Sid comments:
Here is decent Facebook game:
There was a very attractive girl, a verbatim 9, who had self-shot herself. She was smiling with even white teeth, managing to angle the shot just right so that you could see her sitting with shorts, her legs revealed.
Five people liked it.
White Beta Male with his name written in katakana: Radiant.
Beta Male twice her age: Your always so beautiful!!
Grrlfriend: so pretty~!
Chick with a mirror shot: Man I wanna pierce my nose soooo bad! I like the hoop on you 🙂
AzN Beta: Bang’n
Duckfaced Douchebag: holy sheeet
Me: I like your left eye better.
She immediately responded to me, and to me alone: “Hahaha!”
And this is why Facebook is such a pussy-less wasteland for the typical beta male. Unless you have game — like Sid here — and can set yourself apart from the mediocre masses, you can expect your shit-lapping suckuppery to disappear into a vortex rift of female egotism.
Succeeding with hot women means tearing down their egos a notch or two, not building them up! Recall, the major roadblock to successfully seducing good-looking, emotionally normal chicks in their primes is not their low self-esteem; just the opposite — it’s their HIGH self-esteem. All these toadies tripping over themselves to “like” girls’ Facebook photos and lavish chicks with compliments are living in an alternate universe where doing the opposite of sexy and charismatic blesses them with a harem of young, sexually voracious lovers. Instead, all they are doing is feeding a beast already full from feasting on the flattery of thousands of lickspittles.
I suspect a lot of these pathetic betas just get off on being able to freely toss out an obsequious compliment to a girl on Facebook because in the online world there is no risk that she’ll immediately scrunch up her face with disgust or tell him to “take a picture, it’ll last longer.” Perhaps they get a momentary thrill at play-acting this juvenile and emotionally stunted form of arid, sexless seduction.

Alpha response indeed, but it’s probably more alpha if you don’t bother to comment on people’s pictures on Facebook.
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You can’t be alpha (in the sensse of having access to women) unless you engage. If you are going to bother to be on FB, learning how to use it to effectively project an alpha presence makes sense. This post shows a good example of that, if used in moderation.
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I find that facebook and game are just completely incompatible.
Though this comment is most certainly alpha, it doesn’t have any potential ways to close.
If you don’t know someone, you shouldn’t have them as friends.
If you know them, talk to them in person, and don’t waste time on FB.
Simple as that.
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I don’t get it. I like your left eye better? Is that code for something? Sounds flat and try-hard to me.
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damn, so true !
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Good looking girl (7) from hometown with tight body constantly posts pics of herself in bathing suits and slutty clothes, much to the delight of the betas who like and fawn all over them. I haven’t seen her in 15 years. I never comment on her attention-whoring posts or pics. One day she posts an older pic from when she had shortish (not head shaved or anything) hair. Comments went something like this:
Beta — Hot! Still banging lol.
Girlfriend — We want more!
Her — More what?
me — more pics of you from your angry feminist hair phase
Her — Fu VE !!!!! LOL I wasn’t trying to look like the girl from Empire Records! LOL.
me — a couple inches can make a big diff
Her — Wait R U saying I look better now or that I looked like a neo natzi?
me (3 hours later) — do I really need to explain. you still in [state she just moved to]?
Her — still here. Miss ya 😉
I don’t reply. When looking this back up just now to post exact text, I notice she deleted the pic from FB.
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Photos…Ah, yes. Photos.
You remind me of a photo post I can’t seem to find the right search terms for. It shows a couple of couples in a train or bus station; in one the guy has good game, in the other, he might as well be on leash.
Can you supply a link, please?
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In re this post: as an abject omega, suffering from over five decades of careful indoctrination that females like nice guys, and now relegated to, not even the friend zone, but the uncle zone, a million times worse, even I know better than to openly praise girls online. It’s like a transformer blowing out; you can’t just flip the breaker to restart.
Never, ever do this.
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Had to share this. Just beautiful.
http://www.ar15.com/forums/topic.html?b=1&f=5&t=1163041
“I PROPOSED, AND SHE SAID NO
Well, I did it. I bought a diamond and proposed to my ex-SO. She said no.She’s not ready to settle down yes apparently.
