An important facet of game — whether for relationships, flings or pickups — is fluency with the art of teasing. Teasing is such a turn-on for women it’s a wonder it isn’t taught by marriage counselors. (Actually, it’s not a wonder. As the divorce statistics show us, marriage counselors have no fucking clue what works.)
Here’s an example of what I mean by teasing:
ME: Don’t worry. If I got famous I wouldn’t drop you like a hot potato.
HER: Gee, thanks. That’s so sweet.
ME: I’d wait a couple months.
HER: Jerk! *playful punch*
You should be teasing your girlfriend or wife like this nearly every day of her life. Women LOVE LOVE LOVE men who don’t take them seriously. And what better way to convey an aloof disregard for her pride than through teasing?
I’d like to examine the phenomenon of teasing a little more closely. Why, exactly, does it so effectively light up a woman’s arousal bean? After all, teasing is not flattery or compliments. It’s nearer the opposite: teasing is a form of put-down. Compare and contrast the below with the teasing example above:
ME: If I got famous I’d trade up from you to a hotter babe in about two month’s time.
HER: Whaaat?! [angry, hurt]
This example is no different in substance than the teasing example above, yet the latter provokes anger and withdrawal while the former provokes tingles. The key difference between the two interactions lies in the concept of butthurtness.
butthurtness; noun
an emotional state of being characterized by spite, bitterness and/or insecurity; highly toxic to female attraction.
Teasing is the art of delivering ugly truths in a charismatic style that inoculates the teaser against an accusation or perception of butthurtness.
The truth value of whatever you are teasing a girl about is immaterial; it’s *how* you say it that matters. It may very well be true that should you become famous you would dump your girlfriend for a hotter girl, or that her sense of humor sucks, but that’s irrelevant to the way in which such information is conveyed to her. If you can say it with a smirk, and couch your jerkish thoughts in the veneer of playful fun, she will register your demeanor as being one that an alpha male possesses. And this daily revelation will engorge her labia.
If you don’t know how to tease, then your jerkish blurts will be perceived by her as those held by a nasty beta secretly afraid she might leave him.
Teasing is a vital game tactic that serves the dual functions of 1) making relationships and dates less boring, and 2) subtly reminding the girl that you have options and aren’t afraid to risk her disapproval, which is the hallmark of the desirable alpha male swimming in a sea of snatch.
All of this — women’s love for jerks who know how to tease — ultimately reduces to the sexy son hypothesis, which has been explained in previous posts.
I think you could get away with the second approach if you said it while laughing playfully with an unserious tone. But point taken.
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Butthexing, in other words?
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Roissy, do you do DHVs?
Any time I try a DHV, the girl reacts like I’m trying to prove my worth, or doesn’t react at all. I’ve rarely had it work – manhandling, teasing and even pseudo-self-deprecation (a la Roosh) has worked best for me.
Roleplaying and teasing together can surprisingly get girls talking.
[Editor: Roleplay and teasing is a killer combo, but it requires a creative, situationally intelligent mind. DHVing is overemphasized by the game community, imo. But I wouldn’t neglect it. Proper DHVing is also a fine art, and you have to be careful to avoid crossing the braggadocio line. DHVs should be slipped into convos as an afterthought.]
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Only smart girls can be teased successfully.
Teasing WAS a viable strategy once, but with today’s GenerationTEXT, they’re now too dimwitted to reliably tease.
They’re all hyper-sensitive. Subject to instantaneous butthurt. Like 3 year-olds.
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So true, required reading for all the wannabe Casanovas who end up denouncing Game. I believe that most who end up failing do so because they have not learned how to tease effectively.
Teasing is absolutely essential, and if you aren’t teasing her, then you aren’t going anywhere but the sexless purgatory- hell, even- of LJBFland.
I love it when I get called an asshole, followed by the shoulder punch. Might as well be a sign on her forehead saying “fuck me”.
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game = charisma
neg = teasing.
teasing = charisma
charisma = game
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I give this post three out of four aspys.
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Three out of four still won’t pick up on it.
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@ Firepower
Tell me about it. Facebook and texting suck ass. If I were to say something on FB or via text they get pissed, but if I were to say the same exact thing IRL, I get tingles.
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lzoozlzlzz
i made you guys a poster so you could better undertsanad teh fiat butthex matrix lzozlzlzlz
http://greatbooksformen.wordpress.com/2010/05/28/the-first-panacea-for-a-mismanaged-nation-is-inflation-of-the-currency-the-second-is-war-both-bring-a-temporary-prosperity-both-bring-a-permanent-ruin-but-both-are-the-refuge-of-political-and-eco/
in dante’s inferno the fiat masters were in teh same level of hell as teh butthexers!!! i ma not making this up!!! omg lzozllzlzlz
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Teasing must be calibrated to the woman’s level of intelligence. The most hilarious and clever quip of all time may well sail over the head of a dimwitted woman, and wham, you’re in the butthurtness zone.
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my young butthurt grasshopper,
here is the diagram you first must study until you see it for what it is, Neo:
i can show you the way, neo, but you will have to walk it zlozlzlzozzlozlzlzo
ozlzlz the more you read me and roissy the mroe your life will improve as you come to see the fiat butthex matrix for what it is — you will see the green streams of fiat data (dripping with buttdouche fresh off the butthex presses) like the matrix but with a subltle difference as some of you wieinsteinas have already seen for urself lzozzll
at the ned of the matrix neo saw it as
1010101011110100101
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1101010101011101001
0101010000010101111
0100101111111101010
1101010101001001001
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and when you have walked the path you too will see the butthexing matrix for what it is and how the fed funded the desouling of womenz with massive amounts of douchcock frrom an early age in all tehir orfices and are acting through the soulles temptresses to seize your assetts now when a girl says, “what i really really want is a nice guy, i’m tired of the asswholes (lozlzl who got her younger hotter tighter)” instead of hearing what she says and then trying to be a nice guy you will hear the truth behind the butthexing matrix’s facade lzozlzl:
10101010010110101010101010
10101010101010101010010110
101010z01010z0101l01zzlzozll1
1o1o1o1o1ozozozo1o1o101011
1o1o1o1oozozzozozozozo01011
lozlzlzozlzozlozzlzozlzozlzozzoz1
1010i1o1o1want1010a01010001
douchebag10to butthex me0101
010and i want you 2 buy me100
01meals and a ring while i01011
0101give by butt & vagina01010
010away for free to butthexers1
100who tape it scretely lzozl100
zlzozllzlzlzozlzozzloozzllz and101
1010make my anus sore for010
1010days010101 101010101011
1010lolsolsoslslollzzlozlzzozlz010
0101pay 4 my meals0101001010
101010and1010maybe1010u1010
1001can1010touch1010my10dry
101001dried1010up110pussy100
101stds stds stds0101010101010
10101buy me 1010a ring1010101
1010for100the1010pussy1010i100
0101gave1010away1010for0101
1010free1010when1010it0was10
100younger1010hotter0110lozlz
lolzlztighter1010and010propose01
1010so1001i1010can0110rape10
1010your101010anus1010in0101
1010divorce01010court1010and01
10transfer010your0101assets1001
1010to1010bernanke1001and1010
1010the1010fiat1010buttheex1010
1001matrix01010lozlzlzlzlzlzzozllzzl
omglzozlzlzllzlzlzzzlzllzlzlzlzlzlzllzlzllz
10lzozllzlz0zzllllzllzllzlzz1ozozlzlzl0
010111010101010101101010101
the sublime act of butthex is a beuatiful metaphor for what the fed does to a currency and a country, which is why the neocon weekly standard celebrates butthexers–es[pecially those who taope it without the girkl’s conthent and profit off the act. lzozlzlzlzl!
