Commenter dirkdiggly unzips in front of a mirror and ‘miringly unfurls this meaty tale of modern romance:
What fun it would be to make a “romcom” depicting a fiery romantic relationship as it actually plays out for the garden-variety CH apprentice…
Boy meets girl at a gathering of mutual friends.
Girl is objectively prettier than the guy, and clearly bored with her life and asteroid belts of hopeful orbiters, also present at the gathering.
Guy behaves outlandishly, or displays bold talent that sets him apart -no fucks given.
Guy negs girl, finishes her drink while she goes to the bathroom to gossip.
Numbers are exchanged. Guy writes hers on a napkin -loses napkin.
She calls after a few days of expectant waiting and overthink.
Guy “forgets” her name, but tells her that he remembers her hairstyle because it’s so common these days.
Girl asks guy on a date.
Sparks fly, fluids are exchanged.
Guy loudly poops immediately post-coitus, bathroom door open. Girl is fascinated.
Guy doesn’t call for a week. Smoke pours from girl’s ears due to hamster wheel tread stripping and transmission fire.
Guy texts “sup”. Girl swoons.
Casual sex ensues for six months. Guy avoids meeting her family.
Guy moves across country. Girl uproots entire life, quits job at Forever21, follows.
Girl arrives to find guy with new girlfriend…”babe I thought we had an understanding”
Credits roll to sounds of wailing/sobbing.I’m drafting a script now, wonder which studio will jump on this “feel-good hit of the summer” first?
I’ll be setting up an indiegogo for those who feel compelled to donate.
This romantic scenario is far more common than the ones you see in typical rom-coms. But it would bomb at the box office, because women wouldn’t like it. Women don’t like depictions of love and romance that are too honest about the nature of their own sexuality. See, for example, Blue Valentine. Concealed ovulation should be your first clue that women are born masters at the art of self-deception.
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Have you ever noticed that the typical rom-com scenario is pretty sickening to begin with? Watch any Nicholas Sparks movie and you’ll notice that the chicks are always dating around multiple guys, and a lot of times leave their boyfriends for a flash-in-the-pan romance from long ago.
How fucked up is that? Just bail on your guy for some random dude?
A lot of Rom-Coms are honest, they just flip the characters. With the girl leaving the bad boy for the beta chump instead of the realistic inverse.
#JustSayin
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I never pay attention to entertainment news, but channel surfing I saw that Nicholas Sparks is getting divorced after 25 years. After having watched “The Notebook” with my wife once, I am not surprised. Reminds me of the Nicholson line from “As Good As It Gets”. If you don’t know the line you need to watch the movie.
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“As Good As It Gets” was a rom-com to me, and I could stand to watch it for only a minute. Too much women talk, it is hard on my ears.
“About Schmidt” is the red-pilled, flip-side version of the above. A cuckolded old toolbag realizes he never mattered beyond his money.
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Sparks has a new movie coming, just saw the trailer the other night. It looks like some sort of redneck rodeo version of The Notebook, including time shifts and hand written letters. I’m calling it Fifty Shades of Hay.
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@juro
You couldn’t be more wrong. Not with classic lines like this:
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That oft-quoted Nicholson line is a gem indeed… however…
Less-quoted is his über-beta “You make me want to be a better man.”
Like most mainstream-approved films that allow a bit of misogyny and homo-bashing… or general red-pillism… the pro-antagonist (or anti-hero) is usually suffering from some sort of mental malady… or shows enough contempt for his “own kind” that all of that other “hate” gets a pass (witness Gran Torino, for example).
[CH: recall the movie in full. that line worked b/c jack had spent nearly all the time with her up to then acting like a jerkboy. his compliment came like a drink to a parched nomad. which is how you want your compliments received by women.]
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Point taken, but again, the only reason he “got away with” all that previous behavior is because a) it was a “mental malady” which was beyond his control and (perhaps more importantly) b) he was rich and famous.
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And lest we forget, getting a “real doctor” for that kid of hers pretty much saved him from oblivion…
… indeed, that might have been what put him over the top, since it was the first time she went storming over to his place in the middle of the night, wet T-shirt and all, to tell him she would NEVER have sex with him…
… which, as he then rightfully pointed out, he hadn’t asked for. 😉
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“Credits roll to sounds of wailing/sobbing.”
Bonus scene after credits, she goes out to drown her sorrows, stumbles down dark alley, gets culturally enriched, dies. Cut to news story with 1/3 black 1/3 latina 1/3 asian anchorbimbo solemnly intoning the latest white-on-black microaggression thousands of miles away.
