Take a look at this image capture of a search engine auto-fill:

80% of the questions asked by men are selfless in nature. They are questions about how to please a woman and make her happy. 70% of the questions asked by women are selfish in nature. They are questions about how to get noticed by men, and how to manipulate men’s affections.
These are the male and female ids auto-exposed. Female solipsism is powerful and is an inextricable part of their nature as sexual beings. Women are hard-wired from the womb to turn their focus inward, because their eggs are biologically more valuable than sperm. Men are hard-wired to turn their focus outward, because that is how they acquire status and how they win the love of constitutionally diffident women.
As a man who understands the raw, vital power of game, it behooves you to accept female solipsism for the unalterable fact it is, and to avoid its traps and leverage it for your own ends. Women, selfish at heart, will be driven to QUALIFY men for adherence to women’s personal preferences. Selfish people want to know what others can do for them.
Selfless people want to know how they can please others and win their favor. That’s a crucial difference between women and men. And this difference stems from the essential sex difference.
Many beta males will take the lesson to mean they should bend over even farther to appease women’s selfishness. But that is exactly the wrong conclusion to draw. Abiding a woman’s natural selfishness will only create more selfishness. That’s a beast you don’t want to feed.
The correct response to women’s selfishness and concomitant compulsion to qualify men is to sidestep their efforts to derive your mate value and turn the tables on them, effectively using women’s own psychological inclination against themselves. Instead of relinquishing to her judgment, YOU become the manipulator of romantic yearning and the keeper of mate standards.
Women love this, because this is what alpha males with options do. A man who is in some sense LIKE A WOMAN — a man who judges prospective mates and qualifies them according to his whim — is a man who signals to women that he has loads of options in the sexual market. And as we all know, women can’t resist the allure of the preselected man.
So instead of wondering “how do I make a girl feel special”, start thinking “how can I make this girl miss me”. It’s a subtle shift in thought that will accrue enormously satisfying rewards. Because the sexual spoils go to the selfish pricks.

Any comparison of Google search prompts has to take into account that they exclude any rude words.
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“80% of the questions asked by men are selfless in nature. They are questions about how to please a woman and make her happy. 70% of the questions asked by women are selfish in nature.”
I’m sorry, but I just don’t see this happening even as recently as Eisenhower-era America.
What you’re seeing in those numbers is more than a century’s worth of ceaseless, relentless, unending toil on the part of the Frankfurt School and their
Ilk to destroy Western Civilization.
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I spent some time today trying to remember what things were like in the 1980s – during the Reagan Administration.
I wonder whether the die was already cast at that point.
The numbers wouldn’t have been as bad as they are now, but they wouldn’t have been the “Father Knows Best” nirvana of the 1950s, either.
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Sexual mores in the West went into a steep decline after the mid-1960s, so in terms of selfish spoiled bitches, alpha cads and the rest of it the 1980s weren’t much different from today except in the finer details. People were drugging it up and sleeping around as much as they do now, though perhaps they kept it more quiet (more for logistical reasons than moral ones: there was no opportunity to endlessly retweet pictures of passed-out girls, for example) — and the culture as a whole wasn’t nearly so pornified and celebratory of debauchery as it currently is; what strikes me now about 80s pop music, movies, TV shows etc. is how relatively innocent they are, though of course they were still fairly daring by the standards of previous decades.
I think to the extent anyone today is nostalgic for the 80s, it’s for the same reason that in the 80s they were nostalgic for the 60s (and in the 70s for the 50s): most of us are aware at some level that our culture is in an accelerated decline and want to turn the clock back a little — not too far, because then we’d be all stuffy and repressed (and we wouldn’t want that!), but just enough so that we can feel more grounded and secure. No doubt our children and grandchildren will look back to the 2010s as a relative oasis of sanity compared to the nightmare world they are probably going to inherit.
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“what strikes me now about 80s pop music, movies, TV shows etc. is how relatively innocent they are”
Right.
I was trying to reconcile my recollection of movies like “The Breakfast Club” and “Sixteen Candles” or of TV shows like “Family Ties” and “The Cosby Show” with my memory of the bitchiness of sorority girls and the asshole-ishness of fraternity brothers from that era.
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I was trying to reconcile my recollection of movies like “The Breakfast Club” and “Sixteen Candles” or of TV shows like “Family Ties” and “The Cosby Show” with my memory of the bitchiness of sorority girls and the asshole-ishness of fraternity brothers from that era.
Greeks aren’t actually that bad once you get to know them. What might make it difficult is that frat bros outnumber sorority chicks about 2:1, at least at my university, which, in addition to being outside their system, means you have to DHV pretty strongly. A GDI who gets a decently attractive sorority girl has definitely won his alpha card.
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“80% of the questions asked by men are selfless in nature. They are questions about how to please a woman and make her happy. 70% of the questions asked by women are selfish in nature.”
If you think about it, the questions are basically used to address 2 means, tailored differently towards chicks or guys, to the same end of gaining access to resources.
Chicks want to use a guy’s resources (money/time) — and the best way is to make him fall in love.
Guys want to use a chick’s resources (vagina) — and the best way is to access her emotions.
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I looked at the “how to make a guy…” list and figured that, if it’s on the list, you should try to make her Google those things.
Don’t make it obvious you like her.
Don’t let her know you’re falling for her.
Don’t make it obvious you want her.
Don’t be jealous if you see her with a different guy. (If she’s your gf, dump her.)
Learn some self-control when having sex.
Don’t try to win her back.
Don’t notice her unless you have something you want to do with her.
Don’t laugh all the time like an idiot.
Don’t make it obvious you miss her.
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Hear, hear. Opposite Day is in full effect!
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“Don’t notice her unless you have something you want to do with her.”
This, especially since the beta male population can’t and will never adhere to it.
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excellent
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This is fucking brilliant. You have outdone yourself.