[on the war that devastated the Real World]
Morpheus: We don’t know who butthexed first, us or them. But we do know it was them that videotaped it without our consent while scorching the sky wioth a long trail of butthex lies. At the time, they were dependent on butthex power. It was believed they would be unable to survive without an energy source as abundant as the common man’s collective anushole. lozzllzlzlzzl
Trinity: I know why you’re here, Neo. I know what you’ve been doing… why you hardly sleep, why you live alone, and why night after night, you sit by your computer reading roissy & GBFM. You’re looking for him. I know because I was once looking for the same thing. And when he found me, he told me I wasn’t really looking for him. I was looking for an answer. It’s the question that drives us, Neo. It’s the question that brought you here. You know the question, just as I did.
Neo: What is the butthex fiat Mathrix?
Trinity: The answer is out there, Neo, and it’s looking for you, and it will find you if you want it to.
[Neocon sees a black cat walk by them, and then a similar black cat walk by them just like the first one]
Neocon: Whoa. Déjà vu.
[Everyone freezes right in their tracks]
Trinity: What did you just say?
Neocon: Nothing. Just had a little déjà vu.
Trinity: What did you see?
Cypher: What happened?
Neocon: A black cat went past us, and then another that looked just like it.
Trinity: How much like it? Was it the same cat?
Neocon: It might have been. I’m not sure.
Morpheus: Switch! Apoc!
Neocon: What is it?
Trinity: A déjà vu is usually a glitch in the butthexMatrix. It happens when they change something. Now that I am an aging women in the butthex matrix with her eggs and gina drying up having given the best years of her anus to drunk alphas during her college desouling years via massively multiplayer asscockig in the butt sessions and getting her fiat mba (masters of butthexing in da Anus) and blowing upper level mangement lzozllz, the butthexmatrix is now delivering my cats. Two this morning and now two more. yaya! lozlzl
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Morpheus: The Fiat lozllolozllzzl butthex Matrix is a system, Neo. That system is our enemy. lzozozozozl! But when you’re inside, you look around, what do you see? Businessmen, bloggers, teachers, betas, lawyers, herbs, carpenters, and neocon womenz writing for the weekly standard, repeating the fiat lies of secretive tapers of butthex without teh girls conthent lzozlzlzlzl. The very minds and anusholes of the people we are trying to save. But until we do, these people are still a part of that butthex system and that makes them our anus’s lozlzlzozzozozl enemy. You have to understand, most of these people are not ready to be unbuttplugged. And many of them are so inured to butthex, so hopelessly dependent on the system of secretive tapings of butthex without tehir conthent, that they will fight to protect it and reapet the lies of secretive tapers of butthex in teh pages of the weekly standard even though they seem to be nice neocon ladies.
[Neo’s eyes suddenly wander towards a woman in a red dress]
Morpheus: Were you listening to me, Neo? Or were you looking at the woman in the red dress (woman as temptress in the heor’s journey myth) who was desouled via copious fiat-funded butthex from butthexers celerbated in teh pages of the weekly standard?
Neo: I was…
Morpheus: [gestures with one hand] Look again.
[the desouled, massively-butthexed woman in the red dress is now a bestselling new york times author, pointing a cock at Neo’s ass; Neo ducks]
Morpheus: Freeze it.
[Everybody and everything besides Neo and Morpheus freezes in time]
Neo: This… this isn’t the butthex Matrix?
Morpheus: No. It is another training program designed to teach you one thing: if you are not one of us lozlzlzlzlers, you are one of them butthexers.
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i wanna start lzozlzlzl media where we have a character based on roissy who sees green streams of streaming data every time a bernankified chick opens her moutrh and throughout every episode all the herbs and betas pay for the meals of the chix roissy butthexes in the end due to his supreme knowelge of being THE ONE lzozlzlzllzzl
i would be more like one of those minor characters along for the ride in the mother ship stanidng off to the side going lzozlzz zlzozlzozlzozlz zlzozllzozlzlzlz and don’t gte me worng i would score with all the hotties but like roissy woudl get first pick for his lead dick and i’d get the next two as that’s only fair lzozlzlzlzllzlzllzl
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It’s not just “texting” – although that was the barb I hurled.
irl – yes – more tingles do bubble forth from teasing, but even some of the most simplest, basic elements of teasing have to be dumbed-down on the fly with 20-ish girls; it’s a hindrance to rapid-fire gaming, especially in clubs/bars. HOT girls are THE worst.
Like having to use a translation dictionary to communicate to SPED kids that they’re driving their trike into traffic.
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Teasing is something we do as kids. We should never stop.
Mom to son:
“Son, don’t tease like that.”
Bad advice.
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Texting is like trying to find a weapon in a padded room. No body language, no tonality, timing or context. One little smirk can change the meaning. No recovery from mistakes.
What the hell do ya get out of texting anyway? Its a contact sport buddy. Its like being in a room with her, two grandmas and her mother. Its a yarn store, bake sale, ticket to Twilight, and a bridal store. The only reason why you would be there is to follow her around like a puppy right out of surgery that makes a great pet that won’t piss on anything. That is what texting is.
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A question; I understand the incredible importance of avoiding bitterness and spite in your interactions with women, but when you need to express disappointment with her, what are the alternatives? Anger, sure, but that is not always appropriate to the situation. What else?
