Some men new to the Charisma Arts create unnecessary hurdles to jump in their minds. One example is the mistaken idea that teasing girls is a laborious “dancing monkey” ordeal that by dint of the effort required of a man must necessarily “put the pussy on a pedestal”.
Two flaws with this thinking: one, teasing is (or should be) fun for both parties, so it won’t feel like a chore. Once you get into a teaselord rhythm you’ll hardly want to stop (but you will need to stop, because too much teasing is just as counter-productive to bedding women as is too little teasing).
Two, teasing hardly requires mush more effort than breathing. A tight tease that lands pointedly on a girl’s pudenda is likely to be a majestic demonstration of pith. Novellas and mime acts are rarely the stuff of good teases.
A reader passes along a relevant text exchange:
There are times when vivid storytelling is the golden ticket to gash. But for most other times, chicks prefer laconic men.
He: smooth as silk
She: replies to his suavity with what used to be the f-bomb.
The vocal masculinization of American women.
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yeah, great job by the guy. he’s clearly handling things well. but that comment of hers ruined it for me.
it’s one thing to throw an f-bomb when you’re in the bedroom or talking about what you’ll be doing in the bedroom. it’s a totally different thing when a girl throws f-bombs around in normal conversation like that. instant turn off.
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He’s pussy shopping not wife vetting
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huh, so it’s not just me that was instantly turned off by that.
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I’d prefer putting up a picture of hot soup.
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[…] Teasing Girls Doesn’t Have To Be A Production […]
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I always found DeAngelo’s “treat her like your bratty little sister” to be helpful.
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> “chicks prefer laconic men” ——— No kidding. It’s very easy to lose a chick via talking too d@mned much. By and large, chicks can’t do detail in conversation. See whether you can’t take a paragraph-long thought and condense it down to no more than a phrase within a sentence. It’s a good skill for life in general, and those of us who come out of bookish spergish academic gibberish backgrounds will do well to learn & master that skill.
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The best dates are the ones where you’ve got some natural chemistry going, and you yourself can talk a bare minimum while she does almost all the talking for the two of you. The worst dates, though, are the ones where you keep trying to prod her to say something – anything at all – but she just won’t hardly move her friggin mouth to utter even a single syllable. I’ve been on those dates, where you’re trying to be polite & you’re furiously scanning every corner of your brain searching desperately for some weird piece of trivia to get her going, but you just keep coming up empty.
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I guess nowadays, if you go out on a date with one of these psychologically “mute” chicks, you could just swallow your pride and hit her straight up with “DTF? Let’s go back to your place for some BDSM & ana1”. Or maybe txt it to her across the table from you, since no one seems to talk in restaurants anymore – they all just sit there staring at their G0d-d@mned iPhags.
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Men going on dates with chics they haven’t yet banged? That system seems brutal. I believe it’s mostly a Hollywood fantasy, foisted on us by (((them))). Just meet chics through friends, work, hobbies, etc. If you’re young and live in an apartment, it’s pretty natural to meet chics at the pool or in the laundry room. Really. Hell, even set ups by the girlfriends of your friends should work out fine. Am I alone on this?
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CO, I usually like the cut of your jib (no homo); but laconic you are not. Typical three long posts in support of the concept of brevity.
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PRECISELY. At this pace, I would have lost the girl a long time ago. Just blah blah blah blah blah, and meanwhile her Hamster is busy wondering, “Okay, is my mistress ever going to get her ana1, or is he just going to bore us to death?”
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Colonel, I LIKE to go out with chicks. Head to an outdoor cafe, or to a blanket in the park, and sip on some wine, and nibble some cheese, and chill out and enjoy life. I actually kinda get a kick outta the whole romancing thang. Of course, I am a romantic at heart, so I have that going against me. Need to prop up my Dark Triad skillz.
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some natural chemistry going
You mean…organic chemistry? yuk yuk yuk
But you’re right. I’ve had brief occurrences with this before. I messed up on opportunity because I was stuck in blue pill mode. I took all the cues from the girl, led the whole thing (and this before taking red pill) but didn’t close the deal.
No coffee for me that week.