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Can’t believe that “how to make a girl leave you” isn’t on the guy list.
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Too easy.
As a beta male, I just be myself. Works like a charm!
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you may actually be lucky
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How to make a girl STFU and GTFO.
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FR –>
Interesting note earlier in the week — I was flirting with this girl harmlessly, just banter banter banter. In my own mind I’m like ‘hahaha yeah, this is fun, this is easy blah blah blah.’
So after we say goodbye (the girl is a 5.5-6, nothing special, but open to hanging out with me whatever), this other girl who I’m friends with is like
“So you gonna tap that or what?”
Me: Huh?
Her: You were flirting with her…
Me: Oh…
Her:….well, you were just dancing around and around. I mean, I was just kind of annoyed the entire time wondering ‘okay, so when’s he gonna do something?’
Me: …well she -did- go on a long soliloquy about how much she didn’t like me.
Her: …ugh, yeah but you know it’s like kindergarten. C’mon Scray…..
Now, I have to reconsider whether all advice from women on game/flirting/or whatever is bad. Because that fit right in with my sticking point — escalation. And in my mind I’m like ‘oh she isn’t saying she loves me, therefore I need to build more attraction, GAMEGAMEGAMEGAMEGAMEGAME…’
So to hear ANOTHER girl who was passively spectating say she got -annoyed- was an eye-opener. Apparently overgaming drives people away.
Thurs:
Me and Nightly change up the venue to a new, happening club. We’re just standing in line and a cute girl actually opened us (probably more Nightly than me, lucky bastard).
When we get inside, we’re both sort of dumbfounded. Valhalla. Just tons of 7+ girls everywhere. Ridiculous. The old AA kicks into high gear for both of us, and we just kind of stand there being flabbergasted by all the hotness for 10-15 minutes.
I manage to open several really hot sets. Most of the interactions are brief. I already know why…I open like an unentitled chode. But, that being said…here’s the improvement I noticed — I don’t feel ‘out of place’ at the club any more. Even when Nightly isn’t there or whatever, I just kind of chill out and stand there. I also don’t take any blowout that harshly, mainly because I can now sense what I do wrong.
Going out into the Field is awesome. You really do start to realize that a lot of the result has to do with you.
Only one interaction here got past social hook, and just some highlights. Me and Nightly get into a set with a 7 and a 6.
So, the name of my game recently is just escalation. Also, prevent myself from overgaming and put some substance into the interaction.
Snippets:
Me: Me and you wouldn’t get along….nerf bats….I love nerf bats (we all know this line — great line btw, very easy to riff off of and self-amuse with), because no offense, but I’d beat the shit out of a girl with a nerf bat
Her: Oh really? Well, y’know I think I could take you (I recognize this as a shit test)
Me: Well, I do fight dirty.
Her: Oh, I do too…
Me: Bullshit, what’s the dirtiest move you can think of….
Her: (puts her hand on my shoulder points behind) Look over there! And then -bam-
Me: (laughs) Bitch, I would just bust a nut in your eyes and blind you….
Her: (eyes widen…OMG laugh)
C/F attraction build ^
Me: Okay, well we’re talking about busting nuts and I don’t even know you.
Her: Well…
Me: I mean, it’s a little forward. So we’re going to play a get to know you game.
Her: …hahaha okay
Me: Tell me a band that you hate…
Her: Ummmm, Nickelback…
Me: Hahahah, true story, one time in our (me and Nightly) band, we had to play a Nickelback song to appease the crowd. On the fly.
Her: Oh ya?
Me: Ya, see, each venue in X area of the city has different flavors, and you know, this was back before we made our connections down there, so we didn’t have a lot of choice, so we got the chode-hard rock crowd.
Blah blah blah it ended up being awesome (true story, btw)
DHV story ^ (ya, this tell me a band/color/movie hate thing always segues well into some DHV story…because of my life experiences I can recall some sort of story — changing minor details of course lol — from each of those categories)
We all go to the bar and here’s where things start to get weird. She orders a drink and I order right after her. She looks over at me with a smile…
Her: So, I guess I’m buying this drink eh?
Me: (so outside my reality that this could even happen….) Ha yeah, shuuuuuuure hahahahaa (inner chode on full display…I quickly take out my card…wtfman).
…
Now we’re standing at the bar and I’m like ‘gtfo or escalate.’ So here we go…
Me: My hands feel cold…are they cold? (I just put my hands all over her, her arms, her face, etc. lololol in the most stiff, retarded way possible)
Her: No, are you hot or something? (puts her hand on my forehead and cheeks) Yeah…
Me: You know, I run hot I guess. (immediately backs off touching, feels supremely nervous :(…)
Gets weirder…
Me: Ya, over in that area of town I’m kind of a big deal. (I just say this, to my mind, jokingly…)
Her: Yeah, I could see that…you know, you’re kind of a badass.
Me: (short-circuits…DOES SHE ACTUALLY BELIEVE THIS? THERE’S NO WAY ANYONE WOULD BELIEVE THIS, SHE MUST BE TOOLING ME!) Hahaha, all right no need to poke fun
Her: (confused, I can feel whatever attraction built up wither and crumble as she tilts her head) …I wasn’t joking. (Her eyes sort of narrow into an almost an annoyed ‘wtf is wrong with you, WHO ARE YOU’)
Me: (…..ahhhhhh shit)….ya, totally.
…interaction spirals into the shitter soon enough, and she ‘needs to go to the bathroom.’
…
After that set, I opened a two-set of 9’s…while Nightly went over and did the same.
Me: I’m gonna ask you a question, I can only stay for a second…best friend died, blah blah blah
(Both laugh, one pushes me….now I’m starting to understand this opener. This is the reaction you want, but you’re supposed to do something cool/self-amusing/dope in that moment of shock to rapidly DHV…)
Me: Uhh, nah it’s just an icebreaker, hyuck, hyuck, hyuck
9: (actually smirks and does the ‘you’re done’ cut-throat thing…I wander back over, Nightly finds me)
Nightly: Jesus, good-god there are just so many hot girls here.
