Commenter and blogger Redacted had this to say from yesterday’s post:
Somewhat off topic, but never, ever neg someone with a reference to their weight. Not even a 10. A buddy of mine got kicked out of a club for saying, “Hey, haven’t you put on a pound or two,” to one of the hired guns.
I don’t disagree with this if we’re talking about women only. (Men can handle jabs about their spare tires.) Women are so incredibly sensitive to criticism of their weight (and for good sociobiological reason) that there aren’t too many scenarios in which you could manipulate their body image issues to your benefit without it blowing up in your face like an overstuffed burrito.
Sure, if a girl punches you in the nads, call her fat. If your estranged wife is cackling across the divorce lawyer’s mahogany table, casually mention she’s a shambling mound. If your sister ratted you out — she’s fair game.
But the most rewarding time to drop a fatty insult on a girl is with an ex. If you ever bump into an ex-girlfriend who had the gall to stop having sex with you, you can hit her with the fatty two by four. (Be sure to use subtlety when you swing the low blow. In-your-face won’t get under the skin as deeply.) I did exactly this with a Russian ex of mine.
Her: [looking skinny and spectacular] Hi, nice to see you!
Me: [looking momentarily stunned] Oh hey, hi.
Her: Wow, so how are you?
Me: Good. [scheming…] You look nice. Did you put on a little weight? It looks good on you.
Her: [jaw on floor] Um, noo… OK, well, I’ve got to go.
Was it petty? Yes. Did I have a smile on my face afterwards? Yes. Did I get hand? YES.
Absolutely, estranged and ex-wives are fair game. Especially when they lie to the sheriff that you hit them when in reality it was the other way around and you called 911 for your own protection and the sheriff chooses to ignore the bleeding scratches on your arms and neck. Oh, and when the sheriff then writes out a 72hr emergency restraining order against you, and your crazy wife goes to court and gets it extended and tries to blackmail you into signing everything over to her otherwise you’ll never see your 3 year old daughter again…. then it’s fair game to throw in some saggy breasts and baggy pu$$y low blows too.
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One word: Passive Aggressive
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Last year a fat chick was cock-blocking me hard. I was drunk and was getting pissed off. Finally when she became real rude and belligerent, I looked her in the eye and said, “I thought you people were supposed to be jolly”. It didn’t get me laid but it sure elevated my mood for the evening.
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“Absolutely, estranged and ex-wives are fair game. Especially when they lie to the sheriff that you hit them when in reality it was the other way around and you called 911 for your own protection and the sheriff chooses to ignore the bleeding scratches on your arms and neck. Oh, and when the sheriff then writes out a 72hr emergency restraining order against you, and your crazy wife goes to court and gets it extended and tries to blackmail you into signing everything over to her otherwise you’ll never see your 3 year old daughter again”
^ Anyone thinking of getting married to their perfect girl needs to read what you wrote. It happens ALL THE TIME.
Marriage = man giving consent to woman to ass rape him at any given time, backed by the full force of The State.
All bitches will ass rape you in divorce. The variable is how hard each bitch is capable of pounding you. It is YOUR fault for not forseeing the DEGREE of ass-raping you are now getting.
Fathering is 24/7, all-or-nothing job. Seeing a kid every other weekend is NOT fathering. It only leads to anger and resentment on her part. Doesn’t help that she’s living with a poisonous mother. Might as well cut all ties, start anew with better bitches, and move on.
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You have to keep one thing in mind – men get fat too, and are vulnerable to these comments just like women are.
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that’s so horrible, and i’d agree with some of the commenters that men are sensitive to the comments too but just not as a whole. some guys even make fun of their excess weight, but i see it more as a denfense mechanism; they’re not actually ok with being as big as they are.
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You guys think too much about this sort of stuff when there is only one appropriate course of action. Kick her in the shin and run away. I’m smooth like that.
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You have to keep one thing in mind – men get fat too, and are vulnerable to these comments just like women are.
But men have other redeeming qualities, and don’t base their selfworth on their weight. Also, I know a lot of somewhat fat men, but the real fat ones are usually women. When I lived in Alabama, I remember that around 50% of adult black women were sea elephants, whereas most black guys were tall and muscular (yeah, I know, I’m sounding gay). So I definitively can understand why my friend DA likes the white girls.
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Dude, I don’t know how to tell you this but it looks like a tape worm is coming out of your ass. You might want to go get that checked out brah
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Maybe she just needs a clearer self-image. A more self-confident person would have slapped the one 3D looking object off your male stick figure.
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Sure you can call a woman fat. Just don’t be surprised when she snaps back you have a small dick.
In my experience spite is karmic. Being mean tends to have a way of coming around to bite you in the ass (no pun intended).
