Email #1: Daddy issues and the beta son
I grew up with alot of women around me and no father, which makes it harder for me to be an ass to women but at the same time im able to detect alot of bullshit and dodge it ever so elegantly, im pretty sure there are some studies on this, maybe write something about that? lack of male figure in growing up??
This is a difficult subject simply because it’s so hard to disentangle confounding variables in any causal relationship between parental influence (or lack of influence) and the future betatude of sons. What we do know: the bastard spawn of single moms grow up with lower chances at a successful life and higher chances of dysfunction. Now whether this is primarily because biological father absence causes kids to fail at life, or because the deadweight of single moms are genetically prone to failure, or a mix of both, is open for debate. In that spirit of caution, I’ll rely on my bird’s-eye-view impressions of father-son dynamics:
– A boy who grows up in a female-centric, fatherless home is most likely to burst forth from his rotted, disfigured chrysalis a self-destructive omega male. Too much female influence will render him utterly unprepared to acknowledge real female nature. He won’t learn from his mistakes, and he’ll suffer from the bad advice of his mother and sisters. That said, there is a minority of these robbed boys who grow into thugs and ruffians, treating women like shit and learning the dangerous lesson (dangerous for society that is) that chicks dig jerks, so why not give ’em more of what they crave. These boy usually wind up behind WaWa huffing paint.
– A boy who grows up with a cowardly beta father — the kind of father who bends to the will of the mother every time — will either learn to mimic his father’s ineptitude with women, or he will be so thoroughly repulsed by his father’s weakness that he veers in the opposite direction. My observation is that most boys with beta fathers grow into betas themselves. Nature, nurture, take your pick; result is the same.
– Boys who grow up with faithful, strong alpha fathers typically become alpha themselves, but a minority react to their fathers’ overbearing presence and unreachable standard by turning to the fap side of mincing betatude as a sort of protest lifestyle to rationalize their failing vis a vis their fathers’ success.
– Boys who grow up with asshole-ish, abusive, unfaithful alpha fathers don’t fall far from the tree when it’s their turn to navigate the mating market. However, a minority of these boys grow up totally renouncing their masculinity because they suffered under the burden of their fathers’ masculine intensity. Shrieking feminist manginas are birthed from this type of family cauldron more often than you’d think.
The reader says that growing up in a female-centric family has allowed him to detect typical female bullshit and dodge it when he sees it coming. I don’t disbelieve his personal experience, but in reality I don’t see many fatherless sons in female-run families learning the ropes about women. It seems to be more often the case that the boy immersed in a female world has the ball juice squeezed out of him, as mom and sis and aunt try to mold him into a caricature of what they think women want instead of what women really like.
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Email #2: Realtalk
I’m going to all CPAC with my video camera. Since I take inspiration from your blog, I figured I’d ask you if there were any questions/topics you or the readers wanted me to ask the speakers attendees.
If you DO post this to the blog, please don’t use my name…but if I post the video on youtube everyone would know who I am anyway. Eh..
I’ll assume that CPAC is the acronym for “Conservative Political Action Conference”. Any readers want to take a stab at this? Could be interesting to compile a list of Chateau-influenced questions to dispense at a moment’s notice during any political conference or book signing. At the very least, it would be funny to see speakers frozen with fear trying to answer questions that deviate from the usual banal script.
How about this: “Why do you think the elites who control national discourse are so adamant about importing a second underclass?”
Or: “Alternate sexual outlets lower the incidence of rape. Isn’t this a good reason to legalize prostitution?”
Or: “Isn’t it time we get the government out of the business of subsidizing academia?”
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Email #3: Hindbrain über alles
OK, Dr. Evolutionary Sociobiologist, WHY?
1. Because women who have had kids have fulfilled their prime directive.
2. Because men become more beta and domesticated within the comfy confines of a relationship.
3. Because older women have lower sex drives.
That should about cover it.
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Email #4: If it was that easy, everyone would do it
I’m a 21 year old male. I have considered the possibility of starting a career in fucking girls on the side while I study. I’d get sex from at least average looking young girls (I can choose my clients) and get payed. I wouldn’t have many clients or get any serious dough, but everything is a plus.
The only negative thing I can think of is how boys and girls would react to this if they got to know. Would I ever be able to get pussy from a girl if she knew I had worked as a “man whore”?
What would be the best possible use of words to describe male prostitution? Any advice regarding this topic is appreciated.
This email recalls a study I once read in which attractive men and women approached college-aged members of the opposite sex and asked if they wanted to fuck. Something like 99.9% of the women declined, and three quarters of the men readily agreed to the terms. A starker contrast of the biological differences between the sexes would be hard to find.
Getting from “the possibility of starting a career as a paid gigolo” to “actually having a career as a paid gigolo” is a challenge not to be underestimated. If the stories are true, most gigolos are physically fit gay men who service middle-aged housewives for cash and prizes. Sound like a fun lifestyle? Yeah, I suppose it could be if you ameliorate the disgust of boffing undesirables by having a hot girlfriend waiting at home for you after a long day’s work. But if you think that your job will be mostly getting paid in regular installments by hot young chicks of your choosing for the privilege of bouncing up and down on your cock, well… let’s just say your game would have to be tighter than a virgin’s rusty starfish to pull that off.
But I’m a generous man, so for the purposes of this post, I’ll take you at your word that you can pull this fantasy lifestyle no problem and that you aren’t a troll. To answer your questions, “boys and girls” would react with equal parts envy, consternation and curiosity. That’s a good combination of reactions to elicit from peers if banging and high social status are your goals. And not only would you still be able to pull pussy if word got out about your manwhoring, but you’d pull more than ever. As long as it wasn’t discovered you were a manwhore to rich elderly widows.
The best way to describe your job as a gigolo to potential dates is like this: “I bring happiness and joy to lonely housewives who have forgotten what it’s like to be loved and adored by a man.” Pass the Kleenex.
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Email #5: Don’t leave us hanging
Just so you know, I ended up fucking Kristanna Loken, despite the fact that she just got engaged. If you want to know the story, let me know.
Why bother asking this question when you already know the answer? Of course, the readership would like to know how you bagged Kristanna Loken.*
*Judgment of trollery suspended until response received and plausibility analyzed.
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Email #6: Hardcore asshole texting
Here’s a text message exchange between me (41) and a gold-digging girl (27, former “9” but now a “7” heading downward) who I struck out with and wrote off a month ago. How would you critique my reaction? You can publish it; I opened this e-mail account only to send this message.
