A very effective game technique that works on all kinds of girls, from lawyers to strippers, is the beta switch. This involves pretending to act like a romantic, sappy beta, then when she’s on the verge of confusion, disappointment and disgust, switching quickly back into alpha mode. The beta switch technique is best when used on girls you’ve just started dating, as a means to solidify attraction, but it can also be used as part of relationship game to keep the embers warm.
I’ll give you a couple of examples of beta switch game that I have used successfully on girls. In one, usually on the second date, I pretend I’m about to give a girl a romantic gift of great value.
SINISTER CR: You know, GIRL 155, I’m having an amazing time with you.
GIRL 155: Aw, me too.
SINISTER CR: I’ve been thinking about how great this is, and well, I really feel we are good together.
GIRL 155: Um…
SINISTER CR: And I wanted to show how much you mean to me… [reaching slowly and dramatically into front pocket]… So I got you this. [Pulling hand slowly out of pocket] I hope you like it. It comes from the heart.
GIRL 155: [Beads of sweat now forming on her brow] Um, yeah, you know, that’s really not necessary…
SINISTER CR: [Pulling out a small leaf I broke off from a bush] Here you go. Don’t worry, it isn’t as expensive as it looks. [smirk]
GIRL 155: Oh, WOW, phew! haha, ok, funny. [Kiss kiss kiss penetrate penetrate penetrate]
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Here is another example of beta switch game. This one I use just before things start to heat up and deal closing is around the corner.
SEXUAL HEALING CR: [Very serious face] Girl 156…
GIRL 156: Yes?
SEXUAL HEALING CR: [Tenderly taking her hands in mine, looking at her intensely, then glancing down, and looking back up at her] I think about you a lot…
GIRL 156: [Smiling nervously] Uuumm… ok. Don’t think too much! [Nervous laughter]
SEXUAL HEALING CR: …about what you’d be like in bed.
GIRL 156: [Open eyed surprise] Wow, that’s kind of hot.
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Beta switch game technique works like clambusters because it arouses so many contradictory emotions in a girl. You are dragging her across an emotional landscape of curiosity, impending doom, relief, and lust. This rapid drama-inducing whirlwind will pry apart the iciest pussies. The secret ingredient to beta switch game is the mix of unspoken disappointment that accompanies her sexual arousal after she discovers your romantic beta ruse was just a goofy ploy. Although girls get turned off by excessive displays of sappy betatude, a part of them relishes the idea of a man falling under their spell and surrendering his composure in a fit of romantic gushing. By stealing that satisfaction from a girl at the last second, you redirect her intensifying feelings back where you want them — to her crotch. Beta switch game also has a long term benefit; in the future, when you do drop a little genuine romance on her, she will appreciate it a lot more. Which brings me to…
CR Maxim #66: Half the battle of game is stripping a woman of her inborn self-entitlement complex.
If any of you watch “The Office”, you’ll know that Jim ran beta switch game on Pam when he pretended to drop to one knee to propose to her, only to tie his shoelace. Beta switch game is an absolute pussy luber.
Ha, I swear I just used something very similar on some feminist girl I’ve been boning.
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i got you a present… it’s my dick in a box!
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Haha
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Me: ” baby, I really need you…”
Her: “Um, ok.”
Me: ” … to take out my trash. It fucking stinks.”
You can use it.
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Sweet post!! In other words, you wanna bring them almost up to — but not up to — the point where they say forlornly “awww, that’s really sweet…”
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Intriguing, I’ll have to start doing this.
The first scenario seems a bit awkward though.
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This is good advice, but the scenarios used to illustrate it are totally lame.
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Yo – When I started reading this blog I had just seen that office episode and wondered if you ever would do a kind of meta survey of game on various shows (found the recent celebrity survey interesting). larry david game is interesting. Jim’s paper alpha/beta switch game on Pam. found it hilarious that your celebrity survey judged steve carrell to be ‘michael scott’. i’m still trying to figure out where in the alpha-bet he falls. just saw some 3rd rock from the sun episodes that i totally forgot about – were totally about game
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Riff Dog: You know I write poetry, don’t you?
Girl X: No. You don’t really seem like the poetry type.
Riff Dog: Well, it’s mostly just a hobby. But I wrote one for you. [Making eye contact as I nervously pull a piece of paper out of my pocket. Paper is kinda crumpled up. I’m sloppy, but I clearly put a lot of time into this.]