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@Captain Obvious
Yeah. I get it. I have friends that meet chics and take them out, but I like my way. A lot of males can’t seem to find ANY way. More for us, I guess.
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If a girl is sullen and won’t contribute to conversation, calmly get up and leave. No good-bye, no huffing and puffing.
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“calmly get up and leave”
yes.
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“Men going on dates with chics they haven’t yet banged? That system seems brutal. I believe it’s mostly a Hollywood fantasy, foisted on us by (((them))). Just meet chics through friends, work, hobbies, etc. If you’re young and live in an apartment, it’s pretty natural to meet chics at the pool or in the laundry room. Really. Hell, even set ups by the girlfriends of your friends should work out fine. Am I alone on this?”
I’ve noticed that women in apartments aren’t easy to meet and my theory is that it’s because if it all goes wrong, there’s no where for them to hide. If you do something she doesn’t like and breaks it off, she knows she’s going to run into you sooner or later. It’s not like the dorms where you move around every semester and get all new people in your life. Most people in apartments are there for at least a year or two.
Agree/Disagree?
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@JT Malloy
Not really concerned about possible awkward situations. Just laugh it off and move on. If you’re not a complete sperg, she’ll more than likely come around. I can’t tell you how much success I’ve had in apartment complexes, but even the rare failure ended up with me getting something. Just how you navigate the situation and I’m pretty average most days. I have a car and no roommates and some luxuries, so that makes it easier, but I was having similar success with literally nothing. No power, no food, etc. Then, chics would come by with supplies, party, tidy up and return. I’m not TSW, but I did alright. Most men can too.
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Yeah, but there’re situations where women love words. How many times has the new and improved me found myself surrounded by a gaggle of delightful women, telling them some story (usually involves esoteric topics like haunted houses; they go mad for those) hanging in every goddamned word.
When you talk to women, you’ve got to paint a picture, and take them on a ride, a journey. They want to be led.
But yeah, other times, be curt, be short, and be a cocky prick.
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> “situations where women love words” ——— Just like there are situations where women love BDSM. ‘Cause it ain’t r@pe unless the Hamster decides afterwards that it was r@pe. Same with words – the words aren’t boring unless the Hamster decides that they’re boring. But woe be unto the man who talks too much and thereby p!sses all over his target’s nascent flame of enthusiasm for him.
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The other thing about “words” is that they must be IQ-appropriate and tailored to her interests [or, if not her explicitly stated interests, at least something which interests her]. You can’t talk Quantum Mechanics with a stripper who dropped out of high school in the 10th grade because she has an IQ of 102. Similarly, you can’t talk Quantum Mechanics with an English Major of IQ 135, because all she wants to talk about is Jane Austen or Emily Dickinson or Sylvia Plath.
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I used to try to “tease” YaReally out on this question – the last time he was in these parts, he was talking about some sophisticated “layering” and “misdirection” techniques, and I was trying to emphasize how he would have to recalibrate on the fly with each new chick he met, in order to tailor his approach to be IQ-specific.
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Oblivious, if you actually went out and talked to women besides creeping them out with your obsession about other people having kids because you’re too impotent to, you’d realize that a woman’s iq matters little to her ending up in your bed. Who the heck engages a woman’s cognition during seduction? It’s all emotions. ALL. The only use her being smart is to you is if you want to dhv by being smarter.
And what kind of autistic imbecile talks about quantum mechanics with women? Not only most men with engineering backgrounds don’t have a working understanding of qm, the odds of finding a cute woman who knows anything beyond schrodinger’s cat tends asymptotically to zero. And why would you want to talk to a woman about it?
1)if she knows it better, it’s a dlv
2)if she’s not a nerd, it’s a dlv
3)you can dhv on your intelligence in a way that engages her emotions
4)tingle killer
Do you know how many women give a shit about my 3.5 GPA in graduate school? Yes, zero. Not even the hr sloots where I apply for jobs. Lol
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Captain Oblivious
It’s very easy to lose a chick via talking too d@mned much. By and large, chicks can’t do detail in conversation
Irony: this.
