A lost boy desires a blessing of Chateau munificence,
What is the most effective thing a long time Beta male can do to introduce some ‘game’ into his life? I don’t mean things like pick up tips, do more of this, more of that… I mean lifestyle changes. Lift weights? Play on a highly competitive, high testosterone sport (e.g. Hockey)? Do endurance exercise? (I read somewhere runners are much more likely to get laid).
Your input is much appreciated.
Leaving aside for the duration of this thought exercise the sneaking suspicion that you are trolling, the answer to your question is “Game”. I’m not being facetious. You will get more alpha BANG for your beta bux by improving your charismatic presence than you will playing sports, running, grinding in the business world, or even lifting weights.
Game – aka learned charisma – is simply the most efficient and time-saving route to better results with women, which will lead to massive boosts in self-confidence. Game IS a lifestyle change, just like any other.
Now that that’s out of the way, I will answer the dangling participle of your question. The best non-Game lifestyle change you can make is… highly dependent on how you define “best”. Is it the change that will get you laid the quickest? Or the change that will permanently improve your odds of landing that “perfect girl” for marriage? Or is it the change that will maximize the length and breadth of your career in womanizing?
For quick lays, get in with a high value social group. That’ll offer easy, lubed access to cute girls who won’t give you too much sass because they will be preconditioned by the fact that you come socially proofed by the company you keep.
For permanent improvements in your SMV that will benefit you for years to come, take up weightlifting. Girls like some muscle on men, and more importantly your growing strength will infuse you with a confidence that girls can’t resist. And for the love of Lucifer, don’t do endurance running as a sport. Did the cross country runners in high school get laid? The milers? No. The football and basketball players got laid. (The badboys smoking in back of the school also got laid, but that’s a story for another day.)
There’s nothing wrong with highly competitive team sports, but don’t expect them to radically alter your perception with girls, not in the short term at any rate. Over years, participation in team sports will pay psyche and testosterone dividends, but the time and energy required to get there mean that this pursuit is best undertaken as a supplement to other life changing improvements you can do which are more sparing of your available resources.
For a permanent AND quick improvement in your attractiveness to women, get a sense of style. It’ll be pricier than a gym membership, but you’ll enjoy more immediate feedback from girls. If you are especially well-appointed, girls will even approach you to lavish you with compliments and maybe use the moment as an excuse to lightly touch you on the arm.
Finally, if you want a lifestyle change that will have an explosive and speedy impact on your transition from beta male to alpha male, be an asshole. The platonic love of the few buddy girls you’ll lose by being a complete prick will be more than compensated for by the romantic love of a lot of hot girls you will gain. The Way of the Asshole isn’t moral, societally admirable, or stable over the long term (if unleavened by Provider Game), but it packs a poon punch like few other male attractiveness traits do.
Final thought: One of the best lifestyle changes you can make to expedite your B2A transition is to connect with and observe the lifestyle of someone who is already alpha. Make friends with a Natural. Watch him work his magic. Take mental notes. See with your own eyes what works on women and what doesn’t. Your Natural friend doesn’t have to know his utility to your life goals. He only has to be there, a beacon of ballsy badassery, passing on his teachings unawares.
Commenter Harland adds a drastic lifestyle change that truly hapless beta males can undertake in the quest to improve themselves.
For the extreme, for the beta male whose life is already in ruins and can’t do any worse, move to a new city, at least 1000 miles from your home. You don’t want it to be easy to go back. For the advanced version, move overseas. Everyone who knows you as a total skeezy loser is now gone, and you are free to tell people you are the man that you’ve always wanted to be. Since they don’t know any better, they take you at your word, while you act the part accordingly. Soon enough, you actually ARE this man, and you can’t believe everyone fell for it. You are now getting laid and have cool friends. Mission accomplished.
The downside is being far away from your old friends and your family. Some people are just homebodies and can’t hack it, and will cry every night if they’re not in the place they happened to grow up. Oh, well. There’s no such thing as a free lunch. Which do you want more, to stay in a comfortable social-poverty that will never change for the rest of your life, or make a radical change and start getting actual attractive women to willingly submit themselves to your every desire?
CH writes quite a lot about social atomization and its discontents, but it does offer some benefits to men who are stuck in small communities that provide no social status maneuverability (and thus sexual opportunities with fine looking ladies). The anonymous urban playground, or even foreign country, are the closest environments to an SMV blank slate that a beta can hope to exploit.