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lol. you sure showed those bad white girls! You go, boy!
alt. after-credits scene:
hopped up on the viagara he secretly uses to maintain his lothario front, Paper Alpha has a boner for three straight days and is unable to piss. this causes a two-liter buildup of urine in his bladder and he gets a urinary tract infection, and goes to the hospital in agonizing pain and they have to administer a catheter. the attending nurse is the older sister of the gullible coed the Paper Alpha was wasting time on. She surveys Paper Alpha’s prescription drug history and quickly covers her mouth to stifle her misanthropic giggling. she pulls out her iPhone, gives the middle finger to HIPPA laws snaps a photo of Paper Alpha’s decades long need for viagara, and immediately texts it to her younger sister. the two sisters spend the rest of their lives laughing at Paper Alpha and lil sister’s naive trust that he was really a virile alpha.
big sis: “ha ha! remember you saying that he was harder for longer than any vibrators at that sex toy party!”
lil sis: “God, don’t remind me of that phony freak. i was young and dumb and trusted men and their boners.”
big sis: “Yeah, you did recover well. now your genetic line survives with all the kids you had with Tyrone. They look just like little Obamas!”
lil sis: “Yep. and Paper Alpha is still sending me two-word texts thinking i still fall for his bullshit when i’m 40. I still respond once in a while, because I think he’s going to stalk me or go on a shooting rampage if I totally ignore him.”
big sis: “Don’t feel bad for him. as long as he’s got a medicine cabinet full of viagara and there are gullible 20 year old girls, he’ll keep deluding himself.”
lil sis: “DeAndre! DeShawna! put down that bucket of Church’s Chicken already!”
big sis: “Fried chicken? For breakfast?”
lil sis: “Well, I would’ve nursed them if they were white children. But better to have mulatto children then to carry the spawn of impotent phones like Paper Alpha.”
for the rest of her life, as lil sis goes to bed with Tyrone’s arms around her and his offspring in her home, a part of her soul yearns for Paper Alpha, or at least for some small kernel of his being. but she dare not think this too much, because it was gone up in smoke with Paper Alpha’s false life. to finish the thought that lurks in her head at night would be too much, because to finish it would be to understand that it is gone forever, and the stark nightmare reality is too dark for her feminine soul to possibly bear.
Director’s Commentary: “We cut this coda out after a test-screening at a Christian megachurch in suburban Atlanta. The audience was almost all women and, insofar as the character of lil sis was an aggregation of white women, the audience hated the suggestion that the closest thing to happiness lil sis could find was a black man and biracial children. Against all reality, these white women in the audience still have hope for white men. I don’t understand them, either.”
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“impotent phones” Pure pottery.
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“for the rest of her life”?? So, like about a week until Bellcurvius kills her? He damn sho ain’t stickin around to take care of her mulatto spawn
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For some wholesome Red Pill goodness I highly recommend downloading/watching Episode 3 of Series 1 of the British television anthology series; Black Mirror.
The other episodes have stories that are self contained and also worth a look.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Black_Mirror_(TV_series)
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that’s a great one. and likely to occur on some level, in the not too distant future.
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Here’s a link to that episode “the Entire History of You” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j3_8mBX7VXA
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Hi guys,
Happy New Year CH. I have a question regarding a shit test I have some difficulty passing.
I’m quite at ease with the “Why don’t you have a gf ?” classic. But lately girls I date keep on asking the same stupid crap : “Why did you choose me ?”
As though they expect some deep spiritual connection after two lays and think I can reveal some secret about their longing souls.
The thing is I’m not good at BS and when I do make stuff up I never remember it well enough if asked again.
I have two answers that work to some point so far.
1. Ignore and sexualize : “I like that you’re willing to learn, I’m sure I’ll make something of you one day”
2. The easy-going version : “I was free and it was your lucky day”
Those two work to a certain point, but they always keep on bringing that same question again.
Any input would be appreciated.
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Casually tell them that they had a nice ass…or that you were bored. Or both.
Or if you’re evil, you can take this opportunity of vulnerability to look deep into their eyes and tell them some bullshit that grabs their soul, make up some shit about fate and connection and this BS…women eat that shit up
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This is worth a read especially from a Game-savvy/Red Pill perspective.
The idea here is that a woman is writing about how bad she “feels” for dumping a guy. But of course when the next hot dude comes around she’ll forget all about what she did.