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I like the idea of a man showing efficiency and sensible prioritizing in his pursuits, especially the negative-return pursuit of seduction.
since any enterprise (minus child-b1rthing) entered into with a woman necessarily requires more effort from him than her, it is entirely consistent with nature that he allow her to do most of the heavy lifting, including with teasing and seducing. his job is to provide the catalyst to start the reaction going. she should do the mixing, pouring, sanding, etc.
women used to come with a dowry. the family literally PAID the groom to take their daughter off their hands. that’s the right attitude. busy man spends little effort, even in teasing. the less likely the woman will bear his children, the less effort
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> “the less likely the woman will bear his children, the less effort” ——— There it is in a nutshell. The minute the shizzle starts to head down the drain, I can’t hardly even get it up for her anymore. Whatever the shizzle is, she needs to make it sizzle. Otherwise Next!
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“Thou shalt not push a stroller.”
The meta-version of that is “thou shalt not unduly burden thyself”. If a girl is pressuring you for kids and she either is a) flat broke, and/or b) has no family nearby to help out, and/or c) expects you to m@rry her, then feel free to laugh in her face, because it really is a childish fantasy.
you should be training to get serious. if a girl can’t get a second job and work hard and save $20,000 in a year to contribute to the pot then she has no business pressuring a guy for kids
also, the girl should know well ahead of time that changing diapers is her job. (your time is best spent making money to support the tribe. changing diapers distracts you from what’s important. and you need your rest so you can stay focused)
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Good point PJ, and by changing diapers I know you mean removing the towel nappy, scraping it out, and boiling it. No synthetic chemicals are needed around the infants’ genitalia. While we’re on it, supporting the tribe has a greater meaning of men always supporting other men ahead of their women. In the past, the men backed each other to the hilt, in business, land, etc. As a result, your family would be afforded protection as a byproduct.
It’s not so necessary now in an atomised individualistic society, and da menz say ‘all ah needz in dis life of sin, is me n my gurlfriend’, ‘I’d jump on a grenade for you’, etc. The fraternity and brotherhood among men has actually been usurped by feminism and women. Let’s you and he fight is subtly all-pervasive. It’s actually dangerous to befriend many ‘alphas’ now, as for certain a cad will try and bang your broad. Imagine a member of a 150 year ago society trying to put the moves on a wife whose father had paid another man to own. Whose job was to tend the chickens a raise the brood of upwards of 5 kids. Who was the husband’s property as well as worker. The cad won’t be asking ‘but are you happy?’ for fear of what the rest of the townsmen would do (expulsion and severe beating, most likely)
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excellent point Belle. Bros before ho’s still obtains.
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And by doing so, he’s showing himself as high-value, since he’s not dancing to her tune or going through great pains to impress her or win her favor.
Keep that hamster spinning!
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Here’s a little commandment of family poon I arrived at through observation: Thou shalt not push a stroller. Too often, as in all the time without exception, men are pushing the stroller, while the woman bitches lyrical about what she had the nerve to wear, etc. Even the Muslim and Zulu studs are seen in that racially tinged plough horse role.
First of all, bitches should be sweating from sun up to sun down, lest they empower into fat mares. Secondly chivalrous
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good boys are going to look and feel like pieces of shit if a bicycle crashes into the buggy, or a waiter drops a jug of water or whatever. The man has to be out front and ready to white knight for his progeny, and maybe the wife as an afterthought. Men can push across a road to reinforce that women are inadequate in the protective role, since roads mean danger
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One of the girls I’m banging now writes me:
Her: What is your cologne
Me: It’s French, Eau de Grenouille (means Water of Frog)
Her: (clearly Googled it) wtf? You’re starting to piss me off!
Each girl likes or rather requires a different level of teasing.
That level of teasing is proportional to how long I’ve been banging her and the level of shit-testing she gives me.
Forms of teasing I use vary…from pulling their hair “School boy!”
To exchanges like the one above. But it’s all proportional to the level of attraction. The more attracted they are…the more I tease.
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> “Eau de Grenouille (clearly Googled it)” ——— WW, I’d guess that that’s a pretty strong filter for IQ >= 120. It’s just a guess, but I’d bet that I’m right.
