Many doubters of game, especially those of the determinist variety, like to assert that game, even if it has merit, is largely limited in scope to those men already born with the genes that give them personality characteristics — for instance, extroversion — suited for seducing women. Their thinking goes:
Game requires extroversion and charisma.
Extroversion and charisma are mostly heritable, genetically influenced traits.
ERGO, men without those advantageous pussy-slaying genes cannot learn or benefit from game.
CONCLUSION: only men born with “game genes” can run game successfully.
Coming from this blog, it might sound funny that I’m about to disprove the above logic sequence. After all, a fair amount of posting effort here is spent hammering the feelgood, empty-headed assertions of the “social conditioning”, cultural supremacy crowd and emphasizing the heretofore mostly unacknowledged or under-examined role that genes play in everything about us humans, from the way we look, to our personalities, to our predilection for impulsiveness and crime, to our sexual desire and our intelligence. (This study and this one are two examples of many.)
I do this because for generations the West has labored under the grand poobah of lies, the lie of blank slate ideology. This rancid ideology has brought more pain, death, distress and wasted resources upon its enthralled peoples than any other. The amount of self-delusion, demoralizing snark and frantic propaganda needed to sustain it is breathtaking.
Yet there is no such thing as absolute genetic determinism. Genes are probability, not destiny (credit: Razib). Genes explain a lot — more than most give them credit for — but they aren’t everything. Our genetic heritage has also imbued us with a talent for adaptation in the face of environmental flux and everyday challenges. Stressing the genetic component should not be construed as denying any environmental influence. I stress genes because they are ignored, deliberately or incidentally, by most everyone else, and especially by those who wield the media bullhorns, work in HR departments, grade papers in academia and make policy in legislative dens. My ASCII saber brings balance to the force.
Having acknowledged the power of genes, anti-gamers may wonder where I get off claiming men can learn to be better womanizers. Simple. Personality, moreso than looks or height or intelligence, is amenable to active efforts at change. Given that a man’s personality is at least as relevant as, if not more relevant than, his looks or wealth to attracting women, improving his personality so that he has a sexier, dominant vibe will redound to more sex and better relationships.
And this isn’t just evidence from personal experience, or observation of the experiences of others, speaking. Science is catching up to the field work of millions of aspiring players. Here is a study showing that military service will change a man’s personality.
“Be all you can be,” the Army tells potential recruits. The military promises personal reinvention. But does it deliver? A new study, which will be published in an upcoming issue of Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science, finds that personality does change a little after military service – German conscripts come out of the military less agreeable than their peers who chose civilian service.
It’s maybe a bit more than a coincidence that pickup teachers call their in-field classes “boot camps”. The military is a tough, strict regimen, and the personality changes measured are not huge. This should chasten betas new to the game that they are going to have to commit a lot of focused effort to pickup if they want to enjoy the pussy bounty that accrues to the smoothest operators. But at least now they know it can be done.
Here’s another study concluding that certain personality changes lead to more happiness, and that such change is possible.
People’s personalities can change considerably over time, say scientists, suggesting that leopards really can change their spots.
Psychologists from The University of Manchester and London School of Economics and Political Science (LSE) also showed that small positive personality changes may lead to greater increases in happiness than earning more money, marrying, or gaining employment. […]
Lead author Dr Chris Boyce, from the University of Manchester’s School of Psychological Sciences, said: “We found that our personalities can and do change over time – something that was considered improbable until now – and that these personality changes are strongly related to changes in our wellbeing. […]
“Fostering the conditions where personality growth occurs – such as through positive schooling, communities, and parenting [ed: and game!] – may be a more effective way of improving national wellbeing than GDP growth.”
It’ll be difficult, but you can alter your personality from a less sexy one to a sexier one. From a boring one to a charismatic one. That’s really what game is — the active transformation of your personality from mundane to mesmerizing, based on a conceptual foundation derived from evolutionary biology and real world feedback that the male personality attributes which most women find sexually attractive are identifiable, objective and acquirable.
Before you untether yourself from reality with this joyous news, know that your genetic disposition will make game more or less taxing on you to learn and implement. If you are a natural introvert, expect your learning curve to be much steeper than it would be for an inborn extrovert. It really WILL be harder for some guys to learn game, let alone master it, than it will for other guys who were born with a more advantageous suite of personality traits. Life isn’t fair, so you have to be ready to accept that some men will be better at game, and better at it quicker, than you. But you shouldn’t allow this acceptance to sap your willpower, because regardless of the ease with which other men accomplish their goals, you can improve yourself.
For some men, their goals are racking up notch counts into the hundreds or thousands. For other men, their goals are enjoying a few flings on the side. Still others just want a girlfriend or a happier wife. Whatever the goal, the result is inarguable: giving men more choice in women. And that’s a good thing for both.

http://textsfromhillaryclinton.tumblr.com/
Hillary’s ego must be off the wall…
But, back on topic. 100% true. I believe the anti-charisma crowd underestimate just how powerful charisma can be.
How one sentence can diffuse and neuter an entire argument or how one look/backturn/gesture can turn an angry bitch who’s yelling in your ear to a quiet, willing girlfriend in seconds.
