X. Ignore her beauty
The man who trains his mind to subdue the reward centers of his brain when reflecting upon a beautiful female face will magically transform his interactions with women. His apprehension and self-consciousness will melt away, paving the path for more honest and self-possessed interactions with the objects of his desire. This is one reason why the greatest lotharios drown in more love than they can handle — through positive experiences with so many beautiful women they lose their awe of beauty and, in turn, their powerlessness under its spell. It will help you acquire the right frame of mind to stop using the words hot, cute, gorgeous, or beautiful to describe girls who turn you on. Instead, say to yourself “she’s interesting” or “she might be worth getting to know”. Never compliment a girl on her looks, especially not a girl you aren’t fucking. Turn off that part of your brain that wants to put them on pedestals. Further advanced training to reach this state of unawed Zen transcendence is to sleep with many MANY attractive women (try to avoid sleeping with a lot of ugly women if you don’t want to regress). Soon, a Jedi lover you will be.
The above is from the Sixteen Commandments of Poon. Readers have asked, not unreasonably, “Hey, I get it, being unperturbed by a woman’s beauty is rock solid inner game, but how am I supposed to do that?”
Good question! Unfortunately, the best answer is one that won’t help you when you need the help most. Only the accumulation of repeated beddings of beautiful women is guaranteed to instill in a man unflappable poise when in their company. Sexual experience with beautiful women strips them of their mystery and tempers their power to transfix.
This is not to say you will lose the ability to appreciate female beauty; only that a pretty face won’t be able to stupefy you into bumbling betaness anymore.
Fine, now how do you assume the right emotional state when you don’t yet have a wealth of experience handling beauties? As mentioned in the quoted passage above, refraining from the knee-jerk beta male reflex to loudly, or silently, declare this or that women to be hot, smokin’ hot, or fuckin’ insanely hot, start thinking and speaking of women in more subdued, less penilely loaded, terms; e.g., interesting, unique, endearingly comical.
This simple change of perception will help you immensely. You should even go out of your way to chide your beta buddies whenever they start yawping about some or another chick’s hotness. “Dude, chill on the compliments. She’s ok, nothing more.”
There is another technique that I have put to good use in helping me overlook a woman’s beauty. Whenever I’m approaching or talking to a hot babe, I reproduce this image in my head:

I remind myself that every woman has a penis head, aka cervix, pointing outwardly in her vagina to greet my own penis upon arrival. This visualization of hot women as storehouses for bulbous penis heads, by reducing them to their component biological parts, renders their beauty less fantastical, even a little silly. Imagine that cervical penis waiting to meet, glans-a-glans, your penis head in a romantic French kiss. A sword fight in the arena of her vagina.
I assure you, that if you plant this image in your head, you’ll never again be stunned into catatonia by a hot chick.

Gold.
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Hey heartiste!!
Do you not see you are talking about Homer?
In Homer’s Odyssey, Homer has his men tie himslef to the amst mast, and yet leave his ears free to enjoy the beuaty of the rsierens sirens. Hios men’s ears are all lplugged with wax.
So this GREAT BOOK FOR MEN teaches men that it is cool and manly to enjoy female beuaty beauty, but that one would be a fool to follow it into the rocks as so many salilors have done lzozozlz
Beavsuse the Federal Reserve and Ben BErnanke want men to follow women/Sirens into marrieage where uncle Ben’s divorce fiat cartel can asscock them onthe orcks of dicorvrce court, and becaus ethey wants manz to pay for strippers and porn and lose thei future dsvaings fundindg da prorrnr insdustery, they deocnstructed THE GRETA BOPOKS AND CLASSCS and teach menz to act like ada asscoking tucker max rhymes iwth goldman sax instaed of the noble ODysseus, Achilles, Scorates, and Aweaneas the pius Aeneas lzozlzlzzo
Isn’t it funny how da neoeocns define the da pinnacle of manhood as being da one who assocks girls and tapes it in secret without tehir conthent? lzozozzozo
why do feminists fund publish promote sodomite asscoking bullies who butthex girls and tape it in secrte without the girthls conthent?
why do pwoerful owmenzth at the weekly standard repeat asscockers lies and cast them as heroii heroes assocking zlzoozzozlzol?
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womenz conservative womenz like neocon charlotte allen learned educated conservaitve wome like charlotte allen see tucker max rhymes with goldamn sax the asscocker and secretive taper of asscocking and bully as a “six foot tall” (repetating the asscokers pr lies) “good looking” (to da aging dusty neocon ginas lzozozl) heroic sexual alpha lzozllzozo while charlotte allen and the neocon wekely standadddth ignores the true men dying on fiat wars on foreign shores zlzoozozoz as the RGETA BOOKS AND GRETA BOOKS FOR MEN ARE DEOCNSTUCTED DEBUAHCED DISMSISSED ETSORYED ON THE CMAPUESES HONRO BNOBLE GLROY DETSORRYEOED as they publish promote hype and tucker max rhymes with godl man asax lzozlzllzlzlzl
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I can’t understand a word of this comment?! Are you speaking a different language out are you spaming this blog?
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Great advice
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Some like ’em skinny, some like ’em round. Can’t tell the difference when you turn them upside down. (Credit to Dave Van Ronk)
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When they’re face down, butt up, with a mouthful of pillow, all asses look the same.
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obviously u have never driven firepwoer’s mom’s butt which has a bumper on itt which says WIDE LOAD lzozlzlozz not because it wnats u 2 blow a wide load which is hard its hard to get hard staring at firepower’s mom’s ass so it’s hard to blow a wide load let alone any load lzozozl but da wide load sign there is beacsue her ass is twenty seven feet widez zlozzzoz like if someone is sitting on the left cheek they could barelyhear somoene sittingz on da right cheek and it spememelss liek tuna tendayz old lzozlzoz
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All, too easy…
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Hahaha that picture. I already ignore their beauty. I’m based on the “Why women love men who play hard to get” post. Since that post encourages us to not talk to them first much. How do I show that I value them like “this post” and that is “normal beautyness and not hot”? DHVing, ignoring them etc. They may think it’s me being not aware of them being their.
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Agreed.
Some of the best lines were “endearingly comical” and “a sword fight in the arena of her vagina”. Hilarious.
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Gay.
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Seriously. He could have used a better visual than dueling pork swords. Mashing penis heads as motivator?
And then he gave us the literal visual.
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Yessir, you have to “humanize” these women and stop your brain from thinking they are somehow superhuman. Remember, they take messy shits too. They act like total cunts to their friends. Some have ugly, deformed labia. Some of them have hairy assholes. Some of them have big, weird, stretched out nipples. Some of them have godawful breath in the morning. Some of them are so fake that when you see them in the morning with no makeup you won’t recognize her.
Think of any of these things while you are talking to her. After a while, you start adopting the true mentality that she has to impress you or else she’s not worth the time. The fact is, that is true. Women are nearly worthless if you aren’t looking to have a baby. Their pussies are completely interchangeable. Men are the real prize, always have been, always will be. Men DO stuff.
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Truer words…
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couldn’t be said enough. How many rich AND beautiful women are there? Almost none!
By the time they are rich the sun has wrinkled them to a laughing stock of their 18 year old selves.
Men have an INHERENT advantage via testosterone. At 45 years old I can be incredibly athletic, in shape, and have the vitality of a tiger. A 45 year old woman? She’s “tired”, “relaxed”, “accepted her body”, and all this other crap.
Focus on complete self-improvement and watch women see the difference.
Work out religiously. Create your career in whatever career brings success. Find humor and joy in life. Stop focusing on other people and the shit they do (most people are retarded and can’t see further than 1 hour ahead). Laugh at the ridiculous shit people do and laugh at funny shit I do.
Attitude is contagious.
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“The fact is, that is true. Women are nearly worthless if you aren’t looking to have a baby. Their pussies are completely interchangeable. Men are the real prize, always have been, always will be. Men DO stuff.”
Hear hear.
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Old saying, “If we could suck our own dicks, there’d be a bounty on them.”
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I was going to post about the nipples being weird as well. The bust in the low cut dress might look so inviting, but when you’ve undressed enough women, you’ll know a good percentage of very unattractive nipples.
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Investing $ to fuck 10 or 100 (?) VIP-class prostitutes would work?
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this is totally juvenile.
to resist good food, you don’t keep on thinking about poops because… well, that’s how it’s going to end up anyway.
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actually when enjoying a good meal, I’m already envisioning the satisfying bowel movement to follow
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Just get the point and use a dildo.
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That’s what she said.
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Can we part company after dinner?
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Heh, heh… heh, heh… she said “poops”… heh, heh.