After a little digging I came to find out that she has kissed 11 other males since summer time and slept with at least 3, but most likely more than that. We had “broken up” during the summer, but still slept in the same bed, said I love you, and fucked. I thought things were going good. I found out about the kissing, about 3 weeks ago when she slipped. then shortly there after the fucking of other males. I decided that I would “forgive and forget” and propose as a last ditch effort to save “us”. The last 8 months of my life have been a lie. I can’t believe I was so trusting. I can’t believe that I didn’t catch on sooner.
We had gotten an apartment together along with her brother. I can’t stay there, I can’t call it my “home” anymore. A home is supposed to be a mans castle, his defenses against the outside world. A place where he can get away from the outside world. I’m going to continue to pay the rent until the lease is up(January). I gave her my ’98 Chevy lumina so that she has transportation. I’m still paying it off.
So here I am. Homeless, buzzed, and angry. She say’s she still loves me, and can see herself spending the rest of her life with me. But she’s not ready to settle down. If she want’s to be a whore and end up like her mother(fat, mentally ill, welfare queen) fine. She can go around and whore herself out to her hearts content. I don’t give a fuck,
For some reason my face is leaking. Does anyone know how to fix a head gasket? Do I need some special tools? I also seem to have this deep pain in my chest that won’t go away. I hope I’m not having a heart attack because I’m only 20. Seems a little early.
in before people call me an idiot for proposing, giving her my car, and continuing to pay rent.
ETA: I should note, that I have another car that I’m driving, I did infact move out, and I’m only paying for the rest of the year. After that they are on their own.
ETA2: Right now my plan is to wait out the year, pay off the car, buy myself a nice truck, then GTFO of this state.”
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facebook is best used to complement a loose existing interaction in need of solidification. say, if you meet briefly through a friend or at a party where the moment is too fleeting, or the environment just not right, to get a girl’s number. add her on facebook, which is socially acceptable and won’t land you in “creepy advances” territory. from there, it’s easy to employ the principles of game to land yourself a date.
commenting on her pictures shows too much of a conscious interest, but commenting on her status updates is acceptable if it’s a quippy remark. after all, it just showed up on your newsfeed.
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Didn’t you do thsi post before?
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“I like your eyes. especially your left/right one.”
that line is so overused. it’s one of the first one’s i remember hearing back circa 2004-ish. i’m sure it’s older than that.
Maybe he could comment on her hair too. “It looks just like how my mother did it a few years ago.”
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Bassoon,
Well, if you’re really done with her – sounds like you are, and frankly, I would too – there’s a couple things you can and should do.
First one would be to stop subsidizing her life. If the lease is in everyone’s name and you’re ‘many and severally’ responsible for rent, just inform her that you’re going to stop paying, because you can’t afford to pay for two beds. Then stop paying. The landlord’s going to evict them before they touch you – and if that ‘many and several’ clause is in place, he’ll also be suing them before he even contacts you.
With the car, I’d consider the same deal. Find out how much is left to pay on the car, tell her that she can buy you out for $x where $x ranges from the remaining balance up to whatever the car’s worth. Fucking other people kinda breaks your deal, unless you had some kind of understanding.
Even if you’re the most generous guy on the planet, the day you were done with her should be the day you stop subsidizing her lifestyle.
Were you an idiot for proposing? Maybe.
Did you dodge a bullet? Hell yeah.
Mark this up as part of your education.
Just stop rewarding her bad behavior. You’re not punishing her for stopping the money spigot. She has as much claim on your bank account as I do.
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Email and text game: Poison.
Facebook: Poison-laced radioactive waste.
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The internet was invented so that men could act like total assholes. Why the hell is everyone so beta on the web now?
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Alpha comment, I guess. If that’s even possible – you’re still giving her and her photo undue attention. So you’re setting yourself apart only slightly in that your comment was flippant rather than kowtowing.
Better to stay off FB and avoid the chattering echo chamber of betas and attention ho’s. I get that it’s another tool, but I don’t believe it’s essential. Regardless, it will go the way of Friendster, Napster, and AOL in a few more years.
