Not absolutely nothing. (That would be silly advice for most men except famous dudes who can seduce simply by showing up.) But almost nothing. In the game of seduction, less is more.
Meeting for the first time
YOU: Hey.
HER: Hi.
YOU: Can I get your opinion on something? Won’t take a sec.
HER: Sure.
YOU: [look at her for a minute, then turn back to your drink]
HER: Are you going to ask?
YOU: Maybe later.
Texting
HER: I had a great time last night!
[three days later]
YOU: Ya me too.
[five minutes later]
HER: My phone was out for the past three days in case you were trying to call me.
YOU: Nope.
[She immediately calls.]
Calling and leaving a message on her voicemail
YOU: Hey. [click]
When she flakes
YOU: See you at 7.
HER: I forgot it was my sister’s birthday. I can’t make it. Another time!
YOU: gay.
When she plays hard to get
YOU: I’ve got Wednesday free.
HER: Ooh, I can’t do wednesday.
YOU: How about next Monday?
HER: That’s gonna be tough.
YOU: Too bad. [click]
The second date
HER: You know, I don’t do this on the second date. I’m not that type.
YOU: Cool.
HER: Cool? Ok, then… good.
YOU: [opening the front door]
HER: Where are you going? You don’t have to leave, you know.
YOU: Got to. Getting drinks with some girl who’s been bugging me lately.
HER: A girlfriend?
YOU: Pfft… who knows?
HER: [frantic] Ooookay… next time then? Promise you’ll–
YOU: [slam!]
Going out on a big date
HER: I’m ready to goooo!!!
[She steps out in a slinky black cocktail dress, waiting expectantly for a stream of flattery.]
YOU: Hold on… you got a hair out of place. There.
HER: Thanks?
YOU: You look alright.
Postcoital bliss
HER: God, that was great!
YOU: …
HER: I mean really good.
YOU: …
HER: Snuggle with me.
YOU: …
HER: I think I’m falling for you.
YOU: Sweet.
Birthdays
HER: Aww… um… a bag of Skittles.
YOU: There’s a note, too.
HER: [reading the post-it note stuck to the Skittles bag] ‘roses are red, violets are blue, don’t eat the green ones! you’re a great screw’.
YOU: [smiling with pride]
…Two days later, talking with her girl friend.
HER: He gave me a bag of Skittles for my birthday! What is that?! Does he love me?? What am I doing wrong? Is he seeing other women? Does he want more blowjobs? I practically got lockjaw last week!
Meeting her friends
HER: And this is my boyfriend, Jack… Jack? Where’d he go? Oh, he’s around here somewhere.
Farting in bed
YOU: BWAAAAP!
HER: Wow. Is the romance dead already?
YOU: BWAAAAP!
After a fight
HER: I can’t believe you were flirting with that girl at the party! Did you think I wouldn’t notice?
YOU: …
HER: Do you have anything to say for yourself?
YOU: Did you flood my toilet?
The 1AM booty call
YOU: Come over.
HER: omg are you serious?
[half hour later]
HER: U still up?
[another half hour later]
HER: Helllooo? U there?
YOU: Bring the movies.
The results of Do Almost Nothing Game look like this:
Most awesome. I think it’s called a vacuum.
Certainly works well for a lazy person like myself 😉
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Gifted.
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Roissy, woman are attracted to you but I don’t have a lot of respect for the way you treat women. I want women and respect at the same time.
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I would pay money to see a girl get skittled. “Happy Bday, here’s some skittles.”
Contrast to the Beta-Shore…”here’s a fossil watch”
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Epic. Great advice for lots of everyday situations.
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Respect, guy.
You can be a partial asshole and not be a complete and utter dick.
On the other hand, you did use my favorite line ever.
“Bring the Movies.”
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David D said it best, “Never give a woman a direct answer unless it is ‘No’.”
You gave similar great advice earlier for texting which I’ve now used. “No” is a great texting conversation opener. I think I may even try it as an approach…
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Yes, this. You’re on fire this week, buddy.
At the base of it is a common status trick used by good instructors, teachers, anyone dealing with public:
– question / shit-test
– pause, no reaction
– shit tester qualifies, you win.
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It’s a lot like this: http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2010/07/dog.html
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This post reeks of bitter beta. No way Roissy wrote it.
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I once forgot to bring my GF a birthday present.
Instead, I took her to the beach; without knowing if I could find anything, we walked around. I picked up a few promising rocks, found a fossil, and then made up a story about how I had deliberately brought her here.
The fossil was a leaf impression. It was about 130 million years old (local rocks delivered lots of these).
I went on about how the world had changed every half-million years, that this was a piece of history, that at one time the leaf that made this impression waved in the wind in a world that was as alien to us as the moon, under a different sky and surrounded by strange sounds and movement. And that it was just a series of amazingly contingent events that had led to us, …
Standing there appreciating this fossil.
She kissed me, held me, said I was the best BF ever.
After that, I got good at the Impromptu Present when I forgot something.
All of this because I could never remember the day we met.
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I posted my conversation with an aging, reforming slut over at MGTOW: http://mgtow.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=general&action=display&thread=3634
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’tis why
I’m so
tacit
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Ya, I don’t know about this post.
Take a look at how Doug1 does some of his online flirting. Loads up on the compliments.
It’s all about the push and the pull. But you’ve got to pull, and sometimes pull like a champ. “I want to fuck you”. “One day I’m going to have every last bit of you”. “I like your lips”. “Your eyes make me melt”. “Your smell makes me drunk”.
Telling the girl she is something unique and special to you makes you the same to her. Then, you freak out her head. Does he REALLY love me? Then you give her tons of affection, then not enough, then relaxing peace, then drama, etc.
Aloof game as described above?
I call shenanigans.
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Isn’t this something like what “Herbs” do? I guess they’re more passive.
BTW, to see a Herb in action in a movie, watch “Cashback”.
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xsplat,
yes, but once you got the upper hand with the above.
Betas lose that hand by talking too much.
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good shit
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The Critics are missing the point that the male responses are either statements or commands – implicit or explicit.
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There is no hand to have until the girl is into you. The girl won’t get into you until you assume intimacy. Intimacy isn’t assumed by being aloof.
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lozlzozlzlolzlzlzozzozl
Hey girls, like to date assholes? Don’t worry, you’re not alone
“The Worthy Competitor
You know what? It’s a cop-out to say only weak girls go for assholes. Self-esteem aside, many girls crave the thrill of keeping up with a jerky guy, or better yet, putting him in his place. While they might not always be better at flirting per se, assholes have a certain knack for conversation that confident girls can’t wait to provoke. When you’re not looking for anything serious, few things are sexier than a well-spoken, quick-talking guy whose comebacks somehow indicate that he’ll be amazing in bed.”
http://badgerherald.com/artsetc/2010/09/21/hey_girls_like_to_da.php
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I’d rather see a post about over-whelming passion game.
As has been mentioned on this blog, it’s been shown that girls get confused about who is feeling the passion – if you show intense passion for her, she’ll feel passion.
Unless you look like a male model, being aloof is like being scenery.
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Fun post!
Skittles for a b-day gift ain’t that bad. Birthday’s are pimped out into these parties, gifts, do-dads. I’d prefer a bottle of water and a kiss as a gift. I hate sugar (proana) but like kissing.
IF a girl demands a gift from a poor guy, he should scoff then claim the economic depression makes shopping to expensive. But most flakes think everything is great…oh well.
“No” should be your default answer to many things. Parents tell me this. No to everything. Hilarious.
Ya, gotta work that hamster wheel. Sure, respect and stuff, but come on, ya gotta work your game.
It IS how our female brains work. Epic hilarity!
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Laughed my ass off 🙂
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xplat, it’s complicated 😀
For the actual pickup, first you need to rid yourself of the lapdog betaness and become at least aloof. Then you work on not being part of scenery and you’re right, passion (escalation) is good there. Then, in the relationship, it’s also great, otherwise what’s the point? But passion will not help you pass a shit test which inevitably will come now and then.
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this is fantastic
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Stud – right. Aloofness is for shit tests. Not for escalation.