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“Blue M&Ms, red M&M – they all come out the same colour in the end.” – Homer Simpson.
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why ever resist good food??
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Lolz, wimmenz.
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A Girl,
Poor analogy. One does not need to use game to coax a plate of lasagna into your mouth. It does it without question.
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Good, everyone has that glass-ceiling limit to what level of beauty they can be around without acting that way. Breaking through that glass-ceiling is what every man should aspire to.
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I’m amazed yet disturbed
The Grande Heartiste
got a picture of…
GBFM’s mom’s
cocklocker
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You are wrong. There would be florid encrustations if that were the case. The one pictured is much too pristine.
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zlozozozzozozllzozoz yah just caus my mom got buttcocked by the efeminist moement is no need to h8 on her lzozozozozoz my dad was ana alapha aplpha who pumped and dumped my momma liek ftehe federal reserve fundered her to have doen to herz lzozzozo and den she maried a beta male to raie me but because i had da badass alpha genes i would just laugh at all his attempts to disicpines me and not only would i tell da girls to bring da movies every minght, but we would watch it on his TV and we would use his beta buttboy cash to orders pizzasapipziza zlozozozozoz thank god for ada fed ben beerbnake and tucekr max rheyms witwh godlman sax! lzozlzlzoz
and thank god for teh spearhead! just waht the internetz needed–another circle jerk of butthurt MRA betamales wacking one ontehr off lzozozozozzlz they dey call it the spearhead beacuse when the GREAT ASSCOCKING HAPPENES the spearhead will be spearheaidng thew ay into the collective butthole lzozozozo ranting about Froebes Womenz ranting bitching complaining rnating bitching complaining, dismissing Homer, Virgil, Moses, Mises Hayek, Shakespeare, Homer, but never, never reading nor writing GREAT BOOKS FOR MEN and so the mangina MRA movement will epic fail lzozozo worst that tucker max rhyesm with goldman sax butthesxual movie fuilmss zzozozo, and they will just go “waahahha wahahaha our buttholes hurt wahahahahah our buttholes hurt” while circle jerking to get their tiny inetetelelctucal rocks and little cockas off lzozlzozozo
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You are right.
We should show deference to the image of The Sacred Shrine
that bore ye
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What the fuck did you type???? Wow.
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A question for the spearheaders.
why
do you attack da gbfm
and never
criticize da secretive taper of butthex tucker max rhymes with goldman sax who is published and promted financed by da feminists u claim to despise?
ummmm, maybe because you attack the good and GREAT BOOKS FOR MEN
and give the butthexual butthexers secrteive tapers of butthex a free pass
maybe dat is why men are getting assckocked out of der fmailies and out fo thder righst and out of der proeprty?
i mena shouldn’t we be on tshe same dsie ehrere?
sow hy y r u attacking da GRBRR GBFM? lzozozozozo
perhaps u are a butthort assckcong assocker ofr feminsist like jonag goldberg rhymes iwth oragne nothing rhyems iwth orange lzozozl zlzozozoz
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Why so serious?
Look: no rationally self-interested pua really cares about Tucker Max. He’s just not on the radar anymore – he was of more interest to outsiders and non-puas; like David Beckham to all the girlies in Peoria who only cared about chiseled abs and fashion.
Like Tim Tebow is to the Kardashians, Katy Perry’s mom and the Football non-initiated.
In short, anybody fixated on teh tucker pad is of that whole Sound and Fury distracted crowd while the wisest followed Mystery or Style and left Gunwitch Problems to the MSM.
Capice?
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lzozozlzl
see da problem with all the fanboy betaboy firepowers is that they do not even see beyond game
hey asshat firepwoer!
the siginificance of tucker max rhymes with goldman sax asscocking girls in sercetever tapings and publihsing and porifting off it is not gme!
da siginifiicance of tucker max rhymes with goldman sax asscocking girls in sercetever tapings and publihsing and porifting off it is dat womenz run the press simon and shcuster sododm and sccheister who iwires tucker max rhyeme sith goldman sax fiat dollarz for his butthexinting exssxapceds as da dneocthons try to sdtetroys all art and iteryuare and greatness and great boosk for men while neocn womenz chalrroetete allen at da weekly dsatsnsadrd repeat tucker max rheyems with godldmans sax;s lies to da press scatsting him as a six foot tall butthexual hero.
da point is dat THIS IS THE CULTURE WOMENZ NEOEONTHS WOMENZ CREATE with ONE BUTTHEXER TO TULE THEM all instead of da GREAT BOOKS FRO EMNEEZ! MENZ! lzozlzl
ok firepower go back to your gaming and negging and trying to get you rtinky cockas wet tiny cockas as truly you were not born to rider on the higher plane of inetellellcts with DA GRETA BOOKS and CLASS IC FOR MENZ zlzozllzlz
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Your premise doesn’t ring true.
Puas don’t need to feel guilty about (TM) – besides, you publish his initials in your name…thousands of times each day on America’s Most Popular Blog, Chateau Heartiste.
If the Reverends Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson can continue their Game free from guilt associated with Black Crime, Latalvis Cobbins etc.
http://www.sullivan-county.com/wcva/liberal_racism.htm
Then, puas are equally disengaged from TMax.
After all, what’s worse – an upskirt shot, or a racial gang rape torture murder suppressed by a feminist media?
The problem is not the feminist media – it’s what you do to eradicate it.
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LOL – another way is to be a fag. Works all the time!
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For you
that’s easy
you’re Irish
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Actually, it’s England that’s based on a kind of fagdom.
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I like your new “ee cummings/haiku” format.The birth of a shtick.
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coming from YOU
THAT’s a compliment
even though you’re a newcomer
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Firepower, I would like to beat the shit out of you. It will be easy…I’m Irish!
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Not really
…I’m black
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Beautiful women know it’s all a bit of an act – when they go out wearing a loose clothing & no makeup, guys don’t take a second look at them. I always zoom in on whatever flaw I notice – weird nose, funny looking earlobes, zit, whatever, they’re already self-conscious about it.
Also whatever you do, do not look down at cleavage not even for a micro-instant. Drives em crazy.
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Always make a note of her flaws. She’ll clue in to your frame and work that much harder to impress you. And that’s where you want to be.
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This is why I wear mirrored aviators EVERYWHERE.
No, seriously, though. Hard as it is to see them as fellow humans, they are, in fact, humans, if in actuality children of a larger growth.
A man of good sense humors them, charms them, as if he were talking to a sprightly and forward child.
Women love to be dabbling in business (which they invariably spoil) but a man of good sense neither talks to them of, nor trusts them with, serious matters.
– Philip Stanhope, 3rd Earl of Chesterfield, Irish Lord-Lieutenant
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As has been said many times before, knowing that her looks will start a steep decline in 2-3 years also helps to keep your head level.
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They say a way to conquer the universal fear of public speaking is to imagine the audience naked. This is, well, a rather graphic and interesting twist on that idea.
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That advice was clearly not something a man thought up who was nervous about talking with hot women.
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“Imagine that cervical penis waiting to meet, glans-a-glans, your penis head in a romantic French kiss. A sword fight in the arena of her vagina.”
I have the weirdest boner right now……
I never understood the “imagine she’s an ugly piece of garbage covered in her own feces and vomiting into her own vagina” line of thinking. I don’t want to make a super hot girl ugly, how’m I supposed to enjoy fucking her when I land her with visions of that running through my head lol
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Not ignoring good looks is one handicap I gladly choose to play with.
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Most repulsively, their cunts bleed spontaneously. Never forget their curse; it defines who they are.
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KUATO IS MY WINGMAN.
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Of all the 16 commandments – this, and keeping state, is the hardest one to follow.
Meeting a 9 or a 10, on the rare times I’ve interacted with them turn me into a mawkish slobbering buffoon. Subconsciously, I am trying to impress them in a puppy-like manner. I run anti-Game like Leisure Suit Larry at these times.
Good job I’m courting an 8 – any higher and all that hidden beta would emerge, like the alien out of John Hurt’s stomach.
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Go to Europe and spend a few hundred bucks hiring hot prostitutes. After 3 or 4 you’ll be over it. It worked for me. Hookers run the gamut in terms of looks and age in Germany. Frankfurt redlight district is probably one of the very best places in Germany for this. Its by the Main Train Station, directly across the street. Its about three big city blocks of sex stores and 6-7 story brothels. There are probably ten big brothels there. There are also clubs that are known as FKK, which is a German acronym for nudism. These are whore houses with a modicum of class. You pay a nominal fee to get in, rent a bathrobe, and a one or two drink minimum. Then you sit in a nice living room and chat with women and go upstairs to fuck them. You can bust two nuts in an hour and it will run you 200 Euros for everything, maybe another twenty if you tip the girl. That would include oral sex with no rubber and her taking your semen in her mouth. Anal will run another 50 Euros. The women in these places will be 7s and above, clean and nice to be around. Go earlier in the day to get the hottest ones while they’re still fresh. they open at ten or so.