Me: Fuck man…one just turned away and the other was just not impressed.
Nightly: Yeah man….fuck, same thing happened to me. Like, hot girls just need your best fucking game dude. (ya, he said this…where have I heard that before. The Field knows all)
We actually spot a 10 or near 10 in the wild (no shit, for real), hanging out with her ‘uggo’ 8 friend near the bar. And we just watch them for 20 minutes. Or rather, we watch guy, after guy, after guy, after guy hit on them. We notice that one guy who does the best with the 10, while good looking and stylish, wasn’t particularly tall (shorter than her in her heels by a good 3 inches). Master of body language though — always facing away from her, looking unimpressed most of the time, kino’ing her but with huge takeaways.
I totally understand where MM comes from now. It was forged in this environment, where you just can’t afford to be a chode.
We actually ran into a guy who had been to a Love Systems bootcamp. We also saw several individuals who seemed like they were into pick-up (of course, we were just assuming….as in, seeing an ugly guy actively chatting up, flirting, playing games with two 8’s…we just were like ‘he must be into game.’)
Saw a guy maybe an inch taller than me flipping all kinds of attraction switches on an 8.5 near the bar…who was like at least six inches taller. He didn’t seem particularly good looking. They left together.
So…….ya. I don’t know much about this whole thing, but I do know that one piece of advice is correct: go out. Good lord, just go out.
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U and nightly are total tools. That’s the verdict.
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I mean good lord u got 100% rejection rate, went home alone and jerked off, and you’re real proud of yourself cause you went out and humiliated yourself for a few hours. Try being an actual high value man.
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@ Man reader – But they did go out. Not everone does that.
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WTF?
You know how you get better at something: Trying.
Failure is it’s own reward when doing something most people are too afraid to even try.
You fail, fail and fail again until you succeed. If it was easy everyone would be doing it.
Vikings went to Valhalla because they died fighting bravely, it’s was not dependent on actually winning the battle. Guess what that mentality did? Caused a shit load of victories from an force that was outnumbered.
Scray – With your shield or on it.
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lol coolman, go out and do better!
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Ha, I never said I was the best or anything. I’m sure there are people who read this blog who are hard-case newbies, for whatever reason….short, ugly, fat, aspy, etc.
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You can be proud of your 0% rejection rate all you want, but that’s because you don’t even try.
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Congrats Man Reader, with your epic hate session on Scray you just won yourself the honorable award of Faggot of the Year™
Sincerely,
Everyone
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3 sentence reponse dictated on an iphone is epic? more proof of how low standards are you cads are not true high value men.
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Too long. Didn’t read. Post this shit in your own blog.
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I’m seeing few people reading your posts are getting jealous. You are one of the few guys – in here – who actually go out and practice what this blog preaches. Consequently, people are finding it hard to cope with the fact that you are improving while they are not. That you are moving forward while they are not. What they don’t realize is that it’s neither you, nor anyone else is holding them back.
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No I don’t need that shit. I’m just high value. I simply choose the 7 or 8 I want, be charming and bang usually first date. To first do that and then write a novel here about it is lame.
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No while these tools were humiliating themselves getting rejected I spent 4 hours with my new 8 with love blossoming. She called again last night but I was busy. Next date will be magic. And I’ll be in LTR with a quality 8 while these tools keep acting like clowns for bar girls just prior to going home alone to masterbate. LOLZLOLOLZLOLZLOLZLOLOZLOZLOLZZZZZZZ. LOLOLZZLOLZ.
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Lmfao. Nice, dude!
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“new/quality 8”.. props to your robust anus for being able to fit a dick that big
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“Consequently, people are finding it hard to cope with the fact that you are improving while they are not. That you are moving forward while they are not. What they don’t realize is that it’s neither you, nor anyone else is holding them back.”
LOL. Lefty logic.
The truth is people are just tired scrolling past his shit.
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Hey, sorry for offending you man!
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IT’S JUST SO TIRING TO SCROLL.
You bitch like a woman. Do you moan like one too?
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You might very well think that, I couldn’t possibly comment.
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Ha! Love the (real) House of Cards reference.
Daddeeeeeeeeeeee!
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Careful, Mattie.
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One comment on this: “Because that fit right in with my sticking point – escalation. And in my mind I’m like ‘oh she isn’t saying she loves me, therefore I need to build more attraction, GAMEGAMEGAMEGAMEGAMEGAME…’”
Escalation IS the best attraction-builder. Often it works better than anything else; sometimes it’s the only thing that works.
Keep practicing stuff that builds attraction, but stop thinking in terms of NEEDING to build attraction. Replace that with SCREENING her to see if she’s comfortable getting physical. If she’s not up to your standard of affection, she’s not rejecting you–you’re rejecting her.
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‘Escalation IS the best attraction-builder’
Fucking this, man. Ya, I hear you. I’m starting to realize this on an internal level. Like, just stepping up and doing it IS awesome in and of itself. But ya, I mean, I’m only human lol. So, out there in the Field, what’s in my mind doesn’t always make it to reality.
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yareally get the hell in here and pump this kids inner game. its an abortion
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Yup…
Her: So, I guess I’m buying this drink eh?
Me: (so outside my reality that this could even happen….) Ha yeah, shuuuuuuure hahahahaa (inner chode on full display…I quickly take out my card…wtfman).
Now we’re standing at the bar and I’m like ‘gtfo or escalate.’ So here we go…
Me: My hands feel cold…are they cold? (I just put my hands all over her, her arms, her face, etc. lololol in the most stiff, retarded way possible)
Her: No, are you hot or something? (puts her hand on my forehead and cheeks) Yeah…
Me: You know, I run hot I guess. (immediately backs off touching, feels supremely nervous 😦 …)
Gets weirder…
Me: Ya, over in that area of town I’m kind of a big deal. (I just say this, to my mind, jokingly…)
Her: Yeah, I could see that…you know, you’re kind of a badass.
