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The Myth Of Sexual Shame

Commenter Karl Marx (fitting) wonders if sexual shame is the real reason why good-looking men with no Game fail with women.

Are you not conflating mental problems with no game? Most good looking guys who can’t get laid have some sort of mental hangup. If parents embed deep sexual shame into their sons no amount of PUA tactics can save a man.

Garden-variety introversion and dullness are common afflictions and not indicative of “mental hangups”. Sexual shame is a useless Freudian concept that has almost no basis in reality outside of weird religious communities and mentally ill autogynephilic trannies.

You go to great lengths about the effectiveness of shaming women, fat people but consider sexual shame “no basis in reality”?

Shaming “women”? No, shaming “fat women”. And the reason is obvious: fat kills romance dead. But I have never met a man who did poorly with women because he had some deep-seated “sexual shame”. That’s not how it goes for the vast majority of men who have trouble getting women. Just the opposite really; men have NO sexual shame and a great desire to FULFILL their sexual craving, but lack the courage and acumen to satisfy their lust. The tension between their sexual SHAMELESSNESS and their sexual FAILURE is what causes them to swallow black pills by the mouthful and grasp discredited Freudian gobbledygook to rationalize their incel torment.

How you are treated throughout your childhood affects you your whole life.

Hm, a loaded statement that, while containing nuggets of truth, has come under fire from geneticists who haven’t located any strong correlation between shared environment and life outcome. The evidence appears to be heading in the direction of genes piloting the ship of fate, with environment (parents and peers) playing a smaller role as co-pilot.

Anyhow, social shaming of boys will never be powerful enough to override their later sexual desires. Like I said, most men aren’t deviants acutely ashamed of their insolent boners. What they are is supplicating, fearful dullards who place pussy on the pedestal thinking that will help them get laid, and yes that should be shamed by better men who know it’s not what women want.