Da fuck. I laughed reading this. It reads like an exasperated parent humoring a retarded child. There’s a game lesson there.
I’m confused about something, though. Did this emailer strike out before or after this text exchange? I’m trying to figure out if this text was successful in bringing her back into the fold, or if this is why he struck out with her. It seems from the nature of the texts that they have some familiarity with each other.
Anyhow, on a scale of effectiveness, I grade this text exchange a B-. It’s adequately cocky and dismissive, but the teasing comes across a little too strong-armed, almost nasty. The asshole needs to be leavened with a little more amused humor so that he doesn’t risk pushing her away by seeming unattainable or spiteful.
Also, and this is a relevant complaint, the ending of the text exchange sounds try-hard. Pushy. He lost his flirty edge there at the end. Yeah, he’s being cocky, but he’s also pushing harder for some kind of sexual resolution, and she isn’t biting. In fact, his barely concealed motive and slight vibe of anti-flirty gloominess (“I don’t love anyone at this hour”) triggers a series of shit tests from her (“ok, sorry! goodnite!”, “ok, tell her u need a bj!”, “yeah!”) which he does not properly handle. These last replies by her are not indicative of a woman in chaser mode; she is clearly back in the chased mode, and that is not a good mode for a girl to be in if you want to bang her.
The power trajectory shifted after his “I don’t love anyone at this hour” text. A better reply to her would have been:
TARDGIRL: So u don’t love me anymore? I was dreamin bout u baby!
HIM: I bet you were.
This opens the conversation up for more flirting and a possible fuck close.
Here’s a good rule of thumb about texting girls: your replies should get shorter, not longer, as the text conversation length increases. This way, you make it seem like you are investing less into the interaction as time passes, and she is investing more. The person who invests less receives more sexual dividends. In the emailer’s case, his text replies start off short (good) and end up longer than the girl’s (bad). It leaves the impression of frantically struggling at the end for that hail mary pass at sex.
But perhaps I’m splitting hairs. As text exchanges go, this one is better than 99% of the shit that betas mire themselves in. One shouldn’t let perfection be the enemy of good. If the emailer is reading, let us know if you managed to bang this mentally challenged chick. And if she swallowed.
CPAC question: “Why should there be any regulation of or law against any contractual agreement crafted by two consenting adults?”
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Or, to just get to the point: “Why do you socialist hypocrites call yourselves ‘conservatives’ given that you wouldn’t recognize actual conservatism if it fucked you in the ass like your banker masters do every night?”
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“i was dreaming of u baby..”
“Keep dreaming. good nite.”
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#1 A small percentage of men raised by single moms grow up to be ultra alphas. Teddy Roosevelt, Bill Clinton, Lance Armstrong, Samuel Jackson, Jet Li, Shaq, Jack Nicholson, Me.
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There’s the famous line by Freud’s first English translator, summing how sons benefit from strong maternal love:
“A man who has been the indisputable favorite of his mother keeps for life the feeling of conqueror, that confidence of success that often induces real success.”
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@ #2
Save your memory card for filming the occupy retards as they violently attack random old people. Or better yet leave the camera at home and bring a baseball bat.
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“A boy who grows up in a female-centric, fatherless home is most likely to burst forth from his rotted, disfigured chrysalis a self-destructive omega male.”
Then why are there so many players in the ghetto? Given their lack of real-world status (i.e., money, social status and prospects), fatherless hoodrats seem to do better on average with the ladies (albeit low class ones) than your typical suburbanite or SWPL.
[heartiste: it might be wise to control this observation for race.]
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that movie baby-boy apparently detailed this phenomenon.
The welfare state enfeebles. You get babyboy males swimming in a sea of Precious girls.
Good for you recognizing that sons of alpha dads can rebel against their dad’s example becoming betas. It’s best to tell kids that the movies are wrong, alpha is good. Second, chances are that even if dad is an alpha, he’s a natural and doesn’t recognize his gifts and gives his sons bad advice…be a beta nice boy even if dad would never condone any of that shit on his own.
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Your mistake is thinking that single black mothers ‘raise’ their sons. Nonsense. The streets and the gang leaders do that. They become borderline (or over the line) sociopaths. I.e. Alpha.
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agreed. if you are talking about worthless trash, does it really matter?
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Having lived in the ghetto, and also spoken with many darkies about this, the “ghetto-alpha-black-male” that is often thrust into the non-black community is actually the outlier.
Most black men in the ghetto fall into four other categories: 1) church-going beta boys;
2) uncool losers trying to pretend they’re alpha but coming off forced and dorky (i.e. the lower level drug dealers, most gang members, and fat kids);
3) “fine upstanding young gentlemen” who, like the majority of non-white people, do their best to avoid the trouble makers (these guys either end up moving out and taking a white wife or else going whole hog into “saving their community” and get trampled by huckster-liars like Al Sharpton);
and 4) closeted gays (a huge percentage in the ghetto, given the number of men raised by single mothers and yet the hostility homosexuality gets from the religious/gangs and the lack of LGBT protection there—–think of how much emphasis “outlandish” black men place on their clothes, appearance, hair, etc., and how HIV rates are magically higher in black communities).
The alpha-ghetto-black male is only a small percentage of the blacks there, but is celebrated by the left, trying to show black men as intelligent leaders. What is more, the black men who feel they can insert themselves into other communities and get away with it (i.e. take risks) will naturally be more alpha. Think about what kind of white man would continually go out to black clubs to pick up black women—a higher alpha, who has to be sure of his ass and his hand if he risks the ethnic cleansing.
The problem is that many blacks of the other 4 categories know a few cheap stage tricks to keep non-blacks on guard and believing they are alpha, combined with lower IQ and lack of social skills, and the fact that BLACK LEFTIST BEHAVIOR CANNOT BE CRITICIZED. If outright mockery were passable, most of the betas would be exposed quite easily.
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Not a bad analysis.
I’m more reserved about HIV. Instead of homosexuality, which sounds like another spiteful anti-darkie fantasy (not criticizing, I’m accustomed to the tribalism on this board), I’d prefer the same explanation that high HIV prevalence in Africa gets, i.e a widespread unbalanced diet with little antioxidants, and therefore more vulnerable immune systems.
Homosexuality and maybe drier vaginas add to the mix, but I don’t believe blacks get fucked over by the virus because they’re all getting gay ass on the down-low.