Those folks are stuck under the woman’s labia and they don’t even know it.
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http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052702303299604577327732032337226.html?mod=WSJ_Opinion_MIDDLETopOpinion
“Every woman responds to a man whose looks correspond to her particular stereotype of power,” Remoff observes in a passage she italicizes.
…
Women’s desire for powerful men conflicts with feminism’s pursuit of female power–a pursuit that has been official policy since 1964, when Rep. Howard W. Smith of Virginia, a segregationist who was also a feminist, amended the Civil Rights Act to add the words “or sex.” For nearly half a century, the federal government has made a priority of increasing women’s income, educational attainment, status and control of social and material resources. At the same time, mainstream culture has encouraged women to be more assertive and men more sensitive. Male dominance is a thing of the past.
This effort to equalize the sexes has created a sexual disequilibrium. For a high-status or powerful woman, a higher-status or more powerful man is hard to find. Although that works out nicely for the highest-status men, it is much more difficult for the average man to make himself an attractive prospect for women. Result: a lot of lonely people of both sexes, and an eager market for pornography of both the visual and literary kinds.
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Personality transformation need not be all-or-nothing. It can be as simple as incorporating certain personality traits.
For example, introverts don’t have to turn into full-on extroverts, but may simply consciously start to incorporate extrovert traits in certain situations. Many actors & comedians are actually introverts who know how to turn on extrovert traits.
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God, CH, you’re a really cool guy. Is there anything else I could to draw your attention?
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I mean, what can people who want to be your friends do? I really really really want to be friends with you … 😥 You write in your posts that you have female friends too. What requirements do they have to meet? Are they just some random lucky girls?
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man, what the hell is wrong with you?
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ran out of lithium.
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I don’t know. Is there anything wrong with me?
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First, meat heartists mom – pass her stringent admissions criteria…then, maybe you can try private emails to unleash your Torrents of Passion. of course this all depends on your bmr. And, that you’re not a dewd
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Hi! Thanks for help. I tried with private emails and he used to write me back a lot. He wrote me very long emails … Now he just seems to be sick of me 😦
[heartiste: just to clarify for the studio audience: i never once wrote you an email. if you got emails from a heartiste or equivalent thereof, you were wooed by an impostor. doesn’t that make you feel icky?]
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If somebody told you they were a Navy SEAL suffering combat wounds requiring daily sexing, well, just ignore TJF.
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You didn’t? I was dreaming or daydreaming about your emails then …
[heartiste: i bet you were dreaming about more than that.]
But why do you need to say that you don’t write emails to me? Would you be ashamed of that?! 😥
[in all honesty, yes. but then, don’t take it personally. i would be ashamed of writing long-winded emails to any girl i wasn’t already fucking. it’s not my scene.]
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Yes, I couldn’t resist.
[heartiste: impossible to resist the irresistible.]
Sorry. I’m normal now
[lie]
and everything is OK.
[huge lie!]
I hope you don’t think that I’m a crazy stalker,
[nope. just crazy.]
just take it as a compliment
[is there any other way?]
– you have good internet game 🙂
[you should see me when i’m not just fucking around.]
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“[huge lie!]”
What?! I’m quite OK, really. I’m not crazy.
[heartiste: the virgin doth protest too much.]
[you should see me when i’m not just fucking around.]
Where can we see your performance?
[close your eyes and tell me what’s the first thing that comes to mind when you think about a huge, tumescent, throbbing cock.]
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Maya,
CH is really treating you badly and using you for entertainment value. I like your comments, but this throwing yourself at him is painful to watch.
[heartiste: isn’t that just like a girl to swoon for the careless jerk?]
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CH is really treating you badly and using you for entertainment value
he’s not treating her badly at all. he’s treating her the way she wants, needs, and loves to be treated. she keeps coming back again and again for more.
I like your comments, but this throwing yourself at him is painful to watch.
it’s only painful for other women to watch.
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Don’t worry, Lara. Maya appears to be merely a litmus test (sometimes more clever than others).
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“it’s only painful for other women to watch.”
No, it’s very painful for me, too
[heartiste: in the vagina?]
😦 It’s just that I can’t stop!
[you won’t stop]
I could stop if he stopped ignoring me but he doesn’t want to because he hates women
[you misspelled “loves watching maya go nuts”.]
– I’m a woman and he likes to see women suffer 😦
[nope. just you. why? because you are complicit in your suffering.]
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“[heartiste: in the vagina?]”
No, Heartsie, in my heart!
[heartiste: same difference]
“[you misspelled “loves watching maya go nuts”.]”
Why would anyone love that? 😦
[why does the cat play with its desperate prey?]
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“[why does the cat play with its desperate prey?]”
I’m not your desperate prey.
[heartiste: prey would say that.]
All I wanted is to be your friend
[oh but you’re more than a friend. so much more.]
– I have no idea why you don’t want me to be happy 😦
[a wise man walked into a bar and sat down next to maya. he turned to maya and asked, “would you like to hear a story?” maya looked at the erudite man, aghast, and solipsistically replied, “why would you want to make me wiser?!” the wise man pondered this question for a moment, and finally said “you know, it’s just a story.”]
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“[oh but you’re more than a friend. so much more.]”