For instance: She turns from physically interesting to boring and apathetic, wasting the time you have spent on her. What would be a proper take-away, or push-pull? Would you tease her about her “amazing” bedroom skills?
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It’s also best to tease about things that aren’t really important to you or her. As in the above example, the odds of you getting famous aren’t huge, so there’s not really an ego hit when you make that joke.
By contrast, I remember one girl I was dating who was just dumb, by my standards. She’d often say she was smart, particularly after she did something that contradicted that. I remember one point where she said, “I’m smart,” and I responded with, “Well, you hide it well” – with contemptuous delivery, to boot. Didn’t go over too well. So it’s best not to tease about actual problems.
The key is that the delivery needs to be such that she can reasonably believe that you are just playing around with her and that you don’t actually mean it. It’s much harder to do this with real problems – even the exchange above is inadvisable if, say, she recently caught you cheating.
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Sexy son hypothesis eh? If women were subconsciously so interested in passing on their genes, why do they so often give their sons bad advice?
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@HollowedMan,
Teasing and indifference are preferable to anger and bitterness.
When in doubt, make her insecure. Do it by showing indifference or feigning mild disappointment.
Be distracted. Damn with faint praise.
Use social skills you’d use anywhere else. The point is to generate mild insecurity and achieve emotional control without ever losing your own.
It’s all about emotional control.
Pull the levers.
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I vaguely recall reading somewhere that written communication frequently gets misinterpreted simply because the lack of vocal intonation and body language denies the recipient any context to determine whether a message is teasing, sarcastic, nasty, or whatever. Hence the insipid reliance on e-mail emoticons in lieu of having any writing ability…
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HollowedMan, withdrawal is the simple answer. If she’s still into you, a surge of sexual passion and intensity can rock the boat. Paging Pierre Woodman.
Directly pointing out a girl’s flaws makes her think you’re a loser for not getting a girl without them – “if you don’t like it, why don’t you find someone else? Must be you can’t.” See: fat girls.
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The key to successful teasing is playfulness. Always provoke the hamster with creativity and a huge grin.
However, I have noticed that there are certain subjects that are riskier to tease. For example, her sluttiness, weight, and relative attractiveness (i.e., beauty compared to hotter women). Negging on these subjects induces more brain processing and less vaginal fluid building.
So, Roissy, should one avoid these riskier subjects?
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@Bortimus
Thus you are screwed every which way since good wit requires subtlety, and emoticons are flowery girly doodles on your letter head.
I recall not too long ago discussing male disposition and blithely mentioned that men like harems. She responded with a bit of a smile and a comment that such men would think of women as cattle. I responded with “Cattle? One of my women would be worth more than a thousand cattle, Man o war, Secretariat, and Seattle Slew combined!”. She had an amused look on her face.
Try that just beyond the weather doors at femefisting and forget it.
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Girl: You never say you love me
Me: The things I love about you are few, but they are huge
Girl: You better not be talking about my ass
Me: No baby, your vag
She still laughs about it today, and yes she devoured me that night.
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Furthermore I might add in anonymous forums, for example, it defaults to hostility. Its like driving. Most people would run down their mother if she tried to merge in front of them.
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@ Gorbachev
If there is one thing I have learned from game, it is to never do as my mother says. In fact, the best results come from doing the exact opposite.
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Sometimes I reach out to my wife, look at her intently, and lovingly say, “Honey, no matter what happens, you’ll always be my senior wife.”
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@ chi-town
If you really feel that way about texting, you should try and check out some of Krausers facebook game. The guy really has text-game down to a science.
And the best thing is, most people in the game feel the way you do right now – that texting is like riding a bike with square wheels – so learning some of Krausers tricks brings you a long way in front of your competition.
http://krauserpua.com/ – it should be easy to find posts on text-game.
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Teasing is now my default attitude towards attractive women. I work among beta programmer types and it sickens me to watch their fawning, complimentary deference towards hotties. The more so because I was like them a few years ago.
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@GBFM:
Your Matrix post (above) is the funniest thing that’s been on Roissy’s blog in six months! Especially the “Matrix delivered my cats” line.
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@CharlesDurden
Well I did exaggerate and ham it up a bit to make the point. Which is of course is a demonstration of the point. There are always ways to make the best of things.
Still that looks interesting and I will have a look. I imagine it has a lot brevity and aloofness which would be what I might call anti-text.
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OT
Ferdinand Bardamu at IMF has named Dominique Strauss-Kahn’s accuser. She’s a good looking, French speaking African from Guinea, with a green card:
http://www.inmalafide.com/blog/2011/05/18/the-real-name-of-dominique-strauss-kahns-rape-accuser-is-nafissatou-diallo/
Her name is Nafissatou Diallo.
Note it’s not illegal to publish the name of a rape accuser in the US. (It apparently is in the UK, though maybe just for the press.) It’s simply general journalistic practice not to.
As the folks at False Rape Society point out, that wrecks a great unfairness on the male accused, and is unique to rape cases. The practice should be done away with, and in the mean time circumvented. Harvard legal scholar Alan Derschewitz and even feminist Naomi Wolf agree. Pass the word.
http://falserapesociety.blogspot.com/2011/05/ferdinand-bardamu-has-published-name-of.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+TheFalseRapeSociety+%28The+False+Rape+Society%29&utm_content=Google+Reader
It’s certainly not hard to come up with very plausible motives for a false accusation. Her motive would like be money. Either paid to her directly by political opponents in France who put her up to this, or through a follow on civil lawsuit that such opponents may have whispered in her ear about – or both. It would be interesting to know how she got her lawyer and who’s paying him.
The most damning thing against him is a 31 yo French journalist has come forward and said she was raped by him 9 years ago but was dissuaded from pressing charges, and there are other rumors. Of course she might have been paid to say this as well.
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I understand the difference between teasing and butthurtness but I cannot come up up with my own teasing material because I don’t understand the anatomy of teasing, how it’s constructed. So I’m stuck with “canned material” which makes it hard for me to find the right moment to remember and deliver properly a good tease, hence not getting the sort of intense female-2-male attraction I’m looking for on a regular basis. I am only working with DHV:ing, “inner game aka being alpha” + enhancing my looks for attraction.
I need to to learn how to come up with my own light funny teasing that creates tingles. Sometimes when I try teasing it has one of these results: 1. girl is butthurt even though the teasing was light (less common + I don’t neg plain janes unless they have inflated self-percetion) 2. the teasing makes her aware of the great difference between her and I in iq AND in sense of humour so that she doesn’t really get with the tease and therefore also get alienated from me realising her and i are not the same (more common).