Me: (short-circuits…DOES SHE ACTUALLY BELIEVE THIS? THERE’S NO WAY ANYONE WOULD BELIEVE THIS, SHE MUST BE TOOLING ME!) Hahaha, all right no need to poke fun
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For sure. I’m real glad I got that reference experience, because it’s just another small step toward internalizing the fact that yes, I do have control over a lot of my social and sexual success.
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‘A man who is in some sense LIKE A WOMAN — a man who judges prospective mates and qualifies them according to his whim — is a man who signals to women that he has loads of options in the sexual market’
I’ve come round to the view that this is logical starting point of all game.
If you think about how women try to treat us and have ever wondered… why they flake, are unreliable, never say what they truly think, constantly shit test, wont fart in the direction of someone without social proofing, try to play unavailable etc …. then I suspect the answer is that these are tactics/strategies that work on THEM, so they think it works on us. In a sense they are signalling us towards what to do.
Of course we find these traits repugnant because they are not ‘manly’ but then that is why it is called ‘game’. In addition the mainstream media relentlessly panders to the female agenda in trying to beta frame men.
I give you exhibit A. This is one of the most heavily played ads on UK tv at the moment. It is also my submission for the beta of the year? This guy makes me feel ill and I know it’s just an ad!
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Assuming the slag doesn’t flake on the bloke and he makes it to Day One, she’ll see him for who he really is and bail on his beta ass.
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She doesn’t need to have the date to be able to qualify this chump as beta!
There is no need to go into the whole vile beta display, suffice to listen to his opening exposition ‘She thinks I’m funny but she is not sure about my photo’
He then changes the photo.
No.No.No.No.No,No.No.No.No.
1. When she tells him he is funny (good he’s DVed) his immediate retort is to tell her to tell him something interesting about herself. Start qualifying HER.
2. She should never comment on his appearance because a/ its optimal not to have a pic up in online dating b/ A large part of his game is qualifying by being ‘unsure’ about HER appearance.
3. Even if she is unsure about his pic, he should ignore it and qualify her. The most horrible beta thing to do is to change the pic. Never comply with a girl’s direction. Not at least unless you’ve already fucked her and its a issue that she knows you don’t care about.
ABC (Always Be Cadding)
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It’s funny I have awesome pics of myself doing things that show I’m fit and hot on match and I get emails not just winks constantly from girls and I’ve gone out with several already and they always try to tell me i should change pics and I literally laugh at them and keep same pics which obviously got their panties wet and caused them to meet me.
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Seriously what do they think they’re doing with that particular weak shit test ? I’m not kidding I’ve had like seven girls first tell me I’m hot and then try to tell me they don’t think my pictures on match are very good. The same pictures of course that caused them to be willing to meet me and tell me that I’m hot
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This guy is like The Greatest Beta’s evil twin brother.
A funny story is that I had a roommate that thought he was extremely good looking. He wasn’t. However, he was awesome with hooking up with cute chicks.
The trick was that he had the most awesome feedback loop based on delusion. He basically forest gumped his way to hot ass. He thought he was a GQ model which in turn gave him confidence to rival Tom Brady. This confidence allowed him to run all sorts of game on women which just supported his faulty theory that he was super good looking. Rinse and repeat.
Irrational confidence theory validated.
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CH: A man who is in some sense LIKE A WOMAN … comment: Of course we find these traits repugnant because they are not ‘manly’..
In the godfather (Mario Puzo), the author talks about how the real goodfellas don’t like ladies’ men, and perceive them as lesser men. It was a put-down (antiquated word for ‘neg’) to be referred to as a ladies’ man. Even though they’re chasing tail, they’re not living up to the ideals of what an upright crook should be like. The more conservative commentators on this blog probably share the same opinion, and of course, many people would agree that it’s a weakness to be led around by one’s genitalia.
That book was written nearly 40 years ago, however, and there have been cultural shifts since then. Being a wannabe ladies’ man in this day and age is probably a big improvement on being a W.O.W. grand master. Even being a manly man these days might get you nowhere, since the standards from which women judge men seem to have risen out of all sensible proportions. The discomfort that Style’s (and others’) effeminate-type game causes many men might exist because we’re not ready to forsake the honour among thieves code and embrace the more advantageous criteria for success with women and life in general.
Heartiste’s observation of the futility denying the unalterable nature of female ego-centrism seems to be an absolute gem. Armed with this knowledge, we men can show them what real girl power is.
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Well said!
Perhaps this ethical dichotomy of which you speak can be resolved by reminding ourselves that it is just a ‘game’?
An example of this is with flaking, manipulation and indecisiveness (implied in the constant ‘qualifying’). This is low value behaviour between men but we err when projecting that women would find them low value them too.
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What do y’all think about this? Lately I have been flat out sharing my knowledge gained from this site with women, after they have been brats. My intent is either to perhaps find a smart one (seems like I might have done that) (a red pill girl) or just to make them feel bad if they are just stupid, entitled, spoiled princess bitchy brats who deserve to have their world view shattered. But my question relates more to the former: do you think I can actually get to bang from doing this. Like I’m sharing with them the terminology and calling them on stuff like shit testing and making fun of them for riding the cock carousel with alpha cads for 14 years from age 20-34 and then expecting beta me to pick up the pieces for them after they’re used up at age 34. LOL.
But in one case I have a girl who is “only” 29 (which is still close to wall traditionally but we simply must give modernity SOME slack so we’ll say this girl is young and she’s today’s equivalent of a 23 year old 40 years ago). And she loves me but is bratty and fucked up from what feminism had done to her.