I think that when girls break up they “want” to feel bad because they think that’s how they’re “supposed” to feel. In reality they’ll trade up when the time comes. I was the guy who the girl cheated with. She “felt” bad about breaking up with her boyfriend but not that bad she couldn’t bang my brains out….
I once asked a girl who dumped me how she felt. “I feel nothing” she said. Emotional cut-off is the way she dealt with it.
What’s missing here is the ideas about hypergamy.
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“I once asked a girl who dumped me how she felt. “I feel nothing” she said. Emotional cut-off is the way she dealt with it.”
i don’t think the feeling nothing is a coping mechanism or a way of dealing with it. i think she got to the point of feeling nothing before the break up and that’s why she did it. remember…the opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s feeling nothing at all.
girls will stay with guys for a long time even if it’s bad but for a lot of them, when they’re done, they’re done. the trick is to recognize when you’re starting to lose her and turn it around before it gets to that point of her not caring anymore. there’s usually no going back if you figure it out after the fact.
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Once we have loved someone we’ll do anything for them except love them again. – Oscar Wilde
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Why try to turn it around? Let it happen, freedom comes and man can pursue his natural instinct of fucking multiple women
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why should she feel anything? She was being honest. You’re expecting women to have emotions like men do, in rational RESPONSE to stimuli. Women’s emotions just arise like tempests or rogue waves
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Here’s the article
http://thoughtcatalog.com/kim-quindlen/2015/01/this-is-how-she-feels-when-she-breaks-your-heart/
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I wasn’t treating my husband fairly, and it wasn’t fair.
http://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/2nonqz/i_wasnt_treating_my_husband_fairly_and_it_wasnt/
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The dude in the Reddit trainwreck is a frigging SAINT – putting up with that Hitlery Rotten Clitless poison for “12+ years” so that his kids can have both a mommy AND a Daddy in the same house? Give his ass the Nobel Peace Prize. And the frigging Congressional Medal of Honor.
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yeah…my reaction was…man…Ray Rice Game. The MINUTE you take being dressed down by a bitch, that’s the minute she takes your balls and puts them in a jar.
He should have alpha’d up, put his finger in her face and told her “don’t you EVER fucking talk to me like that again.” A slap on the face might help too but in today’s society, she might call 911.
If she can’t deal with that, then get rid of her; she’s a fuckin train wreck of a bitch and is an inevitable divorce.
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Women aren’t impressed by a broken heart because they know it isn’t fatal. – H. L. Mencken
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‘Women don’t like depictions of love and romance that are too honest about the nature of their own sexuality’
Yes shining the light of truth in that arena is like sun to a vampire.
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Solid analogy. Vivid imagery.
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Yes, women hate or find it distasteful when depictions of love and romance from a man is shown as being conditional; the very way that women love men.
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– “Concealed ovulation should be your first clue that women are born masters at the art of self-deception.”
One thing I always try to get the woman doing while building interest is get the questions rolling in her head. Giving her enough clues that I MAY be interested will get her imagination flowing. “Does he like me? Did he touch me because he’s interested? Does he think I’m pretty? Is he more interested in that other bitch he’s been talking to? Does he think she’s pretty? Did he get my phone number because he likes me? Will he actually text me?”
The woman will fill in all the answers to the above questions, both with the positive and negative outcomes. The outcomes will eventually lead to more questions such as “Will we get married? What will our children look like?” The more a woman dreams up these questions and the potential outcomes, the more she becomes obsessed with him.
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When a woman asks herself questions about potential “us” as you say that is going to make her feel intrigued…
But “What will our children look like?” is the very first question she asks herself when she looks at a man even if subconsciously. Because instinct tells her that a man’s sons will be like him. And her instincts want her to have sons who are sneaky fuckers, pump-and-dump players who fuck around, and have children with the daughters of many other women without getting attached to any of them.
That’s what the gina tingle is all about: her instinct telling her that a man could give her sons who are going to be like him and good at spreading *her* genes around.
Because that’s what men are (at best) to women: a tool for genetic supremacy over other women, and what lust and jealousy in women is all about. At least during their fertile periods…
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Wow, new idea I hadn’t heard or thought of before. They want sluts.
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I like it, but ideally there would also be text messages saying “gay” and “I just built the world’s smallest snowman.”
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The beginning of the movie would start out as the girl banging out 7 tinder dates a night. With constant yolo’s and drug use.