If you’re on FB, keep your profile, and your comments, to an absolute minimum. Keep they mystery.
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“I suspect a lot of these pathetic betas just get off on being able to freely toss …”
By complimenting a chick on Facebook, the beta gets a thrill out of engaging in a quasi-sexual interaction with a pretty girl, something he’d not dare broach in person.
A compliment on her looks, especially if he dares to make it spicy like “hawt!” is, by defeinition, a sexual comment. Think of it as a hit-and-run cop-a-feel, though from behind layers of polite interaction, once-removed by the virtual nature of computer-chat.
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I want to crush every single beta bitch that makes these comments.
And facebook has its uses for game, just one more tool in the arsenal
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FB game is just an extension of MySpace game. Jesus.
Merely a supplement or adjunct to the maximization of opportunity club game was supposed to supply as initially proposed by Mystery’s original model.
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@Sam Spade
Spot on
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Oh god, “White Beta with his name written in Katakana”….oh lord. “AzN Beta” — sighhhhhhhh…
I treat my facebook “likes” as if they were a precious resource. What’s the real life equivalent of this?
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@Gorby
Bang-on. I like the cut of your jib.
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Most communication is visual/non-verbal. “Social” media is antisocial — unembodied words floating on a sea of pusillanimous semi-anonymity. We’re sliding into a dependency on these devices, it’s Social Interaction for Dummies. New mores and customs have to be developed around new media.
Antisocial people have been attracted to these means of “communication” from day one. People with any social skills are naturally revolted by false reality and the artificial ease of “connection.” The difference now is that the chat-room ethos has gone mainstream.
Good news, though. It reduces the amount of serious competition. A generation of social retards is rising up, making it all the easier to maneuver and manipulate among them. When you make a genuine connection with these naifs for the first time in their lives, they won’t know what hit them.
Facebook will thrive for a time, just as e-mail did. But either the artifice or our nature will have to go. The town isn’t big enough for the two of them. “You can throw nature out with a pitchfork / But it always comes running back.” (Horace) So far artifice is winning.
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You can’t win with Facebook. But you can lose big.
Don’t play to female vanity. EVER.
Facebook is for game what Kryptonite is for Superman.
Anyone who thinks different is either the hottest male in the room or a retard.
Convince me otherwise.
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facebook is for f@ggots.
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Dam bro you got the staying power hope things going well
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I’m with Eduard — commenting on women’s photos is inherently Beta, not matter what the comment.
If you want to play Facebook game, you have to either make comments that attract women or comment on what they write, but be very careful doing so.
Being a Beta lapdog and complimenting everything a woman posts is not only bad form, but screws it up for the rest of the guys because you’re feeding egos.
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holy shit man, I was just telling a bro yesterday NOT to post gooey comments about girls on facebook… Sent him your link.
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“Alpha” behavior also “screws it up for the rest of the guys” by raising expectations.
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“She was smiling with even white teeth, managing to angle the shot just right so that you could see her sitting with shorts, her legs revealed.”
What, “your pussy totally rocks!” didn’t make the cut?
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OH PLEEEASE!!! another post on Facebook! Facebook is for insecure, attention seeking, self centered, needy, nosey, exhibitionistic, delusional etc…. individuals. You’re right I HATE facebook!
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@ A.nonny.mous
It was posted in another thread by a commentator. Roissy is just bringing this to everyones attention.
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Now I can hardly scrutinise ‘alpha’s’ for using game on Facebook, as I’ve given up on women as both sexual conquests and for relationships (long story).
However the whole “She replied to only my comment and with a HAHA” just screams pointless ego trip. Compare it to a boyish arguement between who a girl looked at first. Does it even matter who she looked at?
Not to mention part of being alpha is not looking into things too much, right? I.e a 3 letter response being an IOI?
The worst example was on the aforementioned thread, wherein a commenter wrote ‘out of all the replies, she ‘liked’ mine”. Liking something on FB takes a split second and a click, and girls can just Like something out of boredom. It doesn’t mean she suddenly wants your cock, who’s to say she even paid heed to it?