So I have taken to flat out explaining to her how feminism was contrived by fat bull dykes who were mad because they could not get the men they wanted so they have Disneyfied tried to force everyone to think that women should enjoy working in men’s roles in their 20s in an office LOL. Like I am teaching this woman. Leading her. And she agrees with me. She says she wanted to get married at age 23 but couldn’t find a guy to do it and she has only been with 2 guys in her life.
So oridinarily I would be afraid of way way way too many words, but this girl is smart and truly educated (as well as a woman can be) and it seems like I could actually create something by basically introducing her to the red bill section of the internet. Like I LEAD and don’t qualify to her by telling her to just be nice to me and let me be nice to her when she tries a lame shit test. I explain to her how all these 36 year old childless women on match are so confused by their own confusion and it is WOMEN who have been the victims of femnism and I like to use the “they will grow old with cats” line.
Thoughts? We all know that women cannot think logically. So what kind of mindfuck is happening when I actually use the beta/alpha terminology and try to basically educate them about the red pill and shame a 29 year old into not being alone still when she’s 34. Too late for her then.
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This ad is pushing fibre-optic broadband, but the plot and positioning is if you can quickly do something “nice” to “impress” a girl, she’ll go out with you.
It’s interesting that on some strange level I secrety felt myself cheering for this guy… like “yah…good luck, hope it works out”…
Have we been conditioned by tv and media to accept this dynamic?
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This is a keeper
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I get what you’re saying, Heartiste. But how is this done? How do you MAKE a girl really miss you? I’ve got no problem being aloof, but how aloof is too aloof? How do you really send a girl on the emotional roller coaster that you instruct to send them on in your commandments of poon?
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I am unconvinced that the men’s questions are selfless. The conclusion “…so she will let me into her bed” is reasonably implied by all but one.
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I agree. While men tend to follow a moral code more often, in the grand scheme of things, we want sex in return for our efforts with women.
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Selfless not the best word and maybe even incorrect… but don’t get caught up that.
Do the questions that women ask imply “so he will let me into his bed?
Nope!
They imply all “what will letting him in my bed get me besides letting him in my bed?”
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Yeah, it’s common sense – in very everyday situations, where casual dress and comfort will suffice, men (and ugly women) will wear tracksuits whereas women, and particularly good-looking women, will do themselves up to the 8s (they save the 5hour doing themselves up to the 9s sessions for when they’re going out consciously looking for dick). The sole reason these women are so concerned about their appearance is highly selfish in nature – they want people to look at the contours of their legs that are unshaven in those lycra tights, and be stunned by their beauty.They want to draw as much attention to themselves as is humanly possible.
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Off topic, but I don’t see any other recent topics that would fit:
What is it that makes some guys proudly post photos of “my lovely wife” and in the photo is a creature that could at first glance be fairly thought to be a man?
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pathetic frame and a fear of loss. Ugly girl is working the dudes psyche hoping he doesn’t get better, conquer whatever limiting belief he has.
Its girl frame game and she can never rest, ergo the constant harping and hoops created fro the express purpose of being jumped thru.
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In my experience as I’ve learned game, I realize that the girls I banged all started out trying to qualify me. When I held my frame, the switch flipped.
The trick was always 1) knowing and identifying a qualification and 2) knowing what to say.
In my online profile I don’t have a photo. I always reach out the same way, immediately qualifying the girl. Again, thanks go out to Krauser:
Hey, you have that look my mom warned me about, sweet and innocent on the outside, sex-crazed maniac on the inside. But you have very feminine…eyes, smile whatever.”
95% response rate to this. Always “Wow, you know me so well?”
or “What else can you tell me about myself?”
or “Hahah, what an interesting introduction”
THEN…”Why don’t you have a photo?”—again attesting to the power of imagination.
Me: “I’m very famous, so I like to keep a low profile…”
Then I proceed to qualify them.
A great one is “Besides your lips, what part of your body do you most like kissed?”
Girls love answering this question…and the 5% who don’t—i wouldn’t want to meet anyway.
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What happens when they meet you and find out you’re not famous and a fat slob?
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in my case that isn’t the case. Also, they play along.
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Men will die to protect their family. Women will kill.
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Profundity points.
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@Kate
Respectfully, if that avatar pic is of your legs im not sure it such a good idea. It could just be the tilt of the mirror but it makes you look kinda knock kneed. There is still a hint of higher thy sensuality there.
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Kneecaps are not particularly attractive. That’s why you’re going to see less of them in advertising. Seriously.
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Note in the picture in the link the right heel is slightly lifted and the toe is pointing slightly inward resulting in a more feline stance
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Feminine not feline
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A skirt should flirt, not hurt. Not a good look.
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I feel absolute rage when I think about the selfish nature of women, but then again it’s what nature has intended. I guess as the betaness leaves me, so will rage.
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I’ve been there, during my own transformation. It passes. What’s the point of being angry about anything in the natural world? I don’t get mad at my daughter’s cat for catching mice or at the sun for shining, and I certainly don’t resent women for being emotional/manipulative/egoistic/nurturing/subtle.
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Maybe it’s a natural innate human reaction. I’m sure that throughout the millennia, the trials of life and the demands of society forced the selfishness out of women. Or kept it at bay. After all, marriage was at the forefront of every woman’s thoughts once she saw the first drops of blood on the burlap. Perhaps it’s a romantic notion, but women way back when were probably getting to grips with some of the larger philosophical questions and existential dilemmas.
Everyone was going to church in those days, and some of the sermons were even in Latin. And probably most importantly, books were pretty much the only form of entertainment, and were highly valued commodities. It was probably impossible to avoid some amount of self-improvement. Food and the soil it was grown in was of much higher quality, and it was generally scarce. So people were sounder of mind and body.