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You speak nothing but the truth kid. Ripped a big fart in front of my girl last night in bed – and I apologized. Looked at myself in the mirror and said “why the fuck did i do that – holly beta.”
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I think if a man with a Masters Degree in Game from Chateau University thought about applying the crimson arts to just about every conversation he had with a female, through practice and application, his conscience would eventually morph with that little devil on his left shoulder, looking on his former body in a detached, third-person-kind of way, while making faces at that crying little angel on his right shoulder.
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I don’t really agree with this post. While aloofness is very commonly underdone, it’s also very easy to overdo. There’s only so many times you can reply to “I love you” with “That’s cool” before a girl starts to give up on you completely.
The rule is that you should return two thirds of her affection, not zero thirds of her affection.
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@Joe Eoj
My rule is 2/3, too. I adhere to this pretty strictly. Seems to work generally.
I actually disagree with the tenor of this post. Of course, I’m not alpha like CR.
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Who gives a fuck what xsplat thinks? Isn’t he the one “dating” flat-faced, third-world Asian whores?
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Bring the movies is good, but clearly inferior to “bring the lube”.
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Joe Eoj
I don’t really agree with this post. While aloofness is very commonly underdone, it’s also very easy to overdo. There’s only so many times you can reply to “I love you” with “That’s cool” before a girl starts to give up on you completely.
The rule is that you should return two thirds of her affection, not zero thirds of her affection.
It’s OK to say “love you” in reponse to hers but half the time I just give her an “I know”.
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@xsplat
“Unless you look like a male model, being aloof is like being scenery.”
Couldn’t disagree more, being aloof works with certain women, the type of women I want to bang. The type that is actually hot, and not used to men being aloof with them. It’s all about establishing yourself as different from other men. Aloofness, is a DHV, it says, “look, take it or leave, I don’t need.” This type of behavior with a women that has, for most of her sexually matured life, seen nothing but men relentlessly hitting on her and telling her how beautiful she is, has grown immune to that.
Now once you get the girl, if you bang her like you should, like I do, she will experience the passion of her life. The contrast of herculean lover and aloof cocky “unatainable” man will drive her absolutely nuts, the power you will feel will make you feel even more alpha making the aloofness genuine.
Of coure, if you want to bang, 1-6s, or opperate on a binary yes/no scale, this may not be for you, but if you do and still aren’t getting any action you should probably just pay for it and save yourself the trouble.
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The juxtaposition is funny, seeing as how CR recently tweeted “‘Aw, baby, that’s just the liquor talking’.”
So lesson learned, eh, now it’s “sweet.”
The first time I heard that phrase, I replied, “well, you realize of course that I don’t.” That caught me hell that I wasn’t prepared for at that time.
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It’s difficult to imagine this technique actually getting anyone laid, but I guess there’s all kinds of women out there. Use it enough and it’s bound to work.
But why would you want the women who would put up with this sort of treatment?
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Xsplat is right. I’m aloof and good-looking and most women who flirt with me eventually tire of my aloofness and give up.
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Another thing. When you’re too aloof you can seem unattainable. And when you’re unattainable girls fear and are intimidated by you rather than lust after you. Some sort of balance needs to be struck.
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Hail Mary Text:
——————–
Her: Hey (after 2+ wks of no contact)
You: Who is this??
Her: ” ” <—- some version of trying to get u
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I’m going to tattoo “Bring the movies” on my inner bicep. God, think of the tingles it will generate.
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I really like the first line. I don’t like pick up lines, but I like that because it suits my personality
Of course the rest are excellent too.
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Most men’s problem isn’t being too aloof.
For most (like 90%) people reading this blog, the inclination will be to treat a woman nicely; to be attentive; to compliment them.
Hence, the subtext of this post.
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@ R. Stanton Scott
“But why would you want the women who would put up with this sort of treatment?”
Because women put up with this sort of treatment.
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The thing with this aloof game and questions like “But why would you want the women who would put up with this sort of treatment?” is that there’s a tendency for girls who’ve dated guys who act gushing and gifty towards them to end up hating those guys.
Then again, if you can meet a girl with whom you share the schmoopies (to coin a phrase for mutual over affection), then that’s good stuff (and even our host has stated that this is a good thing). But the chances are that the bigger whore your girls is, the less likely this fun aspect of romance will occur.
Also, the push pull of the meeting for the first time aloofness is good stuff. If you open and then immediately (and confidently) withdraw, like uh, I’ve reconsidered hitting on you, it’s powerful.
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R. Stanton Scott,
Women want to chase you. Use aloof game and watch how they not only flock to you sexually but also start cooking for you, doing your laundry, ect.
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my question isn’t “is roissy writing these posts?”. my question is “who is commenting on these posts?”. to those saying this type of game doesn’t work, go read the archives of this blog. read the link for “bring the movies”. I may be a bitter beta, but at least my eyes are open. sheeeesh. RTFBlog.
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Wow, dude, you are ass over tea-kettle for “Bring the Movies” man aren’t you. Classic post though. Funny as hell.
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@R
“Postcoital bliss
HER: God, that was great!
YOU: …
HER: I mean really good.
YOU: …
HER: Snuggle with me.
”
YOU: …
HER: I think I’m falling for you.
YOU: Sweet.”
Better answer would have been… instead of “Sweet.”
“That’s nice.”
Evil to the core. That’s the way to go. Or just getting up and leaving.
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@Ovid
Stop spreading BS. Even male celebrities who seem unattainable gets laid. Girls will lust after intimidating aholes than submissive nice guys. Which would you rather be?
From experience, I know that when a girl is shy or frightened around me, they will be quick to get in bed. “You’re very intimidating” = wet panties, since it is a sign of respect and power.
This board is overrun by fatties and retards. Gun & Mors share some input.
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King,
Have to agree. My woman often describes me as “terrifying”. Mix in occasional generosity of spirit and panties will burst.
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Seriously, the lines in this post lack any subtlety or wit. Hanging up on a girl after a terse one-liner might make your dorm buddies giggle, but no girl is going to call you back after that because it’s not funny. And I don’t mean “it’s not funny to be rude to a lady,” I mean it’s just nawt funny. Poop jokes, really? Why not just tell her “pull my finger.”
And this is why the article reeks of bitter beta: these lines are conversation stoppers. These lines are obviously intended to combine a neg with asshole-aloof game, but they’re too much. Sure, you’ll telegraph that you’re not interested in working hard to earn the girl’s good opinion, but these lines fail to demonstrate *any* value in the guy uttering them. They’re not funny, they don’t hint at adventure, sex, entertainment, group-think/pre-selection, or fun of any kind. They give the girl no reason to chase you down and work hard for *your* good opinion.
Also, most of the situations presented here aren’t really pickup situations — they’re failed pickup situations.
Examples:
If a girl flakes, the best response to a BS text message is no response at all.
If a girl is playing hard to get and refuses two proposed dates, tell her “shucks. Those are the only nights I’m available. I guess I’ll see you around.”
Slamming the door because she didn’t put out is the act of a petulant little bitch. It also gives you no time to test whether she really is chaste or if you haven’t given her hamster enough time to run the wheel. And if you pretend to have a pre-arranged date only *after* she refuses you sex, you are clearly lying, so you might as well say you don’t have other date options at all. Instead, you should tell her in your most plaintive voice, “but I just want to be held.” If she laughs and it breaks the tension, start back from square one (look at more pictures of her trip to Italy, re-build rapport) and give her hamster more time. If she says “ha ha” and isn’t amused, then the refusal was a real one and you’re not getting any. Tell her it’s just as well, you need to get up early anyway, and after you leave don’t call her again.
Also, not for nothing, but as funny as “bring the movies” was in context of the original “chicks dig jerks” article and a few posts after that, too many dudes on here have fixated on it so much that it’s clear that they’re writing to impress each other rather than contribute anything helpful to the learning curve. It makes me think I’m reading an article by Elie at Above the Law. Overused slang fail.
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Confidunce,
Your post is full of beta. Whenever a girl receives a “I guess I’ll see around” text, she laughs on the inside at how badly you failed her shit tests.