So I need to learn how to spontaneously come up with light funny banter that isn’t too clever and uses girl-humour.
What I mean with that kind of humour is this: Can I borrow your pen? No, you can’t. (wait 1 sec) Yes, you can. Haha. *puke*
I feel like a lot of less intelligent guys have an edge with girls because they also think a lot of unfunny stuff is funny and they share the reality that they don’t understand a lot of things around them.
Roissy, can you fix this?
PS: I’m not attracted to SWPL:s, college broads or older women except for Christina Hendricks.
[Editor: The problem with your example is that women don’t like vacillating men. ‘No you can’t, yes you can’ sounds sorta mincing. It evokes the wrong kind of emotions in a woman. Think more along these lines:
‘This pen is special. Gold plated. Are you sure you’re up to the task of handling it?’
You can even use a little NLP and self-point in the direction of your crotch when you say this.
If a girl is butthurt from your teasing, it means one of three things:
1. your teasing ability is poor
2. she’s faking it (girls will often act butthurt as a shit test to see if you’ll hold your frame)
3. your value is so far above hers she’s compelled to twist the meaning of the teasing into something more insulting.]
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lzozzlzl butthexual powers rule via fiat zlzozllzzlozzolo
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Surprised you haven’t commented on the slumming Ahnold did with his maid. Saw a picture, and sure and I have a hard time thinking that she was hot 10 years ago.
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I’ve had good experiences with teasing. Dates without chemistry sparking up and going into overdrive, like a car whose batteries have been re-connected suddenly. Of course, it’s no miracle solution, but it helps a lot and the consequences of even failing crudely and not significant 🙂
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There’s no way you people can write page long comments and still have time to actually go out and apply these concepts. The information in this blog and most game blogs are golden, but they are now simply becoming places for excessive intellectual masturbation.
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Teasing is essential.
I have very little trouble teasing in text… but I include “emotion” in my texts (I literally type out etc).
I occassionally run into asian girls that are completely literal (why asian, idk), and do get butthurt from teases… teasing still works, but it has to be over the top to make sure the humor is obvious.
Roissy is a fan of Lance Mason (I think), and Lance would say if you smile, and gently kino… teases work much better. Lance also says that “teasing” is what friends do w/ each other… so in a way, teasng is where attraction/comfort overlap.
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what I do is more of 3 step process
step 1: say something kinda nice (sweet?)
step 2: wait for her response
step 3: say something playfully cocky
me- i missed you a lot these last few days
her- *huge smile*
me: yea and I only cheated on you 31 times *my typical smirk*
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Thanks Gorbachev and Basil! We will see how that works tonight. (first interaction since walking away during handjob)
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I think there’s a big difference between teasing banter and actually being funny too. Think Dwight vs. Jim from The Office. If you’re a girl, you’d rather have Jim flirtatiously teasing you with lame jokes or witticisms directed at hapless coworkers than listen to Dwight go on a rant about how to avoid being eaten by a bear if you’re on your period (they smell the menses, you know). On the other hand, at least as a male viewer I find Dwight’s non sequiturs quite funny while I feel like if I met the actor who plays Jim in person I might be compelled to stab him in the scrotum with a well-sharpened pencil.
The mistake I’ve always made with women has been trying to be actual funny instead of lame flirting funny. Which tends to evoke a creeper reaction from girls. Probably because funny humor has too much negative context to be effective in a flirting situation.
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I once ordered this very pregos woman to watch my computer at a coffee place… when I came back:
Pregos: I was gonna steal your computer but you came back to fast
Me: yeah right… I took one look at you and knew you wouldn’t get far
Pregos: hey! (Slightly wounded)
Me: cmon babe… you’re beautiful! (Cocky smile and arms out)
Her friends died laughing. She came over to me 10 minutes later w/ a phone # of her single friend. She loved that tease… and threw a girl at me to reward me. : )
(I did date her friend once… and it sucked… but that’s not the teasings fault!)
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This pen is special. It reminds me of my bic so treat it with care.
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She is tagging along while I do errands. I drive.
me: I’m glad you came with me
her: really?
me: yeah, we can use the car pool lane
(eyes light up as she punches me in the arm)
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Repeating what a girl says in some other context is another great way to tease.
My girl has on different occassions said “You need to take care of me….”
I remind her of how I’m taking care of her.
I just finish banging her hard, she’s a quivering mess….”Just taking care of you babe….”
I bring her a tea when she’s at my place and then completely exaggerate the act so that rather than seeming beta, it seems like I’m doing it to make a point and tease her….
“See, this is how I take care of you…..”
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Me: Let’s quit our jobs and move to Spain.
LTR: Would you yell at me there too?
Me: Yeah, but I’d do it in Spanish.
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“… but when you need to express disappointment with her, what are the alternatives? Anger, sure, but that is not always appropriate to the situation. What else?”
Icy disdain. Distancing and indifference. A disappointed head shake and a knowing, inner directed smile.
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Pen?
My grandfather gave me this very special pen he kept hidden from the Vietcong in his…”oh don’t worry, not this pen. My mother gave me this pen. I saved that one by tossing it in the bush at my last mugging. (wink to your smart fiend while it goes over the dumb one’s head).
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@Winterhawk
I like it.
” I am good for two things, a bic and a …ahh…oh hell, I am not a poet”
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Me: Whenever I come to a bar like this I always look around for the girl with the biggest hoop earrings and tonight you won.
Her: Really, why is that?
Me: They’re usually the sluttiest.
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I had a fling w/ a girl who was a tease if you allowed her to be. She’d let things get to the point where sex would be the logical next step and then say ‘I think you should leave.’ This was PC (pre-chateau) in my life, so I wasn’t as equipped for getting past the shit test.
One night, I finally banged her at her place, and while we were laying there I smirked and said ‘I think you should leave.’
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Research indicates premarital counseling has a mildly positive effect on the self-reported happiness of couples. Even though I’m not aware of any rigorous study with random group assignment, I wouldn’t dismiss it out of hand.
Teasing is probably cheaper, though.
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Off-topic, but a good candidate for Beta of the Year (with a picture that will warm the cockles of your heart):
http://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2011/may/17/senator-questions-benefits-to-adult-baby/
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We will see Pterodactyl Guano, as that is what I ended up doing. I would like a firmer distinction between contempt and some of the more beta responses though. Sometimes disdain can feel similar to spite, especially when it is a reaction to something done to you.