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Nahhh….they just google translate it. That’s the “tease” when she sees the meaning…it’s a major tingle…
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Lol, an ex forgot to use mouth spray after smoking when she kissed me once and I told her I appreciate how much effort she puts into making herself attractive. Pause. Then I told her I love her new perfume and she was like wtf so I asked her isn’t it eau du tabac by Hermes?
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[…] Source: Heartiste […]
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“I meant it as you know ‘fuck me up the butt’, like you might say upon being given a precious heirloom by your grandma”
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From last Saturday, dancing with cute little blue-eyed blonde (oh so very rare in these parts):
She: ‘Sorry I suck!’ (smile)
Me: ‘Boyfriend doesn’t take you dancing?’
She: (exasperated) ‘He doesn’! (You know how they skip the ‘t’…..) Will you teach him?’ (big smile)
Me: ‘No, but I’ll teach you.’
She’ll remember that when (or if) she comes back.
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http://elitedaily.com/social-news/woman-text-rant/1471070/
Hope you don’t mind me doing some press-clipping from this side of the ocean.. Regards from London..
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That’s epic. Women dealing with sexual rejection is funny. It would have been better had he fingered her until she was close before he changed his mind
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I wish I’d get a dollar each time captain oblivious posts the same shit he posted before or just 888. Lol
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The woman posted this?
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I’d have a hard time taking any girl serious who used the phrase “as fuck”. Dirty, IMO.
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“If a girl is pressuring you for kids and she either is a) flat broke, and/or b) has no family nearby to help out, and/or c) expects you to m@rry her, then feel free to laugh in her face, because it really is a childish fantasy.”
It goes without saying that no White man should aim for fathering children outside of m@rriage. And you shouldn’t have kids until you want them.
That said, if a girl is pressuring you for kids, she values your DNA. If you’re not interested in m@rrying her, then sure, probably best for both of you if you walk away. But if the only thing “wrong” with her is that she doesn’t have money or family nearby, in my opinion that’s no reason to walk away.
Do you want a wife/mother or a wage-earner taking direction from some workplace alpha half of her waking hours?
My wife has an education but didn’t bring much money to the table; she also has no family nearby. Once I locked her down I got her started on motherhood fairly quickly. She’s a first-class wife/mother. I make the money. With the kids I am involved to the extent I want to be, and dole out the fatherly advice / roughhousing / training stuff; occassionally drop the hammer with discipline when they need to be brought into line. I don’t change diapers, cook meals, or clean the house. My girl is great at what she does, and she loves it.
A quality White girl, even one without much money and without family nearby, who WANTS to be the mother of your kids can make a great wife when you’re ready for that. The key word is “quality” — that’s a whole other topic. But don’t otherwise discount quality White girls because they don’t come with a dowry.
(PS How the fuck did “m@rry” become a naughty word? Fucking Eskimos.)
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@corvo
respect. sounds like you did it right. I was speaking to the audience (maybe primarily on the west coast?) who encounter legions of girls with astronomical entitlement complexes. the right attitude in a woman is worth more than her weight in gold. if you find and choose one of those then the rest can easily be worked out
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Yeah – girls with the right attitude are out there man. They’re still girls and they still need some game (that’s just life) but when you reach that point where you are ready to lock one down (not pushed into it), find one based on her intrinsic qualities. Just wanted to stress that over financial considerations.
I can only imagine how many West Coast girls lack that inner “quality.”
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“find one based on her intrinsic qualities”
bingo. this little nugget will save any man a lot of grief and misery. a lot easier and more enjoyable maintaining a good situation with a girl who is naturally feminine, compliant, loving, etc. than to try to train/change a girl who isn’t.
gotta watch out for red flags early on then cut and run before you get too invested. as soon as a girl starts coming across as masculine, anti-feminine (because you know…patriarchy) slovenly, man-hating, etc….you bail.
a sweet girl who is nurturing, wants to please you, who loves you for being masculine and wants and enjoys being feminine herself. that is worth more than any monetary value she may have.
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I once told a woman ‘Nice dress. Would look better on the bedroom floor.’
Five hours later, she looked at it from the bed and said to me ‘You were right. It does look better there.’
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So, when teasing a result of “Why are you being so mean”, while blushing, and laughing should be a good thing?
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