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And of course other STDs that facilitate HIV transmission. Black females are notoriously more promiscuous. Male promiscuity being irrelevant, since only alphas get most of the poon in all ethnic groups.
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lol, normally I just lurk and enjoy the wisdom espoused here, but really? Where are you guys getting the promiscuous black female meme from?!
I can tell you as a black male who regularly deals with women of different races; my black friends and I have noted that hands down it’s easier to bed white women then sistas. In fact a Sista will make you jump through some of the most arduous hoops for even the smallest of sexual favors. And more often than not, are far more sexually conservative compared to her white, Latin, and Asian counter parts.
Does that mean all young white chics are whores? Certainly not, but when it comes to their social-sexual habits many of which are outlined here; black girls generally are prudes. Now I will admit that if you have strong alpha game or know how to leverage “girl you’re so special” game. It will open the thighs of a hood chic faster that a shotgun can blow the locks off a door. But for most part black women are a never ending series of sh#t test. And that’s before you even get to the sex.
That’s probably why every guy I know of who cut his teeth spitting “game” on sistas is so good at gaming all other women.
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http://blackwomensuck.blogspot.com/2009/03/black-and-white-women-pregnancy-single.html
The title of the blog is biased but the article has some valid points. I’ve never dealt extensively with black women, except for a couple of flings. But from what I hear and see, there is some merit to the sistahs are freaky meme.
And it explains HIV prevalence better than the “most niggaz are gay” meme. Which one do you prefer?
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Where do all the baby mammas come from? Why a 75% illigitimacy rate? Why the common scenario of 5-6 kids by 5-6 different fathers? Why the dramatically higher STD rates?
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You’re wrong. Its higher for the very reason you refuse to believe. This also carries over into Africa as well. Its as in Arab countries- lots of men doing it and everyone denying it. 30+% of NAMs have been in prison too. That boy pussy be good too.
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Nailed it… my observations as well. Good job.
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R-selected populations gonna do what dey gotta do. Multiply.
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Email #5, let’s hear the story.
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finally, some troll service (da fuck? #4 isn’t even wrong). Isn’t Lokken a dyke?
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@The first reader…
Raised by women myself and it is a HARD mold to break, but it is possible.
I’d say you need alpha friends (assuming they would want to hang out with you) to cross the initial bridge, so to speak. So, join a sports club, frat, or something of that nature where alphas congregate and start meeting genuine alpha males there.
Hard habits I broke over time that is beaten into you by women:
Saying sorry for every little infraction
being careful when you’re getting stuff from shelves or other places
letting the woman interrupt up when speaking
constantly acknowledging her/their points with “I see what you are saying” or some other bullshit, etc.
You get the jist of it. Cut that shit out.
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re: #5- I thought Kristanna Loken was bi, but mainly gay. Divorced from a man recently, back with a woman, according to the web. She’s also got to be mid-30s by now- still smoking hot, of course. So the writer is probably a troll.
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Actually strict homosexuality in hot women is rare from what I have seen. Hot women have very fluid sexualities which is why it is so much easier for an alpha man to get a threesome than a alpha (hot) woman.
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Not necessarily. I read somewhere that bisexual women (very few are actually lesbian; those who say they are tend to hate men and were often raped as children) average more male sex partners than straight women do. And many men have lost their virginity to “lesbians”. Probably one reason teen boys find lesbianism “hot”.
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“Probably one reason teen boys find lesbianism “hot”.”
Ah, the myth of the hot lesbian. Lesbians seldom look like Kristanna Loken. More often, they look like Rosie O’Donnell, or this:
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Goodness. She looks like my uncle Bill.
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Which is why they go les. No one will fuck them.
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I’ve known a few bisexual women. They had MUCH higher libidos than straight women. Their willingness to fuck was comparable to men.
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Agreed. Bi-women tend to be extremely horny, and want to fuck a lot, and would actually prefer being the “man” in a lesbian relationship, but find that women are fucking headcases, so they’ll take a good cock with less drama.
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“Bi” in women usually breaks out as either straight+greedy or gay+confused… either of which works in your favor, especially when it comes to strippers.
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The study where “attractive” men and women ask random people to fuck… Did they really need to send them out in the street to figure out what would happen?
The key word is attractive. What makes a woman attractive? Physical traits: youth, health, a good body, a pretty face. Guys can see that literally in an instant.
What makes a man attractive? As any practitioner of game knows, positive physical traits help, but attraction is largely built on non-physical traits that any guy can communicate to a girl.
What can a girl can discern about a guy (even a tall, handsome one) propositioning her for sex on the street? That he’s mentally ill.
I just hope that whoever ran the study tried to bang some of the attractive women at their casting call.
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I’m not quit sure, exactly, how an emotionally distant, and at times, physically abusive father figure, shaped my interactions with women, but I’ll surmise my pussy quotient is greater because of his authoritarian parenting style. In the past, I’ve had great success employing beta maneuvers as I ran sorties on young twat, without the nuclear power of seduction in my arsenal. If my father taught me how to talk to women, I’d probably have more cocktales to share.
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CPAC, how about:
1. Do you really believe we can have a First-World nation, with a third-world population?
2. The civil rights movement was about creating a colorblind society … White people kept their end of the bargain, unilaterally disarming themselves of racial identity, other groups doubled down and armed themselves to the teeth, and continue to do so, your thoughts?
3. How do you explain the direct correlation between massive third-world immigration and the increase in the White divorce rate?
4. For white people to ask other white people to celebrate diversity is to ask them to celebrate their own declining numbers and influence, what type of healthy people would do that?
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1) population is irrelevant, its the great malthusian lie of our time. What matters is productivity. Our problem isnt immigration as so much it is our cultures unwillingness to instill our social values upon these new immigrants.
[heartiste: what if it can’t be instilled because these immigrants are genetically predisposed to prefer a certain way of life?]
If these new immigrants were learning English and the virtue of the American system then we wouldn’t be having these problems. In fact the failure of conservatives to do this is one of the grwat travesties of our era. The tacit acceptance through ignoring it of illegal immigration is just a physical manifestation of the self loathing this culture niw hows.
3) is wholly unrelated. Even if we completly stopped immigration marraige culture would still continue to implode.
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“1) population is irrelevant, its the great malthusian lie of our time. What matters is productivity. Our problem isnt immigration as so much it is our cultures unwillingness to instill our social values upon these new immigrants.”
Okay, so, we are all interchangeable and completely divorced from the cultural and genetic realities that exist among divergent populations. Somalies, with the proper acculturation, can be turned into Finns, right?