Some of these types of responses seem to work only if a fairly good connection has been made, and I don’t think I had done that. (no fucking yet)
Nevertheless, I will get a progress report tonight. Distracted indifferent teasing is the order of the day!
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If a woman cannot be teased then she is not worth being with.
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@ Half Canadian
Here you go, eh.
http://roissy.wordpress.com/2009/10/23/why-do-some-men-bang-below-their-level/
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Teasing is dynamite, especialy in the first ten minutes of the pick-up when you have to show you don’t mind pissing her off. But it’s not a “neg”. Teases aren’t about pulling a high value girl down to your level, they are about looking down from Mount Olympus at the bratty little kid sister who you like but don’t take seriously.
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Teasing….???? What’s dat?hee! hee! :)))
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Hi babe, you know, this morning when I woke up with you, you were so serene and beautiful, almost placid, but absolutely gorgeous. I looked across at you, my thoughts about you were coming from that place where poetry is born, and the first thought that gave precious flight from that still lake of my mind was….”you’re right, you have eyes like a duck”….
This is a text I wrote to my ltr this morning. The long running joke I have with her is “you have duck brown eyes”… We bantered last night and she said “I have eyes like a duck”?… And so forth.
Apparently, from her reply this morning I’m very much loved.
I do this all the time.
It’s tested and works.
It’s the truth.
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@modernguy: “If women were subconsciously so interested in passing on their genes, why do they so often give their sons bad advice?”
Keep in mind that every person, male or female, has two personalities that live in their head. Most of what you consider to be “you” lives in the left hemisphere. There is a nearly entirely separate person living in the right hemisphere.
There are some really fascinating split brain experiments that demonstrate this duality. I’ll link you a few if you’re interested. This other person has no power of speech, and is generally rather child-like and emotion-driven – but it’s also a great source of inspiration.
Anyway, the things you say are being said by your rational left-brain. When women speak, whether they’re giving advice to their sons or telling you what they want in a man, it’s that rational left-brain speaking …rationally.
Unfortunately, when it comes to sexual attraction, the other parts of the brain overwhelm that rational side. When a mother gives advice to her son, she isn’t even lying. She just isn’t conscious of the truth. So the advice she’s giving is only useful for ingratiating yourself with that one part of the brain – which is a bit like having an in with the bartender. It’s useful once you’re in the bar, but it’s worthless for getting you in the door.
Some women, and most men, are at least peripherally aware of their dual nature, and therefore they are able to speak the truth in such matters. Women are really inhibited in recognizing this truth because our culture constantly reinforces the idea that Women are Wonderful ™. Women (and many men) have totally bought into this meme, and they just can’t bring themselves to believe that they are anything other than purely rational. So when they go for jerks over and over again, even though they keep telling everyone that they like nice men, it’s a complete mystery to them.
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again, im new to game and this blog. im no expert but i want to share somethign that came out of me a few years ago.
i was dating this very hot chick who had recently broke up whith her long time boyfriend. she was comparing me all the time to him and i got really pissed. being the omega that i was at the time i channeled all my anger towards humour so i would not scare her.
my teasing got kind of rude …
SHE: my ex knew how to treat a lady
ME: yeah , sure… thats why he is working now in the beauty salon, wearign pink clothes and make up.
(FRIENDLY PUNCH IN THE ARM)
SHE: so why you decided to ask me out ?
ME: out of my female friends you are the least annoying..
SHE: (SMILES)
ME: dont make me change my mind …
needless to say i got to bed her that night.
by next week i was my old omega self and she dumped me two weeks later.
my teasing was too harsh and not very subtle, but it did got me laid back in 2000.
nice post roissy. thanks
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my boyfriend teases me all the time. come to think of it he should write a post for this site on how to do it right. he teases about silly things and usually punctuates them with a spanking.
when he teases a lot i tell him he’s like a schoolboy on a playground pulling the girls’s hair cause that’s how little boys show which girls they like. so i tease him right back.
He’s perfect: he teases/negs and is dominant, but at the same time does the gentlemanly stuff like holding the door open, car door, pulling out my chair at dinner, etc…. all the while being sincere about it. i love it. and yes he is killer in bed. every girls dream 🙂
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Also, IMO, if you want to be more witty, practice on everyone. Then the stakes are not so high for you.
For example, when I took my son to visit his grandmother.
“why is your son wearing the hood on his jacket inside”?
Me: “it’s because he’s a Jedi”
Son: (cheeky way grandmothers love) “that’s right grandma, I am”
Grandma: “I don’t care if you are a Jedi, you should take it off”
Me: ” do you always repress religious minorities mum?”
Then we took it off etc.
I just think first you need to be a holistically witty person, not just for women .
It has to be who you are.
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no use trying to memorize examples of what good teasing is. either you’ve got it or you don’t.
yeah i think bratty little sister is about right, or as i tell him, i must be a retarded second grader.
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And in breaking news
Alleged Alpha male fathers feminized beta son
http://iheadlines.info/news/arnie-dumps-the-son-of-his-famous-surname/
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Oh yeah, I love to tease. I tease everyone. My clients, friends, parents, siblings, and *especially* the girls in my sexual gravity fiend.
Once upon a time, I had imbibed some SWPL new-age kool-aid, and gave up all forms of teasing and sarcasm, as I believed them to be “spiritually inferior forms of communication.” During that time period, although I did get with a very sexy woman, I pedestalized her (failed to tease enough).
Today, after repeated Crimson-pill charisma lessons, I’ve learned to successfully integrate teasing without much sarcasm. Sarcasm can come off as bitter, and I find that if I come in with sarcams, a woman will double down on the sarcasm, and I find sarcastic women to be a major turnoff. So I do nothing to give her the green light on the sarcasm.
With playful, light teasing, it’s super easy to maintain the laconic, aloof frame, and it’s virtually butt-hurt proof. I’ve only created butthurtedness in my main squeeze exactly *once.* And I did not apologize, but just teased her a bit about being to sensitive, because after all, she knew I was joking. Then I knew where my calibration level was, how much I could push the teasing & still generate tingles.
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what happened to onestdv???? he deleted his planking post from yesterday–posted “bye i quit” and that’s it? does anyone know?
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Disgusting wife, disgusting mistress..what are you doing, Ahnold??
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Eric: you completely missed the point.
With all the smirking going on here, don’t you guys ever get afraid that your face might freeze that way? I think pretty soon we must start seeing car accident victims not with a look of abject terror frozen on their faces at the moment of death, but the moronic smirk of a budding pua trying to maintain “amused mastery” for his girlfriend.
