Reader rj4luv emails details of his quim quandary,
Gambler once said ..”once you ask for advice on a particular girl , you’ve already lost the game .”
I guess I lost.
So I am in college (18 yo , yup)
I got this girl X interested in me, (a lot of IOIs ,constantly gazing at me , Lot of arranging hair around me etc.)
When I asked for her number she was visibly blushing … So after a week (IOIs persist) I asked her out (total direct way, on face ) and she … rejected me , suggesting “another time ” (indefinite).
Anyways After 3 days of no contact I call her …Extremely High IOIs again (mixed emotions , audible laughing,and heavy breathing?) we talked for 20 min had fun (1st call) .She called me next day, didn’t pick up😉. I called the next day 20 min again same IOIs .
Then I stopped contacting her for a week, I was afraid of getting friendzoned .
So when we next met I could notice Her IOIs had increased … So I called her that night eventually asking her out (Didn’t ask on face again cause whole class was present)…she rejected me again giving “genuine” reasons ..which I knew were fake so instead of saying OK … I asked THRICE trying to sound a bit serious (to water down my ASUMMED high value, also assuming that she’s trying to show she’s not easy ) ..blam! it went bad I didn’t respond, no Goodnight nor bye ( I was angry, this was only way to show it without yelling )…and no contact from both of us from past 3 weeks .
So I am going to TEXT her (won’t call)( from your post how to win back ex gf ) going to keep it short .
Based on what you have written here, I would advise against this course of action. Remember, this girl was never your girlfriend, so you wouldn’t be “winning her back”, (as per the advice in that classic CH post.) She’s a girl who gazed at you and twirled her hair and rejected you twice (in that passive, kick the can down the road way that a girl will often utilize in order to keep a suitor on tenterhooks waiting for a change in her disposition and meanwhile flattering her ego with each passing day.)
So, Why after these heavy IOIs she rejected me TWICE
Is there a way I can win her back and eventually bang her?(She’s just 7 …still)
7 years old? Try Lollipop Game.
I keed I keed. Don’t be fooled by the objective attainability of 7s. The marginally pretty girl can be a bigger cocktease than the drop-dead hottie, owing in part to her greater need for validation and to the constant barrage of clumsy come-ons she gets from beta males too timid to approach hotter girls.
She was not my gf but she was one (ONLY)of the option ( 2 girls one turned out to be in LTR..that’s why)
She was not your gf. You can stop there.
so what to do after that short text?
Details: Both 18 , India
(game works same )so no chance of drinks , yup she use to reply to my text ( Hiiiiii instead of Hi), didn’t ever text each other after we resorted to calling.
I wouldn’t read too much into that “Hiiiiiii”. A textual tremolo like that from a girl could just as easily indicate asexual friendliness.
Yes , you can use this for posting if it helps others along with name ( hide email though)
Forgot to mention …no kino happened only handshakes and high fives.
The kino is weak. The kino is weak? Fuck you the kino is weak! You don’t deserve the kino!
No, but really, that kino is weak. Handshakes (bleh) and high fives (less bleh) are the kinds of kino you want to achieve shortly after meeting a girl, not weeks and weeks later. It’s stepping-stone kino to more erogenous dales.
Here’s my take: One of two possibilities are in play.
1. She does like you in that kama sutra way, but you started to lose her when you spent the week between getting her number and asking her on a date doing nothing but texting back and forth. Then you unsealed the deal when she called you and you didn’t return her call until the next day. Look, my dot not feather friend, playing hard to get with a woman is counterproductive when she has given clear signals that she wants you to move the courtship forward. A girl calling out of the blue is a major IOI. Either pick up, or let her sweat for half an hour before calling back. Don’t wait a whole day. By that time, she will have figured in her girlbrain that you just weren’t interested enough in her, and she’ll pull the ripcord. To put it succinctly, you overgamed. Rescuing a pickup from bad overgaming is difficult.
2. She doesn’t like you in that kama sutra way, but she enjoys toying with you. If this is it, your winning move is NEXT.
Now it’s time to phone a friend, which means the Chateau studio audience. Imagine you, the reader, are in the same situation as rj4luv. Imagine, too, that scenario #1 is operative (you can’t know this for sure, but presuming it true allows A Test of Your Game to proceed with plausible intent).
What’s your next move with this girl? For the sake of experimental procedure, you’ve gotta do something, so what is it you do?
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A lot of commenters will mention this, so I figured I’d add it to the post.
Women will MAKE TIME for men they desire. That means, if a girl says “another time” when you suggest a date, she really means “never another time”. It also means, if you are the kind of man a girl is really curious about, she’ll skip out on weddings and gyno appointments to make time for you. There are rare exceptions to this rule, and you will be able to tell when the exception is in play; you’ll hear the genuine disappointment in her voice and you’ll see the regret writhing her sexbody. If it’s over the phone, she’ll promptly counter-offer.
Maxim #30: A girl will always make time in her faux busy schedule for a man she likes, and when she can’t she’ll be the one to suggest another time.