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11 Patrick
The thing about narcissists? They love being glorified OR berated in public, but only public attacks serve as narcissistic supply. In private, no. They will avoid it like the plague.
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11 Patrick Now I’m thinking you’re a three.
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Young men can be sensitive to their fatness, specifically if they are fatter than the average person. Nowadays, they would need to be enormous to qualify as fatter than average.
But, for older, and, especially, married guys, they tend to revel in their fatness.
Women can also revel in their fatness when they get past, say, 45 years old. But it is not the same kind of comfort that fat men feel and it is not as common.
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One time I was with a friend at a bar. Two hotties just strolled between us with their sense of entitlement and one half heartedly said “sorry”. I said “Yea, you ARE sorry.”. I got the dirtiest look, but it felt like I just ass-fucked Sienna Miller.
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This site is a veritable cornucopia of personality disorders. It’s all starting to sound the same. Losing consciousness……yawn.
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Holy shit woman, some of my best friends are narcissists. Please go away.
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19 Lisa
No problem. And there is a huge difference between healthy narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder, just in case you are not aware of that.
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I am surprised that no one has brought up this particular point:
If you are in a serious relationship and you are no longer, or losing, your attraction to your partner because of their weight-gain, then it is absolutely ok to bring it up. This is assuming that you are dating someone who doesn’t immediately play the “victim” card.
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It’s ok to bring it up with your girl, but you better sit down and have an honest caveman to girlfriend talk, explaining that your plumbing isn’t working the same way it was when she was 10 lbs lighter. There are bound to be some “buts”, stick to the truth. She can thank you later.
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It’s ok to bring it up with your girl … She can thank you later.
Many will not thank you for your honesty. They will know that they have been victimized by your insensitive, controlling, patriarchical ass, but, this is a good thing.
In this situation you will see that she could not handle something as simple and fixable as Weight Gain. So, this is a huge red flag telling you to move on.
If she handles it like an adult where she is happy that you are looking to have honest communication, BOTH WAYS, then this is a big feather in the relationship’s cap.
It is win-win.
Granted, the girl that always looks hot is even better.
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Chuang Tzu says:
Easy is right. Begin right and you are easy.
Continue easy, and you are right.
The right way to go easy is to forget the right way.
And forget that the going is easy.
Think about it.
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I don’t know about this ching chong shit #24 but I do know that having your woman see you as the object of other women’s flirtations is as powerful a tool as the asteroid that killed the dinosaurs. That is all.
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Yeah Sara, I was talking about NPD and anyway what’s the difference, I mean considering I’m not in charge of anyone or anything but taking care of my own ass. There was a time when I mentioned it on here and he was like yeah I’m aware of this. And I’m like oh okay carry on then. See, done and done.
There’s no saving me Sara. Crazy guys make awesome, fun friends. Crazy girls however are just crazy. I’m not naming names here Sara, I’m just going to point and whistle.
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DF, right on.
A man should always be in demand. And this goes for things other than getting tail.
Basically, that you have marketable skills. You are a man that other people want/need.
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Good, very good!
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“A man should always be in demand. And this goes for things other than getting tail.”
Profound.
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it will push all kinds of insecurities buried deep inside, like “am i mature enough for him?” “am i classy like her?” “is she smarter?” etc etc…
In your experience, how well does the opener neg “Are you smart?” work? Mystery says he’ll ask girls “How tall are you?” You’ve said “Do you cook?”
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really average, just so-so
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Mystery says he’ll ask girls “How tall are you?”
That’s because he’s 6’5″ or whatever. “Are you smart” might work better for you.
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@ agnostic it’s not the lines, it’s the attitude.
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Gannon, with BW this will not work often because even if the average BW is fat(not thick=Beyonce) she will not overly concern herself with what men think about her weight.
Anon 13- Sure you can call a woman fat. Just don’t be surprised when she snaps back you have a small dick
She may also put the word out about your “little friend” on the female grapvine.
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it will push all kinds of insecurities buried deep inside, like “am i mature enough for him?” “am i classy like her?” “is she smarter?” etc etc
Not to give you guys help with damaging women but…..
You can play this both ways. With the older woman, she will wonder if she is too old, not attractive, not lively as the younger woman etc etc.
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40 Chic “With the older woman, she will wonder if she is too old, not attractive, not lively as the younger woman etc etc.”
Insecurity knows no bounds. Playing on people’s insecurities in order to get you laid, probably leads to people doing the same to you. Otherwise, why would you think it was effective? My ex has tried numerous times to make me jealous and I never am. He does this, because HE is the jealous type, else it would never cross his mind. I enjoy watching him try, though. Instead of making me jealous, I just find him stupid and immature.
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I agree. I called my girlfriend chubby once and spent that night on the couch…
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