You guys deserve major kudos for your contribution to beta society, but I think slapping each others backs over FB comments and Likes are below you.
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Words of wisdom from Grunt!
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Alpha males don’t post banalities on FB.
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There’s this one slut on FB, she has fucked two of my mates and everything she posts gets atleast 3 likes from lads, pictures in skimpy dresses and pajamas get 5-8 likes as well as comments.
The pics are good for the wank bank awful for her ego.
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My default answer to any girl’s facebook posting is “You look fat.”
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Facebook is a locker room.
Facebook game has a very short shelf-life.
In my experience, you have to have girls “add” you first.
Secondly, unless you can convert into real life fast, you have to use it as a social networking and not a pick up tool.
It would also mean you’re gaming girls in your social circle which requires a little more finesse so you don’t come off as a cheesy Don Juan.
But if you remain selective, aloof and throw out negs sparingly, it can be a good conversation starter in real life.
Her: “Read your reply to my photo”….
You: take it from there….
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But it can be a good way of getting social proofs and DHV if you’re like Sid and drop a good neg or something that stands out.
A girl in my social circle posted a photo of her doing a ballet jump that made it appear she was flying in mid air.
All the AFC comments were “Wahhhhh so sexy”.
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Me: I see strings…
Her: hahahahah come on!
Mine was the only comment she commented on.
If you can throw out a good line like that it can help to DHV to other girls you may not know in that social network, in my experience.
In Asia, girls live online, so to completely dis online or Facebook or Text game makes you seem angry, out of touch or an old geezer.
It’s all about context. If you can use the tools and platforms to DHV, it’s a game tool.
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The older the obsequious male, the more depressing it is. I’ve moved away from it since my mid-teens, but the challenge is moving into the sort of banter that alphas have internalised.
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@ walawala
You may see that as DHV and use her reaction as evidence, but to me she may be one of those types who comments because she has nothing better to do with her time.
And why pat yourself on that back for being the only one who gets a comment back, it’s not like the other replies she has to work with are the epitome of social contribution.
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I’m sorry if I seem like a douche who’s raining on your parade, but I’d like to think you’re above self-inflation via FB based on other posts you’ve written.
It pains me to see a male such as yourself feel proud over a bleeding facebook comment.
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Look, admissions time. I’m a solid castrated-myself-by-getting-married Beta, who might once have been a low-functioning Alpha – so y’all need to look at my opinions and treat them with a certain skepticism.
Mrs. Grunt is a fine lady, and to be honest, I don’t have to game her to have a relatively good marriage. She’s not submissive, but she is deferential and behaves herself without me needing to play mind-games with her very often. I use the ‘women!’ technique someone mentioned recently, and it works very well. It’s dismissive without being cruel. I use game-lite at work because it makes the women there more pliable when I need things done.
So.
Social Networking’s for chumps. There. I said it. It’s only one step above World of Warcraft because Facebook doesn’t have massed raids on orc lairs to level up. There’s a reason it’s so popular with adenoidal, acne-ridden teenagers. You want to snag a 17 year old emo with a Twilight obsession? That’s where you go. You don’t really have any idea even if that’s her photo.
Facebook’s not even really very useful for game – you have no body language, no voice nuance, and no social environment to work with. Plus, we’re all human, and most of your approaches will fail. You really want them enscribed upon the Internet for all time? What’s more, the techniques that work for Facebook are sufficiently different from real game that you’re not even doing anything constructive that will teach you about game.
You negged some chick, and she doesn’t respond. Is that good, or bad, or neither? You have no way of knowing. Maybe her dad made her shut her laptop.
OK, if you live on a frickin’ desert island and it’s all you can get, fair enough. But otherwise, all Facebook’s going to do is get you a set of blue balls and a whole heart full of (probably misleading) hope, and then you find out she can’t meet you ‘cos you live 3000 miles away and her daddy took her T-Bird away.
I know actually going out and exposing yourself face-to-face is scary stuff, and if you get humiliated, it’s harder to slink away and pretend you weren’t, but that risk you take in real life is the smithy in which your alphadom will be forged.