I’m not even your friend.
[heartiste: whoosh.]
I doubt you are able to have female friends.
[that’s because you have no idea what normal people are like. exhibit a: your late stage virginity.]
If you were, you wouldn’t treat me like that.
[get back to me once you’ve understood the difference between “maya” and “all females”.]
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“[get back to me once you’ve understood the difference between “maya” and “all females”.]”
Could you tell me the difference?
[heartiste: do you think all women are the exact same?]
If you can be friends with other females why can’t you be friends with me too?
[you’re more valuable to me in another capacity.]
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“[you’re more valuable to me in another capacity.]”
In what capacity?
[heartiste: precisely.]
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Sorry.
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did the emails have a lot of lolzolzlzollolzllololloolzzlolzolzolzollzzzolzolzolzolzlzolz in it?
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We have a WINNAH lol
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Firepower wrote: “First, meat heartists mom….”
Haven’t we all meated Heartiste’s mom?
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Whoa – watch it – dood.
She IS a respectable woman with a Good Republican Cloth Coat
don’t know about Checkers, though.
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The above exchange between Maya and Heartiste is a textbook example of mismanaged game. If you broadcast game indiscriminately, rather than purposefully withholding it from undesirables, you will collect stalkers like flies to flypaper.
There is wisdom in throwing off a deliberate beta (or even omega) vibe in the zones where you do not want attention. The creepers can get exhausting, not to mention lunatic. Particularly the rapidly aging ones who are tortured by the louder and louder tick-tock.
Dude. Imagining long e-mails that never existed!
Maya: I am saying this in all seriousness (and have been since you started posting here): you require help from the outside. You are utterly incapable of fixing this problem yourself. Even worse, your type seeks to compound the problem as a perverse way to demonstrate you have always deserved misery rather than joy.
I am your brother, and I am shaking you by the lapels. Despair is addictive, and you are nearing rock bottom. At very least consult an older woman who has been where you are and can show you your condition is survivable. We here who care about you can only tell you. You need a demonstration. Thousands upon thousands of women are available to help you — if you truly want to be free from what tortures you, as you all but shout above.
Matt
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King A,
“Dude. Imagining long e-mails that never existed!”
Yeah. But not only that. I actually imagine sleeping with him.
[heartiste: of course. this is your body crying out for the hot love injection of demon seed, before it’s too late for you.]
A lot.
[you can’t stop at just one.]
I know this is not good for my mental health and that he’s just some internet personality but I really can’t help …
[… imagining scenarios… transactions…]
“you require help from the outside.”
Heartsie is giving me the best help I’ve ever received. ❤
[have you taken my advice to settle for a decent beta in your area, yet?]
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“[have you taken my advice to settle for a decent beta in your area, yet?]”
No. The reason is that I don’t know what settling means.
[heartiste: you take your standards, and you divide by two. keep dividing until you find a man willing to buy you a drink and wait a few dates for sex.]
How low should I go?
[you’ll know it when you’ve hit it.]
I don’t know.
[you do know. you just don’t want to accept it.]
I just know that I don’t want a loveless relationship.
[ya gotta start somewhere. it’s not like you fall in love in the first couple of minutes of meeting.]
I already tried to force myself to be with someone I didn’t like but I felt terrible.
[get over it. or live and age alone, crumbling slowly into dust, with nothing but the whispers of the wind to keep you company.]
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But I can’t. I can’t force myself into something I don’t like!
[heartiste: i’m not telling you to force yourself into a relationship you don’t like. I’m telling you to lower your standards until such point that you are able to snag men for long term commitment who also meet or exceed your minimum threshold for desirability.]
Would you force yourself into marrying an aging frump? I don’t mind living and aging alone.
[you don’t sound like you don’t mind.]
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When the man you love is telling you find someone else, you don’t have even the slightest chance.
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“I’m telling you to lower your standards …”
How exactly can I do that? I can’t force myself into feeling something that I don’t feel!
[heartiste: this circle… is closed.]
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“When the man you love is telling you find someone else, you don’t have even the slightest chance.”
My God, Lara. I love him just in a friendly way. He already has a very cute girlfriend and I’m happy for them both:)
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Time to retire the Maya alter ego. 🙂
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anyone who has ever seen a woman avoid hypergamous tendencies and stay loyal to the man she chose, to the death, has seen the fact that self-discipline and self-mastery can very much diminish self-destructive tendencies and reinforce principles that are learned, rather than inherited.
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This would be called “civilization” in general and “moral character” and “foresight” in particular, all of which are too “oppressive” and “sexist” for femisists and various left/liberal types who’ve never been without their benefit to stomach.
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Something healthy doses of social shaming can aid. Need to bring that back.
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Agreed. And social shaming can be brought back by repealing Title VII of the civl rights act with regard to sex and laws that bar discrimination based on marital status. Once it becomes legal again to refuse to hire socially irresponsible people, things will improve again.
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Sadly, that perspective is from a dead era. Even WW2’s “greatest generation” had Dear John Letters.
Hulk Hogan’s wife freely frolicked in his millionaire’s playpen of materialism, pumps out 2 spawn – then calls the deliveryman a faggot.