In terms of conversation stoppers: When the conversation stops, a woman to whom you have demonstrated higher value will ask herself why it has stopped, and desperately try to fire it up again.
If you are trying to “impress” a woman to build rupport, which is the tone I get from your post, you have already lost.
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Confidunce: are you familiar with using humor and exaggeration to demonstrate a concept? This is a funny and instructional blog. Have you read any of it or do you not do funny?
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I’m very familiar with the concept. And it *is* a funny and instructional blog, which is why I read it. I’m saying this particular post sucks and obviously wasn’t written by Roissy.
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I think Roissy needs to include a poll with every new post:
1. Roissy wrote this post
2. Roissy didn’t write this post.
3. Game doesn’t work, and if it did you’re a loser for having to learn it to pick up girls because alpha males (who, by the way don’t exist except in your imagination) don’t make any effort to attract women, and anyhow the only girls that would fall for it are low self esteem bar skanks who wouldn’t give you the time of day because you’re a phony they will see right through. Try being yourself if you want a real woman to like you, except that will never happen because you are a celibate beta loser.
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@Paul:
“[T]o whom you have demonstrated higher value” is what I’m saying this post lacks. Not every conversation stopper is a demonstration of higher value.
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King, I’m not saying that being a sub nice guy is the way to go. Only pointing to my own personal experience which runs contrary to this post. I’m quite sure I’ve misread situations and missed out on great opportunities, but farting isn’t going to get you laid. Come on.
Xsplat, buddy, help me out here.
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@Paul:
Also, the hypothetical was a phone conversation, not a text message, so different rules apply. If a girl is shit-testing you and you abruptly end the conversation and hang up, it sounds like you had to get off the phone and go cry about it. Retaliation is the opposite of apathy. It proves she got to you. NOW she’s laughing on the inside.
Remaining cordial (NOT deferential – there is a difference) and calm, but cutting off the invitation, lets her know you’ve got better shit to do. The point of that line was to point out (1) that you’re in demand and (2) therefore don’t need her to say yes if she’s not available at your convenience.
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Hanging up on a girl after a terse one-liner might make your dorm buddies giggle, but no girl is going to call you back
Hahahahahaha. Wrong!
She’ll call back immediately:
“Did you just hang up on me?!”
To which you answer, “Monday,” or whatever it is you want to answer.
She might also assume it’s a dropped call.
Whatever the case, you don’t answer her. You don’t say, “AT&T is unreliable,” or whatever. If you choose to take her call, you talk about what YOU want to talk about.
Plus, you’re missing the Way of this post.
The Way means no one girl is important. By hanging up on a girl, you’re not just sending her a message: You’re sending yourself a message, too.
Remember, the most important word a man can learn, “Next!”
Until you internalize, “Next!” you’ll always be out of sync with the Way.
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Gold.
Thanks, Roissy.
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If a girl is shit-testing you and you abruptly end the conversation and hang up, it sounds like you had to get off the phone and go cry about it. Retaliation is the opposite of apathy.
If you’re in a job interview, and your interviewer hangs up: What do you think? That YOU won?
Look at the frame of the question. When I talk to a woman, I am not being interviewed by her. She is the one being interviewed by me.
Nothing outrages a woman like not getting the last word. You’re not crying. You’re not giving her a chance to rationalize or vent her spleen.
You’re refusing to even validate her very existence.
That, dear man, is power.
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Confidunce: I get the impression that you would tell us the “Chicks Dig Jerks” postings are solely for laughs. I can hear you saying “most girls aren’t like that.”
“If a girl is shit-testing you and you abruptly end the conversation and hang up, it sounds like you had to get off the phone and go cry about it. Retaliation is the opposite of apathy. It proves she got to you.”
What it proves is you don’t give a crap. She is princess snowflake and now her hamster wheel is spinning out of control trying to figure out how you could just hang up on her like that. *tingle
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@Ovid
Obviously you wouldn’t know that the context when the farting took place was post sex in bed with the women. Shows how you don’t care what she thinks, which translates to DHV. God you guys are key board jockies.
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BTW, the hangup wasn’t in response to a shit-test but a flake out. As a keyboard jockey, you should know that flaking occurs after digits being gained, after initial shit test and usually before relationship. So, I think one anti-flake method is to withdraw and reestablish later on.
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If I’m a “key board jockey” what are you?
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You know you are really in the zone if you do wet farts in bed after the sexy time.
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VII. Win a mate by combat or not; it will help the family survive, or not.
VIII. Polygamy will help survival, unless you prefer to mate in pairs.
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@Mike:
A shit test is nothing like a job interview. She’s acting bratty or playing hard-to-get in order to see if you respond with strength or weakness. Hanging up the phone is what girls do when their feelings are hurt. If you act the same way, she’s going to assume it means the same thing, no matter what words you’ve mentally capitalized. Also, hanging up abruptly allows her to invent any excuse she wants in order to explain why you hung up.
You set a better frame by saying it looks like it isn’t going to work out because you’ve got other shit to do and, apparently, she’s not willing to cancel her plans to see you. It proves you’re in high demand / pre-selected. It also triggers her fear of loss, because now she’s wondering if she missed her chance by over-playing the hard-to-get routine. Acting unfazed (“have a nice life”) proves you didn’t have much vested in the invitation in the first place.
Even if she does call you back (which could happen in an LTR, but not with a first phone call), you win no points by reiterating your original demand. She’s already committed to the (potential) lie saying she’s got stuff to do, and just yanking on her will make her dig in. You’ve got to make her regret saying no and give her a pretext for changing her mind.
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@thebitterest:
The “Chicks Dig Jerks” series collects funny stories about outliers that illustrate a universal quality. The point is obviously that if the most extreme 1% of women go crazy for that amount of jerk, just imagine how far you can go with the middle 95% of women by adding just a dash of jerk to your routine. That would be the “humor and exaggeration” part of this blog, right?
I addressed the proper way to frame a “don’t give a crap” mindset in other comments already.
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Great post, laughed my ass off.
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The hard to get is off.
I am free Wednesday. (Always tell her what you are going to do.)
Never ask twice at one time. (For game, “I quess I’ll ask Sue”, would be better.)
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@ Stud Dynamite
Could you elaborate on that a little bit, not sure what you mean?
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I’m glad this post was written because it hints at a position I see myself possibly getting into in the future. For example, if I am running social circle game on a girl that has flaked the last two times we tried to make plans, how do I proceed when I KNOW I’ll see or hear from her again?? More specifically, how would I respond to her saying something like “why haven’t we hung out in forever!” or “why haven’t I seen you in weeks!” Any suggestions?
[Editor: “Well, we’re hanging out now. Make the most of it!”]
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Omit the “gay” phrase, unless you are dating a working class woman, and even then it might come across as disingenuous, unless you are working class yourself.
Also, avoid passing gas in front of woman, it is déclassé and utterly uncouth.
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I was quite surprised to read this post, considering the fact that Roissy is one of the most supremely intelligent to ever speak on male/female attraction.
Most of the exchanges are not asshole game; they are failed asshole mimicry. Why would you skittle a girl? Way too much effort and creativity. Asshole goes hand in hand with aloof and careless. An asshole simply does nothing for her birthday.
Hanging up on her is reactive. So is saying gay when she wont see you.
Assholes are called assholes because women can’t get a rise out of them. They win all shit tests by default. There’s a fine line between wit and bitterness, and they stay on the right side of it.
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wait, so… farting in bed game. you have to be silent? you can’t laugh at your farts OR dutch oven her and then laugh at your farts? man, game is tough
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She’s acting bratty or playing hard-to-get in order to see if you respond with strength or weakness.
There’s no strength like the power to say…NEXT!
Seriously, maybe you live in a town with like 100 people. I live in a city. There are 20,000 eligible women for me. If I find a brat or someone who annoys me, who cares?
You live in a philosophy of scarcity. To you, any one woman is a treasure.
