COTW winner is LongWhiteCon, on the id-soaked reality facing White women who bear mixed race kids.
I don’t know too many men who dream about having kids (our nature is different, and it’s a vague abstract thought, mixed with necessary battle-wariness). However, ALL women dream of having kids, from the days they’re 18 months and playing with dolls and gurgling ‘aww, look at the baby-so cute!’. As slightly more mature women (slightly) their thoughts lean towards wanting to see some of themselves in the child they bear. As opposed to the father, they KNOW they’re the mother, and are assuming everything will go to plan. At first, they’re enthralled with their little mocha baby, with blonde hair and green eyes, but at 6 months, they’re aghast at how much the dark gene has taken over, laying to waste all the mother’s traits. A comment from a friend at the ‘caffeecleek’ (peer-group very important) along the lines of ‘she has such lovely brown eyes’ can really be a devastating shiv.
Like CH has said (and something which anthropologist Peter Frost has echoed in his writings), the White European aesthetic, behavioral and physical, is the result of a few thousand years of specialized, highly circumstantial selection for exquisitely refined traits that exist nowhere else in the world. Turning one’s back on that genetic heritage is akin to crapping on the Mona Lisa.
PA adds a painful twist,
That shiv is not for the squeamish, but in perverse times an acid bath of truth can save others from making a horrible mistake.
Another such built-in shiv lies in the word “beautiful.” Sarah Palin called her Downs Syndrome baby that. No scorn on her, as a sick child is a tragedy. But the point is, that nobody calls a normal child “beautiful.”
I see distant acquaintances and occasionally their friends-of-friends on FB post their children’s photos. In the rare cases that it’s a mulatto child of a White woman, there will invariably be a “beautiful” or similar words posted in comments. Almost never, in the case of a White child of a White woman (or a Black child of a Black woman, for that matter.
Intra-female dialogue has its own subtle rules. One of those rules is, I surmise, to appear generous and giving, while distancing oneself from any association with befoulment, as understood by her within the rules of her millieu.
This comment reminded me that I had recently heard a SWPL chick use the word “beautiful” to describe the mystery meat issue in a photo of a mixed race family (white father-black mother). The infant was about as far from “beautiful” as possible, she must have known this, and her little signaling game to her fellow SWPL whites wrested a pursed lip and a curt “hm” from me. Women have an amazing tolerance for these kinds of mincing, passive-aggressive status cues.