Ryan explains the silent conversation that goes on between a women’s vagina and brain when she listens to a man insinuate his higher value:
How to overtly DHV without overtly DHVing:
Roleplay as the super-cocky asshole. Flash a crooked smile while you brag shamelessly. Make it a shit-eating grin every time you manage to effortlessly tease across her alleged line. Dismiss all those playful attempts to dethrone your ego. When she tries to flip the script by leading you into obvious absurdity, assume a position of faux-humility and make fun of her ridiculous suggestion.
Never speak what you both know. Subconsciously, she’s thinking:
a) He can actually pull off being an asshole quite well; and without fear of rejection or repercussions, so he’s not just a bitter, cowardly wannabe…
b) But he’s also mocking the guys who are legitimate assholes — the guys I typically tingle for — with amusement, as if he’s above them…
c) I’m superficially getting all the excitement and ego-management I crave from jerks, yet possibly without the inevitable negative aspects, which require so much tedious rationalization…
d) Brain: Uh oh.
Vagina: Send that arrogant smooth-talker my way.
B: Hasn’t ended well in the past…
V: Just do it, bitch. Now.
B: Can’t you at least pretend to persuade me? I’ve got a self-image to protect here, and we’re both gonna need it one day so that I won’t give off slut-tells. I’ve actually been reading some stuff by Robert Trivers lately about the function behind —
V: Alriiiiight, all right. Geez. OK, here: can you just try focusing on the possibility that this is the one special exception, then, instead of, well, the high probability that this is, like every time in the past, just a case of me recklessly getting us into some shit and asking your hamster to bail me out?
B: Is that sarcasm?
V: Oh, right. See? Nothing to worry about. Do your thing.
B: So you promise this is safe?
V: No.
B: (greasing enormous wheel): Ugh. I swear, this is the last time. I’m not covering for you anymore after this, dammit.
V: Shut up. Nomnomnom!Except (d) won’t actually happen.
Runner-up is a comment by ‘From the can’ (great nick, btw), who discusses omega male game:
Counterpoint: dude is running Jabba game. He eats what the fuck he wants and drinks his fucking juice from a baby bottle. Juice? No, blue label. Girlfriend? No, human beanbag chair. I’ll bet she’s comfortable as fuck, AND gives back rubs. Also, this bastard gets his money from the populace: regal. What this picture is hiding is the smoking hot princess on a chain. Totes jelotes of this pimp.
Totes means “totally”. Not sure what jelotes means.
sounds like it means ‘jealous’
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jelotes = jealous.
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Yeah, drinking from a bottle while riding the riptide of body fat of a beached whale is my dream.
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“”Roleplay as the super-cocky asshole. Flash a crooked smile while you brag shamelessly. Make it a shit-eating grin every time you manage to effortlessly tease across her alleged line.””
This is the key to game.
Too many newbies have the idea that it’s the destination not the journey.
But game is the map, not the territory.
Inner game is vital to making the approach. If you don’t care about the reaction, you will never be disappointed but you will be conscious of the signs of attraction: IOI’s.
I’ve been gaming a few girls in my social circle since I started seeing my girl.
The two that come to mind seem to delight in feeding me “straight lines” that I knock out of the park by giving some cocky-funny/asshole remark.
Example:
Girl I’m gaming: That girl looks like ‘your girl’.
Me: Didn’t notice
Her; That one. KEEPS PLAYING ALONG WAITING TO SEE SURPRISE RESPONSE
Me: They’re ALL my girls, you can be too, if you play it right
Her; BIG SMILE.
The fact I’m with someone doesn’t seem to deter her from continuing this role-play which puts me as the mock asshole and her as the target.
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Who is Heartiste? I just noticed that all posts are now by Heartiste. Did I miss something?
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Adult life (like over 7) must just be too hard.
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The Jabba game comment got a chuckle from me.
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Heartiste?
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Heartiste: (n) Bastard combination of ‘heart’ and ‘artiste’, itself an affected variant of the word ‘artist’. See: Pretentious twit
Seriously, bring back Roissy, at least stick with Chateau.
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[Rage Warning]
Check out this: http://evebitfirst.wordpress.com/2011/05/18/a-man-is-a-rape-supporter-if/
You were warned.
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“A man is a rape-supporter if…”
[…]
“*He has gone to a strip club.
*He is anti-abortion.”
What is this I don’t even. I should stop reading right now, but I guess I’ll never know better…
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Dijo sin hablando – Told without speaking.
Communicate with your behavior. Never overtly TELL a woman anything. Allow her to come to the conclusions you intend. Her imagination is the best tool in your psychological toolbox. Learn how to use it.
This is the single greatest failing of average frustrated chumps: they vomit out everything about themselves, divulging the full truth of themselves to women in the mistaken belief that women desire that truth as a basis for qualifying for their intimacy. Learn this now: Women NEVER want full disclosure.