Girl X: Okaayyyy. [She watches me flattening out the paper as my eyes nervously jump back and forth from the paper to her.]
Riff Dog: I’ve been near and far
And I’ve been far and near
And one think I know
Is you’ve got a nice ass
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Gas and clutch.
– MPM
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I combined this with jealousy game the other night. Asked a girl that I’ve thought might be good for an LTR, but not yet:
Looking her in the eye. “Name redacted, can I tell you a secret?”
“Uh, ok”
“I slept with [second name redacted].” (girl she knows at school).
All my female friends counseled me that this would turn her off. Quite sure it had the opposite effect.
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this one is also useful.
I froze your tears and made a dagger,
and stabbed it in my cock forever.
It stays there like Excalibur,
Are you my Arthur?
Say you are.
Take this cool dark steeled blade,
Steal it, sheath it, in your lake.
I’d drown with you to be together.
Must you breathe? Cos I need Heaven.
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The Beta Switch technique sounds a lot like the hot/cold/hot/cold technique and works based on the same premise: that people are turned on by unpredictability in the actions and words of another. It can definitely be exciting.
The pulling out a leaf from your pocket would be a little weird though. Seems too contrived.
Getting down on one knee and then typing your shoelaces seems much more reasonable and less thought out, thus I can see it being more effective.
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Remember back-handed compliments? Bait-and-switch illustrated in this article is back-handed action.
Treat her like shit, and veil your actions in sincere affection. Works all the time.
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Absolutely brilliant. I will definitely be using the first one on my next second date. Better go find some leaves…
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He was probably about 10 or so.
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“works like clambusters” – brilliant
@jamila: you’re right on. this is hot/cold/hot/cold. works great. anything that’s a switch or contrast or keeps her guessing works great, maybe even “like clambusters.”
gentlemen – an even more simple technique is *never* tell a girl where you’re going when you take her out. when she asks, just say “someplace i like.” if she keeps asking, bust on her for the nancy drew routine. after a few drinks at venue #1, say “we’re leaving” and caveman her to the next place.
this is so simple and works so well. girls just *love* the juicy feeling of anticipation and mystery it gives them.
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“GIRL 156”
Solid brag.
From what I’ve seen of The Office, Jim’s move seems more like an alpha-switch on his part, the character has way too many supplicating beta characteristics, but does unleash some solid negs from time to time.
Ryan, the guys in the warehouse, and Dwight often exhibit some solid alpha game.
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I know it’s been said before, but you truly are the Dark Lord.
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gentlemen – an even more simple technique is *never* tell a girl where you’re going when you take her out. when she asks, just say “someplace i like.” if she keeps asking, bust on her for the nancy drew routine. after a few drinks at venue #1, say “we’re leaving” and caveman her to the next place.
This is nice, as long as you tell the woman a basic idea of what kind of establishment you’re going to. You don’t want to be all dressed up and end up a “tennis shoe” type place.
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@jamila: right again. sometimes i’ll tell her “wear comfortable shoes” or “wear something sexy” when we make plans. gives her guidance and heightens the tingly anticipation. works like a charm, try it today boys.
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I’ve stumbled upon this as working a long time ago and done it too from time to time, not often enough I think now on reflection. I just thought of it as a type of teasing. Your frame for it as switching from beta to alpha is much more effective and would have sharpened and increased my use of it. Instead I just tended to use it when it just came to me in a situation.
Great post.
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What do you think of Johnny Soporno and his teaching?
I find preaching your belief in polyamory doesn’t go over to well with the more submissive type women.
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Great article by our very own Novaseeker:
http://www.the-spearhead.com/2010/03/16/the-wistfulness-of-elizabeth-wurtzel/
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As a 52 yr old never married man G-town lawyer I have one serious question, where the Hell were you 30 years ago?
It has taken me a lifetime of trial and error to gain only a portion of your insight into the seduction of female hominids. Had I been granted access to these insights 3 decades ago the intervening time would have been even better spent.
While I read your blog mostly for the amusement now, do not underrate the service you are providing to young men all over the country. To see through the fog of culture and political correctness into the reality of life is no easy matter. You are providing not merely entertainment but life changing advice that normally one must spend years ( and several million bucks) obtaining.
Of course women hate this, after all does Macy’s tell Gimbels ? Be not afraid, and keep the truth coming.
Still, where the hell where you 3 decades ago ?