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Needs more “You go, girl!”
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Heh. Somewhere along the line she tries her hand in the porn industry.
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‘Guy doesn’t call for a week. Smoke pours from girl’s ears due to hamster wheel tread stripping and transmission fire.’
Girl files false rape charge because she is scorned.
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“Women don’t like depictions of love and romance that are too honest about the nature of their own sexuality.”
^^Truth.
Want one more?
Men and women alike don’t appreciate depictions of the harsh realities sentient existence, and thus, most of the race lives deluded by psychology that their life is actually meaningful when the entire game is leading to nonexistence, nothingness. For every woman fooled by false romantic notions, there are two (1 man and 1 woman) fooled by false hope for the future.
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Indeed. Women universally hate “Forrest Gump,” which is undeniably a great movie.
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I bet you are fun at parties…
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You should see me when I’m not at parties.
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Nihilism? Faaaaack, dude! At least National Socialism is an ethos.
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You see, Greg? This is what happens when you fuck a stranger in the ass.
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3000 years of beautiful tradition, from Moses to Koufax… YOU’RE G*DDAMN RIGHT I’M LIVING IN THE PAST!!!
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Shut the fuck up, Donnie.
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That is our most economically-priced receptacle.
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That carpet really tied the room together.
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Your revolution’s over, Lebowski… condolences… the bums lost.
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She’s not my special lady… she’s my lady friend. I’m just helping her conceive, man!
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But then, I happen to know that there’s a little Lebowski on the way. I guess that’s the way the whole darned human comedy keeps perpetuatin’ it-self, down through the generations…
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I’m perfectly calm, dude.
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This isn’t Vietnam, this is bowling… there are rules here!
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+1
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Exactly. The one pretty lie that will likely never perish.
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> “Concealed ovulation”
Along those lines: If you work the Dark Voodoo to perfection, and send the hamster revving into chick crack nirvana apotheosis, then her hindbrain will desire you so ferociously that it will burst a follicle EARLY [before the 14th day] in order to have your child. I guess you could consider this to be some sort of a Divine Compliment of your mad skillz as an Artist, but it does come with enormous responsibilities. Really staggering responsibilities. Just FYI. The Dark Voodoo is very very powerful.
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Bad boy balotelli tries to steal icelandic gf. See chat-style for game tips. See boyfriend for beta whining: “The moment when Balotelli steals your girlfriend #whatcanIdo” -> https://twitter.com/jonataningi/status/552120589935452161/photo/1
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Slightly OT:
I think an alpha way to respond to a woman saying “Thank you” is simply:
“My pleasure.”
Your thoughts Heartiste? I think any response that includes the word pleasure in it and refers back to yourself will be better than affirming her worth and focusing on her with “You’re welcome.”
[CH: it can’t hurt. sounds kinda salacious, which is a good thing.]
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Not even men would see such a movie.
I go to the movies for fantasy. That entails unattainable women and a flawed guy who gets the girl. Any kind of flawed guy is sufficient, so long as the woman loves him anyway. Good movies in that category include “The New Guy,” “She’s Out of My League,” and “Silver Linings Playbook.”
That, my friends, is the fantasy to which I escape from reality. If I want truth, I can read it here (and a few other remote outposts).
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agree with the first two but jennifer lawrence’s character in silver linings playbook was as flawed as bradley cooper’s character.
of course she’s held up as a prize by today’s standards and people saw that movie as an example of real human experience but like you, i want to go to the movies to escape reality and fantasize about something better.
seeing a messed up guy settling for an equally messed up (used up) girl instead of getting his act together and striving for better is just depressing. especially when you know how many girls relate to that character and want to emulate her. a girl like that as the prize? depressing i tell you.
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I could make a similar argument about the other two movies I mentioned. We get the best we can from what’s available in this world.
[also: Dude: she’s a WIDOW! Isn’t that the closest thing to female prequalification that exists?]
For example, I don’t expect the construction contractors and laborers who build the structures I design to comprehend my work, or even the purpose behind much of what I specify. I’ve abandoned hope that there’s such a thing as a “competent carpenter;” even Jesus took to preaching.
In such a world, I give “fallen women” credit for “time served” as reformed hussies. A woman that can keep to the straight-and-narrow for several years after a misspent youth is probably worth the trouble for a low-wage laborer or salary-man with poor sexual prospects if all her other “assets” are sufficiently valuable. If such a woman owns her mistakes then she’s head-and-shoulders above other women, who generally don’t comprehend much beyond, “Girls just wanna have fun!”