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I second Tyrone’s approach. Yeah yeah I’m female, but hear me out.
Though it’s a job I could never do unless I was starving and there were no other options, and even then, half my income would go to marijuana just to get through the day, I have a great respect for prostitutes and prostitution. It is the last remaining natural and honest relationship between men and women in the western world.
The more exposure you have to natural reality, the less you are impressed with unreality. In Realville, beauty is a commodity.
When you have bought enough time with beauty, you know when it’s overpriced.
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Overweight Negresses may be quite adapt at pseudo-philosophical ramblings about ‘beauty’ in Cyberia.
But here in the meat world, we just call it soul-curdling cynicism.
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Far be it from me to curdle your milquetoast. As I understand, you hold White women on a very high pedestal, and it must grate you that a Black woman, molded from the mud of Yorubaland and then some, renders your beloved ice queens but pretenders to the throne.
Knowing one’s worth in cash tends to keep a girl humble. I am aware that if what a man spends on me on a date exceeds my street value, I will not be able to console him with a story about how I am saving myself for Mr. Right.
Only stupid rich girls in countries wherein prostitution is legal or decriminalized would dare present a man with one of those 100 point bullet lists because he’ll just flat out laugh.
Philosophy is for people with time to wonder. For the rest of us it is helpful to read, but only insomuch as it increases one’s quality of life in some real way. So this is not cynicism, my dear, just the voice of experience.
When you get some, you’ll see that your Snow White Goddess is just a dirty little whore like the rest of us, and that her beauty, even if you consider it greater, just makes her a more pleasant receptacle.
So though I think you’re stupid, I’m glad you’re here. Perhaps in time you will become less of an insipid worm and be a real White devil. Then I can hate you for being dangerous as an individual, and not just in torch wielding herds.
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Nicole,
I’m really sorry I replied so harshly on your previous comment. It’s very sad that you think like that about yourself.
“So this is not cynicism, my dear, just the voice of experience.”
Yes, but experience make you cynical. I had the same problem but one day I decided I’ll simply build a fairytale in my head and believe in what I LIKE to believe not in what other people believe. Men around me are not as cynical/evil as here but not much better either. If I listened to them, I’d still feel worthless.
“… that her beauty, even if you consider it greater, just makes her a more pleasant receptacle.”
Maybe to some men. But we don’t need to accept the role of a receptacle. I like to believe that there are still men who are able to love a woman. I don’t really care whether this is true or not but just believing that makes me feel much better than my previous beliefs did.
“Knowing one’s worth in cash tends to keep a girl humble.”
Well, I don’t think so. Me, for example, I have no worth in cash, because I’m not on sale. You don’t have to believe that prostitution is normal. I suspect that selling your body destroys your mental health and makes you unhappy and cynical forever. I would find it really difficult to forgive someone who has ever paid for sex, not only because it’s dirty and says you are a loser, but because I couldn’t be with a man who finds it okay to treat women like objects and doesn’t mind participating in destroying of their souls for a short term pleasure. So what I wanted to say is that prostitution is not normal. Women don’t have price in cash. I know you’ll now say that I’m naive but I’m not, at all. (I used to be a cynical feminist since fifteen)
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“I like to believe that there are still men who are able to love a woman. I don’t really care whether this is true or not but just believing that makes me feel much better than my previous beliefs did.”
Sure, there are lots of men who are well capable of loving a woman. However:
1. Believing something because it makes you feel better is a logical fallacy normally called “self delusion.”
2. Being young and hot helps when a woman wants to attract a male who is capable of love. Therefore, slutting it until just before her expiration date is a pretty bad idea, if indeed she wants “for realz” love.
3. You do realize that if you want to be loved, you have to cultivate a good personality? And I don’t mean faked empathy, fake smiles, nice shoes etc; those things do not constitute a good personality.
Histrionics, narcissism, egoism, egocentrism, bitchyness, illusions of self entitlement… All those things have got to go. The same goes for pontificating about other peoples personal choices, etc. Dumping all of those little traits allows one to grow… Wait for it…
Wait.
For.
It…
Humility , Noun – The quality of being humble.
1. a disposition to be humble; a lack of false pride
2. patient, submissive humbleness, servility, unpretentiousness
Opposite of – vanity, conceit, arrogance, presumption, disdain, pride
Men who are humble are almost universally ignored by women. Many women even resent humble men, and go out of their way to use them as emotional tampons, ATMs, etc.
Women who are humble however, are almost universally liked by men. Pretty bitches (bitches, as in cunts, as in rude sluts) are pump and dump material. They are unlovable. Pretty girls, who are also humble, are girlfriend material. They are, for the lack of a better word, _lovable._
My point? If a man wants to attract a woman, he has a number of options availible to him, but they all come down to PROVIDING her with either gina tingles or material safety, or both. Usually, gina tingles trump material safety. (Physical safety is different, since it in and of itself can and often do induce tingles.)
Conversely, if a woman wants to attract a male who is able to make her tingle and/or provide her with material safety (because face it, women aren’t interested in, and probably aren’t even capable of “loving” men who can’t provide atleast one of those,) and who is ALSO capable of and indeed willing to love someone; all other things (including looks) being equal, she can’t be a fucking bitch. It’s that simple.
She doesn’t have to be smart, she doesn’t have to be wealthy, she doesn’t have to be able to crack hilarious jokes, she doesn’t have to be the best fuck in the world, she doesn’t have to have a degree, fuck, she doesn’t even have to have a job.
She. Just. Can’t. Be. A. Fucking. Bitch.
That is my message to any woman who wants to be loved for realz; stop being a bitch. Also, chuck the fast food and the candy and get on a fucking treadmill, cuz being a land whale doesn’t help. Also, make me a sammich. That _definitely_ helps. I’m not joking or trying to be rude. Srsly. Sammiches are like sex, only edible.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=sammich
Mmmm…… Sammich…
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M says, “She doesn’t have to be smart, she doesn’t have to be wealthy, she doesn’t have to be able to crack hilarious jokes, she doesn’t have to be the best fuck in the world, she doesn’t have to have a degree, fuck, she doesn’t even have to have a job.
She. Just. Can’t. Be. A. Fucking. Bitch.”
I am so swiping this as a quote.
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Nicole said: “I am so swiping this as a quote.”
I say: Go forth and spread my joyous message to bitches everywhere. It’ll make them happier, and it’ll make men happier.
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M,
“1. Believing something because it makes you feel better is a logical fallacy normally called “self delusion.””
I know, but it’s useful if you want to improve your life. It’s better to choose positive thinking than negative.
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@ Maya: “I know, but it’s useful if you want to improve your life. It’s better to choose positive thinking than negative.”
Self-delusion tends to set you up for major major world shattering disappointments or worse. Recognizing unpalatable truths lets you develop strategies to not only cope with them, but to thrive despite them.
For example: I assumed, for the longest time, that women were psychopaths, all of them, because every single one I met treated me like dirt. From my perspective, they behaved irrationally and callously. I mean ffs, I was trying to be nice, and yet I got shit in return. I was developing real misogny there for a while.
Then it dawned on me that, hey, maybe I’m the one who’s doing something wrong.
You see, assuming women were psychotic mysteries was comfortable and safe, because that meant I hadn’t done anything wrong, and that I didn’t have to change.
When I realized that I had been a fucking coward, I started to do my homework. I tried out different behavioural strategies. In doing so, I discovered that, fuck, when I alter my behaviour in seemingly counter intuitive ways, women started to treat me better. Damn, some even began to take an interest in me.
As I adapted to my new found realizations, I discovered that while there certainly are psychotic women, and that, ironically, most of the ones I had had something to do with were indeed certifiably insane, most other women actually made a certain amount of sense when I started to put myself in their shoes, figuratively speaking. Certainly, womankind of the west has developed collective civilization shattering histrionia, narcissism, egocentrism, etc, but I discovered that if I play my cards right, I can curb the worst tendencies in individuals and even small groups, and bring their positive aspects to the fore. It’s all down to me and the way I behave.
I also discovered that as I got positive feedback, I started to change myself, for real, and not just superficially. I became more than I had been before. I progressed as a man and as a human being.
Oh well. My point is this:
The truth fucking hurts, because it’s often one self that has to change and adapt in order to make things work, but fuck, that’s all one can do in a civilized society. I can’t force people to like me and to behave in ways I want, but through my actions and behaviour, I can influence them to a surpricing degree. I CAN affect the outcome most of the time, but I’m also not bound by it.