Females, today, are ALL about self-destructive tendencies with NO self-discipline, self-mastery or principles.
Just plenty of “self.” They’re minks. They should be treated as such.
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I often wonder if things were really all that different in the past or if we just see more of the lack of discipline, etc. today because the population is larger so there are more examples of it. Or is it because we still have a cultural memory of the fifties. In another fifty or a hundred years, will that concept still exist? Looking at the entire course of history, the pendulum has swung between decadence and modesty several times, so probably, but interesting to think about.
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NOT probably hon.
We Boys have this thing call “statistics n’ stuff!®”
Where we compare census charts of our present
– to that past’s Marriage rate and out-of-wedlock births, etc.
i have my fave girls dress up like Donna Reed and June Cleaver
to come on over, cook, fetch me my slippers n’ pipe – and do research
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lol- sounds fun- btw, does anyone here NOT have their own blog? Now that I have a gravatar thingy I’ve been checking out everybody’s stuff. Very cool.
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puas just put up purty pictures
cuz they know it
gets the gurlz
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so why is personality more amenable to environmental influences than intelligence? that sounds like a pretty arbitrary distinction if one considers that intelligence is a major feature of personality
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Cranial capacity.
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your response is beside the point as most personality traits are determined by intelligence. the question still stands: why is personality more amenable to environmental influences than intelligence?
[heartiste: no one really knows why, but that’s what the studies say. i’d guess that because personality involves so many intangibles and contains so many facets within an individual, that it’s possible to “move the needle” a little bit here and there to create an impact on the overall vibe you give off. or, since personality is more downstream than IQ, there are more possibilities for shifting its flow.]
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Why are voluntary muscles (i.e. your biceps) more amenable to environmental influences than involuntary muscles (i.e. your blood vessels)?
You have more conscious control over your personality traits, albeit not complete control. You can decide to act contrary to your personality but you can’t decide to be smarter.
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That’s like asking why you can use a hammer to both pound things or pry things, but you can’t make the same hammer bigger or smaller. But beyond that, the idea that IQ is immutible is also wrong. It’s not so fluid that any retard can become the next Stephen Hawking, but there are scientifically proven ways to both make your IQ go up and down.
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You can’t increase IQ by huge amounts, realistically only by 10-12 points max, which requires luck, resources and a lot of hard work. Larger improvements are statistical outliers that can be explained by recovery from illness, low measurements the first time etc. Artificially pumped up IQ scores are also likely to regress back once the external stimuli ceases. This has been shown a lot of times where low IQ kids are subjected to intensive teaching and do improve scores somewhat, but the majority of the gains are usually lost shortly after the extra efforts are stopped.
[heartiste: all true. coffee, btw, can pump your IQ a few points for a couple hours. always quaff a cup of joe before a final exam.]
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Heartiste: Just out of curiosity, what is your estimated iq?
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Piracetam + choline works well. Being in ketosis works really well for me.
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Heartiste wrote:
King A,
Something tells me you have read this but, Stoicism:The Ancient Roman Philosophy of Serenity. Marcus Aurelius
You would enjoy it.
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King A wrote: “no serenity to make any connections” One of the main points of Fahrenheit 451, which I recently read again and was astounded by how phrophetic it was. The current crop of teenagers are so plugged in that they have a very difficult time thinking on their own.
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On the tweeted morality study: higher social cohesiveness leads to greater morality and therefore greater egalitarianism. Think Amish guys helping to build another Amish guys barn. Corrollary, you don’t need to hire contractors if your community helps build stuff.
That makes the case that people will not act decisively about any social issue unless they feel securely part of a cohesive group. Proof: today’s multicult society and political correctness vs yesterdays vanilla racism, segregation, all-american suburbia.
On the tweeted happiness vs consumer society study: seeing images of riches makes you more depressed and angst AND more introverted? I immediately thought the angst would motivate you to become more extroverted. Proof that envisioning riches cannot substitute for envisioning a projected personality in which you are naturally rich and abundant in success. Instead of thinking “damn i want that omega seamaster” think “damn i need to hit that guitar some more.”
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Great fucking post, dude.
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“‘Make what you have inherited from your fathers your own.’ Only through effort does a capacity become a virtue, a gift, an ability.
Your inheritance is stronger than the environment. But what is ultimately decisive is your will.
Your will is your most valuable possession.
Not only good genes have flowed to you from your many ancestors. Look fate in the eye and understand that, too!
Become aware of the bad characteristics, the evil desires that dwell within you. Look not only for the virtues of your ancestors, but also their weaknesses. When you understand the bad characteristics of your ancestors, you will better understand how to exert your will.
Your respect for your ancestors will not suffer. You are not responsible for what you have inherited.
You are, however, responsible for what you do with those traits.”
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your will is inherited
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Also don’t forget that game isn’t all or nothing. Even going from a whale to a pig is an improvement.
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Personality? What do you react to when you meet a person with “personality?” You react to what you observe about their behavior. In other words, to you, what they do is their personality. It therefore stands to reason that if a person wants others to react to him in desired ways, he can change his behavior to obtain a desired reaction. Sounds like that’s what game is, learning what to do, and how to act, to obtain a desired result.