You expect the infantile selfishness to have disappeared in modern day women, once they pass the age of 18 and the wall starts to loom large. However, it’s only just starting to gain momentum at that point. We’re all part of a very self-centred society, and it’s probably not exaggerating to suggest that at least 75% of us in the Western world are going around in a technological fugue, our postures, eyesight and vocabularies disintegrating. The little moral guidance we get is at odds with what we see playing out in almost every sphere of society, and can be often pushed to the side pretty quickly. I don’t want to go on at any further length, but in summation: ‘we’re on a highway to hell’ as ACDC said, and it’s probably not reasonable to have expectations of anyone at this stage.
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A Friday night spent among some old friends. Old friends and good friends. Yeah.
Compound chemical madness. Fist holes thru sheetrock walls.Terrified women folk barricading themselves inside closets. Bloody hand-prints on panes of broken glass. Police called but are too afraid to come. All because we were determined to have, for once, an honest discussion about politics.
By now, you are asking, “So, What is your point?”
My point is that a young black colored half mongrel sheep dog slept thru the whole affair: right there on the cool tile floor at our feet as if nothing very wrong or troublesome was taking place.
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I don’t think of it as selfish vs. selfless, but rather passive vs active. Women who try to earn men’s affections directly, as opposed to indirectly by exisiting while desirable and open to pursuit, are fools. Men can’t be earned like that and it’s pragmatic for women who want “challenging” men to learn that men must lead in the games of love/sex; if you try to lead, they won’t follow, they’ll just entertain themselves with you temporarily. Self-improvement focused and receipt of affection focused strategy (with filtering) is not the same as selfish. .. That said, I readgrey an interesting article on Psychology Today Online that men’s love is more idealistic and women’s love is more pragmatic. …
Lastly, I am proud to call myself player-proof, because indifference is so cold to me, not mattering is so cold to me. No man in the world has that much ‘value’. … I have value. Fat ass or none (I mean, if I had one, it would not matter; I would be alone, over being intimate with someone to whom I had little worth). If someone couldn’t offer sincere, unusually high (for them) interest- forget it. Self-esteem, requirement of demonstrated integrity and affection, and knowledge that men show affection when they feel it (provided they’re confident) and pursure if they’re crazy about you will player-proof any woman.
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Na you’re rationalizing. This is more than style (active vs passive) difference. Even when directly pursued I don’t expect something in addition to sex or plot to get something in addition to sex.
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Quick question here
When is it okay to give in to a woman and when is it beta to do so?
e.g. in daily life, we will meet scenarios where men and women disagree such as where to go for dinner or simply giving in to her requests to watch a certain movie.
Where do we draw the line between jumping through her hoops and giving in to her?
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Depends on the distance she perceives it to be between your nara and yamo.
(nara= all the traits that men find either attractive, love-inducing or comfort-building in woman, the female currency in the SMP. yamo = the male equivalent.)
If she perceives your yamo to be much higher than her nara, you are safe in giving in to requests.
Every time you give in to a request, you are being romantic. Being romantic is being self-humiliating, and women love that. It’s their porn.
It does not matter if your yamo is objectively much higher than her nara. What is important is what she perceives.
Each time you do her bidding, the value of your perceived yamo is decreased a few points, depending on how much you had to strain to do her bidding, and you initial reluctance to do so.
This means that if you do her bidding, you can minimize the perceived loss of yamo by acting as if no significant effort was used in order to satisfy her need, and that you didn’t mind doing it.
The more yamo you lose, the more you are perceived to be her bitch. Once the perceived difference between the yamo and nara is removed, her hypergamous instincts will kick in and you will be replaced or cuckolded, depending on the difference between your commitment you offer in relation to the commitment your replacement is offering.
In order to widen the perceived value difference between the yamo and nara, you need to be less interested to strain yourself in order to do her bidding.
This will cue her to heighten her love-inducing efforts in order to raise your self-sacrificing impulses that result from being in love.
Hope it helps.
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Men are givers and women are takers, just the way it is. Figure out how to take from them without giving much back in return.
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This post is dead on balls accurate.
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women should be the side dish, not entre’ of your life. at best….desert.
i chase NO woman, instead make them chase me. game everyone.
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A bit OT but I just-ahem-downloaded (hee hee) the 11 Essentials by Love Systems. Is this good??Will I soon be swimming in vag? Will I be alpha? Will I get laid? WILL I BE PRETTY?!?!? (Katie Makkie reference;get it?)
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and I just heard this one from Asian Playboy that I just had to share with CH readers: when you go to kiss her and she turns & give you her cheek: kiss her ear. It communicates the right things. Better yet, do the European thing and Kiss both ears, laugh, then her lips.
When even the faintest objection (sincere or not) is registered, shrug, sly smile and say “I missed”.
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Indeed … ears are erogenous, at least in some women.
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Anyone heard on this authenticmanprogram.com/igtp/InnerGameStickingPoints.pdf ?
What are your thoughts on it?
I read the first sticking points and it seemed to make sense but the second part when they start telling you stuff like not objectifying women, taking their ‘hopes and dreams’ into account when talking to them.. not so much.
Honestly after reading enough CH, rollo and listening to Tyler I just can’t look at women as ‘normal human beings’ anymore, their nature seems to be so .. i can’t even define it properly (probably due to not being a native speaker) but it kind of makes me sick. Sure I feel attracted to them a lot and in real life when interacting with them it’s still a little hard to aknowledge their true nature but when stepping back and objectively looking at it the way women think and react is truly repulsive to me.
So this excerpt seems kind of contradicting to the general game knowledge i’ve been reading :
“Common Ways Men Objectify Women:
1. You want to have sex with her whether it is in her best interests are not.
2. She is just an opportunity for you to practice approaching women.
3. You are trying to “make her” like you.
4. You relate to her as a “target” – an object rather than another human being who has her
own unique dreams, fears and vulnerabilities.
Solution: Relate to Her As Another Human Being.