Had I stuck with self delusion, I’d be an angry loner, at best. I prefer the truth.
The lesson? “One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself” ain’t it.
It’s more like “If one cares, one should treat others in a way that is conducive to how one would like them to treat oneself.”
And that means you can’t be generic and unchanging, however safe and comfortable it is. It is, in a sense, taking responsibility for your own reality.
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So sad, Nicole. You’re repulsive. As is Tyrone. Can’t believe he’s suggesting that. If nothing else, he should at least think about STDs (“That would include oral sex with no rubber and her taking your semen in her mouth.” WTF?) So vulgar and repulsive. I’m so sad that there are women who have to work as prostitutes.
“It is the last remaining natural and honest relationship between men and women in the western world.”
???
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Maya, repulsive or not, the one with the strongest reality wins. One of the ways I manage to live a statistically improbable life is that I am unusually realistic. I am not sad for prostitutes. I am sad for the women who work in cobra infested rice paddies and have to clean up after over entitled office harpies who somehow made it through college without learning to properly operate a toilet.
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“the one with the strongest reality wins.”
So you’re a winner? Just asking.
“I am not sad for prostitutes. I am sad for the women who work in cobra infested rice paddies and have to clean up …”
It’s sad to have a disgusting or dangerous job but this won’t harm your soul (in contrast to prostitution).
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Maya, I do consider myself a winner. I may not have won first prize by others’ scale, but I managed to catch some luck and luckily catch some love in this life.
The rice paddies and corporate toilets may not harm your soul, but this is not true of everyone.
If I have to handle people’s body fluids, I would personally rather deal with semen than poo or cobra venom. Just sayin’.
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Nicole, I’m glad you found love and this makes you a winner, I agree. (Although I don’t think that single men and women are losers). I’m just VERY surprised you claim that your realism (beliefs like “Knowing one’s worth in cash tends to keep a girl humble” or using expressions like “dirty little whore like the rest of us” or “pleasant receptacle”) helped you to find love … With me, it was just the opposite. When I stopped to be cynical and resentful my life became much better and happier. So I don’t really understand you. But you might explain it further?
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Maya, being real doesn’t have to mean being resentful. Resentful people are those who can’t accept the reality, or choose to view it in a negative light because it is inconvenient.
In my experience, real happiness can only be found in reality. When you accept life for what it is, you can aggressively pursue your desires without apology. You also learn to enjoy living in the moment and not overthinking the future. Truly accepting that there are no guarantees and that life is short will change your outlook considerably.
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Ha! Props on the Leisure Suit Larry reference.
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I must be in luck then because what little thrall beauty holds on me usually breaks as soon as they open their mouth.
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Just picture Tyra Banks not talking. Then she starts to talk and drops 3-4 points.
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I can sympathise RE,
I get up to about 7-8 with no trouble, but above that and the foot-in-mouth disease kicks in.
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Unrelated:
A healthy mix of Stockholm syndrome and murderous hatred for a beta husband….
http://www.thestar.com/news/article/1114925–man-brutally-tortured-by-his-wife-and-her-boyfriend-in-toronto-apartment
one man, confined to a closet and brutally tortured, physically, sexually and psychologically, over the course of three months.
His body cut with razor blades and beaten with hammers and broom handles until they broke. Lighter fluid poured over his skin, and then set on fire. Cartilage ripped from his ears with a pair of pliers. Pins pierced through his lips, sealing his mouth. Bleeding wounds cauterized with hot knives or sewn up with a needle and thread.
Those responsible for the horrific abuse were the man’s own wife and her new boyfriend.
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Men, don’t let this happen to you… learn game, keep that woman’s eyes from wandering.
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Or… you learn game and don’t settle for one trashy woman.
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How did that story get past the Ministry of Truth? Heads will roll.
Anyway, we can be sure of a few things:
1. The man will have plenty of female admirers writing him in prison.
2. The woman will be cast as a victim who was forced into the whole thing by the man.
3. Plenty of women will say the beta had it coming. This will be regarded as a legitimate side of the discussion. I leave it to the reader’s imagination what would happen to anyone who voiced such an opinion were the genders reversed.
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Thank god I I´m now old enough to see how ridiculous not only the mating game is, but especially their “players”.
Involuntary or not.
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I never understood how guys who had sisters, or at least older sisters as I did, could ever turn into a pedastalizer of women…
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I hear ya; I had older sisters, and among other things it made me realize that such pedestalization is totally unwarranted.
The chateau should do this topic: the effect of older sisters on male views on women in general.
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I Have 2 older sisters, so I got to see first hand the ‘bad boy’ game that got my sisters attention. Def. makes a difference, my sister 3 years older had her BF for 7 years, he was like an older brother through jr. high and high school. He didn’t have any brothers, so he was more then willing to help me sift through shit tests even at a young age…… I’ve seen it backfire, though , with others.
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Another way to enable you to look over their beauty is to acknowledge it with “you’re a very attractive women, but you’re just not my type and i can’t figure out why?” and look them over with a discerning/critical look.
Make yourself the chooser and be very choosy. Almost like you’re buying a guitar. Sure it looks great, but how does it play (the action, the ‘feel’ in your hands and up against your body, the sound), how heavy is it etc. Ask them “what else ya got?”.
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(most) Pussy is Pussy.
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Well this is a seriously disturbing post.
Talk about something I’d have been just as happy to never visualize.
I’m already pretty good at not reacting outwardly to hot women, I think I’d have to become 96% more psycho to visualize that.
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I assume the image was for the benefit of weaker men such as myself.
Can’t wait to see if it works.
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Thinking about them pointy elbows always works.
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Step one is getting over that physical rush and feeling stunned and in awe of beauty. Step two is no longer reacting emotionally to being looked down upon with disdain by beauty.
It’s natural to let other’s “put us in our place”, but it’s also beta. A man puts himself in his own place, and others can either accept his status or not. If you’ve fucked a bunch of girls as pretty as the model who is snubbing you, or better yet are currently fucking some, you’re less likely to let other peoples valuations affect your self evaluation. And more likely to view her negative evaluation as either ephemeral or inconsequential. There is a pleasure in laughing at gold plated cunts.
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‘Step one is getting over that physical rush and feeling stunned and in awe of beauty.”
Picture her standing next to her attorney in divorce court after you were just butt raped by the judge.
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Or do what I do. Picture her farting under the covers or dropping a duece.
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Picture her sucking on your massive cock with all her might…
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yeah, that’s funny but wrong. Usually that image is what gets guys acting all fucking stupid to begin with.
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Good advice. But certain female faces produce a chemical reaction in my brain that I don’t think I’ll ever be able to get over. My problem is Eastern European/ Russian women with high cheekbones. When I see woman like that I literally become helpless, I feel a burning sensation in my brain, my entire body becomes numb. I don’t even have an urge to fuck these woman, its just like total cognitive shutdown when I see their face. I don’t get this with American and Western European women, even the hottest, I really want to bang them, but I don’t get debilitating chemical reaction in my brain. Some examples of Eastern European facial perfection:
Aletta Ocean (pornstar):

Brigitta Bulgari (pornstar):

Angel Dark (pornstar):

Alina Kabaeva (Putin’s mistress and Olympian):

I actually have a headache now from searching for those pictures. Alletta Ocean, in particular, makes my head feel like its gonna explode. There is just no possible way I can train my brain to stop the chemical responses I get to cheekbones like that.
[heartiste: i agree with you about aletta. she would test even my resolve.]
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Careful about aletta, make-up+myspace angle+photoshop. I learned to be skeptical of unreal beauties.Turns out I’m right:
http://www.woodmanforum.com/girls/aletta-ocean-t2361.html
This, plus the fact that she’s a cumdumpster, would definitely keep me unflustered.
But I remember a few chicks with little make-up who had the same effect on me as aletta’s first picture, there’s a point where you just have to pray that the god of alphas won’t let you down.
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Jesus, talk about cleaning up well. I wonder how many other very plain looking women with some makeup and plastic surgery could look too.
Repeal obamacare and replace it with pornstar care: free & mandated plastic surgery for all young women who aren’t already an 8 or better.
Would make the world a better place.
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“I wonder how many other very plain looking women with some makeup and plastic surgery could look too.”
http://www.nydailynews.com/gossip/stars-makeup-real-face-fame-gallery-1.21019
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wow, she’s just another apple-faced chiclet toof!
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Looks like you actually have a hardcore fetish for the Adobe Photoshop filter menu.