I have so many new numbers in my phone that I simply cannot call everyone, as it’d take too much time. If someone is a brat, I don’t talk to them again. I send texts to multiple women at a time. Whoever answers first and most earnestly wins. (If others reply, I tell them, “Next time.”)
I’m no super pimp either. I’m just a good-enough-looking guy with some style and personality and game who will actually make conversation with a woman; and who makes it clear that if I’m not vibing her…
NEXT!
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But this is very much like Eastern Philosophy, which the Asperger’s/nerd population cannot comprehend. The Way is knowing that no girl matters.
If I tell a cocksman, “He who doesn’t care about getting laid will get laid,” he’ll understand me just as a samurai understood, “He who goes into battle with no thought given to life or death, survives.”
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Keep following the scripts. Once you’ve banged enough chicks and you can get numbers without trying (“effortless effort”), you’ll realize how misguided everything you wrote was.
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Roissy, I think I love you.
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@Ovid
A social predator having his way and fun with fools like you. Don’t forget, I am here for me and only for my benefit.
The reason why my points are always validated by people who gets it or of high caliber, is because I am on the same wave length as those who are enlightened.
Tragic for you, you are on a wave length with chunky loser feminists who will retaliate out of defense mechanisms ingrained in their psych. I’ll warn you now, I made LILGRL & Epoxy retire. Don’t mess with the best.
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What are the differences between an asshole who is Alpha and an asshole who is Beta?
[Editor: One is a caring asshole and the other is an uncaring asshole. This distinction is important.]
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King, you don’t sound like you’re having much fun. It sounds as if a raw nerve of yours has been hit. You ought to go and lie down for a while and wait it out.
When you recover pick up an English grammar and try and learn something from it.
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P.S. King; don’t forget to fart, loudly and proudly. You da’ man.
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Meet the 25 year old Brit who has 10 kids with 10 different women. Discuss:
http://blogs.telegraph.co.uk/news/edwest/100054718/the-man-with-15-kids-by-14-women-the-welfare-state-has-turned-back-the-clock-to-one-million-bc/
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Anonymous
What are the differences between an asshole who is Alpha and an asshole who is Beta?
One gets the girl. Guess which one.
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Ovid, you must be a wordsmith, no? Aspiring, I presume.
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texting
her: I have wednesday free.
you: can a nigga get a table dance
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You: Did you flood my toilet?
Me: Yeah. Skittles, vodka, a trickle of semen . . .
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askjoe
Ha ha. You’ve neatly gathered the conflux of thoughts. But what the hell do they MEAN? I wish such sentiments could be translated into manspeak. They are so irrational I have no way to wrap my mind around to make any unified sense. What is the motivation of these people? What are they REALLY trying to say.
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It all flows naturally once you stop caring. But if you’re not a natural, you need to fake it first and then once it’s internalized, it just flows. Chicken or the egg…
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Individually, each of the extremely overblown examples, could give a little drama to your relationship, and help to cement the frame that you are more important that she is. So that’s all good.
As a post though, there is no context that shows that you only pull shit like this, in smaller doses, as highlights and punctuations. You use it as often as an apostrophe or a maybe a quote mark. And then the subtext is that it’s a joke, but that it doesn’t matter that it’s a joke, you are fucking with her because it’s fun to fuck with her.
The post gives the impression that girls get turned on by regular and ongoing indifference. Which they don’t. That’s the error here.
They get turned on by knowing you are both into them, and willing to fuck with them and give them the boot if they fuck up.
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You want to let the girl know that there is a magnetic force between the two of you. That the two of you are uncontrollably attracted, and that you like that.
Do it like that, and not only will she be thinking of you, she’ll be thinking of you all day long.
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This post is just a demonstration of the correct mindset when dealing with women. I don’t think Roissy is advocating that we use these precise routines – just showing the way we should think.
Oddly enough, of the suggested routines, the farting one is one that actually works in real life. It’s tacky, but we’re not supposed to be David Niven all the time.
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So you don’t tell her “I’m uncontrollably attracted to you”, but always frame your emotions such that they are hers.
“You’ve been thinking of me all day, haven’t you?” “Yes, you as well come over tonight. Why fight the magnet?” “Stop thinking about me!”
Give her regular doses of affection, but pull each dose off as if it were really her idea, and you are just allowing the inevitable.
Aloof is for when you’ve been pulling hard and steady. THEN you push. Pull, push. Being aloof does not build on attraction. The purpose of it is open up a gaping chasm of want in her soul. Why? So that you can fill that hole with YOU.
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You only do push as contrast to pull. The purpose of being aloof is to open up a gaping chasm of want in her soul. Why? So that you can fill it up with YOU.
You want her in mutual infatuation. So infatuation is the earth and ground of everything the two of you do together. Then, on top of the infatuation, you want her to know that you are the boss who will kick her to the curb is she fucks up, and that you are used to being and expect to be treated as a King.
But every act you do is an expression of your bondedness. The trick is to frame everything such that it was her idea, and that getting closer is inevitable due to uncontrollable attraction. “You’ve been thinking of me all day, haven’t you?” “Sure, you may come over tonight. No use fighting the magnet” “Stop thinking of me!”
You don’t come off as wanting – but you do come off as acknowledging a mutual passion.
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Above, ending in “You don’t come off as wanting – but you do come off as acknowledging a mutual passion.” was me. Xsplat the lover of 21 year old girls.
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Basically what I’m saying is that you can transition into LTR starting from the 1st date. The frame is that it’s love at first sight.
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I’ve had three girls move into my house on the first date. I should count four, but one I kicked out after a few weeks.
When you look in her eyes, she should feel that something very unique is happening. An energy that she only get from you. Then, you push pull with that. Make her want more of that. Then escalate until she is screaming her head off and blown outside her body. Then you can withdraw from that. You want her to be addicted to you. To love you.
It’s LTR as the frame from “hello miss”. You assume the sale.
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The frame is that life is good. Life is easy. Life is fun. Love is good, love is easy, love is fun. The frame is that it’s perfectly natural for people to meet and just click and share love and fall in love. Happens everyday. Happens right now. It’s a frame of mutual enjoyment. The frame is that the two of you are happy, when you are together.
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Thanks CR, I’ll be sure to use that.
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Hi X, better be careful or else I will be the latest person accused of being a CR sockpuppet. I’m no GBFM, poll question 3 comes straight from a post on this website…sort of a shourtout to our host.
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Woops – I’m losing count of how many girls moved in on the 1st date.
1 – 2 weeks
2 – 1 year
3 – 6 months
4 – 2.5 years
5 – 11 months until she died
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I see the value in the general undertone of this post–devil-may-care flippancy and aloofness can be useful.
Abrupt hang-ups and farts on the other hand…
Nothing in this rings with Roissy’s irreverent
elegance or calculated evil. It captures an important attitude, to some degree, yes. But the proffered illustrations are just clumsy and juvenile.
If your attitude is “next!” and you will just bang whatever half-retarded self-loathing slut drips your way, then more power to you–this approach will eventually work, and you can rack up a high “count” and feel like a real man at long last.
But if you want to have a quality girl, and have her whatever way you want her until you’re done with her, then I recommend reading Roissy’s more insightful posts and taking this juvenile tripe with a grain of salt.
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Thanks for this, the greatest realization of my life has been that you really dont need to say jack shit to girls, and that you will actually get a lot further by keeping your mouth shut than by just talking shit continuously.
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These examples tie in to the push-pull dynamic of attraction.
Since I started using this, it’s worked wonders in my game.
Some examples include polite but aloof behaviour to flirty girl with boyfriend who’d suddenly turned a bit cool to me.
I disarmed her by ignoring her one night, then approaching her to say hi the next:
HER: Oh…you never talk to me anymore.
ME: Really? Busy. Got to go.
A few days later I invite her to dance:
HER: Wow, you don’t dance with me anymore.
ME: Busy. Let’s dance.
Walk away after set ends.
A few days later, approaches me throws arms around me.
ME: Is that your way of asking me to dance?
HER: Yeah yeah…
The key I realize is that your own value goes up by being unavailable.
The more you appear to care, the more you risk losing that mystique.