Your quasi-Randian drivel is disgusting.
“If these new immigrants were learning English and the virtue of the American system then we wouldn’t be having these problems.”
The problem is: Amerika encourages non-assimilation of the non-assimilable, i.e., the attempt at transmuting Mexicans and other third-worlders into productive Americans.
“In fact the failure of conservatives to do this is one of the grwat travesties of our era.”
The great travesty of this era falls on the shoulders of the disingenuous white liberals who preach diversity but only practice it in their choice of restaurants.
“The tacit acceptance through ignoring it of illegal immigration is just a physical manifestation of the self loathing this culture niw hows.”
The rabbit hole goes far deeper than you realize.
“3) is wholly unrelated. Even if we completly stopped immigration marraige culture would still continue to implode.”
No. The debasement of white marriage culture begins with third-world influence.
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[ In fact the failure of conservatives to do this is one of the grwat travesties of our era.]
its hard to sound smart when you have typos…just sayin.
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Agreed that immigration/White divorce are unrelated.
But as far as the “if these new immigrants were learning English and the virtue of the American system…” nonsense, well…
a) if my grandmother had wheels she’d be a street car… can’t make a silk purse out of a sow’s ear… leopard can’t change its spots… blah… blah.. blah…
b) the “American system” is what created today’s mess… we just didn’t realize it as the Frankenstein monster that it is because all along the White people of European ancestry were holding sway. Now that we see what happens when “democracy” blooms amid a faux “melting pot”, well… there’s you :”American system”… and you can keep it.
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KSN: “If these new immigrants were learning English and the virtue of the American system then we wouldn’t be having these problems.”
Did you know that all the savages who burned thousands of cars in Paris a couple of years ago – because two of them killed themselves while fleeing the police – speak french? Most don’t even think in arabic. They speak french, they all go to public schools but none of them consider themselves french, it’s an insult to them.
There’s no virtue in a system that promotes a fantasy i.e. that race, IQ, ethnicity, culture, group identity, etc. doesn’t matter, only individuality does. Most Founding Fathers didn’t even buy into that nonsense anyway, which makes modern american nationalism an even bigger lie than it is.
Reality contradicts your equalibertardian fantasy. You can pick one or the other, not both. You can keep on sipping the colorblind Kool-aid while you intellectually masturbate or realize you’ve been fed a lie.
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Care to elaborate on the white divorce/immigration thing?
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“Then why are there so many players in the ghetto? Given their lack of real-world status (i.e., money, social status and prospects), fatherless hoodrats seem to do better on average with the ladies (albeit low class ones) than your typical suburbanite or SWPL.
[heartiste: it might be wise to control this observation for race.]
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Different culture idealizations. White boys are exposed to Rom-Coms, ideailzations about the perfect girl, being a gentleman, and the pedastolization of the virgin mary.
Black boys are exposed to pimps, game, not being “disrespected, treating a ho like a ho, and the idealization of having “game”, style, and being cool.
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Different culture capacities, reflected in mass media.
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I’ve got a question:
After staring at me very blatantly (literally turned around in her seat to look at me as I walked by), this girl came up to me at my school’s cafeteria and told me I was cute. I was kind of taken aback, but after a minute or so of chitchat I told her to give me her number and that I’d get back to her. This isn’t something that’s ever happened to me, but she was a freshman theater major and probably a bit desperate after all the gay men she’s surrounded by.
I obviously couldn’t seal the deal then (was with a guy friend anyway), but now what? Any tips for sealing the deal?
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If she’s coming up to you and calling you cute, the deal is already sealed. Ask her out.
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1) “I was kind of taken aback…” Fail.
2) Never lose a staring contest.
3) “This isn’t something that’s ever happened to me…” Then fake it. Pretend it happens all the time, or at least act the part.
4) “… she was a freshman theater major and probably a bit desperate after all the gay men she’s surrounded by.” It’s not just theater majors, my son. A drop of testosterone in this culture of epicene manboys is like blood in the ocean: sharks/women will come for miles to feed. Anyway, even if you don’t believe that, it’s the vibe you should be putting out. The easiest way to put out that vibe? Believe.
5) Ignore until you run into her again. Work other leads in the meantime. When you do find yourselves together, deliberately forget details, not rudely but in good-natured curiosity: “Refresh my memory, who are you?”
If any of this sounds counterproductive or counterintuitive, good. But once she’s buckled into your rollercoaster car, go full speed. Take her on a ride that leaves her breathless at the end of the day, and disappear as quickly and as completely as you can. She will chase you.
Zen koan: Master Joshu says, “You close by never closing.” Meditate.
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Ignore everything King A said. Don’t over-game this one. A bitch asking you out is two things: desperate for attention, and already in love with you. Be bold, be brash, but here, just be direct. No need for theatrics and Zen koans.
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What? Everything I suggested was under-game and non-theatrical. Including Zen, which is the inverse of dramatics.
Do you read, or do your eyes just blur over paragraphs? Be illiterate or be smug, but the combination of the two makes you come across as even more of a retard than you probably are.
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The kid wanting to become a juggalo has watched too much TV.
There is a reason a girl would have to pay for sex.
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Agreed, when he sees what he’s signed up for he won’t be able to get it up anyway. Same thing with guys who think they’re going to get into the pr0n business and just bone the likes of Lily Carter all day – only ways to do it are (1) have enough $ to start your own studio, in which case why bother? (2) ride in on the coattails of a new female performer, or (3) prepare to suck lots of dick first.
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CH,
When Vicki sent me those texts, it was about a month post-strikeout. I was intentionally being a super asshole just to see how Lil’ Miss Precious would react.
No response since, but I’ll be damned if I text her first.
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And yes, I was genuinely cranky. It was four in the damn morning.
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Then why did you reply? You should have waited for 12 hours. The first thing that happens in this text convo is you acknowledging her right to wake you up at 4 am. Not a good start.
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I cannot recommend highly enough the book No More Mr Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover as re the first email absence of a father figure. It changed my life.
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The breakdown of boys and their fathers is dead-on. You can’t stress enough the damage done to young boys by paternal abandonment. The mothers tend to be angry and bitter at men, and take out that frustration on their sons (as well as giving them negative feedback regarding masculinity in general). Most of their teachers (aka adult role models) are female, and the school system itself is designed to punish boys for natural boisterousness and play-fighting. They grow up with all this shame and confusion about masculinity, and the cycle continues. It’s particularly bad in the lower-class black community, but you see it across the board – as a teacher I can tell you after 5 minutes with a kid whether he has a strong male role model or not. It’s sad.