So – Facebook – avoid it. Like herpes. Go find someone in meat-world, there’s no substitute.
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Of course the last comment is the only one she responded to. From a girl’s perspective, the “you look so hot” comments come across as fake and might as well say “I want to get in your pants”.
The “I like your left eye better” brings two things – humour in
the form of an ‘in joke’ – just between the two of us, and that element of asshole-while-still-being-flirty, which most of us love. I’d take a guy mildly taking the piss out of me any day over some pandering idiot.
That being said, girls who take photos of themselves and post to FB, particularly in underwear or in myspace-esque poses, are hardcore attention seeking drama queens.
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You remind me of a photo post I can’t seem to find the right search terms for. It shows a couple of couples in a train or bus station; in one the guy has good game, in the other, he might as well be on leash.
Is this the one with the beta half-lying in her lap, whilst the alpha is distracted? I remember that photo.
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Grunt
Please re-read Bassoon’s post…he was REPOSTING from another forum. This is not Bassoon’s plight, just something he is sharing for us to laugh at.
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To those of you saying facebook is lame:
I agree. However, just like online dating, if it results in my having sex with hot girls I otherwise never would have met, how can you criticize?
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This happened not too long ago on facebook :
Her Status : really not enjoying this day
Me : … no chocolates ???
Her : LoL no….I fell and skinned my knee 😦
Me : … to get to the chocolates … [Another girl liked this]
Me : … 🙂
Her : Nope, to get to the other side ‘literally’
I know that game is something that must be practiced in the real world, but for now I’ll just enjoy the banter one can elicit on FB.
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Don’t reply to the posting at all..
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Think of the big picture.
Of course you can have a facebook profile, up the security all the way and think about what you put up there. It’s a great way to arrange parties and build social proof and it’s a normal way to stay in contact for the under 30’s crowd.
Here’s the rub, pretty much 99% of what females put on their wall is beta-bait, ignore it unless you’re going to drop a neg. I ONLY private-message girls on there, I don’t even look at their wall.
Don’t shut yourself off socially for the sake of being alpha, just know what NOT TO DO, that’s 90% of the game right there. If all you ever did was avoid beta-fuckups you’d be fine.
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“You can’t win with Facebook. But you can lose big.
Don’t play to female vanity. EVER.
Facebook is for game what Kryptonite is for Superman.
Anyone who thinks different is either the hottest male in the room or a retard.
Convince me otherwise.”
True – I’ve an friend who does well in face-to-face with the ladies, but he spends too much time on Facebook: He does the kind of funny replies that Roissy describes, but he’s never actually managed to land any woman using Facebook. All his women come from bars and clubs. Yet he continues to ignore the evidence and attempt pick-ups based on Facebook work. It’s a fools’ errand.
Even a funny reply smells of trying too hard in an internet environment: After all she’ll know that (a) you read her page, and (b) you took the time to come up with a funny comment. It’s the antithesis of the true neg.
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“I decided that I would “forgive and forget” and propose as a last ditch effort to save “us”. ”
Damn ….. what a massive vagina. Someone needs to slap some sense into that dude.
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> that element of asshole-while-still-being-flirty, which most of us love.
Why?
As the gatekeepers of sex, you have so much power that will inevitably end up shaping male psychosocial development and behavior in society. And this is what you choose to reinforce? You’re fucking pathetic.
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@DJMoore
Do you mean the picture in this post ?
http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/08/11/alpha-male-vs-beta-male/
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Funniest song EVER, to all those Betas in the world. Roissy, you’re not after this, aren’t you?
http://www.break.com/break-originals/other-funny-stuff/shes-too-good-for-everyone-2024186
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@Mr. C stated:
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“I decided that I would “forgive and forget” and propose as a last ditch effort to save “us”. ”
Damn ….. what a massive vagina. Someone needs to slap some sense into that dude.
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Betas such as this miserable excuse for a guy CANNOT be awakened. They must wake up themselves. If they don’t wake up, they’re gone. As in, GONE. Don’t waste a minute trying to save them. They must come to you.