We call this “Shared Humanity.” It involves cultivating your ability to understand, appreciate and
feel more connected to the women you interact with. ”
Why the fuck would i care if her fucking me is in her ‘best interest’, does her not fucking me is in MY best interest? don’t think so.
#2 and #3 do feel a little wrong, you should assume the sale etc.
and #4 i have addressed earlier.
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It reads like game translated into womanspeak then translated back. I’d say your gut reaction is right and to listen to it.
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Game without “humanity” is just as fucked up as feminism.
But CH has to go all ultra alpha style to make sure betas get the message. Once you’re this extreme alpha, you understand where betaness is needed, and you finally act like a proper human being.
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Tell you what, if I find a down to earth hottie who doesn’t think the world revolves around her clitoris i’ll be human to her.
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That’s exactly what people should do. Never go soft on a hot bitchy girl, even if you don’t get the lay, at the least the guy after you will have an easier time.
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Nothing is a fucked up as feminism.
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“But CH has to go all ultra alpha style to make sure betas get the message.”
Its sad when men don’t get this and think they’re doing what CH would do, when, really, the best men and women don’t have to behave at these extremes.
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Are those the wedges pictured? Profile view, please. The strap is a must. Like a choker for your ankle. A little foot halo.
I was checking out some five/six-and-a-halfers for you. But really, I think you have the feet for seven-plus.
Or we can compromise with these dangerous 6¼ knockoff Loubies. Talk about kicky, those girls could saw an alpha in half.
Matt
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LOL Yes, indeed, those are the much-anticipated wedges.
You’ve been shoe-shopping for me? My feet blush with pride 🙂
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(or is that just asphyxiation?)
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Loosen the strap. (Or tighten it, if that’s your scene.)
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You have to keep in mind that as a man, you are never allowed to act as a “proper” man, and you are never shown proper men in the media. So when they read about Game, the pendulum of those effeminate men swings back pretty hardcore, and they see the uber alpha way both as a relief and a liberation. I’ve been there, 95% of the guys here are have been/will be there. But they have to realise, and we have to tell them, that balance is crucial. Usually, that stuff confuses new guys (even some old ones I’m sure), and it ends up reinforcing their betaness.
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“But they have to realise, and we have to tell them, that balance is crucial.”
Nice.
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“1. You want to have sex with her whether it is in her best interests are not.”
You benefit her with your commitment (resources & protection), she benefits you with sex. In proportion to the personal cost you suffer for benefiting her with your commitment, you are equally justified to disregard her discomforts while servicing you sexually.
She knows this instinctively and for this reason is she prefering men who are less discomfort from committing to her.
“2. She is just an opportunity for you to practice approaching women.”
Gender opposite: he is an opportunity to feel good by rejecting his approaches.
If the woman objectifies men, she has no expectation of being immune to the same treatment.
“3. You are trying to “make her” like you.”
If she isn’t trying to be like you, she is not accepting you wholesale. Proportionally to her rejection of you is your chances of being cuckolded or divorce-raped.
At the same time, understand that she is not a male.
“4. You relate to her as a “target” – an object rather than another human being who has her own unique dreams, fears and vulnerabilities.”
See #2
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Liberalism/whiteknightery is the opposite of game. How did you make it past page 1 with quotes like “There she is… a goddess; a sexy, gorgeous creature, full of vitality and sensuality. ”
Never ever put women on a pedestal!!!!
These guys blow! Stop reading them.
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I think in that particular paragraph they try to relate to a beta’s emotions and i have to admit that presence thing in the begining makes sense to me.
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Yup. Tha’ts exactly what they did… because they are enablers, not helpers.
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Nice writeup by CH. Agree 100%.
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Picture the typical Iranian woman. In Iran. Do it.
Picture the level of oppression you think them to be. How they must adjust to the patriarchy, how bad they get treated if they answer back to a man.
Now, check this out.
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HOW CAN SHE SLAP????!!!!
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lolz
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link didn’t work:
http://www.quickmeme.com/meme/3vfp/
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with subtitles
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What amazed me most was the kid who wants to be a judge talking about how easy it must be to sentence someone to death.
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Well, barbaric 8th centrury sharia law doesn’t get too technical
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Harsh crowd here curious what the men and women of CH think
http://greatestbeta.blogspot.com/2013/04/rate-my-face.html
Went out last night got stared at by over 20 girls. Practically everywhere I go…throw in some game and its no challenge at all.
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greatest beta,you have got to stop going to Chuckie Cheese before you get into some serious trouble!
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fuck man, take your picture down, you are bumming me out and its gorgeous outside today.
Go listen to JayZ “on to the next one” like 30 times until you can recite it. Internalize what he says. Come back. Your value is internal, non externally driven.
Where the hell is Ya? We got another one and you like to type more.
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Of course internal is huge. But having a good exterior just makes things so much easier :)))
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internal is understanding biomechanics and emotional control. biomechanics is god. exterior is nothing as long as you are not deformed. the fact that you refer to yourself as greatest beta shows serious crack in the facade. girls, hell, people in general sniff that out.
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No. Men are intimidated by me and women tingle when I give them the Mediterranean stare.
My “problem” is my big big heart. That’s why I’m the greatest beta. Back in my early 20s I was heartless then Jesus touched my heart I can’t go back to breaking hearts no more.
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U,U just hope that u respect other beliefs like Allah, Brahman or Buddha, thats all
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lol. let us know how that works out Capt. Miller.
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Not breaking hearts and not being beta are not mutually exclusive.
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Like a Doestoyevsky character!
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Jesus has been touching a lot of people. God damn pervert Mexican.
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That song is lame, even for a degenerate “art” like rap.
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Gil Scott Heron, who might have been one of the first rappers, regarded rap music as empty posturing. Pretty much sums up Jay Z’s approach in 95% of his music. Of course he’s a grand wizard in the Illuminati
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not the most handsome man, but approved, enough and ok in my opinion
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4 because hair and accountant shirt are abysmal.