And the wannabe gigolo made me LOL. If there are any “at least average looking young girls” who need to pay for sex, I haven’t met them. Your average plain jane can walk into any bar in any city and get more penis thrown at her than she can handle. The only time women pay for sex is if they’re elderly and lonely, or if they have a weird power fetish of some kind.
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My dad was a great father, but was in the office 7 days a week and I didn’t see him at all until he was high enough in the ranks to leave before 8pm. My mom and sister both punished any type of masculine behavior (strong, aggressive, horny, you name it). My mom basically made me think making a move on a girl was wrong. Its taken me some serious brainwashing to sack up and get angry. I feel a lot of disdain towards women still but I’m trying to accept and move on.
Thankfully my dad made up for it with fast cars and a fat allowance as a kid… Seeing how superficial some sluts can be is the only thing that kept me from being a submissive woman worshiper. He also demonstrated how to be a leader and have a certain cockiness that I think served me well. Whatever, its never too late.
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Texting was piss poor. Only thing I could conceivably call “game” was the last line, and even that was employed outside of any context in which it could have netted results. Entire frame is fucked. Tell the submitter to reread it in terms of reactivity vs. non-reactivity. He’s the child, not her.
[heartiste: i didn’t want to be that harsh on the emailer, but basically you’re right. he was reacting. as game goes, it wasn’t good. but as texting goes, it was better than what most men do.]
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No worries, fire away. I asked for the critique, and brutal honesty beats sunshine up the ass any day.
Might texting game be mostly wasted effort, like online dating is? The medium seems ill-adapted to making a woman tingle unless you’ve already begun reeling her in face-to-face.
Next time I get a 4AM text from some girl, my response will be my original luddite one: no response.
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Yep, really bad text game. Should be much briefer. But he’s screwed as soon as he immediately responds to a text at 4 AM. She then knew that he had nothing better to do then entertain her.
[heartiste: good point.]
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A boy who grows up in a female-centric, fatherless home is most likely to burst forth from his rotted, disfigured chrysalis a self-destructive omega male. Too much female influence will render him utterly unprepared to acknowledge real female nature. He won’t learn from his mistakes, and he’ll suffer from the bad advice of his mother and sisters.
Yup, that’s me. My mom divorced my cheating alpha dad and raised me. She was so bitter she crushed any alpha behavior in me the instant she saw it. Then to top it off, when I was a teenager she gave me the usual crappy “be yourself, women like nice guys” advice.
I was lucky to emerge from this process a mere beta instead of a hopeless omega.
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This dynamic is the heart of Rebel Without a Cause.
Get a load of Bachus wearing a kitchen apron.
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So what can one do about a teenage boy who seems destined for uber-betadom? I have a younger brother who is like this. We aren’t from a single-parent home, but I have a very paranoid and emotional mother who finds a way to blame my dear father for everything; my brother finds it easier to give in to her demands than to question her. But he is too preoccupied with pleasing her (often at his own expense) and I worry about him. Advice, anyone?
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Buy him the mystery method, and then show him this blog.
He may turn into an abusive sociopath, or a strong masculine man. Either way, it’s better than losing his time on earth being a beta.
That’s all you can do, you can’t shake the beta off someone by mere words.
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My dad had some natural alpha traits, but I turned out beta as all hell.
Mom was constantly jealous of other women flirting with him, but Dad completely ignored them and didn’t pay much mind to Mom’s worrying either. He had been, in his youth, a handsome popular athlete and a “leader of men” amongst his peers. He and Mom had dated all the way back in high school, and I can easily imagine she was the envy of the other girls, and also had a sense of Dad’s many options even back then. It would be creepy as hell to try to rate *my mother* on a 1-10 scale but she was one of the lead cheerleaders and was in local beauty contests; so I believe he took the best option and stuck with it, loyally.
Unfortunately he didn’t pass on much of this to me. All I learned from his role-modelling was to be a good provider and to expect women to respect you for it.
t remember him saying things like, “make good grades and get a good job and the girls will come on their own”. I think he had no _clue_ what it was he actually did to attract and keep my mother, and couldn’t have told me if I’d grilled him about it point blank.
Everything I know about Game I’ve learned way after the fact.
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I grew up in a pretty alpha, abusive environment, I’d say it definitely has negatively affected my own game. Kinda hard to get over that neurotic “flinch whenever theres a loud noise” mentality.
The more you state how biology and childhood affects you and your way with women, the more I get depressed.
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Sound like Chris Rex of The Rex Style…
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one good thing about the human mind is, you can change it.
recognize your faults and deal with them.
you can transform yourself. if you want to put forth the effort.
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Take up shooting. You will break yourself of flinching just so you can get on target.
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I guess I don’t really see what is wrong with the texts. As far as I can tell, being an alpha male stems from women reacting well. Sure, there are some traits that you think an alpha male should have, but I don’t see what he did wrong. She seemed to be eating out of the palm of his hand. Almost everything she said had an exclamation point, so she seemed pretty excited to be talking to him. Even I thought that his texts were pretty funny, although the last couple might have annoyed me a little bit. It’s hard to tell how I would respond to something like that, but Vicki responded well, so that seems most important.
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sheeeeet. When I was a teenager, I bumped into my old man as he was walking out of a bar with his buddy’s wife. Awkward moment, that.
It flashed into my head at about that point how my mom would sourly respond, when pops would mention that a restaurant was good, “Who did you take there….?”
And when I was really young, dad would often be “away” for a few weeks. In retrospect, those were the times mom probably threw his ass out for being to obvious about it all.
Interesting how you don’t see it all until you get older. Funny part is he is the last guy in the world you would think could or would pull all that shit.
He had my mom locked down, though. Still does. Guy knows how to play it deep. He was the one who once told me when I was 18 that women want to be dominated by their man. Maybe the best advice I ever got, and it was at the exact right time in my life. Seriously. That one bit of advice probably made more difference in my life than almost anything else. Whenever I saw guys get all twisted up by women, it was usually because they stopped being a man.
The old man still knows the score on a lot of stuff, even in his old age. Shit, I better buy him something this year for fathers days. Meh. Fuck it. He’s cool with it.
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#4 oughta watch this:
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Re: #2, CPAC —
Give Ann Coulter a pack of Skittles.
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On the text game….here’s the best response I’ve found to those situations.