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Its also about 90% make up and photoshopping. She would look far differently in real life without make up. That is the test of true beauty in my opinion. Aletta’s pretty, but not as pretty as you think. I can only advise you to go over there and get yourself one. Its the best thing I ever did. If you game them properly, you can have a woman this beautiful sucking your dick every day and reminding you to come get it sucked. Moreover, if it goes south, I know where to get more. If you live there, you can have a harem of such women.
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You have awful taste. But I know the sensation.
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Now I know what my father saw in my mother.
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Easy, take proplanolol.You won’t get excited anymore.
Another helpful aid: yesterday, a hot beautiful girl cut in line before; out of nothing some boorish loser appeared and smashed a beer on the ground. Result: all her clothes were wet and sticky.
She yelled: WTF!? Serious!? Everything is all over me!
Me: I’m just glad you stood there instead of me, you blocked everything, My clothes would have been filthy.
She looked at me bewildered, fuming. Pupils wide and unbelieving.
This could happen to Aletta Ocean also, looking like a tool.
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That pic of Aletta is an example of exquisite beauty for sure, the image alone sent the pleasure centers in my brain into a state of rabid oscillation. It’s really too bad she’s a cum receptacle.
I understand the feeling you describe, though. Every so often, I come across a woman so beautiful, so striking, her image remains imprinted on my psyche for days.
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here’s a video for you.
A woman making a series of feminist videos explains the real reason to hate Twilight. It’s because Edward is a creepy Beta. Notice what what she doesn’t say…
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Well on one hand shes right, Edward is a creepy beta and thats a very good reason to hate twilight. But is there really a bad reason to hate twilight?
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Eddie’s a creep and a beta AND he’s a fucking sparkly vampire who goes out in daylight moping and wailing like a teenager because he was written by a middle-aged woman.
Christopher Lee, now THERE was a vampire.
Here’s some frommage from 1958! http://youtu.be/wbKzNN0FJRg
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That made me shudder, well done. Big hard clits get me disgusted as well.
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Heartiste,
You’re trying to help men ignore women’s beauty, not turn them off sex completely… right?
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You have to become truly analytical about a woman’s beauty- using quantitative criteria for evaluating her beauty to be able to master it. Women try harder to attract you then, making it easier to bed them. Its not unlike Buddhism, where you must learn to overcome your desire for a thing in order to obtain it. At my point in life, I very much like a beautiful woman, but beauty alone no longer arouses me. I still give them the animal once over, then show little reaction beyond that, especially if they’re nice. One thing that’s never discussed here is basic emotional and sexual compatibility. When you have that, its a much more solid basis for a relationship. People are not as interchangeable as is promoted here, in my opinion.
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I imagine its stench the day before the red tide.
Problem solved.
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lzozozozoz
hey heartistse how did you get a picture of me before i had my tonsisls out? lzozozlolz
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This post reminds me of an image I’ve long used to similar effect.
I once saw a Japanese Beetle trap being used to keep that invasive species away from an apple tree. These traps attract Japanese Beetles with a combination of sex pheromones and a sweet smell that smells like food to them.
This particular trap had a transparent plastic bag at the bottom to catch the japanese beetles as they got caught, so I could see following astoundingly disgusting sight:
Hundreds of beetles trapped in the bag in the hot sun, writhing helplessly over each other. The ones on the bottom had already turned into a black liquidy pulp.
Ever since seeing that, I think of it whenever I see a strip joint or similar establishment designed to trick human males into parting with their hard-earned cash in return for the superficial promise of sex.
Be smarter than those beetles, men.
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OMG so true about strip clubs. I have never been to one, but I had a similar incident. In a moment of weakness, last year I blew $40 on a webcam site to a particularly charming (hustling) cam girl. Such a huge mistake even though it was a good show. For several days after that, I felt like such a chump for parting ways with my money to some internet whore who was good enough to hustle me out of my money. First time and last time I spend money on anything sex related. No strippers, no paid porn, no escorts.
Last week I stumbled onto strippers forums. Strippers understand the SMP like no others. They understand that the hottest strippers usually make the most money, and that their time in that industry is limited. The women on the forum genuinely loath the men that frequent their clubs and do whatever they can to take those mens’ money. They trade tips on how to hustle as much money they can. Then know exactly what to say and do to have men eating out of the palm of their hands. They make a genuine sport of preying on depressed, lonely, or horny men. It was an eye opening experience to see how overtly whorish women can be, how woman are programmed to manipulate men out of their money. Its unbelievable that full time strippers are hustling men to the tune of $250k a year, and you have college girls working on the weekends for $50k a year. I can’t believe men are willing to part with that much money to gets some tits and ass shaken in their face. If you are going to pay, at least get your dick wet, quality escorts can be had for $200-$300, rather than a stripper that in her mind is laughing at you in her mind that you are dumb enough to pay her(which they do, read the forums, they think you are a complete joke). Reading it really changed my opinion of women, making me realize that sex is a war and the SMP is a battlefield. You have to be the smarter gender, you must “trick” the woman into having sex with you without you paying anything. Because if you aren’t the smarter one, the woman will most assuredly sucker the money out of you, whether in the form of being a stripper, or a marriage and divorce, you will pay in the end as the dumb, vulnerable beta male that you are. Don’t be the victim, be the victor.
If you need some motivation to go game some women hard and seek sexual vengeance against a hypergamous, manipulative, ruthless female species, read this:
http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/forum.php
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Wow I wish I would have found that site. It took me thousands of dollars to figure out strippers are just bloodsuckers.
Anyone who says strippers are objectified or used is a fucking cunt.
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Those are hamsters spinning around about not respecting the men who get off on them and go home satisfied to higher long-term SMV girlfriends. They know better than most that their time in the spotlight is limited.
Obviously, the men who are not getting off are losers. Those are the guys who buy one or two table dances, which is $40 for nothing. You don’t need to get anything wet but don’t spend a dime on a female if you’re not going to get off.
There’s a sugar baby website out there where the girls talk about getting money off chumps without having to do anything sexual. Those guys need to be executed.
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Just visited that web site.
They are talking about gaming men. This blog site talks about gaming women.
What’s the difference? Women want money. Men want sex. Who knew?
At a strip bar, the women have to peacock, not the men.
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A+. Don’t be the black liquid pulp at the bottom of the catch-bag.
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Bull shit.
I like going to the joint because it reminds me that these dirty, worthless sluts have to come be pathetic bloodsuckers for money. It helps me to more fully hate womankind and reminds me that they are the real internal and eternal Jew.
Going to the joint is a learning experience.
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Sage advice kids. Be sure to listen up. A key mindset, is “I Don’t Give A Fuck”. Damoan(spelling) from Fast Times said it best, “wherever you are that ‘s the place to be.” i’ve had many hot broads tell me it’s all about confidence. Just be cool, keep your battle armor tight and it’ll come. And anoniface is right, don’t acknowledge thier titties and soon you’ll be mackin on em!!!
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Our dear host chose the cleanest cervix for understandable purposes.
But here is the ugly truth:
http://www.beautifulcervix.com/cervix-photo-galleries/photos-of-cervix/
The pedestal is an old memory for me, but I’lI keep days 1 to 4 in mind.
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Fuckameded. That can never be unseen.
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How many pictures of your own anal sphincter to YOU wanna see?
The insides are on the inside for a reason. No normal man ever need see a woman’s cervix in his entire life!
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I think I’m gonna be sick–no really. I don’t mean that in the cliche sense. I legitimately had to stop looking after the second pic, because of a burgeoning nausea.
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Wait a minute, THAT’S what I’ve been chasing around like a junkie for the last 20 years?!? I’m not joking when I say I desperately need a capful of Pepto Bismol right now.
Read some of the comments that follow the pics; women are lining up en masse to gush over how ‘beautiful’ it all is.
Anyway, all my future comments will be in Braille since I went ahead and gouged my eyes out with hot pokers.
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You may have heard that the ideal woman is a beauty who is unaware of her beauty, because stunning attractiveness does so much to warp a woman’s personality beyond repair. That’s the wisdom of this post. Your lack of “fluster” (and your negs, and your passed shit-tests) forces a woman to reconsider the power of her attractiveness, softening her up to becoming more suggestible than she otherwise would be.
Good news is, women are naturally insecure about their appearance, even despite (or because of) all the beta fawning. I love this video. It is hard for men to fathom what it means to be judged by appearance, instantly and constantly. Women’s virtue is in the appearance department, always has been, always will be. They are the object that is gazed upon. So unfair, so subjective, because even the most gorgeous creatures have their bad angles, their missteps.