[Editor: Everything in moderation… except love. The problem with betas is that they don’t smirk enough, so if they overdo it it’s still an improvement in their demeanor.]
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Teasing is something I really want to master, and is one of my greatest sticking points. Are there any good sources of information on how to be a good tease? I am looking for the encyclopedia of teasing, a 500pg phd thesis on the ins and outs of how to be the best tease ever. I don’t want one offs/tricks and tips. There must be a pua book written on this subject solely…somewhere…..anyone?
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Alec Baldwin punches him: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hjmvsc22OFw
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God I hate you.
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Here’s a question for the experts. I made a mistake last night and called a girl by the wrong name (her name was Katie, I called her Kelly). She noticed of course and gave me a little grief about it. I wasn’t gonna apologize, so I just ignored it and about 30 seconds later called her Amanda (picked a name that sounded nothing like hers). I walked away with her number, so it worked out in the end. Was that the proper way to handle a situation like that, or was there something better I could have done?
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@Marzim
That’s perfect. I would have stayed w/ names like hers. I once did the same w/ “ashley,” calling her amanda, annabell, and then closed by rolling my eyes and saying “whatever!.” She loved it. A good alternate might be.. give her a long serious/joking look and then say, “I don’t care what your name is” like that is a ridiculous concept. Then push her away. She’ll laugh.
My current GF was staying over. I gave her a toothbrush at one point… she asked about it the next time:
Her: is that toothbrush around?
Me: yeah.. medicine cabinet… its on top of all the other girls toothbrushes. : )
Her: (laughing)
Me: uhh, I think its on top??! Maybe its in the middle?! (Mock alarm)
Her: (laughing)
In a long line at coffe place.
Me: are YOU the reason this line is taking so long? (Playful smile)
…that one isn’t even funny, but that doesn’t matter… she got that I was teasing and hooked.
And there’s some good structure…accusations are good basic teases.
More structure: serious words mock-serious expression makes for a good/obvious tease. This is multi-channel communication where your words say one thing, and your expression says another. Throw in a gentle/mellow kino, youre communicating on three channels. (Some credit there to Mehow and Bander/Garinder). That’s how get away w/ sounding harsh in the words, everything else is charming… and she gets it.
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Mazrim: recently I was at a party and a girl kept coming up to me. I kept forgetting her name. Third time this happens she gets a big scowl plastered across her face. I respond “you look upset” *pause, lean in, smirk* “I don’t care”. For a split-second she looked like the happiest girl in the world.
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Teasing
Yeah
But there is always the problem of sorting out cause/vs/effect. I mean, it is SO MUCH easier to ruthlessly tease a woman you do not really crave being with. Which adds to her attraction to you – the kind she feels most strongly when your uncaring is most sincere.
When she is a hottie that you have feelings for… yes, do it because it is the right thing to do. It might work.
Ah, but there is always Financial Chick as the need to fuck now fall-back-option. She can always be counted on to get the job done. I think she is related to Schultz-Khan- the head of the IMF – who by all accounts will fuck anything at any time of the day or night, in season or out, begging or crying.
IOWs, on a normal day, a monster banker like him routine fucks thousands/millions of helpless little people. And then goes to a 1500 dollar lunch to gain the strength he needs to do the same to another round of clients in the afternoon.
I think I am growing in love with Financial Chick. We both are adrenaline junkies who never need to think about what things cost. Which can be like standing a relaxing, cooling rain. Or not. But she did blow me in a well lit part of our favorite local bar.
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@Bohemian
“I just think first you need to be a holistically witty person, not just for women .
It has to be who you are.”
This is a good point. If there are books on teasing they are a waste of money. Teasing comes from a particular mindset of “everything is a joke to me” or similar. That fun, devil-may-care attitude is what is attractive, not the actual words. I find the best way to be in that mindset is to talk to a girl like she’s your little sister.
On DHVs… I’m no expert but a good starting point is to write out/think up particular instances in your life that would be natural for you to bring up in an initial conversation. Stories of travel, crazy ex girl-friends, etc. Then tailor those stories to SUBTLY highlight your strengths. Lie if you have to. Bonus points if they are funny.
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Is this what goes on at The Chateau?
“Zee Persoooit of Pleeezhooor”
http://www.videodetective.com/movies/trailers/deadly-sanctuary-trailer/2650
(NSFW)
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[Editor: Roleplay and teasing is a killer combo, but it requires a creative, situationally intelligent mind. DHVing is overemphasized by the game community, imo. But I wouldn’t neglect it. Proper DHVing is also a fine art, and you have to be careful to avoid crossing the braggadocio line. DHVs should be slipped into convos as an afterthought.]
No need to be careful with Mutual Plausible Deniability.
How to overtly DHV without overtly DHVing
Roleplay as the super-cocky asshole. Flash a crooked smile while you brag shamelessly. Make it a shit-eating grin every time you manage to effortlessly tease across her alleged line. Dismiss all those playful attempts to dethrone your ego. When she tries to flip the script by leading you into obvious absurdity, assume a position of faux-humility and make fun of her ridiculous suggestion.
Never speak what you both know. Subconsciously, she’s thinking:
a) He can actually pull off being an asshole quite well; and without fear of rejection or repercussions, so he’s not just a bitter, cowardly wannabe…
b) But he’s also mocking the guys who are legitimate assholes — the guys I typically tingle for — with amusement, as if he’s above them…
c) I’m superficially getting all the excitement and ego-management I crave from jerks, yet possibly without the inevitable negative aspects, which require so much tedious rationalization…
d) Brain: Uh oh.
Vagina: Send that arrogant smooth-talker my way.
B: Hasn’t ended well in the past…
V: Just do it, bitch. Now.
B: Can’t you at least pretend to persuade me? I’ve got a self-image to protect here, and we’re both gonna need it one day so that I won’t give off slut-tells. I’ve actually been reading some stuff by Robert Trivers lately about the function behind —
V: Alriiiiight, all right. Geez. OK, here: can you just try focusing on the possibility that this is the one special exception, then, instead of, well, the high probability that this is, like every time in the past, just a case of me recklessly getting us into some shit and asking your hamster to bail me out?
B: Is that sarcasm?
V: Oh, right. See? Nothing to worry about. Do your thing.
B: So you promise this is safe?
V: No.
B (greasing enormous wheel): Ugh. I swear, this is the last time. I’m not covering for you anymore after this, dammit.
V: Shut up. Nomnomnom!
Except (d) won’t actually happen.
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“ME: Don’t worry. If I got famous I wouldn’t drop you like a hot potato.