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When she comes over to your apartment and you feel exuberant, you don’t exlaim “It’s so great to see you!”. That would give her power. You say “Happy times!” or “Now we are together in our happy place”.
That puts a name and expression to your joy, but makes it mutual, and she dependent upon you for it.
Major principle – express your passion and interest and even admiration, but depersonalize it into an us and project it onto her.
Minor priciple – anchor good feelings with objects – such as your room, or bed.
Frame – life is joy, and the both of you are loving each little movement of it.
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Another principle: you can use females lack of introspection as a weapon against them. Since they don’t always know how they are feeling, you create an outward environment from which they guage how they are feeling.
For instance, a woman being ravaged often times feels as if she is participating in the passion. She wants, because the an is wanting. She looks outside herself to find out what she is feeling.
So you attack her defences in two ways. Number one, talk to her body. Get her horny with touch, then get her at ease with kisses and caresses, then push and pull on that – escalating, then backing off. Ok, body is being addresses. Then engage her mind by overwhelming her frame. Never ask her how she is feeling. You tell her how she is feeling, through the enviromental cues you set up. She will look around herself are realize, wow, yes, I’m feeling really into this guy. Because I’m passionately kissing him right now.
When to begin with, actually it was only you passionately kissing her.
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Mike
She’s acting bratty or playing hard-to-get in order to see if you respond with strength or weakness.
There’s no strength like the power to say…NEXT!
Seriously, maybe you live in a town with like 100 people. I live in a city. There are 20,000 eligible women for me. If I find a brat or someone who annoys me, who cares?
You live in a philosophy of scarcity. To you, any one woman is a treasure.
I have so many new numbers in my phone that I simply cannot call everyone, as it’d take too much time. If someone is a brat, I don’t talk to them again. I send texts to multiple women at a time. Whoever answers first and most earnestly wins. (If others reply, I tell them, “Next time.”)
I’m no super pimp either. I’m just a good-enough-looking guy with some style and personality and game who will actually make conversation with a woman; and who makes it clear that if I’m not vibing her…
NEXT!
Of those 20,000 women only a fraction are good looking, high value (not sluts) and emanate enough femininity to make my dick tingle. The combination of these is extremely rare in western countries. Unless you’re into masculinized aids receptacles, scarcity is very real here.
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””” Gun & Mors share some input”””’
Yea umm I don’t even speak the language here and can’t talk to woman really and they still want to marry me. So I guess I am beyond aloof game into a new category lol
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The real way to attract girls doing nothing is to get one with a lot of friends and like I said have her do the work.
Really at that point when you hook one in you don’t have to do shit. lol
Shit is kind of funny really.
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””””Mike
Most men’s problem isn’t being too aloof.
For most (like 90%) people reading this blog, the inclination will be to treat a woman nicely; to be attentive; to compliment them.
Hence, the subtext of this post.
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Exactly. It is at your most I don’t give a fuck that you pick up woman. You don’t have to act like an asshole you just are an asshole because you really don’t care.
You can have all the fun you want with them but behind the scenes you have to not care because there are other bitches in line. Which makes you actually special because your actually not like most other guys who are kissing there asses without even getting laid.
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Being aloof to some degree can be hermit like situation where you go away from civilization. How can you be aloof when you have girls around you e.g. in office, cinema hall, restaurant, school, college, etc. You can be a brooding personality if you sit in the corner and do not interact with girls when in the company of them.
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Really no matter what I know I can fuck a diferent hot chick any time I want as long as I have loot.
Life is that simple.
It is not complicated.
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Someone could post the hottest chick they dream of fucking and I could go and fuck the equivelant.
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For most (like 90%) people reading this blog, the inclination will be to treat a woman nicely; to be attentive; to compliment them.
There is nothing wrong with it. Like once every 2 weeks. To lift her spirits.
Had this GF, she was, eh… wordy. Endless stream of jabber. I do enjoy a conversation, but it has to be meaningful and make a sense.
One day…
Her: Let’s talk.
Me: About?
Her: You know what I mean. About our relationship.
Me: No, I don’t. You did not state the subject.
Her: [stream of gibberish]
Looked at her for a minute and …
Me: Wait.
Went to a closet and brought back this wooden box, placed it bottom up.
Me: Hand.
Led her to the box and on the top of it.
Me: Now, I have things to do.
Her: What … are you doing?
Me: Placing you on a pedestal. That is what you want, isn’t it?
[The look on her face couldn’t have been bought even by a mastercard. Priceless]
Her: Can I go down now?
Me: …
Her: Please…
Me: Hand.
Led her down from the box. She gave me this heart felt hug.
Me: I have things to do.
Her: I know.
She did cut down on jabber from then on. She also looked happier…
See, it does pay to be a nice guy once a while! 🙂
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Gunslingergregi
Really no matter what I know I can fuck a diferent hot chick any time I want as long as I have loot.
Life is that simple.
It is not complicated.//
You are boasting like you are God of poon. I guess if you had that much choice you would not have been wasting your time, rather, have been salivating a wet pussy!
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Trying to understand this, as written by Stud Dynamic:
“At the base of it is a common status trick used by good instructors, teachers, anyone dealing with public:
– question / shit-test
– pause, no reaction
– shit tester qualifies, you win.”
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very rare that I salivitate a wet pussy he he he
I go through phases sometimes it is all about pussy sometimes it is not.
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Every guy has the same choices pretty much that is the beauty of it. Every guy should understand his value to the organization.
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Gun, xactly. LOL! Sometimes you have things to do…
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Woman have to work really really hard to provide real value whereas a guy not so much.
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Ok, ya so mr. gun you like shooting not salivating.
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hey xsplat. what you said was GEM. GEM. GEM.
kudos and ceaseless adulations from me 🙂
can you write more about LTR? thanks! say, LTR game on a 6. im not interested, at this moment to indulge in ONS-es as i’m faithfully and happily attached.
just wished there were more PUA-LTR theorems around. seems like PUAs like thundercat, david D and RSD’s Tyler have mostly game for unsustainable ONSes, which is both economically and psychologically taxing for a law undergrad like me 😦
thanks the chateau for the insights once again. par excellence!
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Woman tried to disrespect me today by throwing a coin near me (with an attitude) instead of scratching off the cards for my internet recharge numbers.
I threw it and tagged her in head and told her never to disrespect me.
Backstory:
I fucked her earlier and she didn’t cum she was play mad about it and I was laughing my ass off at her because finally I got to cum and she didn’t or I came more than she did because I was quick. So I was really laughing my ass off at finally getting some almost equality because of the starkness of the inequality. I didn’t make move to make her cum. So that was my shit test later for hurting feelings I guess.
She comes back in later and I grab her ass up. She then has me rolling around the fucking bed laughing as she related the coin hitting her in the head and how it made a thunk sound.
But yea she is laughing her ass off about being put in fucking check. Like thank you for being an asshole.
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The asshole shit is mostly to get the pussy once you hit it then it doesn’t really matter what you do once your hitting a couple times a day or more.
The ltr game doesn’t really come into equation until after the love wears off.
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Look at crs post on do no wrong game “time period”.
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”””””Morsellaux
Gun, xactly. LOL! Sometimes you have things to do…
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Yea I am coming up on a things to do phase and she is afraid of me leaving but yea I do have shit to do.
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Morsellaux,
yes master!!hehehe!!
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Gun, The ltr game doesn’t really come into equation until after the love wears off.
True. But switching of a frame all of the sudden when the infatuation wears off is not a good LT strategy. You have to forge it while the iron is hot.
Phases:
1. Besottedness – The woman is drunk by you. She states so. (If not, go back to a class). Up to 3 months.
Can do no wrong.
2. Infatuation – up to 2 years.
Can do no wrong, but she is noticing the discrepancy between her internal image and reality. You start building your game frame at this point.
3. Love drugs flushed from the system.
Your frame is ready. You are a man. You practice random acts of kindness, every now and then. It is spice. Use sparingly!
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what, yes master! LOL!