[ignore the men’s testimony, of course]
Being beautiful means walking a tightrope forever as an object of simultaneous envy, scorn, and lust. Everybody always judges her; even if positively, it is still judgment, a violation, a seizure of control. And “positive” judgments are fraught with psychological complications. She cannot complain! She can hardly explore the downside of beauty, not even in private, for fear of being self-absorbed and ridiculous, so it remains an unspoken lonely drag on her soul. She knows how tenuous her chief asset is, and she intuits her own sell-by date. Insecurity goes with the territory.
When you are unflustered, you touch a deep psychic chord in her, as if to say, “I know who you saw in the mirror before you went out, and you might be fooling the rest of these schlubs, but you can’t fool me.”
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“You may have heard that the ideal woman is a beauty who is unaware of her beauty”
I always heard that it was a woman that swallowed. IOW, a 10 is a 9 that swallows.
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‘She can hardly explore the downside of beauty, not even in private, for fear of being self-absorbed and ridiculous, so it remains an unspoken lonely drag on her soul.’
it’s easy to see it could be a burden. she gets the unwanted attention the average decent looking girl gets squared knowing full well she’s done nothing to earn it. she has challenges most of us don’t have to face and probably can’t even imagine.
beauty in both sexes is more like a public service for others. the average person doesn’t have it but s/he is happy some people do. it’s always a delight to gaze at a beautiful face. this isn’t even gender specific.
thanks, king a. that video made me feel good looking at all those handsome guys and pretty girls.
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in fact i watched it a 2nd time with the sound off. their comments and the crying girl’s pain distracted me from appreciating the full impact of their beauty, thus buttressing your point that they’re objects to be gazed at.
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It’s fucking crazy that these idiots would put a black male and a white female on the same level of “beautiful.”
Clearly this is pc bullshit.
No erectus, male or female, will ever, EVER be as beautiful as a clear-eyed white female, the absolute summum of human beauty.
A negro female no matter how so-called “beautiful”, with those dark bovine unseeing eyes, I’m sorry but a negro will never, EVER, stand on the same pedestal as a white women.
Nordic man (and woman) is not only the summum of civilization, Nordic Man is the summum of human beauty.
To the cockroaches of humanity :
Sorry negroes !
Cordially,
crimesofthetimes.com
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Absolutely…
Even the mischlings he included in the video, as the alleged non-White representatives of “pretty”, had a heapin’ helpin’ of cream in the coffee…
No actual full-bore Negroes in this discussion, no suh!
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i dunno. those mulattoes were really cute.
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Feh.
Compared to little blonde-haired, blue-eyed angels, like say, Jackie Evancho?
Even pickaninnies can be cute, but we’re talking the highest standards here.
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I admire your racist fearlessness, and I agree with you about the objective superiority of light hair, skin, and eyes, all other things being equal. The existence of hair straightener, the history of the fraudulent “Black is Beautiful” propaganda campaign, and the phenomenon of Indian skin bleaching are heavy circumstantial evidence toward that thesis.
But your unartful bluntness alienates people when you should be motivating them to concur with the truth. Use the power of truthfulness to your persuasive advantage; that power is strong enough without the sarcastic embellishments. People are culturally intimidated into lying about what their eyes register. They need truthtellers like you and me to state the obvious — without risking the condemnation they are avoiding in the first place. They need a little lubrication. They need to be unafraid about associating with the truthteller, and that is all-dependent on the way you deliver the truth. Develop your technique of allowing the truth to direct your delivery, not in anger or triumphalism or revenge, but in simple humility. Something more like, “I wish for the sake of peace the truth were different, because I know the truth upsets a lot of people, but alas, I don’t conjure the truth, I only give tidings.” In other words, fewer cockroach references.
I did mention you should ignore the male testimony, since the video producers are operating under the assumption of “pretty lies,” i.e., that we must regard beauty indiscriminately between the sexes (and ages!).
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‘Use the power of truthfulness to your persuasive advantage; that power is strong enough without the sarcastic embellishments.”
This from the lunatic whose every post drips with flatulent “sarcastic embellishments.”
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“I agree with you about the objective superiority of light hair, skin, and eyes, all other things being equal.”
Why do we use self-tanners then? Dye our hair black?
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carolyn wrote: “… the crying girl’s pain distracted me from appreciating the full impact of their beauty, thus buttressing your point that they’re objects to be gazed at.”
Crying girls are beautiful. There are few emotional and physical transformations that pack more of an attractive punch than waterworks on a girl. Use it to your advantage, women! (Like I have to tell you that.)
It explains my tendency as a young man to first reduce the targets of my affection to a lachrymose shambles. It was an instinct to conquer her defenses utterly, and expose a vulnerability — caused by me — in an undeniable, public way. And her girlfriends’ attempt at comforting, “What do you care about what a stupid boy thinks!” just confirms the victory, because it is a good question. What do you care about my judgment? You must be more enthralled than you even know.
Pick up lines? Never. More like: opening insults.
Weep for me, baby. Go on….
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for a doc about attractive ppl they sure managed to round up a motley crue of 5s-8s (all the ethnic ppl besides the girl who claims to be a restaurant lure seem to me avg or less). and whats with prince’s son at 0:28? did they need to have a 10 yr old child to round out the age/race/gender demographic?
and the one who cries about how her beauty is such a hardship (1:51)-about how shes “objectified”, first of all, not hot. a 6 on her best day but only if shes surrounded by 4s. in a room of 7s, shes a 5.2. which is why its so weird she laments her “attractiveness”. unless of course, its genuine remorse that her mediocre looks attract mediocre suitors.
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student, arguments about beauty from static photos (or even videos, which are still two-dimensional) are pointless. I am often shocked at other peoples’ examples of what they consider “beautiful,” and this apparent subjectivity is the origin of the myth of “The Eye of the Beholder.” There are always, always nits to pick about appearance.
Which was one of my points above. Beautiful women aren’t more beautiful in their bones somehow; they simply have more better angles, a greater quantity of quality “good sides.” Take away their style and their make-up and a great leveling occurs, not absolutely, but enough to puncture the myths. This is also a lesson about game. We all will have our moments of ugliness; missteps, lapses in inconsistency, embarrassments. The winner is the one who has the fewest of them and is least deterred by them, just as the most beautiful girl is the one who accrues the most mental glamor shots from the panopticon of male observers.
Nonetheless, the jury is in on the beauty of those interviewees by their own testimony. Whatever our eyes register, their relative environs have cast the relevant verdict: they are attractive. They testify how they are treated differently because of their looks. They are living proof that the positive way one is perceived does not always translate into beneficial treatment. Ugly or plain people have a hard time grasping this fact as true. The homely can’t fathom that treating beautiful people shabbily is even possible. This gap in perceptions is also a statement of the power of beauty: when you don’t have it, the resentment causes profound distortions of empathy.
The unperceived gap of perceptions is the takeaway from the video. Not the millionth internet argument over “Hawt or Nawt?”
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you know, i initially skimmed your description of the video, and looked at the video from the superficial perspective, rather than one of empathy about its deeper message.
“When you are unflustered, you touch a deep psychic chord in her, as if to say, ‘I know who you saw in the mirror before you went out, and you might be fooling the rest of these schlubs, but you can’t fool me.’”
And this is the crux of the matter. Even at my most gameless many years ago, I managed to attract stunning model types that few here would argue were anything less than 10s. The main thing that seemed to work, was that while other guys would be shook by their looks and frame every interaction in that context, their looks were only sufficient to capture my initial attention, afterwhich I would handle them as people, judging and interacting with them based on their personalities.
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I was an ugly duckling. I was a huge tomboy and I was often mistaken as a boy until about seventh grade. I have curly hair and my mom kept it short because it hurt so much to be brushed. I remember what it was like when I finally grew it out and when I got my first good haircut. It felt wonderful and scary at the same time. I remember this all quite vividly and I have to say that the closer I get to the wall the more it bothers me. I was never very comfortable being pretty and used to wear big clothes. I don’t know if it was to hide things are not. I always used to say that I just found them comfortable. Now that I am older I still downplay things, but am fighting to hold onto what I have. Remembering what it was like to be ugly I do not want to go back, but I was never comfortable with the thought of being pretty either. It’s strange.
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‘I was a huge tomboy and I was often mistaken as a boy until about seventh grade.’
ha. you and me both. i had an androgynous baby face til the ravages of age did away with it, and until i grew breasts it wasn’t so clear what sex i was. the short hair my overwhelmed mom insisted on didn’t help. ( i have a michelle philips jaw i bequeathed to 2 of my boys, sadly not the girls.)
but i got fat around 15. maybe on some level i distrusted the attention i got and made it happen? people said i was pretty, a shame you’re fat. i thought they were just trying to be nice, but then looking at old pics…yeah i sabotaged myself for sure. and now losing weight on atkins i find out i wasn’t as cursed genetically in that dept. as i thought. bummer, but better late than never.
anyhow, my girls ain’t getting fat on my watch, what with their mom a living cautionary tale.