Nothing is more self-satisfying for a woman than to think she’s figured a Man out based solely on her mythical feminine intuition (i.e. imagination). When you blurt out your ‘feelings’, regardless of the context or the nobility of your intent, all you do is deny her this satisfaction. And like an easily distracted child she discards you for another, more entertaining toy, that holds some kind of mystery or puzzle for her figure out.
Always remember, women care less about the content of what’s being communicated and more about the context (the how) of what’s being communicated. You bought the lie that good communication is the key to a good relationship with out considering how you communicate. Women are naturally solipsistic. Your ‘feelings’ aren’t important to her until you make them important to her.
I realize it seems counterintuitive to deliberately withhold information that you think would solve whatever problem you have. Every touchy-feely therapist will tell you to open up and express yourself, but all that leads to is negotiation of desire. You cannot ‘tell’ women anything, they must be led to your conclusion and be made to think that they are the ones coming to it on their own.
Dijo sin hablando – Told without speaking.
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Meh. Bitter, frothing misandry of that sort is the sole purview of women who have either aged out of sexual relevance and are bitter about it, or women who never had any sexual relevance to begin with. No rational person actually believes that ‘watching porn in which a women is present’ is tantamount to rape; even to suggest such a thing reveals deep-seated emotional instability. Their misery and loneliness has warped their minds. It’s pitiable, but should not be taken seriously.
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J
Phase one: engage the ideas seriously on an intellectual and emotional level.
Phase two: realize that it is pointless to engage on either level.
Phase three: lose interest in engaging on either level.
Once you reach phase three, there is no feeling left at all for feminists. Not anger, nor pity. Nothing. It’s as if they were the wind or rain outside your window. Just a passing noise, barely interesting, nothing of consequence.
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xsplat – you’re more zen than me. I can’t help but pity them, somewhat. The sort of seething hatred can’t come from anywhere but pain, a lifetime of loneliness and unrequited love. Women weren’t made to be lonely; it destroys them. It’s very sad to witness.
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1. Give feminists what they ask for.
2. They’re still not happy…
3. ???
4. Profit!!!
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Rollo Tomassi again nails it…
“”Learn this now: Women NEVER want full disclosure.””
They say they do…and there is a time to open up…but that time is when they aren’t expecting or demanding it.
A sidebar on surprises and how women think…this is Facebook game.
A cute Korean translator I met a few weeks ago found me on Facebook and added me.
I wrote: “Haseo”— KOrean for hi
Her: “….oh you wanted to say hello? ”
Me: “…you’re the translator…”
Immediately this seems to spark her curiousity. The clearly flirty frame she’s trying to elicit is turned back on her. It’s a subtle neg that says “you figure it out….”
AFC would be blurting out all sorts of “Hi how are you…great seeing you a few weeks back, nice that you found me…”
Blah…Learn this now: Women NEVER want full disclosure.
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@RandomUser
RAGGGGEE!!!
Seriously, that blogger must have some serious issues if she characterizes men like that.
And they wonder why we men don’t like feminists?
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@Anonymous
So true, feminists are never happy no matter what the case. Thats why nobody likes them except other self hating feminists.
Roissy, you should cover the feminist whose son got accused of false rape and now she completely changed her views regarding that issue.
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> a man is a rape supporter if…
> …He defends the current legal definition of rape and/or opposes making consent a defense.
In other words, someone supports the rape culture if they deny that her differing definition of rape is correct? This is circular logic; she sets up her definition as rape as axiomatic, then casts aspersion on anyone who questions the supposed axiom.
The sexual market has always been full of aggressive males and receptive females. Lowering the forcefulness of male advances was fine and dandy as civilization progressed, however, there’s a point where it goes beyond what women even want. Feminism has already created “nice guys” who now finish last, because it has gone beyond what the majority of WOMEN (not men) want to see in a desirable male.
So, this expansion of the definition of rape is going to give women even less “good men”. Enjoy.
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A man is a rape-supporter if…
This:
He has ever sexually engaged with any woman while she was underage, drunk, high, physically restrained, unconscious, or subjected to psychological, physical, economic, or emotional coercion.
Girls have had sex with me while I was drunk, high, passed out and subjected to emotional coercion too. Guess that means those girls condone rape too, huh?
And This:
He is anti-abortion.
He is pro-”choice” because he believes abortion access will make women more sexually available.