This is true for so much of life in general, it’s ridiculous.
Do not try to convince people of ANYTHING, anymore. Most people are GONE. You are wasting your breath, and they will hate your guts for trying to wake them up.
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[This also happened on FB : ]
Status : … I want the Truth !!! … and if the Truth ain’t available … what else have you got ?!
[Two girls liked it]
Her : Christ !!!:)
[I don’t like messing with belief systems, so I replied : ]
Me : … in the beginning was The Word, I-chan … and this Word was, and still is, the Alpha and Omega. My question is regarding that other enigmatic cross in all our computations : The letter X …
Her : Ahhh I see…. the enigmatic cross…hmmm…unity?…. interesting!
Me : … ahhh unity … that solitary rush from a chaotic multiplicity … to an implacable singularity …
[She didn’t reply to this, but tried to bust my balls again on another status update …]
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That wasn’t my thread, just some beautiful example of betatude I found. God, you embarrass me.
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Oh and about Facebook – it can work for awhile.
Post divorce I would say that 6 lays and 2 hookups in a 6 month period came from Facebook. However, once I got to running a few girls it became simply unmanageable. A weekend threesome with a former classmate/Playboy model and her friend got completely blown up because of a Wall posting that alerted my main girlfriend in town. My fault for allowing Wall posts, but still . . . I decided to cut it loose.
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> that element of asshole-while-still-being-flirty, which most of us love.
Why?
because they can’t help it, it’s in their programming. most women can’t or won’t admit that this is the case. bridge is one of the exceptions.
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Big red face. Duh. Oh well – should have realized that this place is full of near- or full- alphas who’d never get in that situation 🙂
But Facebook’s a liability. Seriously. At least with WoW you can level up and sell your account to someone on Ebay for a stupid amount of money.
I’ve been asked a FEW times if I’m on FB (I tend to aim at the slightly-older demographic – 25 and up, so being active on FB’s not necessrily a given). My usual answer is that I have better things to do with my life than prop up the vanities of highschool kids – and I make sure that I’m suitably dismissive of the very idea. In more cases than not, the women will also be critical, so there’s been a chance to build an area of agreement, which I’ve cut off after a few exchanges, with the option of either saying it’s “a short cut to a statch-rape charge” or “feeding the egos of basement dwellers”.
I’ve NEVER had a woman come back and defend Facebook strongly unless they’ve been way too young for my tastes. Any chick that’s been on Facebook for more than 10 minutes is likely to have either been stalked by some utter drooling gamma, knows someone who has, or has fears of it happening.
Making Facebook work for game would rely on me rehabilitating Facebook’s reputation. You’re known by the company you keep, and Facebook has this reputational problem that it’s full of losers.
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I’ve done well with online dating, and I’ve made some dates from the old Friendster, before that died, but I’ve never set up a single date from Facebook. I’ve dumped buckets of clocks into Facebook, and no win.
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Bassoon
You had a planned Threesome with a playboy model?
You sound like Will Ferrel in Stepbrothers claiming to be a ninja. Normally people outgrow making these sort of claims in their mid teens.
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Face Book, IM, texting, email, long phone calls are all just Buffers against rejection:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=125865
Don’t ever think that there is such a thing as Face Book Game. You’re on FB for the same reason any woman is; you think it’s a safer method of interaction than interacting face-to-face where the possibility of ‘real time’ rejection is a reality.
Texting, IM, email, and long phone calls are all Buffers if they become substitutes for face-to-face personal communication. It’s not that digital communication is “bad”, it’s when it becomes your PREFERRED method of communicating that it becomes a Buffer.
Bear in mind what a Buffer is – a methodology with the purpose of blunting potential rejection. How many guys have bemoaned a PoF/OKCupid/Face Book hook up where they got off on all the great IMs and emails and thought how compatible they were with some girl only to find out she was really a 300lb. land monster who took shots from top angles in her pics? That’s the Buffer.
Let me ask this, can you remember a time when there was no internet, cell phones or IMs; did you ever pass notes to a girl you liked in junior high or high school? Did you ever write letters on notebook paper to the girl you wanted to get with? How did that work out for you? Why don’t you do it now? Maybe because it would come off as immature?