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check out the movie “The Giant Mechanical Man”
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i think that sitcom manhattan love story was like this. the guy treated her like garbage, she couldn’t get enough. it was too real, that’s why it was cancelled.
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“hamster wheel tread stripping and transmission fire.”
Love it!!!
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“I saw that Nicholas Sparks is getting divorced after 25 years.” – CarpeOro
I saw that too and for some reason it made me think of the chick lit author who left her husband because he didn’t measure up to the guys in her books.
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While we are on the whole red pill rom com kick I had to throw out one of my favorite suggestions:
Youth in Revolt
(http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0403702/?ref_=nm_flmg_act_25) The whole movie is basically the entire concept of yesterdays CH post about putting romance before sex. The Michael Cera character dissolves into two separate characters (alpha vs beta) as he creates his alpha alter ego to get the girl. It is pretty hilarious and rooted in many of the CH teachings. There are so many classic examples in this movie it is astounding. Highly recommend.
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Cosigned. Michael Cera outwardly seems like a total wimp (that girl voice especially), but he’s got a tough core.
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Women are actually healthier than men when it comes to dealing with breakups. When most men break up they wallow in their own misery and emotional weakness for weeks. When women break up they go out to a club or on a Tinder date and fuck an alpha that night or that weekend.
The easiest girl in the world to fuck is one who just broke up with her boyfriend that day. So she puts closure on the relationship with some good sex, feels validated and in control, then fucks some hot guys for a while while she looks for the next boyfriend type.
If men did the same they would be much happier. GFTOW is great advice for a reason.
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I think it’d work better in an animated fashion with anthropomorphic characters or even in the vein of Wall-E. I believe that people have a great suspension of disbelief when it comes to animated films/programs, that they’re able to grabs the concepts and themes at a greater level than if it was live-action.
Live-action = real life, so they’re always trying to place themselves in that scenario, even if it’s fantasy and/or sci-fi
Animation = like a living dream, so, has plausible scenarios of a more fanciful variety and has a chance to seep unencumbered to the subconscious and be more readily accepted and validated.
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Every time I read a reference to “writing a number on a napkin” I think “omg this dude is so old.” Nobody carries around pens anymore. Just put the number in your phone. Go paperless. It will make you seem younger / more congruent with your target demographic.
[CH: au contraire. because it’s so rare nowadays, napkin writing is a transgressive way to stand out from the crowd.]
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It was a sanitary napkin…
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For the win.
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“I think “omg this dude is so old.””
really? “omg”? napkin writing might be old (school) but even thinking about thinking in terms like omg is so junior high fem i don’t know where to start.
mounting evidence points to girls using their phones as beta orbiter confidence boosters. it’s been over a decade of every guy putting numbers into their phones and it’s getting real old real fast.
try leaving your house without your security blanket for just one day to see how the old guys used to live every day. somehow we still manged to pull. and we used to go sledding in the winter too (see des moines/omaha nanny state).
fountain pens and cursive making a comeback. make her write her name in cursive on the napkin. when she can’t, laugh in her face and belittle her so called education. then draw a line on her arm with the pen. she’ll remember you for sure.
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I carry nice fountain pens at work because I have to write a lot. Nice pens can be a really good conversation catalyst. It’s important to be casual and dismissive about it. Whip out the jaw dropping pen, when you notice she’s looking at it, say something like, “it’s just one of my work pens. I have to sign a lot of things at work.” Then shut up and let her wonder what that means.
Even if you don’t have a ton of money, nice pens (>$100 range) prequalify you with monied people and accomplished professionals as The Right Kind of Person. This won’t impress standard bar bimbos throwing down appletinis in between grunting sessions with meatheads, but if you’re trying to meet better quality women, it can be handy – along with being fit, reasonably successful in your career and of course showing the right dominant attitude.
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Last week a hostess who didn’t want to be seen typing her number in my phone slipped me a napkin.
The more experience you get, the more the absurd becomes normal.
Methinks you need to hit the hustle harder before you speak of napkins, my son.
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CH,
Here’s your daily anti-Cathedral ammunition:
http://politicallyincorrectmemes.blogspot.com/2015/01/politicall-incorrect-memes-archive.html
..
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“Feel good hit of the summer”
I just now got where the title of that Queens of the Stone Age song comes from.
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Or, if you make it very realistic, the worse he treats her and sexes her up on a rough way, the more she loves him. That would make it the Feel, hit, good of the summer.