Andy
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I wish someone had told me when I was 12 that “Awww, that’s so sweet” actually means “You’re never getting sex.”
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hmmm..
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War and Peace; Leo Tolstoy (Translated by Richard Pevear and Larissa Volokhonsky)
Volume 1, Part 3, Chapter 4, p. 222:
[Prince Vassily brings his son Anatole to Prince Bolkonsky to see if he can marry Anatole to Bolkonsky’s daughter, Princess Marya.[
‘Anatole was not resourceful, nor quick and eloquent in conversation, but he had instead a capacity, precious in society, for composure and unalterable assurance. When an insecure man is silent at first acquaintance and shows an awareness of the impropriety of this silence and a wish to find something to say, it comes out badly; but Anatole was silent, swung his leg, and cheerfully observed the princess’s hairstyle. It was clear that he could calmly remain silent like that for a very long time. “If anyone feels awkward because of this silence, speak up, but I don’t care to,” his look seemed to say. Besides that, in Anatole’s behavior with women there was a manner which more than any other awakens women’s curiosity, fear, and even love – a manner of contemptuous awareness of his own superiority. As if he were saying to them with his look: “I know you, I know, but why should I bother with you? And you’d be glad if I did!” Perhaps he did not think that when he met women (and it is even probably that he did not, because he generally thought little), but such was his look and manner. The princess felt it, and, as if wishing to show him that she dared not even think of interesting him, turned to the old prince.’
[… after much anxious conversation were Anatole is actually hitting on Princes Mayla’s French attendant Mlle Bourienne …]
‘They all dispersed and, except for Anatole, who fell asleep as soon as he lay down, it was long before anyone slept that night.’
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Except that Jim from the office is a beta chump
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And it is a shitty show.
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Now Jack from 30 Rock is pure alpha.
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I thank God the only TV I watch is hockey and football. And reruns of 2.5 Men.
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Snodgrass
This is very good, I had not thought of Game in War and Peace before
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Ah. Lean and hungry Cassius.
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He thinks too much. Such men are dangerous.
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i love u…(pause)…nited airlines
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I once showed this song to my gf, from me to her:
Def. qualifies imo.
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If someone tried that beta switch tactic on me the temptation to tell them to go fly away would be irresistible.
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The first example is hilarious. Lmao.
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Is the beta switch technique based on the principle that women only appreciate something when they realise they’re not getting it?
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Being able to go Beta for limited time is a wonderful tool. I find going Beta works well on chicks rebounding from Alpha break ups. You just have to pull the rug out from under them before they turn contempuous.
Try a couple of weeks of Beta on a rebounding girl. She’s locked in on you because she’s deluded herself that she is mature now and she really just wants a nice guy. But then you start to see the little hints of entitlement and she starts to take a subtly cruel digs at you. You know where this is going. So you leave town for a for a few of days without any contact, or talk about this new girl at work who seems really interesting.
It’s all about properly gauging when to right the ship.
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Sigh. Goodnight. Avinguda Diagonal, I hope I didn’t hurt your feelings, I thought you were gaming me. I do love Barcelona.
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Mean.
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But clever.
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ahem?!!
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There are also ways to do the alternating between the positive and negative poles in high speed ac/dc current, such that you are basically being alpha and beta simultaneously.
For instance you can be both romantic and deeply passionate and personal and intimate, while pulling her hair, spitting on her face, slapping her face, and calling her a whore while fucking her.
This is really my preference. I like the drama of push pull, doing both simultaneously is your coke and your codeine too.
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I like the drama of push pull, but doing both simultaneously is your coke and your codeine too.
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Though I buy sex, my latest post defends game..
http://dissention.wordpress.com/2010/03/17/random-thoughts-8/
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xsplat
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Can_you_take_codeine_and_cocaine_together
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I don’t think I could pull off the beta routine without a corny voice and half a smirk on my face…. it seems to hard to make it genuine.
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A dude I know took a chick to the tallest building in the city and bent down on on one knee and pulled out a jewelry box and opened it. As he slowly opened the box (he had hollowed it out) all that was there was his middle finger with the resounding words “psych!”.
They’re still together.
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If any of you watch “The Office”, you’ll know that Jim ran beta switch game on Pam when he pretended to drop to one knee to propose to her, only to tie his shoelace. Beta switch game is an absolute pussy luber.
You watch The Office? LOSER!!!!