HER: Gee, thanks. That’s so sweet.
ME: I’d wait a couple months.
HER: Jerk! *playful punch*”
HER: Thanks for letting me know. I think I won’t feel guilty when I leave you for a man who earn 5k/year more than you…
*kidding*
=)~
That’s so horrible! Don’t say that to your girls!! *playful punch*
[Editor:
HER: Thanks for letting me know. I think I won’t feel guilty when I leave you for a man who earn 5k/year more than you…
ME: He’ll have to to pay for your food bill.
oh, snap!]
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Roissy, can you explain how an alpha would handle a pimp? The other night, we were hanging out at my house. One guy, who is basically a latino pimp had his girlfriend over. She refused to do what he asked.
He let his angry get the best of him, and it was apparent that she did it to get my attention. So, he smacked her. A real pimp hit. My first inclination was to defend her. Instead, I stayed out of it.
So, what is the right way to deal with pimps?
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I think teasing is a DHV, because you’re saying by your actions “I have so much attention, so many options and so much confidence, I can afford to take a risk with you”.
Thats why this post is so true.
You’re communicating your higher value indirectly, in chick code.
That’s why they love it and respond to it.
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Nafissatou Diallo ? sounds like the name of some Primordial Goetic Demon.
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push/pull, basically
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Be careful with foreign chicks though right? Teasing is the one part of game that I do really well. A couple months ago two smoking hot Dutch interns came to work at my office, and I was meeting with them their first day fresh off the plane. It was a perfect setup and I was flirting a little bit and then started teasing and… nothing. Their English is conversational but as soon as you move to the second level of understanding it doesn’t work. I had a couple great lines greeted by a blank stare and a confused smile.
As I have really no other game I failed.
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what!! … I don’t like to be teased .. hahaha >.<
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@BillWallace
“”It was a perfect setup and I was flirting a little bit and then started teasing and… nothing. Their English is conversational but as soon as you move to the second level of understanding it doesn’t work. I had a couple great lines greeted by a blank stare and a confused smile. “”
Living in Asia, I’ve come to understand that context is everything.
Much of the reaction to teasing by Chinese girls in particular but also Korean and Japanese girls and their response to game has to do with context and social setting.
In an office, you have to be careful. In a coffee shop or buffet or cocktail mixer, if I’m standing behind some smoking hot babe I’ll sidle up and say “Save some for me….”
But if there isn’t enough time or the scene isn’t right, I’ve found that teasing can often lead to a confused reaction which is good as well.
But the point is by teasing or negging you have to communicate that you are flirting. So a smirk, confident stance, eye contact and overall alpha body language are vital with Asian/Chinese girls.
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About Arnold.
“Actors are NOT the characters they portray.”
Repeat a hundred times. I’ve known several, well, and partied with dozens, most are complete idiots who have a knack, that’s all.
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Eric.. please post those left/right brain test links, sounds interesting.
Pen… ‘..do you have a license to operate this piece of machinery?’… of course with a doubtful smirk.. also good when she’s struggling to figure something out, a phone, peeling a stamp or putting your rubber on.
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Off Topic:
Why would a a lawyer “represent” a woman who just had trysts with a celebrity?
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Firepower: you’re probably an aspy. You can’t comprehend the possibility that you MIGHT NOT BE DOESING IT RITE.
The dumbest girls are the most open to teasing. It seems to catch them off guard.
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“About Arnold.
“Actors are NOT the characters they portray.”
Repeat a hundred times. I’ve known several, well, and partied with dozens, most are complete idiots who have a knack, that’s all.’
I’m not so sure Arnold acts, he pretty much just plays “Arnold” in every movie…. that’s part of his charm.
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@NYCBachelor
See all his early political speechs, check motions, body movement, gestures, it’s pure Reagan.
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Never forget that women have their sense-of-humour removed at birth, and that what you say to them (and which you think witty and funny), frequently offends them. They can’t laugh at themselves and do not have the ability to step outside themselves to view themselves from a distance.
ME: (to a woman who thought highly of her intelligence but was not really – by a man’s standards, bright – and who I wanted to bring down a peg or two). “Some people think that I should like you for your intelligence” [meaningful pause] ” but I have got to tell you, I am not THAT shallow”. Was she angry!!!! No sense of humour – no comeback.
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Xsplat,
http://www.partnersinrhyme.com/soundfx/human_sounds/human_yawn1_wav.shtml
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Opus: You’re really stupid. What ever play you got by being a jerk who really didn’t in all honesty think much of her you lost by being an aspie.
Well, to my relief, it turns out that the dumber of you really can’t put this advice to use after all.
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“The Caligula Effect” in Time Magazine:
http://healthland.time.com/2011/05/17/the-caligula-effect-why-powerful-men-compulsively-cheat/
“Strauss-Kahn’s Womanizing” in Time as well:
http://www.time.com/time/world/article/0,8599,2072209,00.html
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@HollowedMan
Body language and eye contact. Attention has value so use it sparingly.
If she’s doing or saying what you want then give her more direct body language, like start mirroring her or turn slightly more towards her. Or look her more in the eye as though you’re interested, not like an an angry creepy stare but just like a skeptical playful interest with a lopsided grin.
If she does or says something you don’t want then turn slightly away, lean backwards a tad, look away at someone more interesting, or something like that. Just act distracted and she’ll pick up on it quickly.
Use very subtle non-verbal cues as carrots and sticks to direct conversations. Personally I enjoy randomly mirroring people just to see how they react. Give it a shot 20 or 30 times in everyday situations and pay attention to what happens.
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“Caligula effect”. Talk about an unnecessary and pedantic expression to describe the obvious
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i’m a big tease. it is the easiest way to establish instant rapport with women. it brings you in to their “comfort zone”. i recently went on a second date to Rockfest in KC. met all her friends and became cool with them since i’m new to the area.. i just moved here last week. her male friends invited me to go to the mosh pit during papa roach. i’m 43 and an officer in the army. i think they thought i would pass. nope. i have a rule. build creds with the guys in a group if you want sure access to the chicks in the group. so i went. after one hour, my friends started bailing left and right. i ended up fighting my way out of the crowd and walking back up the hill towards the ladies we left behind. i was the first warrior to return. no shirt. covered in sweat. muscles ripped and swollen from the battle and a wound on my nose from some crowd surfers boot hitting me in the face. i’m very muscular, athletic and fit. as i walked up the hill, all eyes were on me. i came up to my date and i could tell her tingle was on max. a strange girl in the group came up to me and pinched my nip. we shooed her away and then when of her friends comes up to talk to me.. eyes and smile both very big. no reactions from the women until i went caveman.
that night i had sex with my date. the next day i asked her what made her decide to open her gateway. she hemmed and hawwed with “i don’t know” “comfort zone” i don’t usually….” blah blah blah but nothing specific. i asked again later and said i wanted the specific event that flipped her switch. she said “this is embarrassing but it was when you walked up the hill from the mosh pit with your shirt off and you were all hot and sweaty. i took one look at you and knew i was going to have sex with you that night”.
teasing is a great rapport builder but big muscles drop panties guys.
