
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Lisa in 13: yes, hints on this type of game would be helpful, because I’m starting to date a woman now who is bi-curious and interested in a threesome. I think we’ll eventually strategize on this.
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I went to a 8 yr old’s birthday party and ended up with a fake dinosaur tattoo on my neck. Later that night i went out to a college bar and the girls ate it up. Some of them were even able to ID the dinosaur. Seems the more out of place something is, the more likely it will work as bait.
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I’ve *finally* got two good questions for you after racking my beta (can girls be beta?) brain:
–is “roissy” after the “roissy society,” which is about living out the Story of O?
–what purpose does an over 35-year old unmarried, unchilded woman serve? I mean really, is there? This 38-year old SWF without kids wants to know.
K
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I like the “t-shirt with words in a foreign language” idea. Any suggestions for a good place to order these on line?
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Hey Roissy, I came here after seeing your comment on my blog. I checked out this blog and it gave me a lot of food for thought. To be honest, I am just getting back into the game, which I used to have a pretty good handle on a few years ago. I thought, for some half-baked reason, that I could give up on it, but that was just a fantasy.
Some people might look at your blog as just a player’s monument, but I see it as an altruistic endeavor. Thanks for that, Roissy. Good luck in DC, and keep encouraging us guys to follow our true nature!
I wrote a piece today about being a dad (it’s very important to me). Check it out at my site if you’ve got time.
Take it easy
-BILL
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at some point in college i noticed how brazen and direct a woman can be if they really want a man. even if the dialog is platonic, you can tell from the body language.
once i started doing the same, as a man, i found that the dates came a lot easier to me. i just got tired of eating my heart out every time a prospective girlfriend missed my “hint.” rather than wait for the woman to notice me, i just flatout told them i wanted them. and it worked too. man aint nothing but a fool, pretending to be a “friend” just to get to the “lover” stage. it might work and it might not, but id sooner just tell them i want them. if they want me back, thats kool. if not, hey, i got it over with.
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rather than wait for the woman to notice me, i just flatout told them i wanted them.
nothing wrong with trying half-court three-pointers, like walking up to a random woman* and simply asking her whether she’d like to come home with you. this can be successful much more often than you might think, as long as you are confident, frame-controlling, assertive, and spontaneous enough to walk the walk.
even if her original answer is no, you have still caused a certain degree of imprinting, and she will associate you with sexual adventure and excitement.
*highest percentage with 7’s and 8’s who are NOT with their girlfriends at the time.
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mq – my best advice for a girl approaching other girls is, keep it friendly and playful. As a female you have a leg up on men simply because you are not a man. Girls don’t have the natural guard up against women that they do against men and the only key a female really needs to unlock the door is admiration. Simply put, don’t pretend you’re a guy and approach with a line, don’t dominate, underplay. A sincere smile and “you’re pretty” is an adequate opener. Asking for lipgloss leads to kissing, I’m not sure why.
Finally, remember that the more forward and man-like you are in your approach, the more you will have to take the lead in escalating the sex b/c you’ll be attracting women who are not necessarily practiced themselves.
You can probably get around a lot of the learning curve by looking at swinger sites or going to swinger bars, but I’d say it’s also a completely different experience and maybe not as empowering? It all depends what you want from the experience.
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“rather than wait for the woman to notice me, i just flatout told them i wanted them.”
“nothing wrong with trying half-court three-pointers, like walking up to a random woman* and simply asking her whether she’d like to come home with you.
(*highest percentage with 7’s and 8’s who are NOT with their girlfriends at the time.)”
to be truthful, ive gotten so bold that ill talk to a girl i want REGARDLESS of whether their girlfriend is around.
its when their with their MALE friends…now THAT is something ya gotta be careful about. even GAY GUYS can get defensive when they see their straight female buddy getting macked on
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Sean Connery (i.e. James Bond) would only need two things. Testosterone and a martini.
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#21 guthrie
Your post reminds me of the scene in “Tootsie” in which Jessica Lange confides to Dustin Hoffman (as Dorothy Michaels) how she just wants a man to come right out and say he just wants to make love to her. Later on, Dustin (as Michael Dorsey) tries the line out on her and she throws her drink in his face.
So always keep in mind that what they say isn’t always (and in fact hardly ever is) what they really want.
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#26 sestambi
Let me clarify something. When I say I’m bold enough to tell a lady I’m interested, I’m generally like “hey, would you like to go out?” NOT “I want to make love to you.” Y’all are reading to much into what I’m writing. Sure, making love is the point of meeting her in the first place, but I don’t come right out and SAY that. And expect to get anywhere.
Also, that bit about walking up to a random woman and asking if she’d come home with you? That wasn’t me talking, I was quoting Johnny Five’s post (#22).
There’s only SO far you can go with the honesty thing. I’m bold, but not stupid. (((smile)))
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guthrie 27:
There’s only SO far you can go with the honesty thing. I’m bold, but not stupid. (((smile)))
if it gets results, even 10% of the time, is it still stupid?
remember, almost everything polite society says about relations between the sexes is wrong, so don’t knock it until you try it.
and i don’t know about you, but ‘making love’ is most assuredly not my goal in these sorts of situations. that is a powerful, emotionally loaded phrase, and using it is certainly not a good way to manage expectations.
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on the other hand, the ‘regardless of whether her gf’s are around’ part now makes much more sense.
accepting an offer to ‘go out’ doesn’t sully the purity of anyone’s reputation (irrespective of whether that purity is imagined in the first place).
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#25
He also needs a license to kill…
and a Brioni tux.
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#28
Nothing wrong with positive results. I just try not to go too far lest I wind up like Dustin Hoffman in “Tootsie” (see #26).
and i guess i shouldnt have said “making love” as the ultimate goal, but you know what i mean – just romantic enuff so she knows im not tryin to be just a platonic buddy
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Nothing wrong with positive results. I just try not to go too far lest I wind up like Dustin Hoffman in “Tootsie” (see #26).
you have nothing to lose. really, nothing, provided you live in a town comprising more than one zip code.
it is quite possible to convert a third-and-long situation, such as a slap in the face, into a successful score. it takes the drive of genghis khan and the i-don’t-give-a-fuck-ness of tucker max, but it can be done.
if she actually bothers to slap you instead of just expressing disgust and turning her back, she’s probably at least a little bit intrigued.
do you enjoy challenges?
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Ordinary, common, hum drum viewpoint.
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Great info, thanks a lot.
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