If you aren’t getting the results from women that you want, you just learned the wrong way to act to get women hot for you.
It’s just that your mother lied to you about what women want from men. (Also, Santa Claus and probably a bunch of other things as well.) Your mother was a woman first and therefore not really tightly wrapped around the truth. It isn’t her fault. Women are cute that way if you determine to take what women say for its entertainment value only.
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I think the best way for introverts to feel better is exercise. Muscle building, heavy weights in particular. Outdoor adventure stuff makes you feel more alive and more like connecting with people.
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+1
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Anything that improves testosterone will help introverts.
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This, this, this, this. CH should consider putting a banner at the top of the site stating that all fruits bore from the knowledge contained within this site will be exponentially juicier with the testosterone and confidence gains attained from lifting heavy weights.
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I think you’re confusing shyness with introversion. Introversion and extroversion basically just refer to whether you gain or expend energy by socializing with others (introverts expend energy when socializing and need alone time to “recharge” – extroverts the opposite.) Introverts are not necessarily shy, and not all shy people are introverts, although shyness and introversion in the same person is not uncommon. (Theres a good chance that this is partly caused by social stigmas around introversion, because introverts are a minority of the population, and most people don’t understand the need they have to be alone. A lot of introverts don’t even understand this themselves until they make an effort to learn).
Exercise, while not that helpful when dealing with introversion, IS a good way to help with overcoming shyness. It builds testosterone and energy levels, and helps you to focus, which boosts confidence, which in turn helps with the anxiety and nerves that cause shyness.
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Brain tricks work for me. For instance the amyglyda (not in my spellchecker) is small part of the brain that processes fear. I looked it up and its appearance reminded me of a dangling ball sack. And when I feel fear in social situations I visualize the amyglyda as an expanding ballsack pumping out courage. If nothing else, it serves to block out negative thoughts.
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Brain tricks work for what? Overcoming shyness? I’d agree with that. Shyness is really just improperly directed and calibrated fear response (in this case being unreasonably afraid of social situations). Any mental trick that gets your mind off the fear, or replaces it with something else will be effective.
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Didn’t work for George Soldini
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Soldini ran aground on psychological or spiritual issues. I think his reading of Louise Hay sent him over the edge. People like Louise Hay are poison for people with serious psychological problems.
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Off topic, but this could be BOM:
Stabbed Hull man brings ring to court Gregory Todd said he had forgiven his partner for nearly killing him
A Hull man who was stabbed by his partner has tried to propose to her in court just after she was jailed for three years for the attack.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-humber-17675025
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Mighty testosterone is also at work here.
When I was an overweight vegetarian, I believed in Buddhism. Low T.
Now that I’m paleo/strength training, I believe in Game. High T.
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T FTW
https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2011/05/03/the-testosterone-guide/
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ya, this is why the “sure you can lure her in with your “game” thing but once you run out of lines THEN WHAT?? She’ll see the REAL you and you’ll die miserable and lonely” people don’t get what we do.
They don’t understand that while you might “fake it till you make it” at first, over time the things you do become who you are. Your beliefs and attitudes and behaviors have legitimately changed from your old self.
There’s that thing about how it takes like 21 days of doing something and then your brain rewires itself to accept that new habit as a part of you. Anyone who’s done a few positivity challenges successfully will find its helped legit make them a more positive person.
This is all a big part of why we stress “go out”. And not go out once every couple weeks with some buddies to a half empty pub and have wings and beers and flirt with a waitress. Go out 4-7 days/nights a week and hit up 10+ girls each time. You need repetition and reference experience to change your inner wiring.
Some guys have it harder than others depending on where they started from. Some guys are cool social dudes who just need a few tips in a weekend. Some guys are so fucked they need years of work before they get their first lay. I’m only 5’9″ I’d probably have to work harder to be awesome at basketball than a 6’4″ athletic guy. But if it were important to me I’d dedicate the time to it and I’d probably have to spend 10x as much time training.
Most guys just hide behind shit like “I’m an introvert” and “I’m too old” and “thats just not ME” to avoid the pain that comes with overhauling yourself.
This is why the % of people who actually break thru to the other side of pickup is super low and why there’s so many “I tried it but it just didn’t work for me, that’s just not me” haters. Most guys give up or never really put all their effort into it.
“Hitting bottom isn’t a weekend retreat. It’s not a goddamn seminar.”
Some people don’t want to believe you can change yourself because if they admitted it was possible then they’d have to admit that all the shit in their life that they hate or all the wasted years of their life were actually totally under their control…they were just too lazy, ignorant, or trapped in the matrix to fix themselves. That’s a scary thought. It’s why guys with money cling to the idea that money makes them attractive. To admit its irrelevant is to admit that they worked for 30+ years to climb the corporate food chain to achieve a goal that was false from the start…it’s too much of a mindfuck for some people.
A big part of pickup is destroying your ego and admitting that everything you knew was wrong so that you can rebuild yourself from a new foundation.
“Self-improvement is masturbation. Now self-destruction…”
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What’s dangerous is when the guys who give up turn around and help the feminists and churchladies pass laws to arrest men who do pick up the younger, hotter, tighter ones. Blogs like this are important not only for helping those who really want help, but for pointing out why the losers would want to cockblock the winners.