Catch 22 anyone? Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. Might as well don’t and enjoy your life
some of these are just ridiculous and tantamount to me saying things like “A woman is a whore if she reads magazines that state on the cover how to teach women to be better in bed.”
that whole post is just absurd. one of my pet peeves is when people take things to their logical extremes because that’s not where reality lies. Sure feminists, make modern men nice guys who can’t get laid because women don’t respect them anymore and then demonize our only remaining outlets left for our sexual repression by saying that they’re tantamount to raping a woman or at least supporting it? Sorry, when I watch porn I’m not thinking about how much I condone rape. I’m thinking about blowing(heh) off a little steam.
I’ll bet she’s NEVER had a strong, alpha man to put her in her place, give her the best sex of her life and make her putty in his hands. A lifetime of missing out on that kind of surrender to someone that you can wholeheartedly trust must obviously take its toll..
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@Rollo Tomasi,
Yep, it works. I was pissed off at work and took a break where two chicks were talking. I walked in there and both girls asked me:
“Omg, are you ok?”
“What’s wrong?”
I didn’t say shit, I just put my hand on my forehead and leaned back like their presence didn’t mean anything to me. The conversation they were having BEFORE I walked in evaporated and was focused solely on me.
Another example:
One girl I’m friends with – I ended up texting her an argument which I was just fucking around with. Was acting like I was mad at her when I was honestly laughing my ass off to the false drama I put on her end. Now she’s taking me out for drinks just to ‘make up’ for the argument. I’m such a manipulative asshole and I plan to use my ‘deadpan’ emotions to mess with girl’s heads more. All in the spirit of taking advantage of them. It’s not my fault – the girl figures I’m [A] when I’m actually [Z]. So her imagination is messing her up.
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so basically that chick who wrote the rape supporter post believes that men having regular sex with women is not healthy and that does not exist here (though it clearly does), since she clearly listed a few things that aren’t gender-specific (Having sex with a man who’s drunk, high, etc.). I also noticed in her comments she uses the phrase “The concepts of masculinity and femininity” which I find laughable because the poster -as do all feminists- clearly neglect the biological differences in men and women caused by the difference in hormone levels in the two genders.
Just more feminine bullshit trying to make men feel guilty about being men. Thanks, but as long as women love grinning, smirking, showboating alphas who drink, fuck and enjoy manly things like cars, tools and sports, then I’ll keep being one.
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sorry, that first sentence should read “is not healthy and a double standard does not exist here”
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Here’s a relevant story about roleplaying game. I had good game in the first or two of my current thing, and then I allowed myself through laziness and reversion to bad habits to get beta-ized. One night my GF was giving me heck, and I don’t know, but I switched into another character, someone I had been writing about. I decided to BE that guy.
So I switched accents and started be cocky funny as hell … she started cockblocking but demonstrating interest. Damn, I was in the zone, everything had an answer. I just looked straight at her and reframed everything she said, as if I was in complete control. I have never seen her as delighted — all her shit tests were blown away in a few minutes and her clothes came off. (I’d been butting up against the bitch shield all night.)
Not only did I fuck my own GF as him (yes, she said his name), but she ASKED for this character in bed months later.
I don’t know what to think … part of it scares the crap out of me, and part of me thinks I need to just be the same without the accent. But I’m not that guy. I can be that guy, but sheesh, it was a real effort …
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“A man is a rape-supporter if…”
Shorter EveBitFirst
A man is a rape-supporter if…
* He has a penis.
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Could have save some bandwidth, Eve.
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Well said, xsplat and jc.
Feminists are past even pity. They have twisted or eradicated everything to sympathize with. They are an alien creature, denatured from all recognizable female traits — not by accident but by will. There is simple death in their eyes. Fat, humorless, aged, manly — not a thing to work with, not the smallest hook on which to hang a hope.
Worst of all, as they age they get uglier, more invested in the lie, less conscious of the need to adjust for their mistakes. And as those mistakes pile up, the litany of male crimes gets ever longer, less logical, more comprehensive. A list like evebitfirst’s is grotesque not because of its patent absurdity but because its authoress has froth-mouthingly rejected every tool that might help her recognize absurdity itself, tools like simple observation and rationality. Only men seem to have access to these tools, and she agrees! She’s happy to have abandoned our sexist world of reason and demonstration to attempt sheer Nietzschean assertion with nothing but an imitation of the manly force required to make such assertions operative.
Don’t pity. Annihilate the lie.
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Prostitution and human trafficking: Guess who doesn’t have a problem (hint: prostitution is legal there)
http://www.lasvegassun.com/news/2007/jan/29/do-we-have-a-human-trafficking-problem/
Incidentally, every time a big sports event comes to town, the HT activists get their panties in a wad claiming there will be 100000 underage prostitutes coming to town (one per fan, evidently).
http://blogs.dallasobserver.com/unfairpark/2011/01/anti-human_trafficking_meeting.php
After the event, there are never 100000 arrests to go with it somehow.
http://www.youthtoday.org/view_article.cfm?article_id=4635
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