IMs, chat, email, texts, etc. are simple the 21st century equivalent of passing notes in class. Women may even eat it up, because they love the act of communicating, but it’s simply a Buffer against rejection. It’s a nice, safe wall against looking a girl in the eye and conversing on the spot. It lulls you into a false sense of security with a woman – you have all the time in the world to calculate your words, but you’re blind to her body language, her vocal intonations, her eye contact, and all the rest of the subcommunications that women instinctively use on a daily basis. Texting and all the other innovative Buffers we think open us to greater facility of communication actually isolate us and limit us from learning to read a woman (and others) in real time, so it’s no wonder guys freeze and choke and need PUA seminars and DVDs to help them overcome what should’ve been socialized into them as a natural part of their acculturation.
I think the default excuse is to fall back on the idea that Face Book / messaging is just a new modern convenience that makes it easier to connect, but all it really is is another introversion. I realize all this makes me sound like some Luddite; trust me I’m not. I use IM, texting, email, my cell phone, etc. all the time. In my line of work I’d say I use digital communication more than most, but it’s a poor substitute for direct communication. You can’t detect sarcasm, elation, depression, or really any emotional subtleties with any real certainty. Our sales team ALWAYS meet face to face with accounts. Any good salesman will agree that being present is always preferable – why would dating be different? Because you have a personal investment – yourself.
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whenever someone asks me why i’m not on facepage, i just say ‘i’m not a girl’. no smile; just stating a fact.
if it’s a girl asking, her clunge has been tickled.
if it’s a guy asking, his ass has been dissed.
sometimes they’ll come back with ‘but facespooge is a great way of maintaining your social networks, and how else are your friends going to contact you blah blah blah’
ignore. girls will re-engage. don’t give a shit about how the guys respond.
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@Rollo
Dude, you are dead on. Check this WSJ article.
Gen-Y’er guys are TOAST. They know nothing about how to read (or send) body language.
Destined for permanent beta-tude. Not good for them. Good for Alphas.
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052970203863204574348493483201758.html
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“”””””””You had a planned Threesome with a playboy model?””””””””‘
“””””””You sound like Will Ferrel in Stepbrothers claiming to be a ninja. Normally people outgrow making these sort of claims in their mid teens.””””””””
Think about this logically playboy models are flesh and blood woman right i mean they are not just pixels right they are actual fuckable woman and what woman on the planet would be the ones that would more than likely be open to threesome playboy models. So why would it be the most unlikely thing? If he said threesome with 2 nuns I would be like dam wtf
A playboy model in the threesome well that is just another day and would just be loot.
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just tried this. worked perfectly. thank you.
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Worked perfectly to what end? Did you arrange a date?
Impressing girls on facebook is useless in itself. Every word is calculated to lead to sex. That is the only way to measure success.
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@shiva1008 Because it’s sexy. A sense of humour is sexy. An alpha male is sexy.
I don’t want a guy to pander to me…. I don’t want to be used and abused either. There’s a difference between employing successful asshole game and actually being an asshole. Use it in moderation. Make a funny comment about liking my left eye being better, you’re not being insulting. You’re saying you think I’m hot, but without being a beta loser. I think you’re missing the point.
No girl wants a guy to be submissive to her. It comes down to basic gender roles. Yes, we want to be and should be equals in society and treated with respect. That doesn’t mean we want to be the same as you. We don’t want men to act like women and treat us like men.
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Busted that on a girl I had on my FB for a while, but haven’t talked to. Said exact same thing. She deleted me from her friends immediately, and I think even blocked/reported me. lol.
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What do you think?
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What do you think of this one?

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Well said, Rollo Tomassi.
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Great link, Corporal Hicks.
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Facebook is good for game for a couple reasons. First, you see can photos of a girl you recently met and confirm whether or not she is as attractive as you remember. Therefore you can make the call to not pursue further, in the event you had beer goggles on. It’s important not to waste your time gaming a girl your not that attracted to. You can furthermore glean insight about a girls personality and interests from her page to enhance your gaming of her in the event she is attractive enough to pursue.