Me texting girl I banged on NY Eve who had suddenly gotten a jealous streak after seeing a photo I posted of me and my ex on holiday together.
Me: Friday. salsa.
Her: No! can’t…have flu, so tired.
Clearly being blown off here my reply:
Me: …
The … reply is awesome. It gets the hamster spinning. Girls don’t know what it means and it actually has no meaning. “Is he mad?” “Does he believe me?”
The … three dots is an awesome little non-response when cocky-funny won’t do and when you need to respond to amp up the tension.
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I can’t quite remember when my parents divorced, but my brother and I grew up with my mother. I’m not sure where to begin on the reasons behind the divorce, but I’ll go with betaized father. He was still a large part of my life but we never really had any conversations about girls.
In my case, my brother turned out alpha. I would say the natural bad boy type. Drinks too much, reckless, threw wild parties, at one point he brought 7 or more sexy girls into my room when we were teenagers. I was too preoccupied with the computer to care, and embarrassed really, so I shooed them out. He’s currently in an LTR with I girl I would put around 8.5.
I unfortunately was quite shy, and didn’t kiss a girl until a few months before my highschool prom. She asked me to prom, and I asked her out weeks later. Little by little I’m building my confidence with girls. In the past year I’ve gotten a lot better. I’ve started making out with girls, going on dates, and having them chase me. However I’m still a virgin. The most frustrating part is the closest I’ve come to sex is having her say ‘no’ when I going to grab a condom and we were both butt-naked. Every other time, and I’m not even kidding, it’s depressing really, I’ve been so nervous that I couldn’t get hard once my pants were off. Most I’ve got is fingering. I’m still trying, contemplating a quarter pill of viagra if this continues.
I’m a little off track, back to my father. I would say I don’t have a father figure, he’s more of an anti-role model. I model myself opposite to who he is as a person in general, I don’t know specifics about how he was with girls. He’s also quite old. I’m 19, and he is around 60 something, so I suppose I never saw his prime. Sad to say that my brother and I will insult eachother with “you’re just like dad” if we are fighting.
It’s not all bad, I inherited a handsome face and I’m 6’1″. Quite skinny though, 140-150 pounds. As I said earlier, I have girls approach me sometimes, but I mess up somewhere along the way with all but a few that I turn up flaccid with. Then there was the one drunk chick wrapping her legs around me in a basement, but I didn’t have a condom so I bailed. Little failures like that have been the story of my sexless-life since I started trying to improve myself at 17.
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If you’re figuring this stuff out at 19, you’re doing just fine man.
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There seems to be lots of us reforming betas on this blog. Although this blog is great and I’ve learned a lot from it, some of it is a bit advanced, and some of it doesn’t really apply to your 18-22yo guy where social dynamics are a bit different. What there needs to be is a forum for reforming betas to get together and discuss their experiences, and really get down to the most basics.
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Sounds rough, Kuldar. But you also come across as a bit of a bitchy whiner, blaming daddy, woe is me, my life is so turribullllllll.
There are no regimens guaranteed to raise you up from bitchitude, despite what PUA-blogs and game seminars promise. And the surrounding culture is your enemy, even more than daddy is. Your (elder? I hope) brother seems to have transcended pop’s influence in some ways. So that means your problems are more self-generated and self-sustaining than you have the courage to admit.
The best, most reliable way to transform yourself is through mentorship. Even then traces of unmanliness persist in idiosyncratic ways — you can see this in the baffling metrosexuality of many PUAs, who are otherwise characteristically manly.
Get over your sibling rivalry, get over your immature envy, and ally with your brother. Seems your best bet, based on the limited info you’ve given us. Brotherhood is an irreplaceable gift. Having an alpha dad or alpha uncles is great for purposes of emulation and mentorship, but having a brother is better. You share the same generation within a mini-hierarchy and that demonstrates to a child how to become a man among men, by trial and error, awkward step by awkward step, assuming you both haven’t been damaged.
I don’t know how spoiled and solipsistic only-children survive life, they all seem irrationally misguided about what the world owes them and therefore socially warped by several degrees, even in adulthood. Real parents give a boy the space and protection to grow into a proper man, and brothers and sisters are fellow-travelers for life, bound by unconditional and instinctive love.
I’m blessed to have undivorced parents who surrounded me with remarkable siblings without neglecting or abusing us. The rest of you poor bastards are spinning your boy-hamsters just to achieve my baseline. I guess I have sympathy for you, but not if you don’t acknowledge how deep the rot goes and how extensive the rehab must be.
Maybe it’s too late for you chumps turned cads out of desperation. But at least give your sons a chance. Give your kids a brother, a sister, and a dad.
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King A, I’m fully aware that my problems are my own. I’m not trying to blame my father, but you clearly can’t understand that there’s always a part of my mind that feels robbed of a proper father figure. I’ve made rapid improvements to who I am as a person. At 17 I couldn’t look a person in the eyes when I was talking to them. Now I have people calling me cocky, and I have fooled around with girls that couldn’t look me in the eye.
I didn’t put enough emphasis on my brother being a bad boy. He’s 3 years older by the way. Drug dealing, fighting, court dates, probation officers. I don’t even know half the shit he got up to when we were younger because he didn’t get caught for it. I’ve seen his struggles with girls though. He went through trial and error too, I distinctly remember him calling one girlfriend every single day while we were on vacation, until she got sick of him. His love life hasn’t resulted in a child yet because the girls he got pregnant could afford abortions.
It may have been wise to ally myself with him when we were younger, but now the extent of our relationship is me driving him to his probation officer or lawyer when he’s hungover in the morning, because he’s lost his license due to multiple counts of DUI. His problems become mine, because I can’t just abandon my brother, but I fucking hate him for it. Try being woken up at 4 am on the day of your first university exam with your brother yelling “your car was stolen!” only to find out it was a practical joke. I wasn’t laughing, and he didn’t give a fuck because he was too drunk to remember the next day.
I’m not even 19, I actually turned 20 in the end of January. I tried to regard this as little as possible because I know there is no point in lamenting over being a 20 year old virgin. I completely forgot when writing my last comment.
I know it’s a pretty common problem to remain flaccid when you’re anxious with a girl, but I’m blindsided by it every time. It goes “ok panties are off or half off, she’s wet, I’m hard, unbuckling pants, pulling my cock out, she grabs it, oh what the fuck why am I going soft.” The first girlfriend, I broke up with because I took it as a sign that I wasn’t really attracted to her. The last girl I had, in the summer, gave me tens of chances to fuck her. I didn’t take the initiative on some of them, and when I did, I still went soft. She only stayed around for the fingerbangs, but eventually that ended because fingerbanging was a bandage on an overall terrible sex life.