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Re: https://radishmag.wordpress.com/2013/04/19/experience-white-culture/
There are some things that other cultures haven’t done, because there are some things other cultures can’t do. If you’re looking for a tremor in the force, look to see young people embracing their heritage. Learning to Waltz is unlikely to come back “in” but it’s the sort of surprise that would signal that change is afoot.
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Best visual of orbiting beta vs alpha I’ve seen in a while.
http://caliser.com/most-embarrassing-situations-ever/33/
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This resembles the vignette in the semi-putrid Elizabeth Hurley comedy Bedazzled. Main character is a grotesque sissy boy caricature who at first has girl of his dreams swooning but promptly loses her to a jerkboy alpha.
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Game question for all you guys: YaReally, Having a bad day, anyone else with insights.
Girl I’m gaming, 26, 7+, cute, fit, funny, sexy…great cook, supportive…the whole package. Really digs me…but won’t kiss me because “I don’t know you yet…”
This means I met her at a party, IOI’s, neg, kino, number closed, date at the fair, brought her back to my place…all over me…but won’t kiss me.
Basically she’s all about hanging out…sexy, but not sexual.
Oddly…I’m stumped. It’s hard not to like this girl. She cooked for me, tells me she loves my passion, holds hands, affectionate.
Hard to give her “the talk”. She gets what this is all about.
I’ve got 3 others on the go. Not sure what to do to escalate this.
I have three others I bang….i’d like to bang this one but she seems to be putting up not LMR…but First Minute Resistance.
I feel like I’m in a 1920’s silent movie…every time I move in to kiss her, she literally turns her head and puts the dog in my face.
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@wala
sounds like her bf algorithm is turned up to 11…lol…
if she’s ‘all over you,’ but no sex = doesn’t make sense to me…what exactly is ‘all over you’ mean?
if she’s a virgin, this might make some sense bc that’s a big step, especially if she’s 26, but if not…
most girls’ bf algorithms are like karate…stand off and throw punches/kicks from distance, but it sounds like this girl’s bf algorithm is into bjj…grappling at bad breath distance…lol…
re the ‘talk’…why is it hard?…if she gets it, why is she holding out? answer = bc she can…lol…she wants you to figure it out…so, she needs that talk…so her hindbrain can get worried enough that it’s going to miss out on your superior genetics and give her hamster something to work with…lol…
turn head/dog in face = shit test…
‘i don’t know you, yet’ = delay tactic = shit test …
agree and amplify or withdraw attention…it’s still about frame control, and it sounds like she’s winning…lol…
no kiss = withdraw attention/back turn…you might have to make her leave your presence/apartment…also, the need for outcome independence doesn’t stop just bc she cooks for you and holds your hand…lol…
on second thought, you CAN do this more subtly…just start bringing what you really like about your other girls (physically/sexually) into your conversations (pretend she is LJBF…) while rejecting her through your body language = no physical touching (you’ll have to gently move away if she initiates…)/no trying to kiss her/etc…also, stop leaning into her or facing her directly (especially when talking about your other girls…). the basic point is that you are LJBF her (but only through your body language), to stop validating her potential to ‘get your genetic material’ (i.e. stop chasing her…) let her do some of the work, too…lol…
this might just be a calibration issue…lol…
good luck!
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@habd It’s a game question for me because this is the first time I”ve encountered this very charming resistance.
She’s not a slut but at the same time it’s bizarre to me she would just be so warm an yet so cool. Thrown me for a loop because normally when I get LMR it’s all weird and hostile. This girl is very affectionate.
But yes, she’s in boyfriend mode. Other girls are in that too but usually submit or follow my lead. This one is dodging it.
The “dog” thing I made up but you get the idea, she turns her head and giggles…every time.
We’ve gone out 3 times and each time she comes over, she’s hanging off me, cooking dinner but…no kissing.
She wants to see me this week before I go on holidays for a few weeks and will be unreachable.
I’ve told her I’d get back to her waiting instead to see if one of the other girls i’m banging is available for a pre-vacation bang.
For one of the other girls I’m banging I’ll post about the massive set of shit tests I successfully managed and the very interesting results.
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So she isn’t a wonton whore. Either realize you aren’t into nonsluts and move on, or stick it out a bit.
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Maybe when the egg drop.
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coke game
or maybe she’s figured you out?
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This basically describes an “Always Sunny in Philadelphia” episode
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