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lol
Thats a versace shirt!
Thats some bed head i have beautiful hair buddy!
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everyone should read Eric Berne
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This one is for video games players. Rest don’t need to mind.
You know this thing:
Here is a good reply:
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As much as I’d like to play games that don’t have women in chain mail bikinis, I fully accept that I’m not the demographic for this industry. Why is it that feminists want to shit all over things that don’t belong to them?
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This is one of the women that would turn around and bitch about men not giving them first place on the lifeboat. I’d do my best to save her last.
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33 out of 44.
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The key is to not fawn I’ve how purrrrrdee she is. Most guys that I see fuck up, do it here.
Neg her outfit or something she’s wearing. The key is to stand out and be a challenge. Tell a woman she can’t join your club and she’ll do damn near anything to get in.
Use her hamster against her to work the heavy lifting for you.
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The key is to not fawn over how purrrrrdee she is. Most guys that I see fuck up, do it here.
Neg her outfit or something she’s wearing. The key is to stand out and be a challenge. Tell a woman she can’t join your club and she’ll do damn near anything to get in.
Use her hamster against her to do the heavy lifting for you.
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Just to play devil’s advocate, the men’s questions aren’t so selfless when you add the implied “so she’ll fuck me” at the end.
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[…] I’ll start with Heartiste’s cool picture from here: https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2013/04/19/women-will-qualify-you-so-you-must-resist-their-efforts […]
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re: latest twitter comment.
The true clinton legacy? If he saw a region with insane muzzie violence, let’s load up the country with immigration from that region. As we sit here with a bunch of chechens and somalis. Transforming the USA through demographics.
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Can you say Pyrrhic victory? How many millions were spent trying to catch a couple punk kids. Imagine a halfway decent opposition. The whole fuckin’ edifice, etc.
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Both sexes qualify…women biologically and men for commitment.
When things got turned upside down is when the guard rails came off for qualifications for women meaning they could have all the alpha cock they wanted and to hell with the consequences…which made men bend over backwards and have lower standards for qualifing women to committ to.
In a sense qualifing a gender as a mate isn’t exclusive to men or women. We each have our own set of standards.
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Anti-racist Hitler
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Pyrrhic victory, indeed.
Thousands of law enforcement personnel from ALL over New England and New York, armored cars, intelligence resources, millions of dollars spent- all for one teenager with a gun and some pipe bombs. Over a million people told to stay indoors – while they are also being told that it’s bad to own a gun – even to protect yourself in your own home – and that you are a macho-fascist anti-government naysayer if you believe otherwise.
Can’t imagine what would have happened if there was a follow-up or similar attack or attacks in another area at the same time.
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Unh
all for one teenager with a gun and some pipe bombs.
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I have yet to hear a description of the TYPE of firearm/s the perps are alleged to have posessed?
why not?
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Right, earl.
Women coming off the cock carousel perpetually exhibit cock carousel vertigo – and/or, they become reformed sluts and join a fundamentalist sect. Nothing could be worse. Gee…funny how it all seems to work to lower the reproductive rate among western women and men.
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I know it’s OT, but this case has hybristophilia written all over it. I would be surprised if the younger one didn’t get love letters and marriage proposals. They’ve already posted sh!t talking about how cute he is, and besides he’s famous, the ultimate chick crack, so much so that why is basically irrelevant. The MSM furiously spins away framing him as a war victim and victim of someone else’s radicalizing. Some brain dead girl is writing him letters right now and the hamster is running in her head saying over and over “I’m not excusing what he did,” guarantee it.
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Agreed, GB. No doubt, thousands of stained panties.
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Makes me wonder about the origin of the promise of “a thousand virgins” awaiting the martyr in heaven.
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As a muslim, i know it that the 72 virgins in heaven is basically a stereotypical portrayal of muslims that muslims do not self-identify with.
It’s a vilification meme.
“Darn those Mohammedans, how do they dare imagining being with multiple woman after they die! They should settle with enjoying some good old whores being raped on youporn, just as any other descent human being!”
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Yeah, eventually.
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The real surprise will be when the 72 virgins turn out to be the first two rows of guys at a Rush concert.
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I see the meme ingrained really hard.
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I see the joke you don’t get.
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A career woman.
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White Feminist Woman at Georgetown University working in the admissions department openly admitted that she REJECTED white men’s applications simply because they were WHITE MEN.
Brief: A female advisor in the admissions department at Georgetown University has been caught openly admitting that she committed the CRIME of discrimination based on people’s race and gender in the application process.
This has the potential to create a large scale lawsuit against Georgetown University, and with the momentum building at the rate it is building, seems very likely that will be the outcome.
Below are the main links to all of the information regarding this news story and case.
http://www.crimesagainstfathers.com/australia/Forums2/tabid/369/forumid/232/threadid/6149/scope/posts/Default.aspx
http://www.avoiceformen.com/georgetown-university-and-men/georgetown-university-in-a-cover-up/
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She will get a slap on the hand at best.
We live under feminazi/leftist rule.
Only white males are ever wrong. Everyone else is always right.
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Went to a club on Saturday night in South Orange County with a group of friends.
One of the girls that was with us was a 4 at best. I know her, shes a nice girl, but a loser in the SMP. She is short, has thick thick thighs, but has really pretty blue eyes. NOT A SINGLE GUY TALKED TO HER THE ENTIRE NIGHT. Now the other girls in our group were 7s and up and were getting bothered every 10 mins or so. So I seperated the 4 from the rest of the group just to see if ONE guy would talk to her. NOPE.
Life is brutal for a 4 girl. Not even the unattractive men would hit on her. In fact, the nasty guys would try to holler at the good looking girls which I think is fucking retarded. What I basically saw was that for an unattractive woman its almost as if she doesnt exist in the club scene.
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