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oops, i mean michelle wiliams
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Forever? Try three or four years at most.
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The guys talk about being offered presents and stuff, and no one strikes me as exceptionally handsome. WTF? They must be gay or escorts.
I’m objectively at least as good looking as the ugliest guy in there. And yet, not a single stranger ever offered me shit.
A handsome guy has no value if he doesn’t have status/game.
That video is weird. And even the prettiest girl is a 7.5 at best.
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As well-written as it is true.
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Whats with the nigger fag at 0:24?????????????????
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abracadabra, i’m a homo. i’m off to tell chicks how terrible their shoes are
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Goddamn it this post was to effective. Come to think of it, imagining a girld taking an asshole burning, toilet destroying shit is kind of hilarious to me. But the thought a tiny dickhead hidden in every vagina… whatever was left of my pedestal has been smashed into a fine powder.
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If you are an old fart you can visualize them aging, like a flip book, right in front of your eyes. It can be unnerving.
And while brothel surfing, as some have suggested, is one way to desensitize yourself, learning ballroom dance – tango, foxtrot, waltz, the Charleston – will put you in close physical contact with lots of women. You will develop a healthy tolerance to the pheromones they excrete that normally stupefy you.
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Uncle Elmer is right. When you’ve had enough time on Earth to see thousands of women turn ugly whom you once knew as beautiful, it gets harder and harder to look at a stunner and not think “10,9,8,7,6,5”.
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Too right Uncle E. I’m 40. My girlfriend in highschool was easily an 8.5 with great tits. Fast forward her to now, 18 years later, and dear God! It took me 2 minutes to recognise this huge, behemoth of a woman with her horrible complexion and saggy skin – even her eyelids were fat! She’s only 38, I though, fuck me, who’s this old woman who knows my name who came up and started talking to me on the bus platform? I honestly thought she might be a maid or one of the women from the daycare centre my daughter goes to….
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I do that with any woman I’m thinking of an LTR woman. The age progression helps me evaluate their long term potential. I also check out her mom. If both the mom and age progression look reasonably hot, I’ll put her in the LTR column. But few make it there. As it should be.
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True words in this article.
Th thing is, too many guys insist on making obvious shows of their admiration for her “beauty.” At which point she knows he is a supplicant, and no good to her genetically. The guys who get me the most are the ones who do things like wolf-whistles. At that point, women know they have the power.
There is a sort of zen to ignoring women. You can not have the thing if you desire the thing. It takes some practice, some meditation, some self-discipline to do it. But after a while, you find it becomes second nature, then first nature. At which point women will start approaching you.
Of course, this will not happen over night.
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“Th thing is, too many guys insist on making obvious shows of their admiration for her “beauty.””
When the lights are off, the only way to tell the difference between her asshole & her mouth is the smell.
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…On the other hand, this gives women with penis envy something to be happy about.
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From my own experience, females want to feel as though a man is invincible. As though he has it all figured out. That he has his life set and everything is in place.
When I’m out in my wool/cashmere trench jacket I have women buying me drinks when I’m waiting in line at the bar. This is in socal and I’m 5’4 (the antithesis height of what is presumed ideal)
the last time I was out with a bunch of friends I was waiting around the bar for the barkeep. As I’m waiting a 7/10 girl comes up to me chatting me up. What I’m drinking, how I like the bar, having fun? etc. Any time a girl opens me I know I’m already a leg up in the game.
I joke around with her, and I’m lying straight to her face. I love grinning and making shit up like, “oh, thanks for the drink, I totally have cash. Yeah, it’s back at my place (grinnnnn). I’ll totally buy you a drink next time. You know, like when you see me here in a couple weeks….blah blah blah”. All of it with a big grin, pauses for effect, letting her enjoy the lies. she knows i’m lying straight to her face and she actually ENJOYS it.
women love love love the obvious lies. it’s the male shit test.
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Yeah you can also tell them they have two cock’s,there Clits and cervical Dick nubs So in a way you can call those Cunts dickheads.
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men truly going their own, vagina-free, way (and not simply men trying to score internet debate points by claiming to go their own way but still banging on the sly) are likely mating market losers who find comfort in pretending to wish away the allure of women.
after this post, I get the feeling that we’ll be seeing a lot men going their own, vagina-free way, and not because they needed to “pretend” anything
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Lol, just seeing the pic of the captioned jizz recepticle gave me a physical sensation of HBs all over the world instantly becoming silly, overdressed little girls who parade themselves trying to attract my attention.
(Overdressed, as in you-don’t-need-all-those-fancy-pieces-of-fabric-on-you-to-service-my-cock,-girl)
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As a bisexual man, this is unhelpful.
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To the “bisexual man,” the entire universe is unhelpful.
Fix your kink, freak. You should not have an on-again off-again hankering for scrotum, much less promulgate a habit to publicly (if anonymously) identify yourself with the deviancy through an adjectival modification of the noun of your very existence, “man.”
I just caught this interview with the libertarian George Gilder explaining the foundation of his unwavering traditionalism. Gay sex is addictive behavior, and those who are introduced to their addictions early (like the 12-year-old who starts smoking as opposed to the 18-year-old) find them much harder to shake as an adult, and so there is a tendency to incorporate those habits into their identities as a way to legitimate them. Libertarians who think they can embrace leftwing ideology selectively with regard to only the “social issues” are the reason for name “libertardian.”
Besides, an unmanaged sexual permissiveness is the opposite of liberation; it is slavery. It is loosing a heroin addict “free” in a heroin factory. Freedom requires walls, or as Gilder puts it, “You need a low entropy carrier (no surprises) to bear high entropy creations. … You need regularities in the law to unleash creativity and [freedom].” And at the very highest level, which so of us can achieve unaided, much less consider attempting: correction in the service of excellence and perfection. Cf. “Saying ‘no’ to a ‘no,’ the ‘no’ in service of the highest possible ‘yes.’” (If the collar turns you off, you’ve already missed the point.)
As for the confusion of “bisexuals”? It’s the worst of both worlds, a dabbling into deviancy without the firm commitment required to motivate one’s liberation from it.
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” Gay sex is addictive behavior, and those who are introduced to their addictions early (like the 12-year-old who starts smoking as opposed to the 18-year-old) find them much harder to shake as an adult, and so there is a tendency to incorporate those habits into their identities as a way to legitimate them. ”
1. Kids adopted by gay parents have higher likelihood of turning out gay and/or having higher homosexual tendencies. 2.Males who were sexually abused as children turn out gay and/or have gay tendencies at a much higher frequency than males in general population.
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Good videos. An intelligent, articulate priest who dares speak truth to social issues is a wonderful and rare thing. I remember Fulton Sheen. He was right about everything. The RC Church has rightly opposed divorce for all the right reasons, including its destruction of the family. From the beginning, the church was right to be against divorce.
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King A,
what do you think about bisexual girls/women? I’m attracted to girls sometimes (often) but I believe that people should mostly ignore/suppress their same-sex attractions. What do you think about that? I can’t really find anyone who would agree with me. My family thinks I’m just a closeted lesbian (since I’ve never had a boyfriend). I feel so weird because I’m one of those homophobes who are kind of gay themselves. You know, those that gay activists sometimes expose as the biggest psychos and hypocrites. Funny that I’m not really ashamed of that. I feel so 100% normal but why everyone else believes that this is weird? Or those ex-gay Christian fanatics … Everyone thinks they are pathetic and insane.
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One other comment about bisexuals. I can’t believe there are women who would sleep with them. It’s so dirty. I mean I would forgive a boyfriend or two but MSM’s usually have more than one ex-boyfriend. Can’t believe any woman would put up with this.
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Im trying to figure out if that image was safe for work or not
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It is not safe for anything.
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That’s a little too effective, heartiste.
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I think there’s a fine line. Over-complimenting on appearance or personality from man or woman is probably DLV, but you don’t want to withold positive feelings completely!
I definitely agree that ignoring cleavage is a major DHV. Although its cute when a man blushes and mildly amusing when he talks to your chest.
One thing to keep in mind is that not EVERY woman thinks she is a beauty queen (even if she is attractive), so know the woman and calibrate accordingly. Someone who is expecting the compliments would be more affected by a lack of them and someone not used to them would be more affected by hearing them.
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Monsieur le Chateu :
As much as I love this blog, that picture is questionable and you should consider putting the thought of taking it down to a vote.