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Outstanding post. The truth is, different personality types will respond better to different methods of re-adjustment. You just have to find the method that works for you, play around with it, go with what works and discard what doesn’t. That’s the beauty of Game, how we successfully development is as much a testament to our character and our will as any other artistic, intensely-personal matter. How we deal with our challenges define who we are. Introversion can be worked around in a lot of ways, and almost all of them can be worked into running game.
Whether you pick NLP, CBT, or any other funky method of working to overcome your challenges, the willingness to move forward, learning from mistakes and persevering until we achieve the desired goal, is a defining masculine characteristic. I did a post recently about “affecting an Alpha presentation”, noting that we all assume roles as we gain experience and training. Learning Game is no different than learning a new sales presentation, a new computer language, or a new set of rules. It doesn’t magically transform you into Hugh Hefner, it makes you a more attractive, cockier, sexier version of yourself.
http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2012/04/your-alpha-presentation-its-about-sex.html
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Attitude adjustments: they aren’t just for other people.
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Well said man. I was an extreme introvert who was able to change. The first few times I went out it was awkward and I felt like I was making no progress. But I kept trying and after a while something changed and being outgoing just became a part of me. Felt natural. Guys if you are an extreme introvert and have no hope, just remember: anyone can change. All it takes is consistency.
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Here’s a video that’s slightly (although not totally) off topic in demonstrating how the concept of persona can create a powerful paradigm shift in other’s perception of you.
The Concept: Guy pulls a prank at the mall. He gather some female “groupies” and has someone film him to give the illusion that he is famous.
Result: Female hamster overdrive.
Within minutes, crowds form, Mall Security is providing cover and several stores are shut down.
A random girl (fan?) gives him her number and wants to meet for drinks, having no clue this dude is an Average Schmoe. No more famous than the guy who scrubs the toilets at the local IHOP.
This is a good object lesson in female response to that king of DHV’s, Fame combined with social proof courtesy of a handful of screaming (planted) female groupies.
VIDEO: http://www.wimp.com/celebrityprank/
“OMG, it’s Thomas Elliot!! Wait. Who?”
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True, but in this case, how many of his friends he got to participate in the prank alters my take. If it was just one or two, then it’s a job well done. However, if its a cluster of 6+, it’s more like he brought a small gang into the mall and people reacted (and built off) the gang. The security detail makes sense if it’s 6+ then, because it’s a crowd that needs crowd control.
Think about this: if he brought 40-50+ people there to scream and shout and worship him, he IS a celebrity, regardless of why they’re following him, and he IS a security risk, due to the sheer numbers and unpredictability of his followers.
In a completely related point, Obama sucks.
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It’s gonna be a guilty charge or tons of riots. If blacks are on that jury you know they’ll be pressing others for it…
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Blacks are easily influenced due to their lower IQ. Aquittal should be quick as long as white guilt doesn’t crop up, the same white guilt that got Obama elected.
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I am the end-product of hundreds of thousands of years of war, murder, rape, torture, starvation, disease, and unbridled sexuality. Like fuck I am going to lay down at a woman’s feet like a tame dog.
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Once again, you cite a study which relies on self-reported information.
[heartiste: you’re wrong. you obviously don’t understand the concept or validity of personality tests. participants aren’t asked if they’re more disagreeable now than before. they’re asked a series of seemingly unrelated questions which, in the agglomerate, indicate their type of personality. see MBTI for an example of what i’m talking about.]
The only thing that the researchers have proven is that military service causes men to want others to think they are disagreeable – no surprise, given the military’s macho culture.
[you have no idea what you’re talking about. are you just trolling here? if so, i can easily ban you. no skin off my nose.]
Anyway, as to your larger point: Those guys who get good at Game had the inherent personality traits necessary for sexual success, i.e. high levels of energy, high IQ, etc.
[you can lead a troll to water…]
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I was thinking about this the other day as I was on break from work indulging in my Big Mac combo in a McDonalds near my job site. I saw a fat woman working the till, completely obese to the point of looking like she was going to have a heart attack at any moment. I turn to my work mate and say: “Wouldn’t you want to lose that weight if you were that big? I mean, I’ve always been between built and skinny my whole life, so I have no idea how it would feel to be that huge.” He used to be a very fat man, but construction really shaped him up, as it did for me. “Well it’s like, you get so used to being a fat person man that I don’t know… it’s like you get comfortable. I got lucky because I lived in a small town and the only thing to do job wise was to do brick laying, and buddy I lost a fuck load of weight.”
I think personality is the same. You get so used to being boring, a loser or just uninteresting that you get comfortable with the feeling of being those things that I assume you stay content with the idea that you’ll find someone who will simply “appreciate” your personality one day. However, I would argue, that it’s not so much a matter of being those three things I listed, but being comfortable with the idea of being those three things.
Me personally, I’m incredibly open, and I love to talk. I learn more and more, no one is truly BORING, and they’ve all experienced interesting things, but they are afraid of presenting those things to people. In turn, they become boring, a loser or uninteresting. If those people were comfortable with themselves, not comfortable with the feeling of “I’m boring, who cares.” then they’d have a shining personality.