As far as projecting your alphadom goes: only post pics or allow tags of yourself where you look alpha, or project a fun, awesome or handsome image. De-tag anything where you’re smiling like a chump or otherwise look beta. Post plenty of pics with you posing with attractive women. Don’t comment too much or at all on people’s walls or pictures. If you do so, be selective and strategic about it – remember the text message test. Dont compliment anyone. You can be somewhat flirtacious as long as it sounds alpha and passes the text message text. A carefully played comment can put you on the radar of a girl you’d like to meet in your extended network with whom you have mutual friends. Ideally, she looks at your pictures, which if carefully selected will give her social proof (pics with lots of friends with you at the center of attention), pre-selection (pics with attractive women), and ideally some attraction (if you are physically attractive and it comes through in you pics and if you have a high status job and education listed on your profile).
Otherwise lay pretty low on FB and dont give out too much info about yourself.
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I have a facebook, with that said I’ve traditionally been an regular beta. Thankful I haven’t checked out as worse, I have been trying to absorb some game and applying it effectively.
Recently a girl that I have met *once* added me.(and when we met I didn’t pay her much attention) I accepted her and somewhat forgot her. about a week later she posted something and I got to looking at her. I’d consider her about a 7, or high 6 at worst. Anyways shes one of these girls who always has something funny to say.
I posted a few negs on some pictures she had. One week she was standing next to a guy friend, and the next her and a picture of a cow she was blowing a kiss at.. I replied:
Me: “Wow you get around”
Her: Why you say that?
Me: first the guy, now the cow
Her: Yeah thats how I roll
I figured lame so I didn’t say anymore.
with all this in mind her status the next day was “Hide n Seek at Wal Mart!~!”
I cringed but realized i had to say something..
Me: Life is great at 14 isn’t it?
Her: Hey (last name).. go crawl in a hole. You’re just jealous
Me: I’m already in my hole, it’s got a Wal Mart.
I’m indifferent about my last reply. Something tells me she was serious in her reply, but my experience reading Roissy tells me that this is part of Game.
Anyone care to analyze?
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I deleted my FB two days ago. And I mean I actually deleted it not deactivated it. Every male should do the same. Facebook is for girls. It has got to be the gayest invention of this decade.
Don’t forget Facebook was created by
C.I.A.
Do people not value their privacy anymore? Do you really want the evil empire having hundreds of your photos?
You do not have to be a conspiracy theorist to realize Facebook is fucked up.
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Even before FB, if a girl gave me her last name, I’d always look for her picture on Google for this exact same reason – to make sure the new girl I met was as hot as I remembered her.
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Yeah, I know it sounds ridiculous. But those model types have to have sex with somebody, might as well be an anonymous poster on the internet.
Let me exacerbate your incredulity by claiming that my then-girlfriend had sent pics into Playboy and had an interview/shoot scheduled to see if they would use her. And that after the belly-dancer/model posted on my Wall about how much she was looking forward to me coming to spend the night with her (and her friend who had been sending me unsolicited photos of her new breasts) my then-girlfriend proceeded to piss all over her Wall with comments like “Mine are real bitch” and threatened to drive to Charlotte to cut the belly dancer’s tits off with her chef’s knife.
Or that, after hearing a story about a different ex pleasuring herself with my .44 magnum revolver she tried to one-up her by demanding I penetrate her with a loaded AR-15. That girl was seriously crazy.
And no, I didn’t – it violates pretty much every firearms safety rule simultaneously.
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FYI:
http://www.allfacebook.com/will-cloud-girlfriend-fake-it-on-your-facebook-wall-2011-03
*giggle*
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Facebook can be used to promote and reinforce your status, provided you use it the right way.
It’s all about frame – getting people to come into yours and having others be more responsive to you then the other way around.
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One of my favorite tricks on Facebook is just to reply “ew” to a female post that gains (or will gain) a lot of lickspittle beta attention. Doesn’t matter what it is. The “ew” is universal.
It’s pretty amusing to see the hamster type out a two paragraph private message in response to your two character post.
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