Actually, I cheated when dragging her on the box. Used a bit of NLP. I usually don’t, unless it is called for. Can’t be called a misuse, my intentions were pure! 🙂
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In the best meaning possible of course he he he
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Abso-fucking-lutely! LOL
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lol!!! got to go be serious! booo!
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ROISSY IS THIS ALPHA OR BETA? I THINK IT’S ALPHA IF IT’S A DELIBERATE POKE IN THE EYE TO FEMINISTS, BUT OBVIOUSLY BETA IF THESE LOSERS DON’T ENJOY THE SWEET IRONY
the Wall Street Journal
* PAGE ONE
* SEPTEMBER 20, 2010
Interlopers Run Amok: Guys Crash Road Races for Women
They Come in First, Are Dissed at Finish; For Meeting Fit Females, ‘It’s Hard to Beat’
By KEVIN HELLIKER
Jonathan Mederos set a personal record in Disney’s Princess Half Marathon last year, winning first place with a time of 1:16:17.
The reception he got was far from his personal best, though. “When I crossed the finish line, the announcers were silent, and I got downcast looks from the crowd,” says Mr. Mederos, a 25-year-old high-school philosophy teacher in Miami.
That’s what a guy gets for winning a women’s race. As Rick Cordes took last year’s Nike Women’s Half Marathon, he slunk across the finish line, with a finger pressed to his lips, beseeching silence after having been heckled throughout the race.
[crashersTwo] ASI Photo
Jonathan Mederos
“Maybe I shouldn’t have been so competitive in a race that I would have been slaughtered in if it were an all-men’s field,” says Mr. Cordes, a 48-year-old California real-estate broker, in an email. He was one of nearly 700 men among more than 12,700 women in the Nike Half Marathon.
This year, at least a dozen races styled for women are having their debuts across America, from the Nashville Women’s Half Marathon on Sept. 25, to Long Island’s Divas Half Marathon a week later.
The growth results from an explosion in the number of female runners, who last year accounted for 53% of all U.S. road-race finishers, according to the research center Running USA.
“You take out the testosterone and these events are kinder, cleaner, gentler and sweeter,” says Robert Pozo, who runs a group of women’s races from a website called Run Like a Diva.
Men can register for these races, as footnotes on the event websites note. Technically allowing guys to run avoids legal spats, pleases charity sponsors whose fund-raisers are often male and engenders a magnanimous spirit. But these races tolerate rather than welcome male participants.
The growing acceptance of men at women’s races represents a sort of reverse Title IX, the federal law that opened the doors for women to compete in many sports. But men aren’t exactly jumping at the chance, even at women’s races that actively encourage male participation, such as the Nike Women’s Half Marathon. Brook Gardner, an Oregon sports journalist, went to San Francisco last year to cover the race, and at the urging of Nike officials agreed to run it. As it turned out, he heard constant cries of “go, girl” and at the finish line received a tiffany necklace from a man wearing a tuxedo. “I felt a little awkward,” says Mr. Gardner.
[CRASHERS] ASI Photo
Jonathan Mederos races in Disney’s Princess Half Marathon—for women.
“We suggest men only do the race in support of a woman or charity,” says the website of this week’s Nashville Women’s Half Marathon. “If he is looking to win a race, get an award or [set a personal record], we would be happy to suggest some other events in the local area that would be better suited for those goals.”
To discourage male interest, many women’s races present trophies only to female winners. Goodie bags often contain feminine-cut T-shirts, along with swag like perfume samples, chocolates and pink sandals. One race is giving away feather boas and tiaras.
Ahead of its Oct. 2 inaugural half marathon, Run Like a Diva announced that finishers’ medals will be awarded by bare-chested male firefighters. “We had four men signed up, but two dropped out when they heard about the firemen,” says Mr. Pozo, the race organizer. “We’re making this race so girly that men won’t want any part of it.”
While male participation in the Nike Half Marathon has risen steadily over the years, the number of men running Disney’s Princess Half Marathon jumped to 423 this year from 196 in the debut. Men remained vastly outnumbered, with nearly 11,000 women running this year.
Some men run at the behest of girlfriends and wives. Mr. Mederos, unheralded winner of last year’s Disney race, says he ran as a “prince” for his girlfriend, not to show up females.
Other men see a target-rich environment. “If you want to meet fit young women, it’s hard to beat,” says Maj. Christopher Sopko, a 31-year-old pilot in the Ohio Air National Guard.
Although men are loath to admit it, one appeal women’s races have for them is the shot at a better finish. Men who ran in the middle of a pack of guys can finish near the top of a field teeming with women.
Mr. Cordes had never won a heavily attended race before taking first place in last year’s Nike Women’s Half Marathon. (He ran it, he says, because his wife, coach of a Nike running club, encouraged him.)
Although the Disney race’s website says the half marathon is officially designed “for a princess earning her glass running slippers or a woman who runs her kingdom already,” Rick Gausche found this year’s event a fine ego-booster. The 29-year-old process-design consultant ranked fourth among men and eighth overall. “I’ve never passed so many women in my life,” he says.
Some races take steps to ensure that a female crosses the finish line first—whether she has the fastest time or not.
After Mr. Mederos won last year’s Disney race debut, organizers decided that this year, only women would be allowed in the first corral of runners, giving them an advantage of several minutes over men. Though a 41-year-old Canadian male posted the fastest time, a 33-year-old North Dakota woman crossed the finish line first.
Not that all women need a head start. At last November’s St. Petersburg Women’s Half Marathon in Florida, a 23-year-old medical student named Clayton Hofstra stood at the start recalling what a junior-high-school cross-country coach had told him: “Never let a girl beat you.”
But standing nearby was Christa Benton, an older graduate of his high school who had dominated long-distance running. Sure enough, Ms. Benton finished first, followed by three other women.
Still proud of finishing 13th overall and fifth among the 138 men, Mr. Hofstra tried wearing his pink T-shirt to class the next day, only to find it was too tight. “I guess I hadn’t realized that the shirts came in women’s sizes,” he says.
Write to Kevin Helliker at kevin.helliker@wsj.com
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Now, c’mon, what… don’t tell me you never utilize what you learn in psychology course! 🙂
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I get the attitude that has to be used but, since I don’t natively speak english, I don’t understand wether the phrase “bring the movies” is a command akin to “bring me a dvd to watch” or if it has some other meaning, can someone help me understand please?
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tee, it’s the context. Type the phrase in the search box to locate the original post.
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””’what
lol!!! got to go be serious! booo!
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Look at what being all serious and shit it is kind of cute somewhat.
he he he
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anonymo, depends on intention.
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Cougars and cubs:
http://www.goupstate.com/article/20100921/ARTICLES/9211025/1051?tc=ar
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I been saying dudes need to be running up on the pro female sports to earn coin.
I mean if females can run up in male golf like it is cute then male golfers should be equally cute winning female tounaments.
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Woman like I need to go to the male side so I have competition (unstated get dick).
Dude can say I need to go to female side to make cash flow and pull hos.
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http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/localnews/2002266666_wrestling07m.html
“Although men are loath to admit it, one appeal women’s races have for them is the shot at a better finish. Men who ran in the middle of a pack of guys can finish near the top of a field teeming with women.”
lol
“although women are loath to admit it, one appeal women’s races have for them is the shot at being podium, men who finish at the bottom in other races can clean up in a field teeming with women.”
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“HER: Aww… um… a bag of Skittles.”
I am doing this for Valentines Day
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Seriously, just the picture would be worth the post. Laughed my ass off.
WHYYYYYYYYYYYYY?????? lol
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””anonymouses anonymous
“HER: Aww… um… a bag of Skittles.”
I am doing this for Valentines Day
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The biggest fight I ever had with woman was about me not buying her a bottle of juice he he he
I stuck to my guns though.
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This is the take-home message. A woman’s imagination is the single most useful tool in your Game arsenal. Every technique, every casual response, every gesture, intimation and subcommunication hinges on stimulating her imagination. Competition anxiety relies on it. DHV relies on it. Sexual tension (gina tingles) relies on it.