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Diaboli, aren’t we literally minded today! Actually, you can take a speedball without overdosing, and it is reportedly quite pleasant. But the purpose of analogy is not make one to one mappings of meaning, I hope you know. I like the alternating current vs switching DC poles analogy better. The words give a of the jolt of buzz you can get.
In any case, metaphors are meant to clarify an idea with a separate idea, through the use of images. They don’t stand in concretely for the concepts, the way that words do. You’re meant to understand the concept of being both extremely intimate and dominating and rough at the same time.
Or was that asking too much of the readership?
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You can never be pure “alpha”. Never giving her the time of day is “alpha”. You actually do need to be nice. Giving her an orgasm is a nice thing to do too. The problem is the beta instinct is not attenuated correctly. The feeder bar is to yield a pellet grudgingly and inconsistently. It is the most addictive conditioning cycle. Give her the world one evening and then befuddle her the next. Then watch her try to find that elusive “you”.
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Chi-town “Give her the world one evening and then befuddle her the next. Then watch her try to find that elusive “you”.”
Isn’t that what the great master painters have to say? In order to paint the light, you need to master darkness.
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I get it, xsplat.
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The leaf is waaay too planned. Here’s whatcha do. Take her to an expensive dinner (beta move) then at the end start your sappy speech. Just as she looks ready to bolt, tell her the surprise is under the table. Let her hear you undo the zipper. This one is only for higher betas who have been in training for awhile. 😉
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Oh shoot I just thought of the line when you undo your zipper!
“don’t forget the tip”
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gold…
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sorry xplat I just wanted to see if you would rise to the bait (no pun intended)
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everyone on this earth can lick my magnificent cock!!! oh, question? it’s always hard! never been soft you subversive perv-fag-jew
not necessarily in that order
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“I love Hugh…[pause] Jackman, he was great in The Prestige.”
It’s a classic!
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Sorry for the following unrelated comment. Pupu just heard a wild story and feels compelled to tell H, et al:
A woman got arrested
Because she bit a police car
With her teeth
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Great film. I love magic tricks, particularly when unexplained.
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PS: Get some sleep.
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So what would a true beta have done in either situation? Would he have told the girl that he loved her or given her ring or done something else pathetic like that?
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Actually, this reminds me of an episode of the Conan O’Brien show from the late 90s where Conan’s girlfriend was in the audience during a taping. Conan went over to her in the audience and got down on one knee and said something like, “We’ve been going out for two years now, I really care about you. Will you have sex with me now?” His girlfriend looked totally surprised and it appeared as though she thought he was going to propose.
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south park murrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrdered it last night
http://www.southparkstudios.com
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@aoefe
She needs to watch that she does not get short changed.
If things do move fast, he needs to remember the cover (charge).
Maybe he could recommend the restaurant’s tossed salad.
I will stop here before the Zagat guide removes my posting privileges.
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Ah, Cannon’s canon beat me to it.
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If you didn’t catch the new South Park last night, you should. They lampoon the idea that rich, famous guys banging lots of chicks are “sex addicts.” Nice cameo from Bill Clinton.
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@Default – “I will stop here before the Zagat guide removes my posting privileges”
Him (to waiter): She wants the tossed. If she’s still hungry later I’ll give her my sausage.
Oh Default I’ve missed playing with you. 🙂
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Go to the jukebox, and then come back and tell her you’ve chosen a very special song for her. Tell when when it comes on.
You’ve chosen this song:
http://www.justsomelyrics.com/1530106/Charlie-Robison-You're-Not-The-Best-Lyrics
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Test post for new gravatar
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Damn.
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LOL – I like your style. I’ll be back.
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Games, games, and more games! Too bad they are just not any fun.
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hilarious.
but if you ever want to lose your virginity i advise you not to use these porn-fantasies on real women
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Once on the way to meet a girl I passed one of those gumball machines that dispense plastic rings. It gave me an idea.
On our date, during a lull in the conversation, I said, well I have something important to ask you, and I pulled the ring out of my pocket and played it completely straight, about how much she meant to me and would she like to go steady?
And when she realized it was a .25 cent piece of shit ring she laughed out loud, and I acted totally offended that she would spurn my sincere proposal like that.
I had no idea how effective that would be, until later that night.
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In response to Selena:
??
It pretty much works. There are all kinds of strategies for getting a girl’s interest (and sex) and none of them involve capitulating to her whims or playing to expectations.
Besides, all the girls I’ve ever known love porn. Even the ‘good girl’ ones.
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