Regardless of all this, I don’t give up or put the blame on anybody else. I’ve read up on the erectile dysfunction. It’s either from performance anxiety, or not allowing myself to get into the sexual trance and let instinct take over. I know it isn’t physical because I’m as hard as a rock until my pants come off and I realize that sex could be imminent.
Next weekend I’m headed to a ski resort that plays host to a bunch of touring groups, and I’m going to be surrounded by 16-20 year old girls, including the girl from the summer. I’m trying to open myself to the possibility of losing my virginity there, and thats why I’m considering the viagra so I have one less thing to worry about. I’m going in with the homefield advantage actually, last year on the same trip I made out with 3 girls in the local club, 2 of them gave their hotel numbers, and I ended up in the hotel of one of them. I couldn’t isolate because it was after hours at that point and the hotel room was full of cockblocking girls. Nonetheless I’m going in with the confidence that I know I can pull, and with a years worth more experience turning girls on.
I am also going to be way less timid about escalating, as this blog has helped me realize that a big problem I had was “TAKING WOMEN’S SYMBOLIC RESISTANCE AT FACE VALUE” from Heartiste’s post April 18, 2011. I’m not going to stop at the first, second, third or any no. This time if I have a girl in bed, I’m only stopping if she gets up and leaves.
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Why are you not allowing yourself to go into a sexual trance and let your instincts take over????
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Could you be gay? I’m not mocking or anything, I’m just trying to understand.
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No I’m not gay. From what I’ve read, there are a variety of reasons I can’t get erect, but the one that makes the most sense is which nervous system is activated when with a girl and sex is possible. In my case, I’m making such a big deal out of sex that I can’t relax, and instead get a flight-or-fight response.
When talking about the flight-or-fight response it’s important to remember the danger our ancestors faced. You’re relatively vulnerable to attack during sex, in the past that could be a competing male, or a predator animal. It manifests as an inability to get erect, because I’m in flight mode from my nerves. It can also occur as premature ejaculation, to quickly impregnate the girl, lose erection, and run/fight.
The sexual trance is handled by the parasympathetic nervous system (PNS), which handles activities such as resting, relaxation, and digestion. Unfortunately once in flight-or-flight mode, the PNS effectively shuts off, and it can take a while to recover. Recovering it involves relaxing, taking mental stress off, and realizing sex is not a big deal. If you aren’t nervous to begin with, the PNS is easily in control, and you simply slip in the sexual trance.
Viagra counteracts the erection shut-off of flight-or-flight, making sex possible, but mechanical. Not nearly as enjoyable as if you were in rest-and-digest the whole time, but pleasurable nonetheless.
There’s a lot of detail that I don’t want to go into in the comments section. I came across this information from posts by a guy named Illuminatus on various pick-up related websites and other forums.
I recommend you read up on it, it applies to more than just sex. For example, if you’re grinding with a girl and not sexually aroused at all, then you aren’t relaxed enough in the club atmosphere, and are in flight-or-fight to begin with. You also need to help the girl relax into rest-and-digest for her to become sexually aroused. Alcohol kickstarts the PNS, but it’s still just circumventing the real issues.
I’ve felt the difference before. In one case, flight-or-fight I have a hardon when my pants are still on. I’m aroused but still in control, then the nerves hit when the pants come off. In another case, I was wrestling with a girl for fun, without sex on my mind at all. Once I had her pinned down I found I was extremely aroused, completely willing to fuck her out in the woods, animalistic. I wasn’t even being stopped by her resistance. She said “no” one time, and I pushed her down and said “fuck that, I know you’re wet” and kissed her. She wasn’t resisting, but yet again I stopped myself because we were outdoors and there were people in the park nearby. Dumb I know, but I’m working on just giving into my urges.
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kuldar,
I’m going to give you useful advice. If you don’t lift weights, join a gym and have someone teach you how to squat and deadlift properly. If you already lift, learn how to train harder with these basic movements.
Lifting hard will have a stronger and better effect on you than any other thing you could do. Don’t worry so much about words; words are easy. People will feed you endless, worthless words. Dismiss that.
Your brother is a natural man. He’s trying to enjoy his life. He may wind up dead or jailed, but he’s not a pussy — and that’s an achievement of great value in our almost unimaginably effete culture. Make sure you stick by him — you have a great deal to learn from his flow.
Make sure you get outside and get sun. And when you’re with a girl you want to fuck, at a certain point, after kissing her for a while, look her in the eye and say: I’m gonna fuck the shit out of you. Then proceed to do so.
And enjoy it. Don’t worry about her; don’t worry about getting or staying hard –if there are any “problems” with that, tell her you want to blow your first load in her hot little mouth — and she will do what you want. Then take your time enjoying her body, the sight and smell and taste of a sweet young bitch.
Then, because you’re 20 and you’re lifting right, you’ll get hard as a steel pipe and you’ll fuck her for an hour or two or until you’re too hungry to bother fucking any more. And then you eat and drink and laugh.
That is what you want to do: you want to live and enjoy your life.
There’s only one.–
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Kuldar, sweetheart, only a 21-year-old (or a 71-year-old) would seek the temporary fix of pharmacology to put a band aid on a fundamental problem.
You don’t need a fake hard on. That only masks your problems. If anything, listen to n/a and try for a behavior fix in weight training and fellatio (um, receiving it).
You have to get to the root of what has turned you into a pussy. You have to manhandle that shit. No couches or talking cures with herb psychologists delving to the bottom of your daddy issues like he’s trying to itch your ass for you. Just a resolute determination to stomp through this life like a giant. Dress the part, act the part, be the part. Fake it till you make it. Try it out, get results, fail, tweak your approach, and try it again. “You don’t fail by falling, you fail by not getting up.” All that.
You are captivated by your failure, and that is adding to your failure. You feel like a loser because your dick goes soft, your dick goes soft because you feel like a loser. Men smash things to get their way. Bull through it until your cock wakes up.
I realize this hardly sounds like advice. But men don’t hear “stop being a pussy” enough. You have to realize that your lack of receptivity is part of the disease that is making you look for answers in medicine. You are conditioned to only receive a certain kind of answer to the question, Why o why is this happening to me? But not only is the answer something that will create three other problems, the very question is an indication you are barking up the wrong tree. The superstitious herb-academic practice places its faith in the idea that once we know why something happens, we will discern all the hows.