Personality CAN definitely be changed, because I was one of those people who thought that way and because I wasn’t comfortable with myself, I wasn’t comfortable with being interesting or fun. That ruined my chances in all aspects of life and it always made me feel like I was “last to be picked” in school, work and romance.
I’m starting to feel like this diatribe is getting a bit convoluted, but, I think one should become comfortable with themselves and not afraid of being that, and being alpha will come naturally.
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Fuck you do talk a lot
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Furthermore, “personality”(what we’re really talking about is behavior) is highly dependent on one’s environment. A beta nerd in America, who travels to a low-testosterone culture(East Europe, East Asia, etc.) is magically transformed into an alpha.
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Act like a distant A-hole and make da bitchez come to you. Fire, the Wheel, Game. Awesome.
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Like da man said…
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Fucking best confidence inducing article in a while. Now of course, we need more on HOW to change that personality into a sexier one.
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What if I were to tell you that the gangsta’s gangsta, Tupac Shakur, used to be a lesser beta.
No, not a full-blown omega like Urkel or Screech. No, he’s got charm, good looks and it seems like a bit of experience with the ladies.
But he is, without a doubt, a bonafide, certified White Knight in Shining Armor. A beta male to the core.
If I were to tell you that, would you believe me?
You say, “pics or it didn’t happen”.
Okay, here ya go.
http://www.wimp.com/tupacshakur
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hard to believe that’s the same guy who later wrote “I get around”
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The bottom line is what Heartiste says is indeed true. Game can be learned.
A man can change his diet and exercise regimen to add muscle and lose fat. He can be more assertive, he can select who he allows into his life. He can choose to redirect his disposable income into new clothes and redirect his free time into designing an attractive, seductive lifestyle.
Likewise, those behaviors universally associated with being charming, aloof or cocky/confident can be identified, duplicated and fieldtested for feedback and refinement.
It is possible, in effect, to download a Game 2.0 “patch” into one’s behavioral code and upgrade it based upon life experience and new knowledge.
The problem is that it takes time, dedication and desire over a long period of time to succeed, a commitment that escapes most men. The typical man finds it easier to create butthurt excuses blaming women for being women and make envious excuses for those men they see entertaining a group of beautiful women.
Whether a man is a a unconscious “natural” or a self-taught Bubba Watson (the 2012 Master’s Champion who essentially taught himself the game of golf) the ultimate skills that pay the bills remain the same.
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This is why I love Heartiste.
Scientific Proof of many game and manosphere concepts.
Makes arguing with feminists and white knights a lot easier when you can pull out studies.
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What about irrecoverable omegas? Betas could make it work. But irrecoverable omegas, who maybe are screwed by permanent reasons entirely beyond their control (and mental illness and personality disorders count!) cannot make it work no matter what. I think the Game community would help themselves if, instead of saying “Game works no matter what!” and then getting sniped at by haters who then cite irrecoverable omegas, Game advocates wisely countered with “Game works, except for omegas, who need to focus on [something else].”
This would peel away one of the biggest weapons of the haters: pointing to the small group of completely hopeless omegas for whom Game would never work and citing that group as proof that Game doesn’t work. The Game community needs to stop getting slammed by the outliers. Vox is the only site run by a non-crazy person who actually recognizes and writes about omegas-who they are, what happens to them, where they go. (Game for Omegas is written by a gamma and DA is no longer writing a blog. The rest, like W&N, are crazy.)
Then the question becomes: what makes for hopeless omegadom?
[heartiste: Already been covered.]
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“The male gaze, and why I miss it” by Margaret Wente
http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/opinions/margaret-wente/the-male-gaze-and-why-i-miss-it/article2393518/
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“Men don’t look at me the way they used to. In general, they don’t look at me at all. This is what happens when a woman turns 40 (50, 60 etc.). It’s a fact of life.”
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“No matter how sexist or unfair it seems, no one in the world has more erotic power than a 20-year-old girl.”
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Reblogged this on Blyad.
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Great post. You can tell that you’re not hawking any game products, you actually provide a realistic portrayal of the difficulty of getting good game. No peddling of easy answers…
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“That’s really what game is — the active transformation of your personality from mundane to mesmerizing”
Well said: A layer of charm can be acquired by most people, with time and effort.
But I don’t get the pick-up “boot camp” concept: You can’t reinvent yourself in three days for 5 grand. Learning game is as at least as major a project as a post graduate degree or learning a skilled trade.
[heartiste: mastering game would take years. but you can get pretty instant results by simply dropping a neg or two in a conversation with a girl. however, it’s true that neophytes overestimate how much good bootcamps will do for them. instructors should be setting realistic expectations.]
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A lot of guys attend boot camps just to have their reality blown open. Like to see “holy shit this is possible”.
It’s like if you were studying how to fly but were still semi-skeptical. Maybe you can jump a little higher now but that’s about it. Maybe it’s exaggerated, maybe only certain people can do it, maybe you’re just not that type…
Then I offer you a boot camp and you come along for a weekend and my buddies and I are flying all over the fucking place and we give you enough basics to get you flying maybe not as high as us but higher than you’ve ever thought you could fly.