This is the single greatest failing of average frustrated chumps; they vomit out everything about themselves, divulging the full truth of themselves to women in the mistaken belief that women desire that truth as a basis for qualifying for their intimacy. Learn this now: Women NEVER want full disclosure. Nothing is more self-satisfying for a woman than to think she’s figured a Man out based solely on her feminine intuition (i.e. imagination).
When a man overtly confirms his character, his story, his value, etc. for a woman, the mystery is dispelled and the bio-chemical rush she enjoyed from her imaginings, her suspicions, her self-confirmations about you are GONE. AFCs classically do exactly this on the first date and wonder why they get LJBF’d promptly after it – this is why. Familiarity is anti-seductive. Nothing kills Game, lust and libido like comfortable familiarity. Despite their common, bleating filibuster tactics, women don’t want to be comfortable with a potential sex partner, they need their imaginations stoked to be excited, aroused and anxious to want sex with a potential partner. Sex is uncomfortable – exhilarating, expectant, thrilling and rewarding, but uncomfortable nonetheless.
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TK and Paul, a lot depends on how good looking the guy is.
There’s cute, and then there is breathtaking.
An example of breathtaking:
I know this guy in real life. No photo I’ve ever seen of him truly does him justice. He also has an incredibly sexy voice.
…like a legion of the dirtiest demons of debauchery’s webbed wings are flapping with each vibration of his vocal chords…
His nickname is Dracula. I sincerely hope that the world someday has the opportunity to see him play that role. He moves like a sexy vampire, though his personality is more lone wolfish. He’s a sigma.
When he walks into anyplace, you can almost hear the soft, immediate, secretion of every woman within eyeshot.
…but nobody speaks to him but the bartender. He’s just too gorgeous.
I’m told that when he was younger, he used to look normal, but he had a certain trauma, and came out of it beautiful.
Now he’s hitting the bigtime, and is around lots of other beautiful people, but in a normal town he is just too frightening for most girls to talk to out of the blue.
We’re friends, but I still have a hard time looking at his face when he’s talking. It’s weird.
So if a guy is that freakin’ hot, he can’t be aloof as well because no woman truly thinks she is hot enough to just walk up and start talking to him.
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Rollo, you should collect and organize all of your thoughts and writing into a book or web site. You are a high quality poster.
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Been doing it for years.
sosuave.net/forum/index.php
Search my name on this forum.
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ALPHA OF THE CENTURY CANDIDATE:
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“For example, if I am running social circle game on a girl that has flaked the last two times we tried to make plans, how do I proceed when I KNOW I’ll see or hear from her again??”
Heh. Being aloof works amazingly well for social circle game. There are certain dynamics at work that aren’t necessarily present in other social situations.
The answer to your question is …umm..why the fuck do you even bother making plans with her if you randomly see her?
1. Be aloof
2. Let her make the first move.
3. Swoop her, right then and there.
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He was plant They just copied my lines.
Except they didn’t go with the a man can lead them to excellance he he he
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Just an extra point to make, in response to an earlier comment.
Let’s remember that there’s RESPECT and then there’s the Gramscian “RESPECT”. The second is code for being a pussy-ass beta bitch [see Michael Cera in “Superbad” as an illustration.] So when you use the word “respect” — if you’re under 30, for you that probably means being a beta bitch while the girl rides the cock carousel of uncaring assholes.
Just sayin’.
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Funny bitch tried to man up and got stoned to death. God Dam. I think she almost cried.
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@Ovid
I am in my own way. How does one pick up an English grammar?
Very predictable with throwing random accusations, but I won’t blame you. Since I know that you lack any ammo to base any of your inane comebacks.
Tell me something I don’t already know. Also it’s “the” not “da” unless you speak Ebonics, in which case our conversation is over.
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Yea mine did cry.
I was like fuck.
So I kid gloved it and fucked her to orgasm.
Not cumming can really fuck a bitch up.
Remember that.
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@Nicole
I didn’t give you permission to post a picture of my long lost brother.
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Rollo Tomassi,
Your 10:49 AM post is great stuff. Thanks for posting!
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@Rollo
Haha Sosuave the good old days. Where’s Pook? Or is that Roissy?
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TK, put ’em up then. If you’re half as all around stunning as him, then you’re probably kind of intimidating and need to at least smile or something.
Women have all sorts of weird reactions to encountering a guy who is so incredibly beautiful in real life.
Fortunately for our friendship, my meter was busted by multiple viewings of the Shaka Zulu miniseries. Henry Cele is the most beautiful man who ever lived. Everyone else’s beauty I can note as an interesting phenomenon that’s a pleasure to look at, but not necessarily someone I’d want to shag.
As far as who to get involved with, I like my guys to be a little ugly. Ugly faces are more interesting to look at, and the contrast between the rugged exterior but caring interior makes for kind of flashes of pretty. I like beauty that isn’t drawn out with crayons…like an Iron Maiden song…hard music but meaningful lyrics.
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Thanks for the Kudos, Oxbridge, it’s motivational.
Now that I’m dating, game is even more on my mind than usual. But I’m sure I’ll be drawn to rub my happiness into other peoples faces and prick their skin with bragging barbs of my superior skills.
Or worse, drone on and on about this girls breasts, or smell, or – see – there I go.
If I learned anything today it’s that you have to alternate that ravaging energy with silent comfort building. The way it worked today was to break through a few more of her virginal boundaries – just a little crotch rubbing – a big deal for her – and then let her rest with my hand on her ass. I do a little meditation where my hand seems to feel into the depth of her with great sensitivity. For whatever reasons, this puts the two of us in tune, with breaths, or extremely subtle movements in my hand, or what, i dont’ know – personally it feels as if i can actually feel into her. Point was that after breaking into her boundaries, working heavy on comfort building brought things to a whole new level of intimacy. By the end of the night, she had a panicked look on her face when she couldn’t find the necklace I’d given her – lost in the sheets.
So, ravaging can be good, but must be underscored with a discipline of that you can back off at any time, and aren’t uncontrollably hungry. And can rest into her as more than just a friend – not just a fiend.
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@Nicole
Post your fake email. I am not a masochist like LILGRL or Epoxy and share my personal details to be dissected and devoured by lesser beings.
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Another important attitude is to be extremely informal with her body. Grab her ankles and pull, often. Spread her knees apart and climb aboard. Flip her over. Manipulate her like a rag doll. Stroke her with the loving sensitivity reserved for the intimate. Go in for an unbidden kiss. You want to ride at between 75 and 130 percent of her boundaries – with the crossing her boundaries occuring at 100. You cross them habitually, but not enough to cause full scale panick. Then cross them enough to cause very brief panick, then back off, comfort build, etc. Keep her edgy, but in a familial way that makes her at ease.
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Oh – and a little hope for the ugly guys. Studies have shown that familiarity breeds in women a feeling that the guy is more handsome than he really is. Can you believe that 21 year old girl started calling me handsome tonight?!! I love your eyes, I love your nose, blah blah. I’m truly not. Bless girls for the way their eyes can see. They honestly can see me as some type of ugly handsome.
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To all the beta cunts that have found this post and won’t quit bitching:
Game is more than getting laid. It’s about control. It’s about reclaiming your natural born right to dominate women. It’s being able to have enough self discipline and confidence that you aren’t what you fags are now and remaking yourself into real, empire building men. Game is a emotional, spiritual and political idea. And if you whiny vaginas can’t see that, then fuck off and waste your beta lives elsewhere.
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This is a logical outgrowth of not taking women seriously—something alphas are exceptionally good at. The only women you take seriously are your co-workers and your family members—and even then there are plenty of exceptions. You do a lot less in interactions with people that you don’t take seriously. When dealing with women this is particularly effective.
This is part of why it helps to have a personal philosophy when it comes to women. For some guys it’s “playful dominance”. For others it’s “amused mastery”. And for other guys, something else. Mine is “Bitch, please.”. For me, nothing quite captures the aloofness, the teasing, and don’t-give-a-fuck/do-nothing attitude the way that simple phrase does.
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not so fast, chief
he is preoccupied teaching lilgirl how to cook
Now that they’re in holy, everlasting matrimony
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@Firepower
What a fail. I thought he married Sarah because she was marriage material like being able to cook and clean. She’s also AZN, so that makes it an epic fail.