Fuck “why.” The precise why is not just unknowable, it is irrelevant to anyone with a serious mind for solutions. When al Qaeda struck, some were disposed to thinking, Why do they hate us? Why would they do such a thing? Their fantasy is that once you understand their motivations we will be able to prevent it. Others of us could not care less what motivated them. All that mattered was the fact of it happening. All that mattered is doing what it takes to keep it from happening again. One is an infinite regress of paralyzing (dick-softening) questions. The other is solution-oriented.
Take charge of the situation. You have a mind of deference — you blame Mr. Softy on yourself or this or that queer event in your self-fulfilling prophesy of a queer life. Who told you to do that? Shift the cause to something else, to her, regardless of whether it’s true or not. Your problem isn’t impotence, your problem is being such a sad sack that you didn’t turn a setback into an almighty neg. And you dropped down a shame spiral thereafter, closing yourself off from the better solutions.
The little blue pill would be easier. Except not only is a fake woody a temporary fix (that might blow up in your face another way), it is exceedingly pathetic for a man to avoid issues rather than grab them by the horns. You can’t cure your psychological impotence with a pill. You cure that by fixing your attitude. And you fix your attitude by behavior modification and the practice of self-delusional bullshitting — see prior posts on the benefits of overconfidence.
All else fails, work out your therapy with a sensitive and appreciative (read: homely) girl you can practice on without shame. Tell her your issues without embarrassment — embarrassment is for little people who are sensitive to the world’s opinions. Challenge her to summon her femininity to work it out. Fear is the boner killer. You need an atmosphere of fearlessness, even if that means starting small.
If you can’t get your cock up, you shouldn’t be fucking in the first place. Nature is tapping you on the shoulder telling to get your shit squared away first. Artificial solutions add to your pre-dick-ament.
When you get your dick wet, when you grow up some, you will discover that there are other sources of meaning in life, and you will take the pussy off the pedestal. If it’s something you just do, if it is one part of your life and not this epic phantom looming over your manhood, you might just chillax long enough to keep the lead in your pencil.
In fact, if you figure out a way to adopt this attitude before you Relinquish Your Precious Maidenhead, you may find the problem has taken care of itself. Without pills, without Wikipedia articles on the nervous system, without psyching yourself up and out, without getting “closure” with your daddy.
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TARDGIRL: So u don’t love me anymore? I was dreamin bout u baby!
HIM: That’s cool, but don’t send me the laundry bill.
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That right there is funny.
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Email #5 might be true, if it was from Michelle Rodriguez, lol.
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lol 😀
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bro, if you are 41 and the hb is 27, she’s too old. especially if she is careening towards the wall sans brakes.
I am 39 and dont hit on girls older then 25.
ideally she would be 20 years younger.
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27 is too old? I don’t think so. I’m 27 and I don’t feel I’m too old for a guy who’s 39 or 41. Usually I feel I’m too young for them!
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I don’t recall anyone here caring about how you, or any other woman feels about this.
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Well, that’s obviously very important! If we’re not interested in men who are that old this means that you guys can’t expect to have anything with us!
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In regards to email # 4, I think he watched too much Hung when it was on HBO.
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“Lindsay Lohan, meet the wall. Drugs + slutty lifestyle = 25 year old wall victim.”
Relax, CH.
[heartiste: maya, here’s some helpful clarification: just because a person has said something that gets under your skin isn’t evidence that that person was not in a relaxed state when he said it.]
She looks like a pretty 25 year old.
[no. she looks like a washed-up 35 year old. seriously. the average 25 year old chick looks more youthful than lilo.]
She’s not a wall victim AT ALL.
[she’s aaaaaalmost there.]
Maybe just a little tired, but she’ll be okay.
[she looks like shit for her age. she’s the perfect anti-drug, anti-slut psa.]
She has some wrinkles around her eyes but that’s probably from spending time on the beach.
[is it possible for you to refrain from trolling for ONE FUCKING COMMENT? please, do it for the children.]
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ok, sorry. i was just a bit upset because lilo is younger than me.
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Re: #6
I think he might have been telling her to go fuck herself.
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No don’t be a male prostitute. Just get women to do you favors.
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Suspending judgement for a moment, being a manwhore would impact a guy’s dating future were it known. It’s one of those things that even if you can do it, you shouldn’t.
The reason why is because it is well known that male prostitutes will do anything for money, including sucking a dick.
Any out bisexual or straight but top and flexible guy can tell you that it is very difficult for women to consider having sex with a guy who has ever seen the business end of a penis. Nobody will believe that you only serviced women.
If you have the charisma to get a woman to pay for it, you’re much better off being a pimp, a stripper, or a rich woman’s bitch.
Women who aren’t disabled and even some who are, don’t generally have a problem finding a guy who will do it for free.
I only know one healthy, reasonably okay looking woman who has ever hired a male prostitute, and that was as a stripper for a party because the birthday girl and a few other attendees had never seen a Black cock live before. He didn’t even get to shag anybody, and was just fantasy fuel.
If there’s something unusual and special about you, be a dancer. That is a growing market and though they are known for banging old ladies, that’s less of a stigma than being Gay when you want to have a life later.
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I echo commenter Zorro’s advice. As a recovering beta, I found Dr Roger Glover’s book “No More Mr Nice Guy” incredibly valuable.
Chateau Heartiste helped save my life, when my marriage imploded. The principles taught here at the Chateau are the single most important set of knowledge a man can learn. Thank you again for this website and your generosity.
However CH cannot help every man with his individual quest to be Alpha, there are just too many of us and one of him. One of the questions that I read frequently in CH comments is (I generalise for the sake of brevity) “I am Beta, how do I change?”.
The book “No More Mr Nice Guy” is clear about how Betas are formed (and feminised) by bad fathers and poor mothers. It has a series of exercises, which, if you do them honestly, will show you exactly how you act Beta. It will show you how, as an individual, you behave in weak, submissive ways which doom you to Betadom. Even better, it details Alpha ways of behaving, and how to substitute these for your (individual) weaknesses.
If you buy the book, you have to be tough with yourself and do the work (exercises and homework) honestly. I had to do the book twice before I could honestly face up to some of my unattractive Beta behaviours. But “No More Mr Nice Guy” has helped me enormously in very practical ways. I wholeheartedly recommend it to you.
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Why the hell anyone would screw some random person who walked up to them is beyond me. Do you enjoy having STDs?
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