It only lasts for a couple days but then you go back home and you go “fuck, okay, I’m back to having trouble flying like before…but I DID it, I remember doing it, and those other guys did it and they were just normal guys like me, so I know I CAN do this if I work at it!!” and they’re inspired from there to chase the results they now fully realize they’re capable of.
On the flip side there are guys who just have money to burn and take a ton of boot camps but never actually work on their skills when they get home so it’s all wasted each time.
Boot camp is just a jump-start. I’ve never taken one myself but I’ve given buddies or just random nice dudes I’ve met on Death Row at the bar a few insta-bootcamps lol
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The military thing is a no brainer. There’s always guys getting busted by going around and impersonating special ops types with BS accomplishments with some even purchasing medals that were not awarded to them. These are the lazy guys that want the benefits (high quality public perception, badass reputation, etc, etc), but don’t want to put the work in.
Additionally, your post is spot on. I was quite cocky when I enlisted at 17. After 4 years with the 82nd Airborne Division, I was 1,000x more cocksure, confident, and arrogant when I left. Acting as if your shit doesn’t stink and you’re better than everyone else for a few years being surrounded by others that feel the same way will certainly modify a man’s personality. The added honor of having different uniforms ( We had maroon berets as opposed to what used to be called “cunt” caps-This was before Bill Clinton was elected and gave all the Army “leg” pussies berets so they could improve their self-esteem & fragile egos) made us stand out and above all our other military peers.
And for what it’s worth, if you ever want to test some asshole about his supposed GI Joe heroics and his SF, SEAL, Force Recon credentials, have him name the 5 points of contact, in order, for a PLF. If he can’t do it in a rapid fire response, he’s most likely a poser.
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The idea that introverts cannot become extroverted due to genes is utter bullshit. An extrovert differs from a introvert in that the extrovert refuses to take other people’s bullshit.
Several years ago, I was the introvert’s introvert. If you looked in the dictionary under introvert, you would find a blank picture because I was too embarassed to get my photo taken.
After I got tired of taking shit from others, my extroversion kicked my introversion’s ass. Now look in the dictionary under extroversion and you’ll see a picture of my dick. And the only reason it fit in the photo was because I just came out of the pool.
When I first started my journey of extroversion, people thought I flipped out and was about to go “William Foster” on them. Several, once they realized I wasn’t going crazy, tried to stuff me back into the introverts’ corner. Those people found out the hard way I didn’t fit in there anymore.
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Nah, you can be a tough introvert. Introvert =/= shy, timid, taking everyone’s bullshit. An introvert just doesn’t get energized by company, usually the opposte. If for you, company went from something you feel you put effort and energy in, to something that gives YOU the energy, then indeed you became an extrovert.
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Regarding IQ, it can be increased with Gold. I use it as a day trader
http://www.optimox.com/pics/Aurasol/nanoSilver/SilverGoldPlat.htm
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CH cooling off after last weeks string of epic posts
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Taranto’s article in the WSJ is a watershed in the mainstream of the Chateau world. “It is clear that the sexual fantasies of men and women do not conform to the feminist ideal of relations between generic and equal “persons.” … In truth, the feminist ideal inevitably corrodes the marital one.”
It was linked above but i’ll link it again. http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052702303299604577327732032337226.html?mod=WSJ_Opinion_MIDDLETopOpinion
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A word from the front:
Last night I saw 2 white poindexters at a bar w/ 2 cute Asian girls. They were on the dance floor somewhat dancing. The bespectacled fellow was w/ the tall girl but she was more interested in chatting w/ her shorter curvy friend. The 2nd fellow was awkwardly ”dancing” on the fringe hoping to get some female attention..
Mr. Awkward took his short girl to the bar for drinks and Twerp w/ Glasses was able to make some time w/ the tall girl until the booze came and then it was back to the outs.
This was getting painful to watch and I decided to step in.
I had to, the short girl was starting to bump-and-grind with the tall girl in that suggestive psuedo-lesbian, rub-my-butt-in-your-crotch way girls do nowadays when they’re drunk and wanna play nasty.
The place was crowded and I got distracted by some cute “Persian” women (?) in tight dresses but I still was in the rescue mode.
The 4 went to the bar for more drinks (paid for by the guys of course cuz the girls had no purses visible) I tapped Twerp w/ Glasses and motioned him over. He was curious, “yo, what’s up?”
I shook my head and slowly and clearly said,” You got to keep that tall girl away from her friend.” then I turned away disappearing into the crowd, the truth talking wraith that I was.
Later on I was on the dance floor hoping to see the 4 return and cautious that the Twerp might sucker punch me or maybe he took my advice and give me a wink. No way, the 4 were still at the bar and the poindexters were still trying to get the barmaids attention to order drinks!
What was wrong w/ this picture?
Two able bodied young men arrived w/ 2 women but had no idea how to close the deal. I can already hear the brokered date arrangement,” Ok Einstein, me and Tilly will go dancing w/ you b/c we are friends right?”
and the twerps nodding their heads eager at the prospect of female companionship that will only fuel a masturbatory, hang over dream.
Gentlemen I tried to help. I just wish some older wiser man had slapped me when I was a young Beta. Where would I be now?
For the good of this nation, KEEP TEACHING GAME!
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