It’s borderline pornographic. jeez !
Cordially,
crimesofthetimes.com
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The more I read this blog and learn game, the more I realize what an exceptional natural my cousin is. He teases and negs girls, is cocky-funny and unabashedly vain and women love him. He is seemingly completely lacking in introspective prowess and the abilty to articulate as to why, in his words, “girls just love me, man.” He did, nevertheless, often attempt to impart crude guidance to my younger, pedastalizing self. Concerning the power of female beauty:
“Picture them taking a big, nasty shit.”
I was unable to fully appreciate this until recently.
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Beta proposal: http://i.imgur.com/E03Vx.jpg (Be sure to read the card text)
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Special thanks to the asshole who put the cervix photo links up. I almost spit my morning coffee out all over the keyboard. Nasty fucking shit.
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This pic is boner killing for me.
Instead of picturing women in a negative flashlight – using a negative imagination that makes you shake in disgust and robs you of a possiblity of enjoying her beauty why not use positive imagination and imagine yourself as a something on par with her.
The following techinque helps for me in such monents;
Concentrate on your muscles (helps a lot if you really have a lean muscled body) and imagine your sexy male body on par with her sexy female body. Create a mental image of yourself as as a greek god/ super sayan/ elf prince/pornstar with big member/barbarian warrior king or whatever makes you feel sexy and go for it!
Much more pleasant is mentally upgrading yourself than downgrading her and brings beter results.
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Elf prince? Pornstar? Greek god?
So basically youre saying we should imagine we’re gay?
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Since it is beneficial to run little sister game, how about imagining women as 12 year olds? At least an age where there’s a balance between cuteness and no sexual attraction (imagining them as 15-16 year olds would be counter-productive)
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I see what you did there…..
Where’s the seat?
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My husband is a police officer and he pretty much uses this technique too.
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Sexy pics or GTFO.
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It’s just a tube with mucous and some fur.
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That image is just stomach churning.
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“Since it is beneficial to run little sister game, how about imagining women as 12 year olds?”
There’s so much I could say here. I leave it to the readership’s own imagination, knowing the devilish proclivities of uh.
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A Glee fan?
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the anatomical homolog of the penis is the clitoris. (iow, the cervix is not a penis head.)
just sayin’. (^_^)
[heartiste: i know. no one was arguing that the homolog of the cock is the cervix, just that the cervix *looks like* a penis head.]
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After reading thru the comments, I clicked on that picture to see if there were more.
I think its hilarious that that picture grossed so many of you out.
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Don’t think of them as beautiful or awe-inspiring.
Simply look at them as less vomit-inducing than some other women.
“She makes me want to vomit the least and is therefor worthy of my attention for the time being, as I have misplaced my battle axe and prefer to not engage in war and mindless bloodshed without it.”
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One technique I use is a CH classic. I think “Ok girl, are you like many women or are you worth my time? And if you’re worth my time, are you someone to fuck or someone to date? Prove yourself to me.”
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[…] and get the opener down 62 Approaches 3 Numbers (no response from any of them) Per CH's advice I no longer think of girls in terms of how hot they are. I just say she looks really interesting. […]
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Just a thought for a post by the masters, but have you seennhow they treat beatiful girls in Vienam?
They are constantly told they are ugly, no man will want them, they will die alone… the more beautiful they are the more of this they will get.
My father visited a high school in Vietnam where he was introduced to the class (bit of show and tell for Australia), his wife and brother in law came to interpet.
They showed him one grl who he descrived as heartbreakingly beautiful, he was asked what he thought by the teacher she looked like so he replied “very pretty”, the teacher laughed and said “No shes the ugliest girl in the class, never get a husband”… Thats how women/girls are treated..
Now imaging if every high value woman was treated the same by her authority figures… The west has a lot to learn from the East…
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Not supplicating and not fawning over an attractive woman might not get you laid but it will maintain your self respect and probably gain hers too.
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Dude, a clitoris is a woman’s mini cock. Are you saying women have two dicks? Sick.
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I just gotta say, that even after that visual, I will continue to read your blog if you promise to never post that picture again. Thanks!
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You know what I do? Picture them shitting,and bleeding once a month. Ew!
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Awesome advice.
It takes time, but it’s worth it.
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It was a good thing that I had some anti-nausea medication. WTF??
FOCUS ON HER LEAST ATTRACTIVE FEATURES. Women are really good at this and are as critical as fuck.They’ll be a gorgeous girl and her snarky friend will point out the flaw in the cuntish way only women can do.
1) dry hair
2) not shiny skin
3) horse teeth
4) too much gum when smiling
5) big nose
6) small eyes
7) fat ass
8) flat ass
9) flabby arms
10) bad makeup (not enough)
11) cheap clothes
12) cheap shoes
13) bump on nose
14) bug nose
15) zit
16) blackheads.big pores
17) saddlebags, short legs
18) thin hair
19) unmanageable hair
20) too short (any girl under 5’6 is insecure about this)
21) too tall (any girl over 5’10 is insecure about this)
22) ugly voice (too high or low)
23) bad in bed
24) bad breath
25) bad teeth
26) wrinkles/aging
27) gut
28) no chest or too much chest
29) flabby tits
33) dimples in skin.. cellulite.. any girl over 22 has this.
30) STUPID
31) annoying
32) body like a boy
33) slutty… list goes on and on.. women notice this shit in 5 seconds and so should you… neg her on these when the bitch needs it.
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The interesting thing is how much of success in gaining access to females is in simply avoiding a lot of Beta and lower caste male behavior. yet too many men are incapable of following the simply instructions in this article. Already I can see guys lavishing words of praise on the females in their field of vision because they think it will “win their hearts.” They spend their lives running around in the hamster maze, without realizing the exit is there any time they want to stop running in circles.
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I read you’re updating your links … I don’t have a blog but I suggest you to post a link to Hookingupsmart. It’s an interesting and helpful blog.
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fail.
susan walsh is a gal qaeda double agent.
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Do you ever wonder if the constant deconstruction of the subject (your female target) robs you of the possibility of deep love and connection?
I am talking about the kind of die for eachother love that is portrayed in a way that is nicely accessible to males in Mad Max (Max’s love for his wife and child).
Heartiste do you believe in that kind of love? If you do, do you not worry that a constant deconstruction of a woman to a collection of repugnant biomechanical parts stands in the way of the fruition of a deeper love?
[heartiste: no. a simple antidote to the soul-withering threat of reductionism is this: they know not what they do. i recognize we are machines at the root of it, and part of being this incredibly complex machine is the ability to feel transcendent love. love is encoded in our algorithm. nothing prevents me from letting my program run unmolested.]
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CH, when you have a ONS you feel “transcendent love”?
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Dont know about ch
but girls always
feels mine
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In fact, thanks for the idear
This weekend, I’m deeming
“Transcendent Love”
the new nickname
for my cock
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Don’t name it that unless it will fit there as a tattoo.
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I am not sure the anti-dote works. The problem with reductionism is that the “they” in “they know not what they do” disappears. There is no “they” left to do anything. If you truly see a woman as a mere collection of biomechanical parts, then there is no personhood left to allow for the fruition of transcendent love. There is no one left to fall in love with, just a mere collection of biomechanical parts.
I don’t see the value in this kind of reductionism. If you find a woman beautiful, embrace it and face the reality of it, without falling prey to it. The only way to accomplish this is to assess whether you have a real and genuine click or connection with the woman. If that’s there, it will simply work between the two of you and you won’t need to deconstruct her to properly relate to her, you will simply relate to her and not be flustered by her beauty. If the click is not there, then you won’t be engaged enough to really care that much and so you’ll achieve the kind of detachment that allows for gaming.
I hope all have experienced the kind of connection and click I am talking about. Its the stuff from which transcendent love can grow. It is worth more than superficial pussy conquests.
But if you are constantly deconstructing females in the pursuit of pussy, you’ll never allow for the possibility of genuine connection.
You will miss out.
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To Woman
Hairy legs,
Hairy pits,
Bleeding cunt,
But she’s got tits.
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Interesting article.
“Why British Muslim women struggle to find a marriage partnerOlder, unmarried female Muslims outnumber their male counterparts for many reasons. Fussiness is not one of them”
http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/belief/2012/jan/18/british-muslim-women-marriage-struggle
Yet, in the same article.
“For Muslim women, marrying men from their country of origin is rarely considered an option as they tend to want social, economic and intellectual equals or superiors. Men from their country of origin tend to have different mindsets and struggle to find jobs no matter how well qualified they are, thereby leaving women as the main breadwinners. This situation can often create a strenuous dynamic in relationships with men from patriarchal cultures.”
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