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“Repeat a hundred times. I’ve known several, well, and partied with dozens, most are complete idiots who have a knack, that’s all.”
They usually look better than what I see standing in line at my drivers license renewals too.
The comedians and writers are the only brains in Hollywood.
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Opus – you are correct about their sense of humour being removed at birth. I recall identical twin sisters that I knew – both knockouts. I told the one, ‘you know how I can tell you apart from your sister? She’s the better looking one’. She didn’t get it.
I mean, they’re both identical and both 9’s,……duh.
You have to be extra careful with this shyt, and with DHV if you already are of higher value, DHV is does not work. I don’t use DHV unless on really hot chicks.
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All this talk, including from the Editor, about butthurtness, varies from how I understood it. I thought you meant that the guy was betraying that he was butthurt with bitterness, rather than that he was teasing and making fun.
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Apparently the feminist-controlled United Nations just raised the definition of “child” to 17:
http://www.inmalafide.com/blog/2011/05/19/the-oregon-senate-bill-requiring-computer-technicians-to-report-child-pornography-will-cause-unnecessary-suffering/
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Schmoe,
You’re projecting. The post was clearly about creating butthurt in your girl. Maybe you need to examine your own butthurtedness.
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GBFM FTW!
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Good to see you gave up on the acid-reflux – and wetting yourself.
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Fuck vaginas. Then dump all these worthless sluts. Being “alpha” ain’t about being top dog anymore. Just pumping and dumping your way through legions of worthless humans. HOORAY!
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Pick up never made complete sense to me until I was told that the first 10 minutes is all about teasing/banter. Then all of it finally clicked.
When you find a cute girl who knows how to banter, it’s incredibly hot. Sadly, this is a rare event.
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At first, I was worried that someone with your aspy-like moniker…and like, psychodelic-groovy website, man…could consider My Most Arrogant Masculine Majesty’s opinion “aspy”
but, then again
YOU (obviously) see EVERYthing thru aspy-colored glasses.
No.
It is “not” that entitled intellectual she-bitches, nor their counterpart, the hot, big-titted, slut-dressing skanks of The Fuckable Variety are so much different in regards to Man-Teasing.
It IS
however
ALL modern types of femme
are entitled princess
who take themselves
WAY TOO SERIOUSLY.
foad now
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It’s not so much a rare event as it is an event that can quickly degrade as you escalate the banter.
For, girls have been “Oprah-ized” by her kind to see EVERY remark as “dissin'” or, even symbolic rape.
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Could someone translate ASPIRANT’s insult aimed at me into the language that I know as English?
… and Thanks Dj. We are obviously on the same page.
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@chi-town
“The comedians and writers are the only brains in Hollywood.”
NO. I used to work in Hollyweird, the only brains and creativity in Hollyweird is the accountants, lawyers and finance guys, everyone else either just has a knack or is very clever.
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“are” not is
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Generally, I like to tease as push-pull-push
e.g.
Her: In Estonia we love ice skating
Me: Ice skaters are weird. I love the historic old buildings there. But the girls are all fat babooshkas
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I DARE ya to say that to a Hungarian girl. They’ll hump you to death.
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Firepower:
Check this link out. I think you’ll find it interesting.
http://www.metro.co.uk/news/863626-starbucks-sued-for-firing-dwarf-from-barista-job
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I am slowly coming around to agreeing that keeping ‘the spark’ alive is beneficial to a healthy, stable relationship.
But do women today really deserve this? What, are guys supposed to be the providers, protectors etc and also keep their hamster in check?
How about doing an end run around the whole concept and start having women appreciate men for who they are, regardless of whether said men keep the gina tingling?
Have women ginatingle because they have been slowly conditioned to accept the way things are.
And yes, I know this goes against all evidence of hypergamy and ‘the modern women’, but how has that worked out for men so far? (50% divorce rate, excessive pedestalization, infidelity epidemic).
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I would love to see the MRM move into the next level, with blogdebates.
It is one thing to take one’s time, reflect on a position, do research etc.
It is another thing entirely to know one’s shit in a dynamic debate setting.
Could you just imagine the ensuing hilarity should GBFM and Firepower square off?
One for the ages, IMO.
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[…] Nonetheless, there are some jewels to be flung toward your gal. Roissy has dropped some goodness lately in the form of a tweet (“What if game was just called charisma?”) and a post on teasing. […]
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>>How about doing an end run around the whole concept and start having women appreciate men for who they are, regardless of whether said men keep the gina tingling?
I’m all for using rocks and twigs as currency.
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> tjuan
split brain experiments
this is a lecture about it that covers one of the points I made – the left side of the brain is emotional and the right side is rational.
We all have this dual nature, and it affects each of us to different degrees. I first became interested in it after reading the book, The Emperor’s New Mind by Roger Penrose. It’s a book about AI, but he goes into issues of the mind in some detail.
>beta_plus: When you find a cute girl who knows how to banter, it’s incredibly hot.
I agree.
And to tie this into my favorite subject, humor in general is a sign not just of intelligence, but of a very particular and very useful kind of intelligence. People who are funny tend to have a lot more white matter – the connective tissue in the brain. They’re able to very quickly flip through possible alternate meanings in any situation. And that’s the most common structure of a joke – you’re told a story for which there is an obvious meaning, and then a different meaning is eluded to.
The selective advantage that this capability gave our ancestors should be obvious. You see something, and the obvious meaning is that it’s a branch or a clump of grass. But this other part of your brain is constantly searching for alternate meanings – and it sees that it’s really a snake or a leopard or whatever. You see see a rock, and this other part of your brain realizes it could be a tool.
We find that kind of intelligence attractive because among our ancestors, those who found it attractive and had babies with people like that left more and healthier offspring.
So yes, it’s incredibly hot.
BTW, white matter also makes you (or that hot girl) a better liar.
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thanks eric, interesting how he was able to recall it as an object, but not as a word…
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