Haha U.S. and I need cogs, can’t complain. God bless those newly weds, hope they have 3 children, white picket fence and 2.5 kids and 1.354 SUV.
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TK, the problem with fake email like mailinator or somesuch, is that if I post it, anyone can read it. I also have no way of knowing it’s really you.
If you have a website with multiple photos or something, that’s a different story. You can send the url to my regular email. I’ll make sure the chain of information breaks with me.
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Of those 20,000 women only a fraction are good looking, high value (not sluts) and emanate enough femininity to make my dick tingle.
Yeah, right.
If you’re dating the top 10% (9), that leaves 2,000 available women.
If you’re dating the top 20% (8), that leaves 4,000 available women.
If you’re dating 7’s, you have 6,000 women.
In an urban area, those numbers will be higher – probably double. Looks are correlated with wealth, so most ugly women can’t afford to live in a city.
There are far too many available women to trifle with brats.
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@King
“How does one pick up an English grammar?”
With your hands.
” Also it’s “the” not “da” unless you speak Ebonics, in which case our conversation is over.”
I’m a man of many talents. A polyglot Renaissance gentleman. You should have spoken up sooner, I would have used Ebonics right from the very start.
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@Morsellaux,
“Ovid, you must be a wordsmith, no? Aspiring, I presume.”
I’m not sure if that was sarcasm, if not I thank you for the compliment. My aspirations run in a more decadent direction. Volupt are my tendencies. That is why I’m here. To learn. I intend to master the feminine as I have mastered other, more intellectual pursuits.
By the way, if I recall you’re in North Carolina, yes? If so, are you near the RTP?
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Ovid, I’m not sure if that was sarcasm
I am pretty sure it was. I mean, you dub thyself Ovid, magically thinking that you acquire his attributes by some form of osmosis. Priceless.
Don’t live in NC. BC and frequent CO, OK, TX.
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I am pretty sure it was. I mean, you dub thyself Ovid, magically thinking that you acquire his attributes by some form of osmosis. Priceless
Not at all, my friend. I simply like the name. And it’s short and easy to type.
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i like you
you are the perfect
21st Century Anne Wilson
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Ovid, I simply like the name.
Good. You have a long way to go before even remotely reaching the original name holder’s skill.
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@Nicole
No. Here’s my fake email for entertainment.
VonNietzsche@gmail.com
@Ovid
Fail. You actually pick it up through practice and usage, which leads to memorization.
Good for you, you must be a herb, I assume that your talents extends to self-fellatio and watching marathon sessions of “Sex in the city” or do you only watch shows on BET?
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@King
There are diverse methods of memorization. I pass.
Oh really? Why “must” I be a herb? Those are some bizarre assumptions. Projecting again, King?
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TK, you meant webmail. Use kthulah@yahoo.com
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””””’About BlueServo
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”””””
Now they just need to put the live feed into world of warcraft and it will be my idea. It is pretty close though already.
he he he
Didn’t I say it would be easy and cheap to close the border down.
Throw in a group with responsibility to kill and apache style gun mounts and the border will be closed.
This shit ain’t hard anymore.
virtual fenceSM
that is my shit fucking copycats.
Next thing ya know we gonna have virtual war to he he he
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Watch the future unfold preforecasted for your listening horror right here.
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@Ovid
Yes muscle memory is probably your favorite, is that how you became a master self-fellatier? All forms can be categorized as practice. Good try… not.
I assumed because you are all over Mystery’s dick by promoting his behavior 101 videos. Or is that just your masturbation material?
Can you try to come up with something original? Or am I so into your psych that you can’t help but repeat everything I say? Sometimes I hate my abilities for mind control.
@Nicole
I’ll email you hunny buns, get the toys ready.
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TK, for your ego’s sake, let’s hope you’re at least a polywog with potential. I’m not into pretty boys as far as my personal life (so sorry, no diddling will be done), but as an artist, I know what beauty is.
If you find your look is intimidating to women, there are ways to average yourself without looking too beta. You can dress a little rugged, for one.
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@Rollo Tomassi
“”Nothing kills Game, lust and libido like comfortable familiarity. Despite their common, bleating filibuster tactics, women don’t want to be comfortable with a potential sex partner, they need their imaginations stoked to be excited, aroused and anxious to want sex with a potential partner. Sex is uncomfortable – exhilarating, expectant, thrilling and rewarding, but uncomfortable nonetheless.””
Is it possible to recover? What would one do if after blowing it by revealing too much, to get the tension back?
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@Morsellaux,
“Now, c’mon, what… don’t tell me you never utilize what you learn in psychology course! :-)’
Morsellaux,
My experiences taught me the most. Courses are only guidelines and you can’t follow steps. You have to be flexible–remember, like water! Like I said in my other comments, having ONLY brothers helped. I am actually more comfortable with men. You guys can talk about nothing and just have fun! SOME women can —I’ve found those in my girl friends. They can laugh along with me and enjoy my joy. Don’t get me wrong, I can be mighty serious, but life is tooo serious and heavy at times. We all need to have fun and focus on just being. lalalalalal!!! lol!!
let’s just say…life haven’t gotten the better of me. It’s under my interpretation—that’s psychology for you!
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And this must be happy news to add to it as well.
”””’Women who swallow reduce their risk of breast cancer. Hello!””’
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@Gunslingergregi
“””And this must be happy news to add to it as well.””
”””’Women who swallow reduce their risk of breast cancer. Hello!””’
I hear it works the same for men– on their prostate!! there!! helloooo!
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””””Does he want more blowjobs? I practically got lockjaw last week!””’
So I only doing them a favor I really am a philanthropist.
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@Nork from Zork
“It’s a lot like this: http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2010/07/dog.html”
Good, but horrifying, link.
As much as I think I have now truly grasped the terrible truth of the female mind, I can still be shocked by the sense of entitlement and self-delusion.
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When a man overtly confirms his character, his story, his value, etc. for a woman, the mystery is dispelled and the bio-chemical rush she enjoyed from her imaginings, her suspicions, her self-confirmations about you are GONE. AFCs classically do exactly this on the first date and wonder why they get LJBF’d promptly after it – this is why. Familiarity is anti-seductive. Nothing kills Game, lust and libido like comfortable familiarity. Despite their common, bleating filibuster tactics, women don’t want to be comfortable with a potential sex partner, they need their imaginations stoked to be excited, aroused and anxious to want sex with a potential partner. Sex is uncomfortable – exhilarating, expectant, thrilling and rewarding, but uncomfortable nonetheless.
And this is why game is as much an art as it is a science.
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@King
What’s a “self-fellatier”? (Learn how to spell, Jackass.)
If you had as much as a pea for a brain you might have learned a little something from the Mystery video, dummy. Your assumptions still remain bizarre.
Now run along stupid, and don’t ever talk disrespectfully to your superiors again.
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from the morphology,
its either a Democrat voter
or a new recruit to the French Army
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@Ovid
Obviously you never met Marilyn Manson. Cut me some slack will you? English is my third language.
You label my statements bizarre, because you don’t understand them. Your new nickname should be Faux News.
Why should I stop? I see no superiors here. Such lame attempts, but your two pump to big Sally and the five sisters is still sadder I suppose. Try not to lose any sleep over that… you might get some head/hand cramps.
@Nicole
Don’t worry I am gorgeous according to my model friends.
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What can a guy do to be seen as aloof rather than quiet by other people?
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@Anon
Just talk less than the other person by asking open ended questions. Also be the one to change topic and don’t invest too much time to one person unless it’s going for the kill. Should at least talk to 5 different parties at a social venue.
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[…] Fonte: Roissy […]
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hi lover come to me
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Not intelligent ! Lack of heat, too much iced. Wanna be sucessfull, try to be “caliente”, like a latin lover.
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Cool pic. I like’m redheaded too.
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ridiculous. retarded.
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[…] that last one is easy: “Did you flood my toilet?” Then, without waiting for an answer: “Bring the movies.” (Game: I’m doing […]
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